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Delighted to read you're feeling a bit better this evening LEM. Even a small improvement is still an improvement.

I can understand why people are suspicious of meds but they can be a real life saver (literally!)

You have a lovely turn of phrase Lucyellensmum95 and if your DP has always been anti-medication, well that's his prerogative, meanwhile whatever helps... hope you feel a lot less like the world's spinning tonight.

How are you feeling this morning? Hope the doctors appointment goes well.

Went to the doctors, she gave me citalopram but only 10mg Gave me the number of mental health 24 hour team and im to go back on tuesday when i think the citalopram dose will go up. Starting to feel angry about the colee now and thinking of making a complaint

Hope citalopram helps.

Not stalking but noticed you posting elsewhere yesterday evening, thought it was a good sign you were able to reach out to another poster and be helpful, (hope that doesn't sound condescending).

Feeling justifiably annoyed at lack of back-up working at the college sounds healthier than being crushed and defeated, very poor on their part.

Just checking in - anger sounds like a big improvement on what you were feeling before. That has to be a good sign!

Thanks guys - I have sort of given myself a day off from all the thinking today, the citalopram is making me feel sick and the diazepam is making me tired but then i am just that, tired. Writing this week off, hopefully will feel better on monday when i think i will be posting for help on where to find a job and what to do if the college reference puts me in a bad light because i don't think its a fair assesment.

LEM - were you working in FE by any chance?

Glad to hear from you today. I think a couple of days off from the thinking sounds like a good idea. I suspect you will have a lot of tiredness coming out over the next week or two as I doubt you've slept properly or relaxed much for a long time.

A lot of places are very careful about what they write on references these days as there is a risk of being sued for libel if what they write is wrong. In the industry I work in references are often little more than name, rank and dates worked.

When you are feeling a bit better I think you should speak to the union if you are a member to see if they can help you deal with the college to get an agreed reference.

yes Cat

Hey it's great to see you more upbeat. Citalopram works for lots of people so fingers crossed it'll do the job for you. It can make you feel a bit sicky for the first day or 2 though. Hot water bottle on your stomach might help.

Definitely come back on here for job advice as and when you are ready but remember you need time to rest first. I can advise about agreed references etc.

I've done nothing all day feel frustrated now, DP will be pissed off when he gets in because was sleepy when he came home at lunch time.

I didnt take my diazepam at lunchtime as my doctor said only to take it if needed it so i dont want to really take too many of those (scary addictive drug)

Its the weekend so will hopefully have some nice family time - IF i can stop flapping about money.

It's good to sometimes do nothing all day. It's rest.

Lots of cheap things you can do for free this weekend (or cheaply at least).

1. Walk in the park. Make up a treasure hunt?
2. Swimming.
3. Bake cheap biscuits.
4. DVD eveming.
5. Messy play, collage, drawing, colouring.

Probably loads more but I'm brain dead tonight.

ilovesunflowers - have PM'd you, its a bit epic sorry x

It's good to take some time to rest and get better - it's just what you need at the moment.

You're not 'doing nothing' - you're resting and getting well after a very difficult and upsetting time.

I'd hope DP would be less 'pissed off' at coming home and finding you taking things easier, more glad you'd seen your GP and catching up on some quiet time. You don't have to 'make up for' the past month or half year or however long this job was weighing on you. I know money's a problem but your health is precious.

Hope you are having a good weekend with your family.