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If a lady says no, she means maybe. If she says yes, she's no lady.

It's at a local craft stall along with the bless this mess and home is where the heart is sort if stuff.

It caught my eye and I was shocked, but late to collect dd so have mulled it over. The more I think of it, the worse it seems. I don't feel I can ignore it and be true to what I believe.

Now the stall is probably manned by some min wage bod (like me!) and I don't have a gripe with them.

Is there a good way to say ' have you actually thought about what that means and does the stallholder want to sell it along side inspirational, loving and cheesy momentoes?

I think your final sentence is reasonable

omg! i'd have to object to that. it's like saying rape away lads, she's a slut. I know it's not that bad, but it's just AWFUL.

I'm sure this sign has been spotted before by a MNer (not on the stall you refer to)

Seems like people think it's a whimsy 'keep calm' bollocksy type sign. I would approach them with your last sentence. And if you don't feel you can do that I would type a note and leave it amongst their wares so when they pack up they find it

yes, what revolvenotevolve says, the last para, very reasonable point that what that sign actually means is not compatable with love. It makes me think of date rape and misogyny not love.

The style was all distressed metal and olde worlde typeface which makes it wen more incongruous.

I'll brace myself and have the conversation.

I have a mental picture in my mind of the type of sign you mean - like a vintage-y shabby chic type thing, is it? - and I just can't reconcile it with the sentiment which is pretty awful! Your approach sounds good.

X post! Perhaps that's your going in point. Bit of chat then 'this seems like an odd choice for the stall' or similar.

Exactly so . Pretty much the opposite of dance like noone is watching etc

buy it then destroy it dramatically in front on him. that'll get your point across

!, Pick it up break in half, give the stall holder a card with your details on it, and tell them how much you would love to explain your thinking behind your actions in court, say you look forward to seeing them in there.

or

2, take photos, and complain to the who ever runs the market,

or

3, Ignore and wonder why are daughters and granddaughters get treated like shit.

or

3, ask them to remove the rape promotion tat,

or

4, name and shame the market.

Personally i would 2,3,1,4 in that order, and call it therapy, surprisingly few people want to prosecute when they know you are more than happy for them to do so, more the pity.

but every time we turn a blind eye to these vile things, we should think about the answers we will be giving to our children.

This sign was in our local gift shop. I went in and said "I'm sorry but I think that sign is really offensive." The shop assistant was a bit taken aback,but when she read it,she agreed and removed it. I then posted a thread on here about it! It's annoying that these signs are still around.

Do you not think damaging someone's stock would make me look a nutter?

I'd rather speak calmly in a convincing and compelling way and change someone's opinion.

I'm not especially anti confrontation, but I know what I want to achieve.

no as you'd have bought it so it would be Yours

just rant about it on here then and do nothing in reality

Yes damaging the stock might be outre. I do think you need to ask to speak to the owner...either a telephone number or ask when they are there.

Take a pic of the sign in it's place and explain to the assistant why you're doing it.

Tell the owner that she/he needs to remove it from sale immediately as it incites violence towards women.

If they're difficult about removing it, then tell them you are reporting them to the police as they are selling offensive items.

That should be enough.

If it's not enough then go up there and snap the fucking thing in half. Or pain a new one which says "No means no, keep calm and learn the fucking rules"

and that's not allowed.

Why should OP pay money for a piece of crap like that? totally the wrong message Germy.

OP tell us where it is and we'll all email them. Idiots. Or you could give them a chance...then if they fail to comply...we'll all call and email them till they do.

Germyrabbit, you're suggesting the op should buy the sign ... With actual cash to line the manufacturer's pockets... Just to destroy it dramatically? Rather than explain why it is offensive?

The alternative is not do nothing btw, the OP has already said she'll talk to the stallholder.

why did you just complain then and there? fgs if it offends tell them! oh or email them <lame>

Sometimes people are shy about complaining Germy or have to work up courage. Not everyone's outspoken.

i'm not outspoken but would make a point if i felt strongly enough

i would buy it (see i am a wuss) but would say to the stall holder that I would destroy it as i find it offensive and it's one less on the market

making point and keeping the status quo

Explain to them that the sign is losing them business. I for one would not buy anything from a shop that had such an awful sign and I am sure that I am not alone.

Just find out who the owner is....get their contact details, tell them why it's offensive (some people are thick and wouldn't know)

Ask them where they sourced it...then also hit up the manufacturer.

"i would buy it (see i am a wuss) but would say to the stall holder that I would destroy it as i find it offensive and it's one less on the market"

Except it would actually look in the figures more like "this item sells, must order more" rather than "this is offensive, must not order again"

Do you not think damaging someone's stock would make me look a nutter?

might do, but I think some people would approve and I prefer their thinking.

ask them to remove it, if they don't make a massive fuss, at least then you know you have done your best.