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If you find it hard to make friends there comes a point where you just have to accept that there's just something about you people will never like.

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Well that's the conclusion I've come to recently.

I am a regular but have namechanged as don't want people to see how pathetic I really am.

I have no friends. I have some aquaintences, but I don't have any friends. And I go through stages of thinking that I'm making friends with people, and then after a few months they tend to back away and cut me out.

I've tried to look at the way I am to see whether it's something with me, but it doesn't matter what I do, people just lose interest after a while. I seem to be able to talk to people in the beginning, and they seem to like me, but they seem to lose interest after a few months and then I end up in situations where people deliberately walk away from me when I approach, or turn their backs if I am in a group of them talking to deliberately exclude me.

It's only possible to say that they're obviously not nice people for so long, now I've come to the conclusion that it must obviously be me and that I am obviously such an unlikeable person that people just don't want to be my friend.

I do have a DH, and obviously he is my friend, but he has lots of friends of his own and his own social life whereas I have none.

Sometimes I just wish there were people who wanted to be with me. But I know that will never be the case.

Not sure why I posted this really, and don't expect people to reply.
Add message | Report | Contact poster By Fri 20-Nov-09 09:40:45
Gawky, I sent you an email, didn't you get it?

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Add message | Report | Contact poster By Thu 19-Nov-09 14:00:50
Thank you madoldbat
Ixia, nowhere near IOM I'm afraid but just wanted to say you're at least as good as those other buggers. Keep your chin up lovely.wink
Add message | Report | Contact poster By Wed 18-Nov-09 22:19:12
Thought it was vastly unlikely that any of you were clinging to this rock in the middle of the Irish Sea
Add message | Report | Contact poster By Wed 18-Nov-09 18:43:15
I don't suppose any of you live on the Isle of Man?

I could have written a dozen of the posts above. I moved here 2yrs ago and have no friends, I keep trying and people are friendly enough, just can't seem to make a friendship stick. I want to cry about it some days, I used to have friends, so I don't know if it's me. I've no confidence and always assume I'm not as good as everyone else.
Add message | Report | Contact poster By Wed 18-Nov-09 18:03:24
<surreptitiously looks at watch>
Hi Effie and gawky, been busy actually finishing my essay today rather than just prevaricating on here! Will be in touch tomorrow, just wanted to let you know I've not run off.
Have emailed you smile
ok u can report it now to be deleted
Add message | Report | Contact poster By Mon 09-Nov-09 15:12:25
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