We live in a semi-detached house, and don't really have much to do with our neighbours that are 'joined' to us. We are currently trying to get dd out of the habit of getting up to play in the middle of the night, which last night resulted in blood curdling screams for over an hour.

Now, when dd was born, I remember going round and saying, 'We've just had a baby, she's very, erm, vocal, I'm really sorry if she has been disturbing you'. They said they hadn't heard her and didn't even realise I'd had the baby.

So, should I go round later in anticipation of dd being the same tonight? Or would I be making a big drama (my speciality ) out of nothing??

I personally would have but i end up apologising for EVERYTHING

Its probably not necessary though

i think it might give them carte blanche to complain,
if you pass them in the street or see them you could apologise but other than that - no, it is part of childhood.

I feel like I'd be turning a drama into a crisis, to coin a phrase.

I sometimes have some very vocal DCs (day and night). When I bump into my neighbours I do often say "god sorry about the other night, DS2 was a nightmare" etc, but don't go round specifically to apologise. They have a noisy one too so I don't feel too bad.

Hmm, their ds is 24. Looks like the general consensus is not to go round.

I had this issue with my neighbours- they spoke to me, and I moved dd to the outrigger with no adjoining walls to minimize their disturbance. I wouldn't have apologized unless they brought it up though.

I really miss the sweet old lady who used to live next door, because she was deaf!

Don't go round.

They may not have noticed - but if you apologise they will be listening out tonight.

I think sometimes you can become a bit paranoid about noise- my next door neighbour who is now my bestest friend has told me that she rarely heard my 3 sons (great hulking teens and 1 squeaky 7yr old) but my husband shouting 'be quiet on those stairs' used to make her jump out of her chair!!!.

I would apologise personally but i am frightfully English and say sorry when people knock into me in the street

I think I'll leave it, I feel a little like I am drawing attention to it (and my dodgy parenting) if I go round!