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If so, when did you get it? Was it a surprise? What does it look like?

Years (and years) ago, my DH said he'd buy me an eternity ring at some point. Next year will be our 10th wedding anniversary and 15 years from when we met. We have the money, but DH isn't very good at spending it, nor is he very good at buying surprise gifts. I know this isn't AIBU, but would I be unreasonable to start dropping a few hints...

Nope. Not even got an engagement ring!

I'd just outright mention it and show him what kind of thing you like. I'm all about the subtle...

Yes, I love it

Yes I asked for it and picked it myself - never would have happened otherwise.
Not romantic, but I got what I wanted .

Yes, it was given to me when our second child was born. Some of my friends were given their eternity ring when their first child was born.

Yes and I love it. My dh gave it to me for our 5th wedding anniversary. We actually got it from Tiffanys and it is gorgeous!

Yes. I got it 3 years ago. Dh out of the blue suggested we went to get it (had to be specially made to fit engagement/wedding ring) because we were flush at the time. Wasn't an anniversary/birthday/Christmas/significant time especially, I think I got it early December.

It is half white half yellow gold with 4 small diamonds in. It's a funny shape to fit round my engagement ring and mirror my wedding ring. I love all 3.

My Dad also gave my Mum an eternity ring that year for Christmas. He had just been diagnosed with terminal cancer. And my brother gave his wife hers that Christmas too! All without consulting with each other. Just one is those coincidences!

Yes. Mine is platinum with a row of inlaid diamonds. DH gave it to me when dd was born. It was a lovely surprise & made the x section easier to bear!

I also got a platinum diamond necklace when DS was born. ?very lucky>

My DH is normally rubbish at surprises and very very rubbish at spending, but he excelled here

I love mine. My wedding band & engagement are quite simple and narrow, so they all look great together.

Hint away! Tell him it's an investment.

I one now

Oooops. Try again.

No, because I haven't been married for an eternity although sometimes feels like it

Although i do have an old battered silver (I think) with a few stones (most are missing) that DS found 2 years ago in a rock pool in yorkshire which DH proudly announce I could wear as an eternity ring.

Hope I don't get flamed for stealing !!!

Ooh, Tiffany's - very jealous!

I guess I could go for the upfront option and just ask for one, but I think the slow-burn will work better.

i have my mums which my dad gave me when she died.....never know which finger to put it on though, would be wrong with my engagement ring

Yes-it spells out my 8 letter nickname in precious/semi-precious stones.It is very pretty and I love it.He bought it 'just because' and we chose the stones and had it made by a gemologist.I wear it on the same finger as my wedding/engagement rings.I gave dd my mum's lovely diamond one but she lost it within a year when she was at uni.

I think if you really want something you need to be specific. It is very hard to pick up on subtle hints, and he's bound to get the wrong thing and then be disappointed that you are disappointed.

I have one, it was a present to say 1. sorry for doing something really really shit, 2) thank you for forgiving me, and 3) congrats on our first baby. I regard it with a slightly cynical light actually as for me non-material things mean more.

I have been with DH / married for an eternity....met last century (1995) then married early in this one....I think I deserve one! I mention it periodically...he needs more specific direction!

i picked one out for my birthday, it was a very different awful ring he presented on the day as he liked it better

for christmas i once again pointed out the ring i liked, a surprise on christmas morning of a totally different ring that he thought was better

on the third attempt i got the ring i liked, but by then i didnt care, thankfully eternity only lasted a few months till he became xdh

I have one. Got if for our 10th wedding anniversary. It's platinum with 1 carrat of diamonds (half band). I managed to get DH to buy if for me when we were at the airport in the Maldives on our way home from being evacuated after the 2004 boxing day tsunami. He may have been too shocked to put up any resistance.

Not an eternity ring as not married. Have a lovely diamond eternity style ring though on other hand. I picked it. I asked for it. Sometimes if you don't ask, you don't get...!

I got one when we had our second DC. It is gold with a band of rubies and diamonds. Very simple and elegant.

Mine was bought after our 2nd child was born. It's only a cheapy but I love it because he gave it me when I was in hospital feeling fat, sweaty and ick.

For our 10th wedding anniversary he bought me a beautiful (quite expensive) diamond ring to make up for the fact that I'd had a cheap non diamond engagement ring.

'I picked it. I asked for it. Sometimes if you don't ask, you don't get...! '

Same idea here thinking1 Not an eternity ring, but I asked for a ring for my birthday 2 years ago - it's silver and splits into 2 halves and is engraved with the shape of the coastline between DP's hometown and a place we visit when on holiday in that part of the country. It's lovely, although some bling would be nice too!

I have one, DH bought it for me for having DS1. My mother has one, and she told me they usually were given after the first year of marriage and it was important the stones went all the way around. When we went shopping for mine i could only find "half eternity" rings with the stones on one side, and I wanted something that ws a full circle to symbolise love that lasted forever. In the end I got a ring with a circle of little diamonds and another of saphires on top of it. I don't wear it that often, could not bear for it to get lost.

DH can be quite romantic - I got a big chunky silver ring and a links bracelet for our 25th.

Yes - for the birth of our first child. White gold with small diamonds inlaid all the way round (I insisted on this as I don't consider the half ones are really eternity ones - the point is that it is an unbroken circle!)