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Trying to calm down unsuccessfully but one of the p1 mums (same class as ds1) has sent her child in this morning

"He's only been sick 5 times and its just bile" she says as the child is doubled over with cramps "and I must go to work"

Am so angry as it means that poor child is spreading germs whilst feeling unwell and needing his bed

Poor kid and poor class. I'd be tempted to report it to the school.

Hope the school calls the mum - I stretch the guidelines like the next person but not to that extent. We all have to deal with it if we work or not.

Usually schools and nurseries say to wait for 24 hours post-puke before sending the kids back.

Lappy - id thought about that but what do I say? I've not seem child vomit just hold his tummy in pain

I would be fuming too - what is the school doing about it, do you know? Hopefully she or her DP/H will be hauled home to remove their child from the class before anyone else picks up the lurgy.

I know how difficult it is to juggle work/sick children, but would never, ever inflict a vomiting child on other children - or more importantly, send an ill child out to school when they should be tucked up in bed.

I too would be tempted to mention it to the school.

The mother obviously has no sense. If she really needed to go to work, then she would be best of keeping quiet about the sickness, and pretending he became unwell at school.

Stupid woman. I'm a LP with a mortgage to pay so I can be tough on illness, but never when they have D&V

Surely the school will call the ridiculously irresponsible mum to collect the poor little boy. You could call the school to make sure the teachers know by calling them.

If he's doubled over I would hope the school would pick up on it tbh.

I wouldn't get too stressed ,no doubt the child will either tell the teacher he feels ill or be sick and they will then send him home . Hopefully the germs won't have spread that far before then or more likely those that are going to catch it would have picked it up yesterday ,when I assume he was in school .

How ridiculous. Not only is it really selfish but there is no way if that kid is doubled over in pain that he/she isn't going to get sent home.

I am a working mum but of course, my DS is my number 1 priority.

She is so gonna get a phone call to come and collect.

Well I've spoken to the office and they are going to deal with it. Feel v bad as I don't want the mum to fall out with me

Yes he prob has got it from school but that doesn't make it right to send him in. My DS will be gutted if he's off sick as its school assembly tomorrow and he's got lines to say

I suspect the mum probably felt in a bind with work, but still... Even when I worked in a really unfriendly office, I took annual leave if DS was sick. The is nothing worse than having to do a mercy dash across town as your child is sitting in reception with his head in a bucket. My current workplace is lovely though.

I didn't intend it to sound like he caught it from there and that made it right , was just saying that if its going round yours may get it anyway . IMO she's an incredibly stupid , not to say uncaring woman . Hope your son stays healthy for his assembly .

There's no reason they'll know it was you, fled. I can't see why the school would need to mention it.

Good luck to DS tomorrow morning - are you able to go and watch?

Yes am going - will have matchsticks holding eyes open as on nights but will be there. Am incredibly proud as he's had a speech delay and never thought we'd reach the point he would stand up and speak in public.

It's 48 from the last puke/poo here, she shouldn't have sent him in if he's like that, poor boy but then again, she might not have childcare or lose money of she doesn't go to work?

I'm not making excuses for her btw as I don't know her or her situation. I just think poorly children shouldn't be in school because I have a son with a compromised immune system and I'm stuck at home with him yet again thanks to parents sending their obviously sick children into school because of how fast germs spread.

School should send him home really.

Our policy is if you have d &/or v twice you have to be off until you've been clear 48h.

When dd was in Reception a father brought his dd in wrapped in a blanket . He was trying to pass her to the TA and the class teacher told him in no uncertain terms to take the child home. He was ranting that he had to go to work - but honestly - do people not realise that if they have children then sometimes (or even often at nursery and infant school) they are ill and can't go to school?

Actually I was helping at school the other week and another child from this family was sitting forlornly in Reception with a bucket and one of the office ladies was getting very cross because neither parent would answer their phones. Both parents are nurses so I pity the poor patients...

Lainie - poor mite

Better not. The school wud not thank you

At least the school are doing something - we had the same problem last week and when I called the school they said they couldn't do anything.

It's a black and white issue for me, OP. if the child is sick, shouldn't be there full stop. School is Not childcare.

Its a 48 hour rule here too for any d/v, silly woman. You've done the right thing, i hope his mum gives him lots of cuddles and care. And doesn't go on about "should be at work but its your fault" like my ex friend did to her 5 year old