DH and I are just starting down the route of adoption. We have attended the prep groups and will now start the home study. DH is very positive and upbeat, I have more misgivings. I guess I would just love some honest stories, telling the upsides and the downsides of living with an adopted child. We are looking to give a home to a child under 4 years old. My preference would be for a girl, but I would consider a boy.
My hopes are:
To be a family with my husband
To give and receive love with a child
To have the opportunity to learn and grow from having a young person's perspective on life
My fears are:
The child will never 'get better' - will have major challenging behaviour throughout life
My relationship will suffer from the challenge
I will struggle to bond with the child without having the biological connection of giving birth
I am conscious that I don't have a specific question for you all to consider, so it may be difficult to respond, but I hope someone will find a moment to recommend adoption and/or give me warnings.
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LuceFry · 07/11/2011 21:26
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