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Ds is 10 weeks old so obviously can't get me one but I reckon I've been doing a ruddy good job so far and a little card and some flowers wouldn't go amiss.

and I mentioned to dp how excited I am to which he looked baffled, then shocked when I said he could get me a card from ds

Wtf, is that not the done thing?

Yes, it'very much the done thing.

And of course you deserve flowers and a card.

PM me your DP's number. I'll call him and tell him for you.

dd was only about 3 weeks old on mothers day last year!

Both dp and his parents got me a mothers day card from her! Cards are unusual for my dp so tell your dp he is a miserable git and to get you one!

Well, it is and it isn't. It means so much more when you get given a card made by your child rather than a bunch a flowers from a man that isn't your son. Don't get too precious.

Thank you MrsR I would love to do that! He said (jokingly) 'well ill be buying my mum a card'. So crap I have to tell him

Definitely the done thing, you can even get "Happy First Mothers' Day" cards.

Precious?! Hardly! I pushed out a 9lb'er who had his hand on his head and tore like a motherfucker a card is hardly precious!

Awwwww, my DS had his hand on his head when he came out - you sooooooo deserve them flowers.........!!

I wont be getting a card either although I will be spoilt in other ways, lie in cooked brekkie,dinner made etc.

I can't see any card coming my way until dc can do it themselves.

It is more relevant when your DCs are old enough to make something and understand why, to be honest I could never see the point of it when they were very young, and am still not all that bothered now (mine are 7 and 9), maybe your DH is the same. However if it is important to you and you have told him he's got no excuse now!

I'm tempted to go to lunch down our local with my 3 year old, then make him go up to the till with a couple of tenners.....look, my son will technically have bought me lunch

My first mothers day too and dp was also shocked when I said he had to get me a card from ds. "But you're not my mother. . ." Let's ignore the fact he doesn't but his mother a card either - I do. I've told him it would mean a lot to me though so hopefully I won't be disappointed on Sunday.

Well, a lie in and cooked breakfast or lunch out would be better than any card, but if he was at just a card I doubt he's making any nice plans

I get to etand on the touch line of a football pitch with DS2 in the pram watching DS1 play football

Hope you have a good one Eebahgum

If someone only gets you a card because you make them do it it is completely meaningless.

"Here's a piece of tacky, expensive cardboard I don't want to give you. Have a nice day pretending it is from a 10 week old."

Fucking Hallmark holidays and the tantrummy, adolescent bulkshit they encourage.

It's Mothering Sunday. Your 10 week old can attend church in his home parish. Hurrah!

AThing I guess it's more the landmark of it being my first one and having a memento from it, saddo me

OP its my 1st mothers day too, ds is 8 months old and after 4 long sleepless days of labour, 8 months of waking at all hours to feed him and putting up with the endless amounts of poo that he seems to produce from eating very little i think a bloody card is the least I should expect.

I hope you have a lovely day on sunday!

Maybe he just didn't do mother's day/father's day the same way you do? My family don't - my dad wouldn't get my mum a card and my brother doesn't get one for my SIL (or the reverse on father's day), but my niece 'made' her mum a card at nursery once she was big enough to vaguely understand she was making something for her mummy.

I'm not sure there is a 'done thing' here.

Well then you'd be better off getting yourself a card.

At least it would be coming from someone who meant it

DH has agreed to bring me breakfast in bed

sod the card. buy yourself champagne. on his credit card

We have a service at our village church, the little children go around and give all the ladies a little posy of flowers. Ignore Dh and find a lovefest service and indulge yourself with all the sentimentality. If you are close to your or his mum you could arrange to go out together for a nice meal after perhaps, with baby of course?

If he says half jokingly "Well, you're not my mother", give him a cold hard Paddington stare and start the day off suiting yourself for the duration. It doesn't take a lot of imagination to do a few nice things for a loved one.

I like the idea of doing something with my mum and ds

AThing

Vix you too!