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If you could write a short note to your 16 year old self, what would it be?

(108 Posts)
CiderLover Mon 07-Jul-14 15:48:42

Mine would definitely be along the lines of "Things will get better!"

Urgh, I hated my teen years!

Morethanalittlebitconfused Mon 07-Jul-14 15:50:33

They're not your friends they're total cunts ditch them

And

Stay in work don't go to college

NickiFury Mon 07-Jul-14 15:50:52

One day quite soon you'll be away from your bullying, screwed up parents and you WILL be free, try to use it wisely instead of going completely off track just because you can.

jessiemummy28 Mon 07-Jul-14 15:52:31

Treat your current bf better, he really loves you.

CruCru Mon 07-Jul-14 15:53:35

You are not fat.

sonlypuppyfat Mon 07-Jul-14 15:55:04

Buck the fuck up!

BearFeet Mon 07-Jul-14 15:55:43

If something makes you feel uncomfortable don't do it.

your boyfriend is awful. Ditch him, he doesn't love you and he will never change. Don't get back together with him later down the line after you finally break up, he hasn't changed but you have and he still doesn't love you. You will be fine without him.

LauraChant Mon 07-Jul-14 15:58:27

Dear Me, You are about a thousand times more attractive than you think you are. Snog more boys. Also you should perhaps be more ambitious about employment but then you might not meet your lovely future husband so it's up to you really. Finally, don't listen to the bank when they try to talk you into an ISA in 1999. Love me. Xx

Apatite1 Mon 07-Jul-14 15:59:04

All that work is going to pay off. You're going to be able to travel the world, meet an amazing man and enjoy life like you never thought possible. Keep on walking away from the herd.

MrsBartowski Mon 07-Jul-14 16:00:35

It doesn't have to be like this.

You deserve more and you have the power to change your life. It isn't and never was love. It's abuse, he wants a child and you are growing into a young women and that is why this isn't working. Not because you are a horrible selfish bitch.

WestEast Mon 07-Jul-14 16:01:16

Stop cutting yourself. It perpetuates things. You are stronger than you realise.
Go to the main college in town.
Get your A levels.
Things work out, future you is happy x

Choccyhobnob Mon 07-Jul-14 16:01:27

Things will get better. Eventually. And spend more time with your friends, don't ditch them all to spend time with your bf. You may think he is the most important thing in your life and you can't imagine life without him but actually life is better without him. Honestly. Even if you feel like you're going to die without him. You won't.

Ahh to be 16 again.....

Choccyhobnob Mon 07-Jul-14 16:02:15

Oh and PS. you are not fat!!!

barrackobana Mon 07-Jul-14 16:02:17

You will be okay in the end, you finally have a real family of your and happy. You will pass your exams and go to university, it will be a little tough at first but your break will come and you have a high flying career.

You won't always suffer from asthma, the attacks will stop. You need to speak up a bit more for yourself, expose what is going on at home, let people know.

MTWTFSS Mon 07-Jul-14 16:02:28

"You're doing great!"

chinamoon Mon 07-Jul-14 16:03:03

Calm down and lighten up. It's not your fault your dad is mad so don't take the blame and responsibility for his behaviour. Go off and really enjoy yourself.

OnlyLovers Mon 07-Jul-14 16:04:56

Is there ANYONE you can go and live with to get away from this toxic place with bitter parents, using you as a weapon? ANYONE? Just about anything would be better than this and you won't spend the rest of your life mucking up relationships.

ConstantineTheGreat Mon 07-Jul-14 16:05:00

they don't define you
you are not fat, ugly etc
you are good enough for him smile
I still am

You never had to be perfect. You just had to be yourself.

MerdeAlor Mon 07-Jul-14 16:08:02

Don't invest emotional time and energy in your parents. They will never give you what you need. Move on and don't look back.

middlethird Mon 07-Jul-14 16:08:16

don't settle.

I didn't in the end, but it took about 12 years...

Fuckalella Mon 07-Jul-14 16:08:43

She's not your friend, she's a bully. Don't lose your self respect. Speak up for yourself, ditch her and don't drop out of your A-levels - it's much harder to do it later!

momb Mon 07-Jul-14 16:09:41

Work harder. Train yourself now so that when you have too much to do instead of stopping like a rabbit in the headlights and accomplishing nothing you just need to go full tilt and get through it.
Do it now before your A levels, otherwise you will have to wait and teach it to yourself the hard way until your 20s.It will be much harder to reach your academic/professional potential once you have children: you will manage it mind, but you could save yourself years of stress if you just do it now!

You are never going to be more conventionally pretty than you are now, so bask a little and maybe undo your top button.

shadypines Mon 07-Jul-14 16:12:43

1) You're not ugly
2) You're not going to marry him so stop obsessing with him, when he's sixty he's going to be an old bore on twitter anyway which will be hugely disappointing.
3) Don't train to be a nurse, it will teach you a lot about life and people but you'd make a much better teacher, why aren't you considering it?

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