Mumsnet Talk

- just got a promotion and hope I can do the work it entails and maintain a worklife balance.

- have agreed to dropping one of my days off and only having one afternoon off a week. Hope I will not find that too difficult to fit in any appts etc.

- have a medical appt for my horrible recurring hip problem that physio actually made much worse. I've been lazy with my exercises and it is much better. Hope they will take me seriously when I go for my appt.

- need to reschedule DDs swimming lesson and hope I can find one on a night I can fit in at a time I can manage around my new school hours.

- when will I ever get control over my bad eating habits.

- will my money stretch the month (3 weeks to go, everything paid for but not much left over).

- wish I had a higher sex drive.

- will my husband be made redundant or will they change his working hours in a totally unfair way.

- will my kids continue to be healthy & safe.

Will I ever get a proper teaching job again?
Will I ever have a proper relationship again?

There's more - but not for a public forum.

I was going to post but realised my worries are insignificant compared to what other people are worrying about.

I hope everybody gets the answers they are looking for.

Virtual handholding available to anyone who needs it.

And how do I tell dd that her boyfriend's mum (who I know) has told me he has a 40% chance of pulling through and a 80% chance Its cancer?

Will my DS cope when I up my hours to 0.9 in September.

Will I cope when I up my hours to 0.9 in September.

Will I lie on my deathbed wishing I had spent more of his early years focusing on DS instead of upping my hours to 0.9 in September.

Will upping my hours to 0.9 in September mean we have enough money to move house before DS reaches the point where he is embarrased by our 2up2down in front of his inevitable commuter-belt friends.

Theme?? It goes on!!

- will my episiotomy problems ever clear up and let me lead my normal life (sex, mooncup, exercising, sitting down, walking) after 25 months?

- will I ever have the cash to go visit my sister in Oz and finally meet her kids (6 and 3 yo?)

- will my DS suffer horribly by going to playschool in September? Will I suffer? Will it make me a bad mummy?

- if I ignore this funny looking mole, it'll just go away.

- I've been crying at makeover shows, am I going nuts?

- if my bestfriend can't have kids, how do I support her emotionally?

- will we ever have more than two beans to rub together?

will I ever get over my mums death? I managed to get over dads death but it took years. I don't think I can feel this bereft and sad for years, its too much.

I miss them. I want to go home.

If we are ever going to sell the boat and car we are trying to get rid of.

If we are going to get enough money for this house so we can buy another near family.

If we are doing the right thing.

When will one of us get paid? He's not even been paid for December yet, and I've only received 50% of January. February salary is due tomorrow and its highly unlikely even the rest of Jan will arrive within the next 3 weeks apparently.

When will my permanent contract happen? It took 20 months to start the process instead of the promised 3, and now its been 3 months getting my paperwork together and I've not even had an official offer yet

When we move cities, will my friends visit? They say they will, but still...

How much gin will I have to drink over the next 10 days to cope with the in-laws?

Can I survive 10 days with the inlaws without them thinking I'm too much of a miserable bitch?

Where would be the best place to dump the body if I actually murder FIL?

Why did I have 2 missed calls from the Police yesterday? When I called back nobody could find out why they'd rung me. I suspect its to do with my friend's car (long story) but I still don't like it

And the most pressing, important one for me at this moment in time - Can I stay awake for the next 5 hours in work, for the hour drive home, and to clean the house before the inlaws arrive? I stayed up to watch the United/Real Madrid game which finished 3 hours before my alarm goes off for work. I feel horrific. I have 3 boring meetings to sit through, and the cafe downstairs has run out of red bull.

- Is DS's hitting just a phase (he's two) or is he going to turn into "that kid".
- Is DS's behaviour (see above) due to me being WOHM?
- Is nanny responding to DS's hitting as I'd like, and how the hell do I find out, short of hiring a private detective?
- Are we doing the right thing buying a property now?
- Will my boobs explode due to me forgetting to bring an essential part of my breastpump to work with me today. it's only lunchtime and I already resemble Jordan.
- Will DD have multiple allergies? (we know about the dairy, no others apparent but I hold my breath every time she has gluten or egg.

and the biggie - IS DD allergic to the cats? If so, what the hell do I do because zero chance of rehoming them. I cant even think about this at the moment. I need to get her tested don't I?

If dh will get the job he just went for (it's a change rather than from unemployed).

If I'll lose my DLA mobility soon under new guidelines (and so will not be worth me working any more with taxi fares).

If my dd2 (9) is going to get the all-clear this week on the degenerative hip condition she's had since she was 3.

If talking to the school today will have made a difference to dd1 being bullied.

if I'm ever going to be able to feel my hands and feet again.

Hmmmm, will the holes in my retinas get worse before they are fixed?
Will HB. get the job at the other end of the country?
Will child like new school that he doesn't want to go to?
Will we manage to sell our house?
Will I ever manage to get another part time job or will I be stuck last home forever?
Has my mum's cancer spread to her brain?
Not actually worrying too much about the above but do wish it was all sorted/would just go away. Worrying is not productive as it doesn't change anything but all the above is fairly out of my control and I don't like that.

I wish my youngest son was a bit more motivated and self-disciplined and less disorganised. In fact I wish all my kids were more ambitious and driven and focused . I think it must be my fault. I have obviously cocked it all up.

I wish I could get my weight back under control. I don't seem to be able to go more than three or four days without messing up my diet, and it's starting to depress me.

I feel tired and old and hormonal and completely out of sorts for no obvious reason. I think I am on the brink of a mid-life crisis. I've been like it for weeks and I can't shake it off.

I need to stop procrastinating. It's ruining my life.

I need to get off MN and do something of value and use.

I hate my hair. I can't do a thing with it.

I need a root canal but I keep putting it off. I know it'll end in tears but I never deal with anything boring/unpleasant until I am forced to.

I have three quarters of a book in my head. It's been there for years. I wish I knew how to get more than three pages down at time before I decide I am rubbish and stick it back in the file in my head.

My tenant keeps not paying his rent on time.

I am a bit constipated at the moment.

Will oh get this job. He has been out of work for 5 months
Will we get to Tycho this year.
Will my

Must stop posting from phone. But I mean ttc. I'm desperate to have another baby but don't want to start if oh is out of work.i'm also wiring about a tax thing

hugs ssd
Will I manage to get through Mothers' day without missing Mum too much?

Has DH remembered it's Mother's day and perhaps the one that he needs to push the boat out for - yes, normally a generic card from the corner shop with DD's scribble on it suffices, but I'd quite like to be spoiled a bit this year.

Should I be worried by these stomach cramps and does it bode well for the pregnancy?
How on earth will I manage with two DC?
Is it twins - in which case how on earth and every dimension I can think of will I manage with three DC?
How do I get DD to bed earlier?
Was I too harsh on DD for dithering this morning?
How do I stop DD dithering without being too harsh on her?
What will make me stop craving red wine and blue cheese?
Can I exercise without collapsing?
How can I write 200 acknowledgement cards for the funeral without the aid of red wine and blue cheese? (that's how I got through writing wedding thank-you letters)

vlad, hugs back...feel the same about mothers day....just some advice about your other worries, from a mum with 2 kids who are older!!....ask the doc about the stomach cramps, if only to settle your mind...you'll manage with 2 dc's, its a struggle at first but you'll manage.....dont fret too much about dd, make it as easy for yourself as possible, at your stage ds1 slept in with me so I could get some sleep....a better nights sleep makes the dithering more bearable!!!...cant advise about exercise, am a lazy bugger..and dont bother with the 200 cards, anyone in their right mind wont be expecting one at all

above all make life as easy as possible for yourself, you have a lot on your plate

xx