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Please help me! I have to get over this crush!

(55 Posts)
IAmSuchAnIdiot Fri 31-Jan-14 17:51:09

Ok, I have name change. It should become apparent why.

I have a huge, massive, gut clenching crush on a school dad. I'm married (very happily) with three dcs and I do not want to fuck up my life or theirs.

I can't avoid this dad as I have to pick the dcs up. We've only spoken a handful of times but he is so unbelievably fuckable. The worst thing is that I know he is aware of me too.

I know nothing would or could ever, ever happen as it would fuck up two families. I don't want anything to ever happen!!

But how can I get over the heat and chemistry that takes over me whenever I see him. It's bloody torture and I want it to stop. How can I? What do I do?

I wish I could just have him and nobody ever found out. Then I'd get over it!

Please help me. I'm 37 not 14. There's no excuse.

ThatBloodyWoman Fri 31-Jan-14 17:53:40

Don't 'do'anything.

It'll wear off as these things seem to.

IAmSuchAnIdiot Fri 31-Jan-14 17:58:24

God I hope so. It's bloody torture. I can't wait for it to go away.

He looks at me in a way that makes me wobbly.

IAmSuchAnIdiot Fri 31-Jan-14 18:03:46

I have got it bad though.

Half of me started this thread so I could talk about how gorgeous he is. [shame]

plantsitter Fri 31-Jan-14 18:09:56

Think of him on the shitter with his trousers round his ankles, leaving the kid of stench only a man can.

That kind of thing helps.

PoloMintCity Fri 31-Jan-14 18:11:43

What plant said!

SPsMrLoverManSHABBA Fri 31-Jan-14 18:13:02

Reality is never like the fantasy. He will act a nob and pick his nose just like every other man grin

I have a crush on a bus driver. I don't see him often but when I do I turn into a mess. He is gorgeous though

IAmSuchAnIdiot Fri 31-Jan-14 18:15:18


Thing is I have it so bad I only got as far as trousers round his ankles and then was thinking about easy access!! grinblush

God I need to get a grip. This is rediculous!!!

rabbitlady Fri 31-Jan-14 18:16:55

it will wear off, it always does.
at 56, I'm waiting for my interest in a similarly-aged chap to wear off. its taking a while.

IAmSuchAnIdiot Fri 31-Jan-14 18:28:47

I'm glad I'm not the only one.

And I know he's probably an idiot with loads of bad habits but I don't want an affair with him. He wouldn't even have to speak! I just want a good seeing to. Aaaaarrrrgghhh.

Fuckity, fuck, fuck!! (Sorry)

FunkyBoldRibena Fri 31-Jan-14 18:29:50

Imagine him with toilet paper stuck in his foreskin. That usually works. HTH.

UnexpectedlySingle Fri 31-Jan-14 18:29:53

Are you sure he is "aware of you"??

IAmSuchAnIdiot Fri 31-Jan-14 18:32:39

Totally aware!!

He moves to stand near me then just looks smoulders constantly. If I catch his eye, and I do try not to, he flashes me an amazing smile.

IAmSuchAnIdiot Fri 31-Jan-14 18:33:30

Liking the toilet paper on the foreskin. Funny!

hiddenhome Fri 31-Jan-14 18:33:56

Imagine him sitting on the couch farting after eating a huge curry and expecting you to clean up the mess grin

UnexpectedlySingle Fri 31-Jan-14 18:34:01

Then ffs don't do anything, you'll fuck up both your lives. flirting is lovely but please leave it there...

LumpySpacePrincessOhMyGlob Fri 31-Jan-14 18:35:18

He sounds like a player.

UnexpectedlySingle Fri 31-Jan-14 18:35:39

agreed lumpy

IAmSuchAnIdiot Fri 31-Jan-14 18:36:47

I'm not even flirting!! I want it to go away. Seriously it's shit! Just need to convince my body to stop having a physical reaction.

UnexpectedlySingle Fri 31-Jan-14 18:37:46

only because you said "I just want a good seeing to. Aaaaarrrrgghhh"

Apparently we are attracted to different men depending on where we are in our cycle: nice men
During period and naughty men when ovulating. Give it a couple of weeks and you might feel differently. I have felt quite a few crushes come on recently but my body is keen for another baby so that might be part of it!

SavoyCabbage Fri 31-Jan-14 18:41:15

I can't think of anything less attractive than a married man moving so he can stand next to me and smoulder whilst he is picking up his children.

What an utter twat. That's what I would be thinking.

IAmSuchAnIdiot Fri 31-Jan-14 18:41:39

Only in my imagination. I would actually in all seriousness never do anything. I'm not that kind of person. I just hate/love this physical reaction iyswim?

UnexpectedlySingle Fri 31-Jan-14 18:42:03

As I said on another thread, I'm wondering if its a hormonal thing. Women get a big rush of hormones in their late 30s/early 40s - the biological last chance to further the species I guess - after a bit it settles down. I think it's the reason behind some break-ups. I read a book about it. And have personal experience blush

Bowlersarm Fri 31-Jan-14 18:42:19

You need to be a grown up.

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