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Married (or not) with kids... How often do you DTD??

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PisforPeter Fri 15-Aug-14 16:26:06

It's just that sometimes I have to put it on my mental to do list so I don't forget grin

LST Sun 17-Aug-14 11:38:09

1/2/3 times a fortnight. We have been together 5 years and have a almost 3 yo and a 7mo who still shares our room. I am also between RA meds so it can be a bit uncomfy... I can't wait til the meds start working. DP would go every day if I wasn't so completely drained by 9pm!

Suzannewithaplan Sun 17-Aug-14 11:00:05

I can't be bothered any more so I'm working on a spreadsheet with a list of excuses to help me get it down to about once every 3 weeks.
Depending on how that goes I may then phase it out completely.

StatelyAsAGalleon Sun 17-Aug-14 10:53:17

Good God - where do you people get the energy?

M27J5M Sun 17-Aug-14 10:47:11

I'm kinda jealous of the people that go every day smile

Aliceinvodkaland Fri 15-Aug-14 21:58:58

does it have to be doggy position can it be any other?

BackToYourselfYouSillyOldElf Fri 15-Aug-14 21:52:09

With previous partners I've texted, watched TV, fell asleep . planned my outfit for the next day and thought about when it was going to do the washing lol

That doesn't sound very lol. Did you actually want to have sex with these people.

ANM07 Fri 15-Aug-14 21:39:07

Ahh wish I had the energy but at the moment feel a bit like I can't be bothered. Though we both work long hours FT and have a toddler. 1-2 a week maximum.

Higheredserf Fri 15-Aug-14 21:30:11

Tends to be feast or famine in our house so very variable.

CrocsAreJustPlainUgly Fri 15-Aug-14 21:19:00


With previous partners I've texted, watched TV, fell asleep blush. planned my outfit for the next day and thought about when it was going to do the washing lol

Bowlersarm Fri 15-Aug-14 21:18:53

About twice a week. I'm quite impressed by that as a) we are old - around 50 and b) been together for bloody ages. Sometimes its less, but balanced out by loads on holiday.

flappityfanjos Fri 15-Aug-14 21:13:45

Right now, every couple of weeks - which is loads for us, poor old DH probably thinks he's died and gone to heaven. Previous frequency was only a few times a year, due entirely to my lack of sex drive. I feel terrible about not wanting it but can't just flip a switch, wish to god I could! We're both in our 30s.

Darquesse Fri 15-Aug-14 20:46:44

Sometimes once a fortnight, sometimes twice a week. I would love more but my dp has a low sex drive sad

Dc 9, 6 & 2 and dsd 6

weegiemum Fri 15-Aug-14 20:37:56

2-3-4 times a week.

Dc are 14,12,10 so no longer any sleep issues!

LuluJakey1 Fri 15-Aug-14 20:36:17

What other things can you do while you are doing it- the multi-taskers amongst us.

A friend on mine makes her shopping list (in her head, not on paper) Or she did before the divorce. grin

Another watches Coronation Street- has the bedroom telly carefully positioned.

Icelollycraving Fri 15-Aug-14 20:00:02

God I miss the days of shagging every day.

BeachyKeen Fri 15-Aug-14 19:55:07

DH and I are 36 and 37, married 16 years (next month), together for 19. We have a 17 yo and 15 yo.
He is in the navy, so he can be away lots, like right now, sigh.....I miss him.blushsad
When he is home, we tend to be once or twice a day people. We like to start the day with a quickie, if there is time, and if my joints are ok. stupid arthritis.

LBOCS Fri 15-Aug-14 19:34:07

Together 5 years, a 21mo DD, a DSS who is with us every second weekend and full time jobs. 2-3 times a week.

Vintagewannabe Fri 15-Aug-14 19:27:34

Together 14 years with 3 kids, 2-3 times per week

annabanana19 Fri 15-Aug-14 19:26:55

Maybe 4-5 times a month. If that.

magicalmrmistofelees Fri 15-Aug-14 19:23:31

We have a non sleeping 9 month old. Once a week maximum. Although can't remember the last time blush.

EddieVeddersfoxymop Fri 15-Aug-14 19:20:10

OhMy Arsing, grin. I'm impressed at your multi-tasking.

nousernamesleft Fri 15-Aug-14 19:09:16

We have 4 kids, 2 of whom are in our room (8 month twins), and dh works 6 nights a week, so once a week if we're lucky, unless I stay up until he gets Home at silly o'clock.

Strokethefurrywall Fri 15-Aug-14 18:48:16

Sometimes 4 x a week, sometimes nothing for 3 weeks. We have DS1 (nearly 3 years) and I'm still nursing 5 month old DS2 so my libido is shot to shit due to the breastfeeding.

Looking forward to picking it back up when I eventually stop nursing.

Rockethorse Fri 15-Aug-14 18:22:59

3 times a day sometimes 4

You are talking about doing the dishes

passmethewineplease Fri 15-Aug-14 18:16:03

We're not married but live together with two dc and one on the way.

Usually every other night, I find it so bloody uncomfortable with this bump.

I couldn't really face sex three times a day. I'd get bored. blush

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