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Argh.
God, I've had a crap few months!
Started last autumn...my mum has been very ill and has recently had a femoral bypass. She is still smoking however, which she has been told is very dangerous. She is coeliac but does not stick to the diet. She has just been told that at some point she has had a heart attack.
My dad is having problems swallowing. My nan and uncle had Parkinson's. I am trying very hard not to panic about that.
My children have been ill- pretty much constantly - since October. I am not exaggerating. I knew it would be a rough winter as its ds2s first year at pre school but, bloody hell, it's been rough.
Since he started he has hand foot and mouth, d&v, chest infection needing hospitalisation, cols, coughs, flu, and now croup.
Ds1 had a chest infection last week, off school all week. Ds2 was rushed to hospital with croup early hours yesterday morning and was given steriods but he is atill coughing today and I can't get his temp to stay down taken him to gp and he has been given ABs.
I am recovering from a secondary infection after flu.
I am on my knees 26 hours with no sleep whilst recovering from flu is not good.
Dh has just rung and told me he is only just leaving London now and won't be home til 7pm (he is usually home by 5 as he works fairly locally)
I know it's nothing compared to what some people are going though, and that aibu but I am struggling to stay positive ATM.
It's going to be a loooong evening...

I feel for you.

Not much I can say except could dh drop by a takeaway on the way home, so you don't have to cook at least?

Have a .

Sounds like life is handing you the shitty end of the stick just now. I hope you and all your family recover from all their illnesses and you get a bit of a break soon.

Life just feels relentless sometime, doesn't it?

Oh darling!!

It's shit isn't it when you feel like that, and esp worrisome when our parents are ill.

Get the kids to bed, get a takeway, pour yourself a massive glass of wine and watch shit on tv.

Tomorrow is another day, onwards and upwards hey

Don't say yabu, you really aren't. It's bloody hard when the kids are ill, never mind your other family members too. I know you're going through hell but for tonight remember that everything is so much worse when you're tired. Your problems will still be there tomorrow but you won't feel as low with some sleep. I second what another poster said, get dh to get a takeaway and have a lazy evening snuggled on sofa with dcs.

I am bu.
I look at some of e threads on MN...people dealing with such awful stuff and I feel pathetic.
My first ever Mother's Day meal out cancelled as I had flu.
I am still stupidly upset a it this, ESP as sil and mil text me to say his lovely it all was (I arranged it for mil too as a Mother's Day treat)
During half term week my mum was rushed to hospital and our conservatory roof fell in. Forgot to mention that!
So £3.5 k later....
The house is a tip and the ironing is reaching epic proportions
Feel very very overwhelmed ATM.
You are all so kind.
Thank you.

....oh the Abs I had to take have given me raging thrush!
Grrr....

Poor you, that sounds incredibly draining. Don't call yourself pathetic, you're going through a hell of a time and your rant is wholly justified!

My only advice is to sod the ironing - put everything away a bit creased, it'll be fine!

Oh blimey so much to cope with!
Any chance of a little break away somewhere warm?

Ha!!
We are off to Northumberland in July!

Lovely! Should be warm by then

Oh that sounds perfectly bloody for you. Definitely get something take away or dead easy (this is what frozen pizza is made for) to cook, kids to bed early and then an early night for you too.

I would ditch the ironing too. Life's too short

It does sound like a rough patch. All I can say is that you are not responsible for your mother - she is an adult & makes her own choices. Sorry not much help. Keep your chin up, things WILL get better.

Make yourself a nice cuppa, stick the kids in front of a video, give them an early bath and bed (if they're both ill, they probably need it anyway), get DH to pick up dinner on the way home, sod the ironing (I never iron anything!), and have a nice early night so you can catch up a bit. Make sure to dose croupy son with not just ABs, but also Nurofen (if you have it). It lasts 8 hours and I find it really helps ill children to sleep.

Sounds pants!

I'm really no help but I do feel for you!

You've had loads to deal with! Don't play it down.

Look after yourself badvov It's easy to underestimate how these things can take their toll on you.

I have given ds2 calpol and mandafen staggered since 6am this morning and its not keeping the fever down
Ds1 has had a pizza Ds2 isn't really eating. I have had some scrambled eggs.
I was going to make meatballs and mash and veg tonight...oh well.
Ds2 has had almost all the painkiller he can have in 24 hours...bugger.
He has just had his 2Nd dose of ABs.
Luckily he is pretty good at taking meds, bless him.
Yes, mum is an adult you are right but...I know that I will end up dealing with the consequences of her actions/choices now. My sis is considering moving abroad. I hAve told her she should do whats right for her family but just as our parents are getting frail is pretty bad timing
Oh, and I found out that a job offer I had for sept has fallen through it wasn't much, only p/t but I was looking forward to it
Bah.
Will be glad when march is over!

I neeeeed chocolate!
I will ask dh to do night duty with ds2 tonight. If I don't get some rest I will get ill again

Ever long...that's part of what's getting me down...I am getting to the stage that I dint want to plan anything because everything for months has been cancelled/spoiled by ilness/problems.
Sounds stupid, but am now worried that the holiday will get cancelled too.
I hate feeling like this.
And I hate the fact I am dreading the eater hols...my dc break up on Friday for 2 weeks.

That all sounds rubbish, you poor thing. Try and have a good sleep tonight and tomorrow is another day

Definitely try and get some sleep or you will get ill again.

It doesn't sound like you can change much and will just have to ride it all out but the one thing you can do is stop ironing! I used to iron everything and I have given up now as it completely got me down.

Make sure you eat and drink plenty too.

Poor you. Hope things get better soon

Have some chocolate!
Hopefully things will improve soon. Try to look after yourself.

After a run of baqd luck there comes a time when thing's have to start getting better.

A positive attitude will get you further than a negative one (but I know how when you have had as much as you can take, are sleep deprived and you are on the verge of giving up hope a positive attitude is the last thing you can be arsed with) BUT what is the other option?

So.....

Now your DH is home (or will be any minute I hope) have a take away and nice hot bath, cuddle with your dh and an early night and hopefully tomorrow you can wake up with a fresh sense of hope.

I think the shit weather isn't helping illness' and mood tbh let's cross our fingers for some sunshine soon!