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Bowel cancer.

Arse. Literally.

She goes on holiday in 2 weeks and has to go into hospital as soon as she gets back. That's not good is it?

No advice, but thats horrible news couldnt read and not post.

Whats she going into hospital for? Treatment or more investigations?

Do you have siblings?

Yes siblings but they're useless. Hospital for I don't know she wouldn't talk about it sitting in the restaurant. I shall go and see her tomorrow and ask properly. I think I'm in shock

So sorry to hear your news.

Luckily cancer is so much more curable these days. There are some amazing treatments available so please don't feel that there is no hope.

Your mum will undoubtably have great support from you and any other family. Be there for each other and remember that a

poor you, what a shock . tbh I'm surprised she is well enough to go away. When my dm had this she was way too poorly but only realised several months later. She was admitted within 10 days of being told, less than 6 weeks after investigations began. Fingers crossed if she is still well that it is early and very treatable. She'll need a few clear days beforehand to prepare though.

not what you want to hear, many hugs

I know that it is generally one of the more treatable cancers, my grandmother had it in 1997 and will be 100 this year. I hope it is the same for your mum.

I am not surprised. Thats a lot to take in.

Atleast she is getting care from docs! I wish her and you all the best. Really hope it can be beaten!

I'm so sorry what a horrible shock

Hope all goes well at the hospital

Thank you. I am so close to tears. There's so much I don't know because she said she didn't want to talk about it or think about it until she came back from holidays.

So sorry redflag.

I am sure you are in shock.

I'm hoping it was diagnosed early, possibly via the 'poo test' that is sent out to all over 60. If so the survival rates are very good.

(((x))) Un MN hug - you need it.

Ooh silly phone posted too soon.
Was going to say a positive attitude goes a long way.

My mum was diagnosed with lung cancer 2 years ago. At the time we thought the worst would happen. After some difficult treatment she is as fit as ever and enjoying her life again. It's tough on you all but if you're there for one another and keep positive, things will work out just fine.
Thinking of you and your mum

She hasn't been well for months and months and kept going to the doctor and getting fobbed off that it was because of her age, because of other medical issues she has.

That' s a shame . dm was lucky that the gp referred her so quickly, mainly I think because she was anaemic and hadn't been right for a few months , but even then she thought it was a hiatus hernia or aftermath of food poisoning/ gastric bug so diagnosis a shock.

Oh how worrying, but if they're happy for her to go away, and she feels well enough that must be a good sign. Make sure she gets proper travel insurance, its something she MUST specify. If, for example, she got a bowel blockage on hols, she WON'T be covered otherwise.

I'm so sorry.

Bowel cancer has a reasonably good rate of recovery. My DSM was diagnosed in 1999 and she made a full recovery.

QOD that's something I wouldn't have thought of. Thank you. And to every one else. I am sitting here just about to burst in tears and shaking.

ARSE.

Oh how horrible, no experience of this, will be thinking of you & sending unmumsnetty hugs ((()))

No advice but wanted to wish you and your Mum and family the very best.

Lots of cancers are very curable.

Agree, dm had to cancel a holiday due to this and it has taken 9 months to get her money back, as they disputed the notice she should have given and prevaricated during their complaints procedures. She definitely shouldn't go against medical advice.

I had bowel cancer 2 years ago. I expect she'll be going in for surgery to resect the bowel. That's what I had, with a similar wait. It is good that she is going in so soon and from what I've experienced pretty much standard procedure for cancer treatment.

I spent 7 months going back and back to the GP and my symptoms being dismissed as IBS.

What I would say to you is chances are they have caught it in time and she will be fine. Prognosis is good as long as there aren't secondaries. I know you are in shock but please don't make it all about you. My mum was so shocked and upset that I ended up having to support her and she made it all about how upset she was because her DD had cancer. It is quite a shock even when you suspect you have got it, and you really don't want to be having to be brave to spare everyone else's feelings. I ended up wishing I hadn't told her

Oh no I'm shocked but shocked for her not me. And they thought it was ibs or related to her thyroid (sp?).

So sorry that you are going through this. I would second quod, if her Dr think she is ok to go on holiday, the feel reassured about that.

My dad has cancer, and I am often amazed at how little he seems to know about his condition. It seems like he gets bits of information as and when. He is of the generation and disposition to never ask a question an just listen. but that is how he is dealing with things and I have to respect that.

Have a glass of wine or a cup of tea and maybe call your mum. Chat to her about her holiday, let her know you are there for her when she wants to talk. Perhaps keeping it low key and on a neutral topic will help her open up a bit?

MacMillin are amazing and can help you come to terms with what is going on.

Hi red I'm sorry you've had this awful news. My uncle and dad both had bowel cancer, and both are well on their way to recovery now

I think it is often too much info to take in in one appointment. Also it just seems so unreal it is easier not to know the details. I should add dm made a good recovery from the op, has put weight on and had no further treatment .

She said she doesn't want to know. She just wants them to do what they have to do and she doesn't want to know the details.