Adoptive and foster parents - I need your advice.
My bio son was hospitalised aged 7 - 12 months with a severe paralysing illness. For him it must have been excruciating abuse. He couldn't make any sounds (he was ventilated), he couldn't pull faces to let us know how he felt, at his worst he was blind. At one point he couldn't pass urine and had a catheter in his willy. He slowly regained strength to move, breathe, swallow etc. At his most paralysed I would have one (long) cuddle a day propped up on pillows.
On discharge we were told he would catch up by the age of five. No follow up on his development. He's now 4 1/2 and has quite serious delays in his language, social skills and fine motor skills. In fact we are now being told that he could be on the autistic spectrum.
So, my questions are: do some children who have experienced abuse in their first year end up with communication delays? If they do, how do you help them overcome their problems? Do they overcome their problems or is the early experience hardwired for life?
I've been looking at a lot of info on autism, but it doesn't all ring true for my DS, so I'm wondering if there may be paralells with him and an abused child.
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oodlesofdoodles · 28/06/2011 21:59
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