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One reason why you had a baby?

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BigPawsBrown Tue 19-Aug-14 20:57:09

I'm 29, childless, and trying to make up my mind about babies. My DP is similarly ambivalent.

If you had to express why you chose to get pregnant in one sentence, what would it be?

Bluestocking Tue 19-Aug-14 20:59:25

If you're ambivalent, you don't want a baby yet. At 29, you have plenty of time. You'll know when you want a baby.

OhMyArsingGodInABox Tue 19-Aug-14 20:59:46

Too much vodka.

beccajoh Tue 19-Aug-14 21:00:10

I had a strong, physical urge to have a baby.

BabyClam Tue 19-Aug-14 21:00:22


CecyHall Tue 19-Aug-14 21:01:17

Forgot to take my pill

YellowYoYoYam Tue 19-Aug-14 21:01:29

To build a family with DH.

EatShitDerek Tue 19-Aug-14 21:02:00

Pill failed

PetiteBateau Tue 19-Aug-14 21:02:11

Felt like I needed to

OneLittleToddleTerror Tue 19-Aug-14 21:03:03

I didn't want a baby at 29. By 35 I thought it's now or never. I can't see myself childless at my old age.

bambinibop Tue 19-Aug-14 21:03:06

Yes I really thought about having a baby all the time dreamt about being pregnant it was definitely a physical thing as well as emotional! I just knew when the time was right

Rinkydinkypink Tue 19-Aug-14 21:03:09

I wanted one. Then another. I still want another but realistically it would break me.

Smartiepants79 Tue 19-Aug-14 21:03:21

I always wanted an extension of my family. Not having children would have left a huge gaping hole.
29 is still quite young to decide one way or the other.
Many of the parents I am friends with are late 30's

CantThinkOfAGoodUserName Tue 19-Aug-14 21:03:24

It's hard to say now as all I can think of is why I'm so glad I have my daughter (hard as it's been over the last 9 months since she's been here). I couldn't be without her as she makes me a better person and she fills my life with a new found purpose and I feel so lucky and privileged to be her mum. Thinking back I think I just always wanted to have children, I was clueless about what it would really bring.
Sorry if that's no help or what u asked for!

icanmakeyouicecream Tue 19-Aug-14 21:03:26

Same as Beccah

OneLittleToddleTerror Tue 19-Aug-14 21:03:31

Guess it's the biological clock ticking, isn't it?

PourquoiTuGachesTaVie Tue 19-Aug-14 21:03:48

I wanted one, because I felt it completed the family dh and I made when we got together & married.

museumum Tue 19-Aug-14 21:05:43

I looked into the future and couldn't imagine dh and I without a child.

I could NOT imagine us with a baby and was totally ambivalent about the baby part. I'm loving having a baby but he's one in a fortnight and I've hardly blinked so I know I was right to focus on the child part. Babies aren't babies for long.

Rowboat Tue 19-Aug-14 21:09:42

I needed one - a real physical longing. Though to be fair I've always known I did and so did dh - it was one of our earliest serious conversations. I do know people who were less maternal but suddenly just went "ping" and the desire was there.

Taffeta Tue 19-Aug-14 21:09:47

Thought we'd try (just before we got married, I was 35) as I was told at 18 it was unlikely I could have children. I got pregnant within 2 months.

Greatest shock of my life. Took five years for it to sink in.

TeaAddict235 Tue 19-Aug-14 21:13:33

I knew that DH wanted to be a dad for agggggeees.

thatwouldbeanecumenicalmatter Tue 19-Aug-14 21:15:52

Human error with contraceptives grin

IrnBruTheNoo Tue 19-Aug-14 21:16:03

Need DC to look after me in my old age especially if NHS Scotland ends up being privatised I'll be glad I did have a family to help with my personal care.

BikeRunSki Tue 19-Aug-14 21:16:27

After years of ambivalence by both of us, DH decided he did. He passed a school at finishing time and saw a child run into it's dad's arms.

2 years later, I hated the idea of ds being an only child when he was an adult, and DH and I were dead.

A string want/need/urge to

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