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Oh dear, I've put my foot in it again

(15 Posts)
Frontier Fri 27-Jun-14 14:11:57

One of the school mums was complaining about how her son had been treated by a TA.

This HLTA has a specialism that means she runs one morning's classes per week. Apparently they boy called out repeatedly to tell her that it was break time but she hadn't finished the lesson so carried on. After a few times, she apparently retorted, quite aggressively "don't you think I can tell the time?" This is not a touchy feely kind of TA and I can see how she can come across as aggressive.

Anyway I said to friend, "well he was being rude and it doesn't hurt them to know that if they're rude to someone sometimes they'll get called on it."

I agree that the TA could have handled it better and probably should have dealt with it sooner (i.e the first time) but I think it was a lesson he needed to learn. Apparently he's so upset he can't sleep.

I realise it wasn't particularly tactful of me to say so but in my mind, at the time, I was defending the school rather than putting her/her son down IYSWIM

KingJoffreysBloodshotEye Fri 27-Jun-14 14:18:32

I think you're right.

Your friend knows that too, she was just venting.

I wouldn't worry!

smile

RedPony Fri 27-Jun-14 14:34:46

I wouldn't worry too much. Her son was being rude but the ta could have dealt with it better too

Smartiepants79 Fri 27-Jun-14 14:37:37

Well he was being rude.
How old is he?
About time he learned some manners.

Frontier Fri 27-Jun-14 14:40:28

He's year 5 shock

STOPwiththehahaheheloling Fri 27-Jun-14 14:45:23

Year 5 and he hasnt learned that the teacher dismisses the class not the bell? Was he trying it on because it was a TA as opposed to a teacher? Thinking he could dupe her into following rules he told her existed?

Frontier Fri 27-Jun-14 15:19:26

He's one of those cheeky chappies who tends to get away with being cheeky when others would be considered rude.

WiggleGinger Fri 27-Jun-14 15:21:48

Let's hope its lesson learned for him!
Maybe next time he'll remember his manners!!!

LittleMisslikestobebythesea Fri 27-Jun-14 15:25:02

He was rude to be fair, I don't think the TA did anything wrong. Sounds like he needs bringing down a peg or 2.

When I was in school we knew the teachers were in charge and we wouldn't dare be cheeky!

Smartiepants79 Fri 27-Jun-14 18:09:50

At year 5 he needs to man up.
He's got one more year before a whole load of secondary school teachers are going to be being unimpressed by his 'cheekiness'.

EvansOvalPiesYumYum Fri 27-Jun-14 18:14:57

When I was at school, (many moons ago) we were always made to understand "The bell is meant for the teacher, not for the pupil". Pupil to be dismissed when teacher says so. It is intended as a timekeeping reminder, not a strict rule.

Sounds as though young lad was being rude and TA was being assertive rather than aggressive.

cashmiriana Fri 27-Jun-14 18:17:48

He's one of those cheeky chappies who tends to get away with being cheeky when others would be considered rude.

Not with me he wouldn't.
I had one in a Y5 class.
Repeatedly calling out and trying to run the class isn't 'cheeky' : it's rude, arrogant, and disruptive.
A lot depends on the TA's tone but it's not an unreasonable response per se.

Not being able to sleep is a very extreme response to being reprimanded for his poor behaviour.

itiswhatitiswhatitis Fri 27-Jun-14 18:19:42

I don't think the TA was out of line and you are right he was being rude. I said something similar to a friend when her child was part of a group that got a right bollocking for messing around, felt a bit blush afterwards because I was a bit blunt

Floggingmolly Fri 27-Jun-14 18:25:27

He's cheeky enough to announce to the teacher it's break time several times, and is now too upset to sleep because she put him in his place?
I think that might be for his indulgent mum's benefit...
Does cheeky chappie mean little bugger spirited, by any chance??

EvansOvalPiesYumYum Fri 27-Jun-14 18:37:57

Losing sleep? confused

If he's the kind of "cheeky chappie" described, I doubt very much he'll be losing sleep over the episode. And if he is, then hopefully he will have learned a lesson and it will discourage him from being so cheeky in the future.
Yr 5 - around 10 yrs old. Plenty old enough to know some respect and how to sit until dismissed in a classroom environment.
The Mother sounds too precious.

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