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I have a group on facebook which I started myself and i administrate.

I have a separate FB account to run the group so it is completely separate from my personal account (my name is not on it at all).

Last week a received a PM from someone about a man who advertised their business on the group, the person had contacted him to ask about hiring him as a photographer and he had been very aggressive and rude to her when she told him that she was not interested in his service after she had seen his work and been given a quote.

The photographer also posted several nasty messages on the group wall about someone else saying that she was a time waster and that she was cheap.

It says very clearly in my group rules that abuse in any form will not be tolerated and that anyone posting nasty things about other users will be immediately removed from the group. (the group is a closed group and requests to join the group need to be accepted by me)

The photographer them PMed me wanting to know why he had been deleted, I answered him and he has become increasingly aggressive and what i consider to be threatening. I will C&P the conversation below and you can tell me what you think.
I'm not sure if there is anything I can do, or how serious this all is, but I am quite freaked out and I need some MN advice.

The FB PM conversation

Conversation started Thursday
17:15
A--- R-----
hi id like to know why i have been deleted from this page. I run and own a photography business not a hobby ive stuck to all the rules always been pleasant to people never uploaded images i do not own. Please give me a reason for your actions.

Thursday
19:36
A--- R-----
i understand you dont reply to people you delete ill find out who you are and come to your door 4 a chat im also looking to see if i can take legal action.

Thursday
20.13
(me)
Hello Mr R-----,
Sorry for the delayed response, You were removed from the group as i received messages from a user telling me that you had sent them rude messages and that you posted inappropriate comments about someone on the group wall.

Sorry for any inconvenience.

Friday
09:23
A--- R-----
good morning a lot of people are taking now im making good progress i wont leave it that i promise you. least have the decency to support your actions. one i thing i have heard your just keeping your friends on it so not to compete with others if i find this is true there is a case of discrimination.

Friday
13:21
A--- R-----
well thats your name found and I know where you live to.

That's awful
I think I would go to the police

Contact the non emergency police on 101 and ask them to deal with him.

report to facebook and block him

Ditto what others have said. Save it all and report to the police.

I would block him, report him to facebook. I'd also be tempted to copy and paste that conversation on the group wall, but that might make him more irate, so probably not a good idea.

He sounds a bit unhinged.

Just ignore him. He doesn't have your name or address and is pissed off. Block all messages from him.

I would block him but also print a copy of the messages and report him to the police.

i would print that off and go straight down the police station. It's threatening behaviour, not normal and why does he give a toss whether he is on a local FB page anyway. Especially if he started the shit in the first place. Get copies of what he wrote to the other person too, as evidence/reason why you deleted him from the group.

Report to the police! Nasty illiterate twat.

The police would take this seriously. Dial 101 and report it as the last bit is a definite threat.

I think the police are starting to take these things quite seriously - ring 101 and discuss it with them

Worrying that this person runs a business and deals with the public isn't it?

Report to FB.
Block him.
Call 101 and ask for their advice - especially as he is threatening to track you down.

He sounds like a loon.

I agree ring 101 and report to Facebook.

Unless your name and address is widely publicised on the internet it is highly unlikely that he will have been able to find your address

The problem with local FB groups, is that it only takes a friend of a friend to innocently tell him who you are.

Thanks all,
I just don’t want to feel like I am wasting the polices time (especially since I have just been speaking to them in regards to my friend’s dogs stalkerish previous owners, which was a really issue)

I mean I am pretty sure the man cant find out who I really am, I set up the second facebook account in order to be anonymous after having my personal account spammed by people wanting to contact me in regards to the group, so I deleted my personal account from it and added the second account. IYKWIM

Clearly I attract the crazies at the moment!

He's probably bullshitting...but don't take the risk. Call your non-emergency police number, save all the messages and don't reply to him at all.

He doesn't even make sense!

The group isn’t particularly a local one, it covers a wide area, and this man (according to his FB profile) doesn’t live close to me, so I don’t think he would be able to figure out who I am.
There are only one or two of my FB friends in the group.

I would take a screen shot and report him to the police, they should kitchen contact him with a warning.

You should also block him.

Nasty thing to do and I would be freaked out to.

if you ring 101 and chat, it won't be wasting much of their time if they say they can't do anything... just a phone call which I'm sure they won't mind

Report and block. He is fluent in bollocks.

I have called 101, The officer/operator I spoke to was very helpful and said I should print screen shots of the conversation and that I should send the man a message asking him not to contact me again, and then not reply to any further messages, just make copies of them and contact the police again if he continues to send threats.
He did say that I shouldn’t be too concerned though as he is unlikely to be able to find out my real identity, but to call immediately if he does say anything that implies that he knows my real name or address.

So, what should I say to him?

say something like
Do not contact me again, You were removed from the group as i received messages from a user telling me that you had sent them rude messages and that you posted inappropriate comments about someone on the group wall.
Any further threats will be reported.

Then block him