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"Are you the home owner?"

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IDugUpADiamond Thu 27-Feb-14 15:02:49

Isn't it just RUDE to knock on someone's door and ask this to the person who opens it? Plus I was eating a sandwich when they knocked on the door and now I can't find the rest of it. Grrrr angry

EugeneKrabs Thu 27-Feb-14 15:04:20

"No, the building society is"

You lost your sandwich?!

lucysmam Thu 27-Feb-14 15:04:52

I had this yesterday, the bloke looked at me all expectant as if I was going to toodle off to find the homeowner for him & left with a huff.

Phone calls are worse, they just hang up.

I rather like it, as we rent it gets rid of a lot of the cold callers with minimal effort smile

Auntimatter Thu 27-Feb-14 15:06:58

He nicked your sandwich??

mrsjay Thu 27-Feb-14 15:07:26

och i tell them we are a council house go to the council the back off hissing and I am sure the say UNCLEAN UNCLEAN grin

ShadowOfTheDay Thu 27-Feb-14 15:07:59

"Yes" ..... shut door....

OhGoveUckYourself Thu 27-Feb-14 15:10:24

I know why they ask this- so that they don't waste any time trying to sell to the wrong person ie tenant but they must know that it is a very rude thing to ask. I always say that it is no business of theirs who owns the house but at least I have never lost a sandwich in the process! They always seem to come when you are trying to cook dinner as well, hardly a time guaranteed to get a warm welcome.

IDugUpADiamond Thu 27-Feb-14 15:10:26

I found the rest of the sandwich. I had put it down on the edge of the table and hadn't realised it had fallen on the floor. I've still eaten it though...
I do realise these people have a job to do and everything but it's just rude to not even introduce yourself and say who sends you and instead ask such a personal question.

mrsjay Thu 27-Feb-14 15:11:45

cold calling is rude I sometimes feel sorry for them as i know they need the job blah blah but...

Smilesandpiles Thu 27-Feb-14 15:11:58

"Not really no, but thanks for asking". Shut the door.

Plonkysaurus Thu 27-Feb-14 15:12:06

Mrs Jay grin

I am 27. I have a DS and live with my DP. On more than one occasion in the last year I've answered the door to salesman only to be asked if my MUM OR DAD were about.

mrsjay Thu 27-Feb-14 15:13:31

oh when i was around your ageplonky I was once asked if my mum was home I said no and closed the door

Plonkysaurus Thu 27-Feb-14 15:15:27

They've been told no, she lives in the next county. Honestly, I must look all of 15.

Still, at least they said mum and not mummy.

justmuddlingalong Thu 27-Feb-14 15:16:54

I just say I'm squatting there as the homeowner is abroad. Their confusion gives you time to shut the door. Worked every time so far. grin

MiaowTheCat Thu 27-Feb-14 15:19:18

I had one guy show up demanding to do a rented property inspection. Didn't believe me when I said no, we were the home owners, asked me if I was sure - like I'd not have noticed a fucking 9million pages long mortgage application.

Arsehole then showed up three more times insisting he had to inspect this house before they finally figured out that it wasn't 1, Any Street in one part of town but 1, Any Street in the next part of town across.

Inspection man (who was an obnoxious little turd - we'd actually rented via his letting agency previously and he really loved the power trip on his periodic inspections over tenants) was sent back to knock on our door sheepishly with an apologetic bottle of wine!

Funnyfoot Thu 27-Feb-14 15:19:46

I had the "Is your mum at home" from a door step cold caller.
I answered "probably, she is retired but then again she could be at Sainbury's. Do you want me to ring and ask her? It won't take a minute"

He kind of mumbled erm no it's ok and scurried off down the path all the time he was looking at me like I was mad. grin

DigitConfusion Thu 27-Feb-14 15:22:26

Oooh yes, I had that this week from a window salesman: 'are you mum or dad there?' Me: 'No' Him: massive pause and shuffle while he decides what to ask next "Well...I don't suppose you are the homeowner...are you?" Me: "yes I am"

And close the door.


T'was fab. Very satisfying and I felt all spring chicken like.

DawnOfTheDee Thu 27-Feb-14 15:23:02

What kind of sandwich was it?

Why on earth is it rude? confused

I wish they'd ask that round here, save me trying to interrupt their spiel about the double-glazing or whatever by pointing out I'm a tenant and couldn't do anything to the house if I wanted to.

DigitConfusion Thu 27-Feb-14 15:23:57

Funnyfoots response is funnier though. I might steal that for next time!

IDugUpADiamond Thu 27-Feb-14 15:27:59

It was a wrap with ham, cheese and olives. The olives went everywhere.

Viviennemary Thu 27-Feb-14 15:31:00

I'd like to see all doorstep cold calling banned. Also these phonecalls. No I don't want to have solar panels, double glazing or answer a survey. I'm too busy. on MN. grin

Onesleeptillwembley Thu 27-Feb-14 15:34:43

I also know why they ask this, but it's very intrusive. I just ask why they think it would be their business. It throws them.

mrsjay Thu 27-Feb-14 15:35:00

hello this is X solar panel company as i see from our records that you are entitled to a grant for solar panels this will save you money on your bills blah blah blah, we have been in your area surveying properties drone drone drone,

well if you have been in my area you will see it is mostly flats <click> grin

DawnOfTheDee Thu 27-Feb-14 15:37:03

Mmm that sounds nice smile

Thurlow Thu 27-Feb-14 15:37:36

Bearded, 30-something DP has also been asked if "mum or dad" was at home grin

Made his week

OhGoveUckYourself Thu 27-Feb-14 15:38:45

Maybe they want to know if you are the hoe moaner Or, if you live in Plymouth - the Hoe moaner! It is still a very intrusive question though.grin

mathanxiety Thu 27-Feb-14 15:42:49

I have a friend who put a nice big 'No Solicitors' sign on her door. This didn't work as well as she hoped, probably because people don't know they are solicitors when they are cold calling. Underneath she made another with a labelmaker 'No Jehovahs Witnesses either'.

In the US there is a Do Not Call registry where you send your phone number and businesses can be penalised for calling numbers on it.

I've found the words "conservation area" very useful for getting rid of the solar panel ones.

mrsjay Thu 27-Feb-14 15:43:37

oh yes and sky and new windows whoknows they wont come with in an inch of your house,

Little do they know that our council is very lax about it's conservation areas and the whole street has Sky dishes, UPVC windows etc. I think they might draw the line at solar panels though.

CailinDana Thu 27-Feb-14 15:47:32

There is young handsome lad who is always immaculately dressed working in my area selling something or other. I've never actually found out what because the four times he's called he's ended up apologising and all but running from the door...
First time I was napping while dh took ds and very new dd out for a walk. I thought dh had forgotten his keys so opened the door in pjs with hair standing on end saying "Ffs! You woke me and the door isn't even locked!" <boy apologises and runs>
Second time dd was attached to boob and I shushed him as she was falling asleep after an hour of screaming
Third time ds had weed on the floor and I was trying to change him while keeping crawling dd out of the wee
Fourth time dd was wailing in my arms.

Poor lad. I must have put him off children for life...

I think it's very rude of them to ask this before they've even told you what they're offering/selling
Like the whole conversation is going to be on their terms ....
Erm, I don't think it is thank you.

cakesonatrain Thu 27-Feb-14 15:49:30

I have only been asked this once, when I was 19 and answered the door of my mum's 4-bedroomed house.

I was asked "Is your mum in?" when I answered the door of my own house, when I had a very young baby (and was knackered and not prepared to be polite to time-wasters!) and my mum did happen to be visiting. Was quite amusing really.

pudseypie Thu 27-Feb-14 15:50:44

I answered my door a couple of years ago, 8 months pregnant to be asked if my parents were at the time I was also well over 30.. I said no and shut the door.
I always lie and say no if I get asked if I'm the homeowner. Gets them off my doorstep quickly.

weaselwomble Thu 27-Feb-14 15:51:03

plonky happens to me all the time,I'm a very young looking twenty two.
My mum and dad live with us atm - my mum has an oxygen machine and the front living room is her bedroom as such. Any one coming up the path sees her.
Many conversations with salesmen have gone something like:
Are your parents home?
Well can you get them please?
She's just there, could you ask her to come to the door?
It's my house anyway so she won't be of any use to them, but I'll be fucked if I'm going to make her struggle to the door even if it wasn't.
They always ask how old I am when I tell them its my house too, like I might slip up and say 15, I was only kidding. I'll just fetch her.

Beastofburden Thu 27-Feb-14 15:51:40

My surname is hard to pronounce and so if I am rung up by someone saying it all wrong, I just say "Is this a business call?" and then say that we are registered with the telephone preference wossname service and we never take business calls at home.

I don't want to encourage them as i think cold calling ought to stop right now, and if they never make any money at it, they might stoppit.

It's like those guys who knock at the door with a tray of dodgy cleaning gear and say they are going straight now will I buy some off them etc etc. I never buy it because I don't want to encourage such a bloody stupid way of employing people. Plus I am told it's all a big scam anyway.

MoreBeta Thu 27-Feb-14 15:55:18

MsIngaFewmarbles - until last year I was a tenant and the 'answer no I am a tenant' is still very useful even though I am 'homeowner now'.

WhoKnows - I do also find 'this is a listed building in a conservation area' quite useful.

Those 2 answers are the 'garlic and crucifix' to the vampires of double glazing, cavity wall insulation, loft conversion, solar panel sales.

I do also find intense and focussed cross examination of their knowledge of financial services regulation quite frightening to boiler room investment scammers trying to sell penny shares or investments in plots of land.

Should I phone the Financial Conduct Authority and check your registration details? That usually does them in.


cakesonatrain Thu 27-Feb-14 16:00:29

My nana transferred her house to my mum and aunt when she was about 80. Thereafter she could quite happily say No to this question.

I get the "is your mum in?" some times, I will definitely offer to ring her up and find out next time.

I am not the home owner here, but I think it is rude to ask without even saying who you are first.

SanityClause Thu 27-Feb-14 17:04:26

Someone I know always says, "Nah, sorry luv, we're caaahnsil." in her best SE London accent.

In fact, they do own their house, but it stop cold callers!

expatinscotland Thu 27-Feb-14 17:05:37

Tell them it's rented.

NeedAdviceNameChanger Thu 27-Feb-14 17:06:13

I always say I rent my house and the utility bills are included in the rent. All lies!!blush

prettybird Thu 27-Feb-14 17:13:42

I loved getting the conservatory calls when I lived in a 2nd floor flat! grin

We're plagued with nuisance calls (and yes, we're on the TPS and have been for many, many years hmm): usually I just put the phone down on them - don't even do the courtesy any more od saying "Sorry, No thanks" but I got one last night where they said, "Is that Mrs dh's name?", to which I answered, "No." being a bad bitch as I chose not to change my name . They then asked if they had the right number - to which I replied , "Yes, you have the right number but have you heard of the Telephone Preference Scheme?". They put the phone down.

StyleOverSubstance Thu 27-Feb-14 17:21:59

Arf Funny hope you don't have copyright on that answer - cos I am deffo going to use that next time - very, very funny.

Diamond was trying to work out what scenario had led to sandwich being lost - glad it eventually turned up grin

Funnyfoot Thu 27-Feb-14 17:24:18

No copyright so go ahead grin

SpocksThirdEar Thu 27-Feb-14 17:31:44

I always lie and tell them we rent but now they've started asking if the landlord is local. Then I have to say no. I might make up some fantastical tale about my imaginary landlord next time.

StyleOverSubstance Thu 27-Feb-14 21:29:44

Spock landlord could live in Mumbai - our imaginary one does! Raj works for BT, has a wife Miri and several children......... quite a life I have created for him.......... I always offer his (imaginary) phone number if they would like to contact him personally as he always likes a bargain and a good long chat and would definitely want all the details.. ha ha.

Anniecarrieson Thu 27-Feb-14 21:39:43

I always hear homeowner as homo-ner and it makes me snigger like a child.
I think of Catherine Tate "How very dare you!"

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