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For a weekend every two months or so. They live 2 hours drive away.

Sadly never. They`ve both been dead for years

MIL I see daily. FIL a couple of times a week (he works a distance away so see him less). They live about 15 miles away but we stay over regularly. Going to theirs for the weekend next week and we're off on holiday with them in the summer.

Every 6 weeks- 2 months roughly for mil. We all have our own lives and things going on, I don't really fancy taking up a day of my weekend more often than that. She never comes to us though because she doesn't drive over big roundabouts, so we have to go to her.

I've never met fil, even though he lives within 5 mins walk from mil. He's never met either of our dcs and seems to have no interest in meeting us. His loss.

A couple of times a week usually. I'm very lucky to have fab PILs and have grown really close to MIL. She has the kids at least once a week while I work.

MIL once/twice a week. She comes round for a cuppa sometimes during the week and to see DS, or I go round there. Often comes round after school to see the DDs too. During the holidays she offers to take the DDs out to do stuff which I can't always manage due to DS, cinema and stuff. Her and her DH are amazing people, DP and I lived with them for a couple of years and left after we had DC2. Very welcoming and loving people.
FIL lives 5 minutes away (as does MIL) and we see him hardly ever. Twice a year maybe. He is an alcoholic and rarely bothers to come to family stuff. I have been with DP for 10 years and have never been inside his house. Our DC don't even know where he lives. Very sad.
Oh Poppet how sad. Did you have a good relationship with them?

Never, both been dead many years. FIL died the year I was born...

Never. They live about 20 minutes away but want nothing to do with us (hooray!).

6 times a year sounds normal to me OP.

My parents live a similar distance from me and we see them about 6 times a year. So it's probably normal.
We see my inlaws about once a fortnight as they're only 20 mins down the road.

Couple of times a week when they're in the country, same, sometimes more with my parents.

It sounds very little to me, however, I guess it depends what kind of family you're used to.

every day - they have youngest before and after school for me as they live just down the road.

My own parents I see very rarely, they don't live that far away, but with work/life etc I don't find the time for visits - but we always talk on the phone/facebook when we need to

Fortnightly; whenever DSS comes down to us they invite themselves over en masse come to visit for the day.

I wouldn't mind so much but they're here for hours and it's DH's only full day with DSS - and they make it all about them spending time with him.

Two or three times a year we go to stay with them or they come here for three days or so. They live about six hours away (used to see them just once a year when we were living on the other side of the world). We speak on the phone or email every couple of weeks.

MIL lives on the other side of town. DH sees her once a week; I see her as little as I can possibly get away with.

See my lovely mil three or four times a week -she lives nearby. In fact the other morning I popped over for coffee and a catch up to find dh's bil there as well (on his way somewhere with work). We both remarked that she must be doing something right to have son and daughter in law coming to see her independently of her own children.

Twice in 10 years. Fil died last year so I only saw him once in 10 years

My MIL is lovely though ( so was FIL ). Id love to spend more time with her

Mind you I only met them once before Dh moved here to marry me.

Every day. My il's are awesome.

Seldom which suits me down to the ground. I see my own parents the same amount though and don't' like that.
Luckily for me, mine are coming out to see us at the end of May. DD doesn't know and will be gobsmacked.
I am fortunate that DHs parents can't/won't fly more than an hour.

I don't think there's any right or wrong answer is there? So many factors to be taken into consideration: distance, how busy everyone is, whether you have other family commitments, what your relationship is like.

We see the ILs probably about every 2 months or so, sometimes slightly less.

They don't think it's enough but then I don't think they would be happy unless it was every week. It's more than enough for us. My FIL has rather nasty narcissistic traits and can be very very difficult.

Should add my ILs live over 1.5 hours away so seeing them every week really isn't practical. They still expect us to behave like they are round the corner though!

No there is no right answer. It's interesting to see what works for everyone else in their own individual circumstance. I personally wouldn't want to see my inlaws more frequently than we do in current circumstances. But I ask the question as I know of people who have fabulous relationships despite living a distance away and seeing each other rarely. I wonder if seeing my inlaws more frequently would help them have a better relationship with us / the dc.

Once or twice a month. They live a 45 minute car journey away.

Without DH 2-3 times a year - but only because I'm passing and I'm collecting his crap stuff because once it's out of their house, I'll only have to go their for Christmas and birthdays. And I take my mum with me for protection.

With DH - another 2-3 times a year.

However he only sees my mum 2-3 times a year as well and she is not a lunatic

It depends what you're used to - we used to see the overseas grandparents once a year and the UK grandparents 3-4 times a year, so for me once a week would cause my brain to explode.

Used to have to see them far too often,

Divorced now, so never have to see the buggers ever again!

It's great

Every frickin day as they live 2 mins away.

See my mum once every 6 weeks for a weekend as she lives over 2 hours away.