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I am a volunteer. There's 6 of us. 4 men 2 women.

I have some policies to write. One of the others ( male) said they would help.

Turns out Friday is the best day for us both. We need laptop access and I have a stash of research docs.

I sent an email last night saying Friday anytime between 9-1. To let me know what time suits and my address as the venue.

Today his wife sent an email saying can we not meet at a coffee house.

The reason for venue being my house is because I have a toddler who does not do coffee culture - where I chat to others for more than 20mins.. He is very spirited. Easier if he's playing with his toys in his home environment.

I couldn't understand why his wife sent that suggestion. She's not been involved in previous policy discussions.

Then an awful thought came to me....

They think I am going to seduce him don't they?

OMG. I am the team harlot.

Ha HA!

Make sure it's candle lit with a single red rose on the keyboard

Trollop!

Oh, that's easy. You say, what a great idea, thank you for offering to babysit.....

Poor woman. i wonder if she's got just cause to feel anxious or if she's just a jealous person.

Why not just email back and say "sorry, my toddler would make it impossible to work in a coffee shop. You're more than welcome to come along too if you'd be happier with that."

that way, she knows that you know exactly why she's suggested that!

oh god.

Not just cause because of YOU!

i meant him. I meant what if he's played away and now she's suspicious of everyone.

<dies>

Looks like you're writing policies on your own

I'm sure the sight of you tripping over toys, with toddler snot on your skirt and jam in your hair is sure to do the trick!

Argh. I imagine she asked her DH to write to you about it and he refused on the grounds that it would look bonkers. Then he told her that she could email you herself if she was so bothered. And then she actually did.

I like Hoaz's idea - email back saying "Oh thank you, I never get to go out anymore! Can you come round for 8.30am so I can go over DC's routine?

Just email back saying you'd rather meet at the house, as you have a toddler and it will be easier to get the policies done if he's entertained with his toys and so on.

Email back saying you'll need the privacy of your own home, it's very important work

Oh my gosh, I'd be affronted if my DP was emailing people on my behalf , you have to email her back now saying "sorry, it has to be at my place, a coffee house wouldn't let me sit at the table in my underwear and all my scented candles are here."

Oh my gosh, I'd be affronted if my DP was emailing people on my behalf shock, you have to email her back now saying "sorry, it has to be at my place, a coffee house wouldn't let me sit at the table in my underwear and all my scented candles are here."
I agree with every word of this

Maybe he's the team harlot and she's afraid he'll try to seduce you?

You know me well TwoGoodReasons! You obviously see me frequently...

I cannot email at the moment not until I have stopped cringing with embarrassment. I don't know if to laugh or scream. My eyes won't stop being scarily wide open. The chilldren are looking at me oddly.

Is he fit though? That's what I want to know

Ask her if she want to come and mind your toddler whilst you and he get busy (working on the documentation that is).

Send him another email "hey sexy, your wife's onto us!"

I suggest something honest but mind-bending, along these lines: "My house is the only option really, because there's nowhere else where I can be sure that all the material and equipment we might need will be readily available. If you're interested in joining us I'm sure that will be possible."

He's not fit nor unfit. Just average I guess.

Is vocal - he likes the sound of his own voice but tbh he has good knowledge.

Got the giggles now. That's you lot making me laugh.

I shall email later this evening once I feel more rational and I have told my DP what a harlot he is residing with.

How embarrassing! I second hecate's suggestion of inviting her along and making her aware of your toddler.

Tell her it's important to concentrate on the S.H.A.G policy and the B.O.N.K. assignment in the privacy of your own home as they are confidential and you don't trust cafe culture wifi.

Oh Pancakeflipper I'm dying for you
I'd be cringing thinking gosh his wife thinks I wanna do her hubby
Once I know someone's married I don't see them as attractive.
Why on earth is she emailing on his behalf... ? That makes no sense

He's emailed me. Says 11.30 at mine is great.

He doesn't know that his wife has emailed me does he?

I am going out in 10mins.
When I come back you lot will have sorted out this for me. I feel I am going to dig myself a big hole and make it all worse.

Was it from his email account?

I did snigger at your predicament, sorry!

Haha! Reply to the email with a breezy "I look forward to getting down to business with you tomorrow" and cc his wife.