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What time do your children go to bed?

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Sparklymommy Tue 21-Jan-14 21:49:23

I have four kids, loosely trying to enforce bedtimes:

11 year old: 9pm
7 year old: 7:15pm
6 year old: 7pm
4 year old: 6:45pm.

Does this sound about right? 4 year old dd is the biggest problem because she doesn't want to go to bed without 11yo older sister. How do I make her realise she is a lot younger!!??!?

Sirzy Tue 21-Jan-14 22:23:22

DS is 4 and goes to bed at 6.30

nonameslefttouse Tue 21-Jan-14 22:23:30

Ds 9 8.00
Dd 4 7.30

On Wednesday he goes about 8.45 has he doesn't get in from training till 8.15 & by the time he showers etc.

BingoWingsBeGone Tue 21-Jan-14 22:26:16

DD7 - 7.30pm
DD5 - 7.00pm

kdsweets Tue 21-Jan-14 22:27:44

9 yr old, 7.30 read til 8
10 yr old 8 read til 8.30
I think its a personal thing, I keep the times as it give me time with DH

TalkinPeace Tue 21-Jan-14 22:30:17

13 year old ~ 9:30, lights out by 10:15
15 year old ~ 10pm, lights out by 10:45
7am alarm
from September, the alarm will go off at 6:30 am for the next 4 years . yeuch.

Sparklymommy Tue 21-Jan-14 22:30:34

Dd1 does sometimes read to her and settle her, but then she gets cross when she doesn't settle quickly enough and moans about her "interrupting big girl time". She likes to play cards/ watch telly with the adults and have a bit of her own special time.

My others all got rid of their dummies without a problem. We have forcibly removed hers after a visit to the dentist revealed she may need a brace in a few years.

DD is 9, nearly 10. In bed by about 8.30, reads to me until 9.00 at the latest (or until I can't bear it any longer, if she's reading anything particularly dreadful), and then I read to her until 9.30 at the latest. I get snippy if I'm kept up there any later than 9.30. She gets anything from 10 hours sleep on a good day down to 9 at the worst (late-ish night plus early morning on a Friday for school orchestra). We eat late between one and three nights a week due to activities, so that makes us a bit later to bed. She seems fine on it, though there may come a point where I have to say that while I love reading to her, I am NOT prepared to be reading at gone 10 as bedtime gets later.

serin Tue 21-Jan-14 22:36:02

16 year old, doesn't have bedtime but usually drifts off upstairs around 10.30pm
13yr old~9.30
11yr old~9pm (except on Thurs as drama club doesn't even finish until then!)

Dancergirl Tue 21-Jan-14 22:37:13

OP all those different bedtimes must drive you mad!

6.45 is very early even for a 4 year old. Tbh, I would make life easy by having ONE bedtime for the youngest 3, say 7.15pm, they're not that wildly different in age. Then your youngest knows she's going to bed at the same time as her siblings, and dd1 can stay up later as she's that bit older.

MrsBungle Tue 21-Jan-14 22:39:38

My two are 4 and 19 months. Both go to bed at 6:45-7pm.

They get up around 7-7:30am

JingleJoo Tue 21-Jan-14 22:39:46

4yo - between 6.45 and 7.15 in the week depending on tiredness. Gets up about 6.30ish.

7yo - 7ish most week nights, but then reads/listens to radio for half an hour. Gets up 6.30. Later bedtime ( 8.30) after brownies.

JingleJoo Tue 21-Jan-14 22:41:44

Dancer girl - some days my 4yo is SO tired now he is doing full days at school, he asks to go to bed straight after tea, and I have to try to keep him up a bit longer cos I don't want him waking up at 5am!!

MrsBungle Tue 21-Jan-14 22:43:40

I don't think 6:45 is very early at all for a 4 year old that has to get up for school every day and get the full amount of sleep they need.

Sparklymommy Tue 21-Jan-14 22:45:02

Trouble is they all do the "but I'm older" argument! Different bedtimes isn't a huge problem as they all self settle. I'm not anal about it and I think they are all quite often up later at weekends/holidays.

soimpressed Tue 21-Jan-14 22:45:12

9yo 10.30 on a good day anything up to midnight on a bad day. Good days are rare unfortunately!

MrsJohnDeere Tue 21-Jan-14 22:45:28

Nearly 6yo goes at 7:15, usually asleep by 7:30
7.9 yo goes at 8/8:30, asleep by 9

They both wake up at silly o'clock regardless of bedtimes. Looks like they get close to the right amount though.

Sparklymommy Tue 21-Jan-14 22:45:59

Tbf I often in bed before the 11yo!!!

Artandco Tue 21-Jan-14 22:50:05

How do you people get them in bed for 6/6.30/6.45pm?
We don't get in from work/ childcare until 6.30/7pm. Then dinner/ read/ bath etc hence 8.30/9pm bed. Do you have at least one parent stay home/ and children eating diff times from adults etc?

Snatchoo Tue 21-Jan-14 22:51:37

My 2 year old wouldn't sleep if he went to bed that early.

Generally him and five year old twins are in bed for 7-7:30, maybe 8 at the weekend. The twins need more sleep because they're up for 7 for school.

notapizzaeater Tue 21-Jan-14 22:55:04

11'yr old, bed 9:30 sleep,for 10 but he doesn't get up till 8.15 so he gets his 10 hours.

CuppaTandCake Tue 21-Jan-14 22:55:53

Tarty I have DS14, DS6 & DD3 all go to bed at 7.30pm.

Eldest has special needs and can't cope with being up any longer, gets twitchy and we risk a meltdown by pushing him to stay up, we've tried.

Taffeta Tue 21-Jan-14 22:57:14

DS (10) up at 8.45pm asleep by 9.45pm
DD(7) up at 7.30pm asleep by 8pm

JingleJoo Tue 21-Jan-14 22:57:43

Artandco - we eat at different times to DCs as 4yo DS is rubbish at eating at the best of times, and would never stay awake to eat properly at 6.30/7.

I work pt (school hours) so can fairly easily cook DCs dinner for 5ish. But even when I work rare full days I can be home by 5.45, pre-made pasta in microwave straight away and served by 6, eaten by 6.15/30, bit of telly, quick bath, bed by 7.15.

flipchart Tue 21-Jan-14 22:59:24

Ds1 17 and DS2 14 go to bed when ever they want.

MrsBungle Tue 21-Jan-14 23:02:37

I work until 4 ish usually. I Pick up the eldest from after school club then the youngest from nursery. Usually home by about 5:15pm.

Tea for the children around 5:30, they have a light tea as they have hot meals at school/nursey on those days. Bath at 6. Milk and stories, in bed for around 6:45/7. Usually, they fall asleep within about 15 minutes.

We leave at around 8:15 and get up around 7 so if they didn't go to bed then I don't think they'd be getting enough sleep. As it is, they get at least 11.5/12 hours.

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