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My friend had 7 miscarriages and 2 still born babies.
This was over a period of 16 years. She and her husband had a break for a while after the last one.

She fell pregnant again last year and everyone who knew them kept fingers crossed, played and anything else they felt may help. We all worried an awful lot, as we felt unsure she would cope with another loss.

She is a wonderful person, he is a wonderful person, they adore children and have looked after mine on occasion.

She finally had her baby girl in September of last year, quite a few weeks early, a long stay in SCBU, but finally healthy and beautiful.

Her Christening was today and there was not a dry eye in the church. It was a wonderful and happy event. I have never been to such an emotional Christening before.

There came a point during the service where the parents and Godparents gave the baby a flower that meant something. Mum brought a white rose and said 'I give you a white rose as I have your brothers and sisters before you'. My DD age 7 said 'Baby Xxx has brothers and sisters? I have never seen them'. I had to explain that they had all died in their mummys tummy and that makes Baby so very special.

I don't know why I am posting really, just wanted to share and maybe give hope to those who are losing it.

It's nice of you to share, what a lovely conclusion to an awful time for your friends. Made me a bit teary !
Stories like these make me ever so, ever so grateful for my boys !

Yay! I'd have been a soggy mess at the roses. My dd2 was stillborn and ds1 was our final roll of the dice.
How brave of them to keep going and to get a take home baby to fill those arms at last.
Gone teary just thinking about them

It's good you shared, what a lovely positive outcome for them.

Me too Duchess. I had three MCs before I had my DD1, then a 10 year gap before DD2. We came very close to losing her when she was born and that was hard enough. We knew within a couple of days that she would live and a little later that she did not have brain damage. DS was born with a black eye and severe bruising and again brain damage was a concern, but it is nothing to what my friend has been through and I am very grateful for my three healthy children.

There was a box if tissues placed in the church, it was very well used!!

I really barely stopped crying from beginning to end. It was in a sweet little church I had never even seen before and the service was beautiful and personal.

I think that story hits a nerve with anyone who had a child let alone a still birth or miscarriage. I can still feel tiny pricks of tears behind my eyes.
The white rose was beautiful idea, I assume it represents purity and innocence? Do you mind me asking, what were the other flowers?

I went to a christening like that before where the couple had lost their first wee boy( still born). The dad gave a lovely speech and toast to all the little angels in heaven. Not a dry eye anywhere. Some people have to cope with such unbearable pain in their lives, I find their strength amazing.

Aw !! i can almost imagine.. at a christening recently the priest was sayimg how everybody from one end of the county to the other had had firm orders to pray for baby's heart. everybody was chuckling through tears.

What a beautiful story! Your friend has amazing courage to keep going.

There was heather, pink rose and babys breath, argggh, can't remember the rest or what they meant. Obviously I was having to have a whispered conversation with DD at this point. Will ask my friend tomorrow.

our neighbour had a gorgeous wee son who died when he was 12 hrs old and they now have a gorgeous wee daughter. I've never cried as much as when I found out she had been born healthy. Its such a traumatic and horrendous thing for anyone to go through. I'm glad you could join them in celebration today

aww Mamma very close experience to mine ( which is why i am soooo happy for my boys)
4 MC and we very nearly lost our middle DS in labour, can't imagine how painful it would be to go through what your friends have - i can guess that box of tissues at the Church was empty by the end of the service !!

Lots of emotional stories here. Lovely to hear those with good outcomes in the end.

I do not need anything else to make me well up! Bless them. Very happy to hear they have their baby.

I sat there with tears running down my face for most of it.

Wow. How lovely x

Oh how lovely. What strong people they must be to go through all of that and still keep trying. I know we couldn't!

That's lovely <<passes round tissues>>

Ohhh <big wet sniff>

Such a lovely story. Your friends courage is inspirational. I hope they have a healthy, happy life as a family together at last.

The rose for the little ones lost brought tears to eyes. A beautiful way to remember them on such a special day

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What a lovely happy ending. Your friends sound like very strong people. I had six early miscarriages but I can't imagine how awful it would be to have a stillborn baby. I've got tears in my eyes reading this thread. It's just so nice for them.

Oh how lovely.<now have a natural red nose>.