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If so, how do you find it?

I am so totally not more clever than my husband (innit??). But we did just have a moment where he admitted that he didn't realise what "dystopian" meant and was gutted when I said that of course i knew what it meant, in that it was the opposite of Utopia.

Then i tried to make him feel better by admitting that i didn't know for ages that "Dickensian" meant in the Charles Dickens period.

Now i just want to hurt him.

No, I'm definitely not cleverer than Dh, although I can spell better and have a wider vocabulary than he does.

I think I would find it hard to fancy someone less clever than myself, not sure why.

I don't know who is more clever as in Intelegent, but I have way more common sense than OH. He's better at analitycal things, I'm more sensible by miles

Yup. I'm oxbridge educated and he isn't as "quick". He can spell bettererer (grin) than I can though.

I am smarter than DH but have about half the common sense he does.

Depends what you mean by 'clever'
I can whop him at Scrabble, but he is FAR more use to you than I am in a Pub Quiz.

Hummm! There I was thinking that I was a bit clever untill I realized that I had no idea what that word meant.
You must be much more cleverer than me.
My husband is even more less cleverer than me.
He is probably not worth talking about.

Yes

wrt my x, he was more clever wrt maths, physics, accounting, and had the qualifications under his belt. I have the brains to read a situation better, I know when to time a favour, I have empathy, perspective, see things in shades, I know that you catch more flies with honey... I am going to say that I am more clever. His type of clever earns money. My type of clever maintains friendships and wins (some) respect I hope!

Btw, I can't understand him being gutted because you know the meaning of a word. That comes under "informed" rather than clever anyway.

No, it's one of my 'things'. I could never be with a man unless he is more intelligent than me.

You want to be better at something, you play with someone who is better than you!

Surely dystopia is the opposite of utopia?

Sorry, not answering your question really. But there are different types of clever.

Academically yes. Sometimes I wish I could have better discussions with him than the latest rubbish he is watching on tv or hears on Radio 1.

He is in construction though and is very practical (and useful to have around in most situations) which I most definitely am not.

Um, yes and no... His spelling grammar and vocabulary are pretty poor and his general knowledge is sometimes shockingly bad, but he's way better at practical things than me and he's really good at Maths based things - the things I'm bad at, lol.

No, not in the intellectual sense, he thrives on learning new things whereas I have much more common sense than him and and very creative. Good mix I reckon

I'm the cleverest. He's the funniest. It's a pretty good combination.

Probably. It's hard to judge though as he can do magic things with wires and turbines and other things that are completely off my radar.
He does have to ask me how to spell things a lot though.

Being serious , I feel that most relationships work best if people are evenly matched. That obviously includes intelligence. Would be a tad frustrating if not, I feel.

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I have better school and university grades and professional qualifications than DH. He has other skills I don't have like being able to get up and talk off the cuff in front of people, and better general knowledge.

I am cleverer (sorry, it sounds better and spell check hasn't turned it red, so it's staying) than my DH, but I'm really not that clever so it isn't saying much.

It can be annoying because I use perfectly normal words and he complains that I'm trying to confuse him, usually when we are having a petty disagreement over something. Sometimes I find myself having to explain the most basic of concepts that seem so blatantly obvious to most people, but that he totally just doesn't understand. It can be frustrating.

But it is also quite endearing, he is the loveliest person I know, and sometimes I wish I could see things in his simple, uncomplicated way. He has plenty of other strengths that I don't have, so overall it works well because he is good at the things I'm rubbish at, and vice versa.

I have better general knowledge and am better read than him, and am better at sussing people out and judging what they're thinking.

He is better at critical thinking and thinking on his feet. He's also probably more sensible than me, in that he can see the trees for the wood.

I'm slightly brighter and better educated than dp but he seems to think he knows more . He gives very long convoluted explanations for things (generally to 2yo dd2 who just looks at him) whereas I try to make sure people understand what i am saying and pitch my explanations accordingly.

My general knowledge is better. My spelling and grammar are better. My vocabulary is wider.

But he is more intelligent than I am.