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Emetophobe needing a hand hold

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dunkinhobnobs Sun 24-Aug-14 19:47:08

I suffer terribly from emetophobia (fear of myself/other vomiting) and have done for years.
Had cbt a few years ago which improved the way I handled my phobia greatly.
Unfortunately I seem to regress massively this week when my dts caught a tummy bug.
Dt1 was sick all day last Sunday, dt2 all day Wednesday. I have spent the whole week waiting for myself and dh to come down with it.
This afternoon dh has slept a lot and has now taken himself to bed with the same symptoms as the dc and now I am sat here shaking and waiting for the vomiting to start.
He is my rock when the dc are ill and I am a mess tonight.
On top of that I am terrified as it is only myself to get the bug now. Will take some kind of miracle for me not to.
I appreciate of this isn't your phobia then it may seem stupid but believe me it has taken over my whole life over the years and I could do with some hands to hold.

Dapplegrey Sun 24-Aug-14 19:57:08

It is also my phobia - of other people, though, I don't worry if I'm sick.
I have quite an extreme case; I can't go on ferries unless I can have a cabin to myself; I have to have films vetted in case there are vomiting scenes;
I never volunteered to drive the dcs classmates to camp sites or the seaside for school trips in case one was car sick. (I got brilliant anti car sickness chewing gum from Spain for my dcs).

You have all my sympathy - maybe try to say to yourself it will only be 48 hours, and then it will be over.

Also, a counsellor told me that phobias can be cured, but they then can be replaced by another one, and so I suppose I'd rather have emetophobia than develop agoraphobia or fear of flying or something.

CaptainRex Sun 24-Aug-14 19:58:42

Im here and as a fellow emet Im holding your hand (sorry I may be using gloves)

Focus on the things you can control, can you sleep in a different room tonight, do you have seperate toilets?

Remeber the main way to catch this is hand to mouth, so do not touch your face and wash your hands for the reccomended time before touching food.

And breathe slowly and remember your cbt lessons

dunkinhobnobs Sun 24-Aug-14 20:05:35

Thank you so much for replying. I dont blame you for the gloves. It is amazing how many of us there are. I too have avoided school trips and would have to be seriously bribed to set foot on a boat.
I will be sleeping in the lounge again tonight and luckily we have a 2nd downstairs toilet.
I think it doesnt help that I am 8 weeks pregnant and the all day sickness means my anxiety levels are already sky high.

PringleJess Sun 24-Aug-14 20:39:26

Fellow emet here to hold hand. I just think to myself 'this time next week it'll be over & I can be back to normal'. Like you, I was doing well until this March when someone I knew was unwell. You can do this x

divingoffthebalcony Sun 24-Aug-14 20:43:55

I understand. Hand hold here.

dunkinhobnobs Sun 24-Aug-14 21:13:55

Thank you so much. It means a lot not to be laughed at but understood and supported.
Have started to look into hypnotherapy. Need to do something as I can't live like this anymore.

honeycrest Sun 24-Aug-14 21:28:10

You might not catch it. My DH caught a vomiting bug last year and passed it on to DD but I never caught it. DD had another bug a few months ago and neither myself or DH were sick. I also have emetophobia and these situations make me very anxious so I know how you feel

Tweenangst Sun 24-Aug-14 21:28:59

I do not suffer from this but can totally understand how a phobia can take over sometimes. You need to google rob Kelly thrive. He specialises in your phobia and I can promise he can help!

PringleJess Mon 25-Aug-14 09:17:59

How are you all this morning dunkin?

dunkinhobnobs Mon 25-Aug-14 17:41:35

He is much better today thank you and he wasnt actually sick. Phew.
I am the only one left in the house to get it now so my worry is all focused on that now. Will be a few days before I can relax as it has taken 3 days each time for the next person to get it.
Thank you all so much for your hand holding last night. It meant such a lot and made me feel less alone.
I have read the site suggested and it looks good. Am definately going to make some enquiries and hopefully get back on top of this phobia.

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