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Did a bit of an experiment with my pill.

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SillyTilly123 Thu 01-May-14 11:10:11

I've been on the pill for 4.5 years, but wanted to have a little break as the thought of putting hormones into my body for the next 20+ years freaks me out, and I wanted to make sure everything still "worked" ie periods. Anyhow, I stopped and my sex drive immediatly sprang to life. While on the pill we'd have sex maybe once a month if that, but I was like a horny teenager and was thinking about it all the time blush So because I wasn't on the pill we obviously had to use condoms but they are crap basically. Dp cannot finish with them (sorry tmi) So after 2 months I went back on the pill, within a day my sex drive was non-existant again hmm and I've noticed that I am much more short tempered and tired than when i was off it. So Now I'm wondering which is the lesser of 2 evils?

Does anyone have any experience of this? Alternative contraception would be the copper coil (i think thats the non-hormone one) but I really dont like the thought of one.
Thanks

SillyTilly123 Thu 01-May-14 11:11:47

Oh and I hadn't even noticed my libido being non-existant while on the pill as I was usually tired, it was such a shock when I came off it and it went up.

You could try changing to a different pill. I switched mine for various reasons and I feel much more like 'me' and have a better sex drive on my new one (Cilest) than I did on my old (Microgynon)

SillyTilly123 Thu 01-May-14 11:15:47

Yeah Ive changed from Microgynon to Cerelle before my "experiment" as I was getting migraines and I felt the same on both of them. TBH I'm over being on the pill now. I didn't really want to go on it in the 1st place but needed contraception.

wonkylegs Thu 01-May-14 11:19:53

I agree try another pill, if you aren't happy with condoms.
I never found cilest suppressed my libido. It might be worth trying something with a slightly different make up and see if it has a different effect. I would discuss it with your GP.

MsMarvel Thu 01-May-14 11:22:44

I have a copper coil and I love it!! I was on the implant for a year and my sex drive was non existent. I really like the fact that there's no extra hormones being added to my system (I'm mental enough when my period is due as it is!)

Getting it fitted was really easy, I went to a family planning clinic rather than my gp because they would be more experienced. Other than a sore stomach for a few hours afterwards, there was no issues!

SillyTilly123 Thu 01-May-14 11:26:48

The thing with the coil is (and this is my issue) is that it may prevent a fertilised egg from implanting in the womb. Where as the pill stops fertilisation.
Is cilest a lot different to cerelle? (off to google it)

lucysmam Thu 01-May-14 11:27:32

I've just switched from Microgynon to Cerazette. Something was making me all hormonal & snappy so my first thought was to swap my pill.

So far, so good. & I have more of a sex drive too.

Might be worth trying something different. I've tried another two as well, in the past, Cileste made my sex drive plummet....I really just couldn't be arsed at all!

SillyTilly123 Thu 01-May-14 11:28:47

Oh its a Pill rather than mini-pill, I can't have it due to withdrawal migraines on the week break. But thanks for the suggestion.

I also thought about a diaphragm (sp) but I cannot insert a mooncup due to my stubby fingers and short (t-rex) arms so dont think i'd be able to use one?

SillyTilly123 Thu 01-May-14 11:30:17

Cerelle (what im on now) is the same as cerazette apparently.

I would have thought they'd all have the same effects? But might be worth trying another one, just dont fancy telling the doctor my reasons.

fancyanotherfez Thu 01-May-14 11:41:32

This has happened to me too, coming off Cerazette! I can't take a combined pill due to migranes and my mirena fell out twice due to a difficulty putting it in due to a funny shaped womb. Im not sure what to do now though, as Ive heard terrible things about the implant and have a slight misgiving about the copper coil because of the whole fertilization thing. I may have to get over this though, as it's a hangover from my Catholic school upbringing and I'm not even sure it's true. I would tell the doctor you feel the pill is affecting your libido. You dont have to mention horny teenagers ; )

RubberBulletKisses Thu 01-May-14 11:42:16

Qlaira? Combined pill but staggered hormone amounts (supposed to mimic the natural cycle more), only a two day break (still get a withdrawal bleed but quite short) and no headaches for me, where I had a regular 4 day one with previous combined pills. Not noticed any effects either way on my libido...

ophiotaurus Thu 01-May-14 11:45:17

Would your dh go for the snip? Or do you still want more dc?

Cumberlover76 Thu 01-May-14 11:46:32

I felt the same when i stopped taking the pill after nearly 20 years to get pregnant. After i had DD i didn't want to go back on a hormone contraceptive so after much thinking, chose the copper coil. I have found it has made my periods a bit heavier, slightly longer and my cycle is shorter, but other than that it's great.

This article is an interesting read for those concerned about the chance of stopping the implantation of a fertilized egg.

TeeBee Thu 01-May-14 11:46:36

Is it time for your DP to take over contraception? Snip?

BeyondTheVirtualActivist Thu 01-May-14 11:49:13

Can you still get diaphragms?

SillyTilly123 Thu 01-May-14 11:51:04

Dp wont go to the doctor for a cold nevermind the snip.

WowOoo Thu 01-May-14 11:51:23

My sex drive went out of the window when on the pill. I really didn't like it.
Whatever brand it was I found my moods were affected also.

Dh is used to condoms now. Maybe your dh just needs to get used to them.

eurochick Thu 01-May-14 11:58:02

My libido was exactly the same on the Pill. I also put on weight and felt depressed. Needless to say, I haven't taken it in years. We just used condoms (and then withdrawal when we were stable and ready to settle down but not actively ttc).

YoureBeingASillyBilly Thu 01-May-14 11:58:13

Your DP seems to have opted out of the responsibility of his own fertility doesnt he? Wont wear condoms (cant finish? Really? So he has never had protected sex? Does he watxh porn?) and wont consider the snip? Does that sound fair when faced with the prospect of 20 more years of hormones affecting your mood?

babybearsmummy Thu 01-May-14 12:04:24

Shamelessly place marking as I'm having the same issue. I was on Cerazette when bf my dd, but when she stopped bf the Cerazette and other pills played havoc with my system.

I found that Gedarel was not as bad, but now that I've been on that for 15mths I've found, like you, I've lost my sex drive. But also that I get really angry over the smallest things DP does and get so tired with dd.

I've stopped taking it for the last 2 weeks and I'm back to my old self, so agree with you that I'm done with the pill too, but will stick around to see your replies smile Hope you sort something x

lucysmam Thu 01-May-14 12:06:19

It looks from these replies that a lot of pills will have the same effect confused I don't fancy another 20ish years of being grumpy!

HillyHolbrook Thu 01-May-14 12:16:24

As soon as I came off the pill to TTC I got a ridiculously high libido. DP couldn't actually keep it up and kept saying 'You really want a baby, don't you?'grin
We had regular sex whilst I was on the pill, and I didn't always 'want' it. Not in a sinister way but I was just nonchalant about it and could do with out if we never had sex again and I felt bad because I fancied DP I just wasn't fussed over the sex part.

I tried Microgynon, Yasmin as a teen, Cerazette, and they all had the same effect on me. MG was the worst though, it made me hungry, bloated and angry too sad

Selendra Thu 01-May-14 13:24:53

He will get used to condoms if he keeps practising. Some are better than others - if you're not veggie I've heard good things about lambskin condoms (they aren't any use for STIs, but that will be OK in your situation!). Otherwise the Mates Skyns ones are pretty good.

Non hormonal methods include: fertility awareness method (effective if done right but you'd need to either abstain some days or use condoms some days), pulling out (more effective than the diaphragm but has an obvious failure rate depending on his self-control and he needs to wee between ejaculations to clear the tubes), the copper coil (super effective, lots of side effects), cervical cap (don't know much about this one), female condom (a bit marmite, but lots love it), spermicide (not that effective on its own, can set off yeast infections).

You can mix and match though to get better effectiveness rates, for example, fertility awareness method with diaphragm as back up.

summertimeandthelivingiseasy Thu 01-May-14 13:33:56

Came off the pill after 29 years last year (breaks for babies and pop though). It is fantastic grin.

After years of being a once a month person, I was taken off due to migraines and put on pop and it just carried on smile .

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