Mumsnet Talk

Haha, yes, I did enjoy the irony of reading the thread and thinking 'I think I know exactly who Desiderata is talking about!' although I don't think I actually know you.

It's nice though now that all the goth sorts are settling down and having children and stuff. I keep bumping into the most unexpected people on here these days.

I have recognised someone on here from elsewhere on the Internet today.

I'm happy for people to know who I am using this NN, just change if I need to post something really personal.

I think I know who a couple of posters are, because of the town we all live in, but I haven't snooped on their posts, and I haven't made any attempts to meet/contact them. Don't see why I should as they are on here anonymously so I respect that.

It would be different if we met and MN cropped up in conversation. Some friends and family know I'm on here, but either they are not computer savvy or they haven't mentioned anything to me.

OFFS MUTual, dammit, mutual.

murual friends even.

Indeed MmeGuillotine. I'm a "gothic type" and we have mutual friend on facebook. I don't think we've ever met though.

I'm pretty certain it wouldn't take much to work out who I am for anyone on MN , but I don't say anything here that I wouldn't say in RL.

I get recognised all the time on here, mainly by gothic sorts from my iniquitous past. I don't mind at all though - I use this name all over the internet and if I wanted to spill the beans on personal stuff that I didn't want real life people to know then I'd name change.

mn don't like to delete threads but one thing they did for me was change the name on old threads of mine so they weren't searchable under a nc

She ncd and revealed a detail about me that would have outed me to anybody who knew me. Not my name, but a combination of details that made it fairly obvious. So I've no idea if other people then recognised me. Obviously I nc'd instantly but as somebody else mentioned mn don't like to just delete your posts as it makes threads hard to follow.... hmm. anyway, the funny thing is, it just came to me suddenly who it was. Mn told me that this person had set up an email like this *&YHGJDSHS@gmail.com to register to do the name change so that it couldn't be linked to her normal screen name! devious. But all a waste of time! It was distressing at the time though. My heart was pounding and I felt sick and sweaty thinking that a friend would do that to me. Thatwas the horrible thing, going through lists of people and wondering 'would they do that to me?' and it was so hard to believe. Luckily it was in fact nobody I had actually met. A friend of a friend.

Did she out you on here or in rl pudding?

I honestly cba anymore whether someone knows it's me or not.

What happened puddingwhine?

I name change a lot too. I have no faith anymore that somebody wouldn't out me. The woman who outed me should have known better. You can't predict other people's lunacy. Name-change a lot, that's my MO now.

I'd rather not know tbh. It takes a suspension of disbelief to post here as it is, and knowing someone is actually reading your posts going 'hmm, I know who you are' would be too much to bear.

I have to post here regardless, it's all I've got in terms of sanity really so just don't tell me if you know me! well don't tell me if you really know me now, in real life. People I once went to school with are FINE.

(I namechange all the time anyway just in case)

If you've discovered someone, would you 'out' them if they were being nasty about you? Confront them? Or just cut them from your life?

Don't know what I'd do. Suppose it depends what was said.

I've recognised a couple of people on here that I see occasionally in rl. But I haven't seen anything bad about me. Yet!!

Yes if you recognise someone or indeed look for them deliberately you should let them know.

Because by not doing is it not a bit stalker like? and weird

I've been spotted a couple of times, but I don't mind at all because I don't say anything here that I'm ashamed of. I suppose my mum wouldn't be impressed by some off-colour jokes etc, but it's not like I hang a lot of family laundry out or anything.

I don't really care if people in RL know who I am. That said it doesn't necessarily follow that I want to discuss my posts with some random in RL so I have been vague in the past when an acquaintance was fishing.

I get very irked when people ask who I am but they haven't the courtesy to tell me who the hell they are.

A friend did once ask if I was posting under another name. I wasn't but imagine if I had and I'd just posted about a large and unpleasant growth or something?

I recognise BrianCox from an other forum (I'm SomethingWicked) Never been outed myself, but I don't post anything controversial, so I'm not worried.

Someone was vile about me on here - I found out by total accident - but there was no mistaking who she was, she had every detail of her life on here - including DH's infidelities and every single detail of her life & photos on her profile = so is mn private No - would I snoop - damnfucking right I would

Not that I am aware of, my love of Howard Devoto musical taste would out me to friends though

I thought I recognised someone from one post but didn't search them to confirm. I have since forgotten the nn too.

I hope if anyone recognised me they would pm me.

Mirandawest, that is what I was asked! If it is the same person, MNHQ have banned them.

So I have name changes for this post but I have and I searched for them and read all their posts. So shoot me - I am nosy! They put lots of personal details and it was v obvious it was them. It's interesting because I have never told them I did this and for ages I pretended I didn't mumsnet at all though I have subsequently mentioned that I do. But they have slagged me off on here before (perhaps they know I read their posts and did it on purpose). That's fine as the Internet is a good place to vent. Less fine is they expressed some really right wing views in some posts that I have never heard her say in real life and it has made me question whether I want to be her friend as the views are the kind I would never want a friend to hold.

I am therefore acutely aware people may read my posts and know it's me so change details or name change for v sensitive ones. Other than that it's all cervical mucus and consistency of snot so I don't really care who reads it.

So now you can all round on me... Off to change name again.

op, I think you should contact mnhq about your pms

I've figured someone out. One of my students was on here a couple of years ago and was slagging me off!

Think she's name changed or stopped posting.