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By dinkle on Wed 19-Nov-08 18:11:19

Very, very scared. Very excited too as I fancy the pants off this man but it's just simply terrifying when I think of it. Been single since DH ran off couple of years ago and this is the first dip of the toe in scary date land. My date is friend of a friend so I know him a little, not sure if that helps or not.

I think I might be a tad rusty so tell me your dating tips and disasters, plus a do and don't list!

By Mum2OliverJames on Wed 19-Nov-08 18:13:35

I am also rusty as i havent had a date in years so no advice from me but good luck smile

By LovesTents on Wed 19-Nov-08 18:18:38

Don't drink too much, bring some johnnies cos you never know. wink

By dinkle on Wed 19-Nov-08 18:21:10

Am allowed to do the business on the first date?!! I thought that would single me out as a loose woman...have the rules changed?!!

By captainmummy on Wed 19-Nov-08 18:23:00

Am VVV jealous!

By anyfucker on Wed 19-Nov-08 18:28:58

noooo, no sex 1st date

leave it till the the 3rd date (or 2nd if you can't help yourself wink

)

By dinkle on Wed 19-Nov-08 18:29:16

The thought of starting again with someone seems too big. I had been happy just me and my sons and wasn't looking for anyone...

Been taken by suprise with this, not sure I remember how to do the couple thing anymore or even if I want too...

By LovesTents on Wed 19-Nov-08 18:32:48

I would say no sex on the first date too, however stranger things have happened..

By LovesTents on Wed 19-Nov-08 18:33:33

Not to me personally of course

By LovesTents on Wed 19-Nov-08 18:35:09

Don't think of it as starting again, just go and have a laugh and a nice night out smile

By dinkle on Wed 19-Nov-08 18:35:19

But if I'm not going to end up as some mad old woman living with cats and smelling slightly of wee, I need to do this. Twenty years is a looong time and I had so much more energy and no children then!

As for sex, it's been 3 years without so I reckon I can wait a couple of dates in to preserve my reputation!

By dinkle on Wed 19-Nov-08 18:39:05

Ok, no sex and no getting drunk. I would want to go dutch on whatever we do - is that normal way to go?

By LovesTents on Wed 19-Nov-08 18:39:05

Where are you going?

By dinkle on Wed 19-Nov-08 18:42:02

Going for a drink then a curry.

By LovesTents on Wed 19-Nov-08 18:47:18

Yes I would go dutch, he may not accept your offer however, then you have to decide whether to insist, such a minefield..

By bigTillyMint on Wed 19-Nov-08 19:00:30

How exciting!

How did you meet him?

My single-mum friend would love to meet a man, but has no time as she works long hours. It's a shame because she is lovely>

By dinkle on Wed 19-Nov-08 19:07:46

I met him through a friend. I work freelance from home and my social life consists of the school gate so it's not often I come into contact with men these days!

Ok, no sex on first date, no getting drunk, offer to go dutch...

Anything else I need to bear in mind?

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