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How do you and your DP spend your evenings?

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ItsANameChanger Wed 27-Aug-14 10:18:02

My DP has got into a habit of putting her favourite tv series on from the moment she gets in.

Last night we spent the whole evening apart even though we were in the same house. Is this healthy?!

bootygirl Wed 27-Aug-14 13:42:43

Happily married just shy of 17 yrs we are just turned 41 so youngish!

My point would be we set planner to record series we both my watch then every now and then sit together and watch. Other nights he plays Xbox or looks at crap I don't want to! So I watch in other room my own stuff when kids in bed or read or whatever! It works for us!

BobPatandIgglePiggle Wed 27-Aug-14 13:46:14

we sit on the same settee - him playing a game on his phone obsessively and me MNing, surfing the internet or reading - totally unhealthy and something we keep meaning to change... we're losing the ability to 'chat' to each other about anything other than ds / the house.

I tend to watch some shite with my 16 YO DD when I first get in.
OH usually has a quick drink on way home.
Then we have some dinner.
OH then has a bath and may have some paperwork to do.
DD and I watch more crap.
Head up to bed together (me and OH of course).
Do a couple of puzzles together (no we aren't that old - mid 40's!)
Or read...
Nice snuggle and sleep!

MTWTFSS Wed 27-Aug-14 13:49:23

We watch TV together, although I usually fall asleep on him.

TheHoundsBitch Wed 27-Aug-14 13:54:11

Watch TV, internet, I read, he plays PS3 games, sometimes chat in between.

antarctic Wed 27-Aug-14 14:03:26

We watch a film or read. We wouldn't spend the whole evening apart unless one of us had to work.

ArrivedAtPanicStation Wed 27-Aug-14 14:04:47

Internet, play mine craft (because we're mature like that) Talking, planning something or another... Don't really watch T.V

AnyFucker Wed 27-Aug-14 14:09:35

is that you, DH ?

I have discovered the box set of Mad Men blush smile

BackforGood Wed 27-Aug-14 14:10:17

It's rare for us to sit in the same room all evening.
We've been married 20 yrs, and have 3 dc. All 5 of us have busy lives - both sometimes work from home, both often involved in driving the dc somewhere or picking them up. Both involved in our hobbies / volunteering so attend meetings or might be doing some writing up or preparation or research for them.
I like to watch stuff he doesn't. and he likes stuff I don't, so there are only a few things we'd wach together - Mock the Week / The Last Leg / Have I got News for You / Big Bang Theory. With little time across the week to sit and watch TV, it seems a waste to sit there watching something I don't want to just so I can be in the same room.
It works for us (and I don't think is unusual amongst people we know).
It's only an issue if you feel you are not 'connecting' in any way - it's not an issue per se.

when ds has been put to bed which we take turns in.

we either watch telly usually something we both like watching but if it isn't the other usually does a hobby of some sort me crochet him sign language. sometimes he is playing computer games etc but we are always in the same room. our bedroom is for sleep so we don't have a telly in there. we only have one in the house. I guess though its because we live in a two bedroom flat there's not a lot of rooms.

MrsDavidBowie Wed 27-Aug-14 14:21:08

Never spend evening in same room

itsbetterthanabox Wed 27-Aug-14 14:25:45

If he has work to do then he does that but otherwise we watch tv or a film together and eat dinner. Sometimes we play board games or ps3 games together.

annabanana19 Wed 27-Aug-14 14:28:00

Hardly in the house during evenings. Between kids football/my running and gym sessions/DH footy. Come 9pm im in my PJ watching drama or whatever and dh will sit with me on the sofa reading the paper.

If theres a footy match on ill go to the bedroom out of the way.

iamdivergent Wed 27-Aug-14 14:31:51

Maybe 4/5 nights per week we watch TV or a movie together. The other nights I will read or watch my kindle in bed (I watch a programme he isn't keen on) and he watches his programme. One night a week he has a late class so I mn and watch TV or tidy up. I used to take long bubble baths but we don't have have a bath since we moved sad grin

museumum Wed 27-Aug-14 14:33:58

we do separate stuff till about 9 when we usually sit down together and watch something we've recorded or a boxset episode. I often go to bed after (10-10:30) and read and dh stays up another hour or so.

RalphGnu Wed 27-Aug-14 14:40:53

i love our evenings together. DS goes to bed at 8, then DP will usually play on World of Warcraft for an hour while I play games on Facebook tidy the kitchen and get clothes ready for the morning, then we might have a quick shag blush and watch a boxset. We've just finished True Blood (vampire porn, basically) and will be starting Luther tonight. Sometimes we share a bottle of wine and last night we ran through our wedding guest list together.

It wasn't always this way though. Up until a few months ago we were on the verge of splitting up and we'd spend the evening in the same room but completely apart, not talking, doing our own thing. It was pretty lonely and I would dread DS going to bed, if I'm honest. But things changed and are so much better and the intimacy and warmth I get from just curling up with him on the sofa and knowing he's enjoying it just as much - it means the world to me.

not2nitedarling Wed 27-Aug-14 14:42:28

Well, I'm glad that my life is so similar. DD is 4 and once she's in bed I will watch my progs on sky+ if Dh is working nights. When he works days, he is usually on his x box on the main tv when I come down from putting dd to bed! So I read, have an early night or come on pc and fb or mn.. would much rather lounge out in living room.

r2d2ismyidealman Wed 27-Aug-14 14:49:36

We have a cup of tea together once we're both home. Either chatting about our days or about something we need to talk about garden/house etc. Later on we usually watch a programme together - something we've recorded. Sometimes I'm too fidgety to sit for long. We usually then end with me in bed with a book and him on the computer. It works for us!

Florin Wed 27-Aug-14 14:51:39

Ds goes to bed at 7. Dh makes me a G&T and we sit down in the dining room table with music on and talk about our days. We then cook dinner together and enjoy that with a glass of wine and chat for the rest of the evening at the dining room table. We normally start getting ready for bed about 10-10:30 (always go to bed at the same time) we then normally watch a bit of tv before going go sleep of find other activities to amuse ourselves wink

We talk lots which I think really helps our relationship as we talk about stuff before it becomes more of a problem. It also means if we have any problems or anything we are worried about they tend to get worked out too.

AppleAndMelon Wed 27-Aug-14 14:57:22

Apart mostly sad due to work. We catch up at the.weekend and have survived 17 (fuck! That's a long time) years so something seems to work!

MewlingQuim Wed 27-Aug-14 14:58:07

We are usually together until dd goes to bed at 8. Then one of us might go out while one stays home, or dh will go on the computer in the study that sounds posh but its just the spare bedroom while I read a book in bed.

Very occasionally we sit together on the sofa watching the same film.

BigBirthdayGloom Wed 27-Aug-14 15:03:58

We get 3 dc to bed then have dinner together, admittedly in front of tv on sofa. Currently, we are obsessively watching Breaking Bad although only have 6 episodes left so we might get our lives back after that. Dh might do some work, I might tidy up. Generally we go up to bed at the same time.

WillowWoods Wed 27-Aug-14 15:11:00

We've been together for 31 years.When we get home,DH reads the paper,I watch my trash TV. From 6 to 8,we're in the kitchen, just chatting and cooking,then watch something that we both like.

BlingBubbles Wed 27-Aug-14 15:17:15

DH will come home from work and put DD to bed while i get dinner ready, he will then have a bath ( he is a princess like that ), we eat dinner together and catch up on the day and then will watch a tv show - we love series so always watch something together. We then go to bed together. Not very exciting I am afraid!

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