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Thanks TeWi

They're really good girls, helped me through many a crisis or problem

That's sounds great. Your DDs sound lovely Zukie, I bet they're really looking forward to it too.

Yes LadyBeagle,

Cards for birthday and Mother's Day this time, and maybe by next year I'll be ready to just cut them all out, once and for all.

Going out with my DC on Mother's Day, which I'm really looking forward to

I would just send a card on Mothers Day until you feel ready to ignore, I don't think you're at that place yet.
I bet your lovely Dc treat you on Mother's Day anyway. I hope you let it be all about you this year.

You're all right,

Nothing will please the old bag except cash, so whatever I do will be wrong in her eyes.

So rethinking things, a card with nothing in it, and no gift at all, is probably the best thing to do. I did it at Christmas, so I can do it again

My DC are taking me out for lunch on Mother's Day, and I'm looking forward to it, I think we're going to Cosmo, as I haven't been there yet (recently opened here) and I quite trying it.

Yep, I agree with Clementine. Mothers' Day is about YOU.

I think you should forget giving her a present at all - its ridiuculous wasting all this time on it - and on mothers day - instead take yourself out somewhere nice and treat yourself.

Bloody hell, Zukie, she sounds awful. Who the hell gives bog roll as a gift?

Just send a cheap card and a box of faux After Eights. Stop investing so much thought when it clearly is not appreciated.

Could you write her a little poem? Something sweetly PA that acurately describes your feelings towards her.

Never thought about a red nose Hippo

That's also a great idea

So a cheap 29p card, and a red nose/variety club badge or poundland crap and that's it sorted!

I could give her the weeds from my garden for Mother's Day!

A red nose is £1 they also have little pin badges, she doesn't sound very charitable so it would be ideal. Good for you standing up for yourself

Zukie, she sounds just dreadful, I am amazed you are prepared to give her anything at all tbh.
I know I would truly struggle with a Mother's Day card and certainly would not consider a gift .

I'll pay for the band xxxx

Get a £20 gift card from somewhere, spend £19.80 of it on yourself, then put it in a card with the receipt for £20, so when she tries to spend it she'll find it's only got 20p on.

It's settled then.

hec I am up for splitting the cost of champagne and I will throw in the bunting, party poppers and lobster dinner.
Keep going zukie, we are right alongside you.

Nothing, nothing, nothing. And a card made of (used) bog roll. Rotten old cow. Or a £1 gift voucher for the £1 shop.

Has someone suggested those little packs of tissues you can get printed as US dollars ?

Put in a card with best wishes, world solve all the issues.

May just take you up on that offer Hecate!

It is horrible flipp I have a RL friend who thinks I should just put up and shut up, and I find that hard to deal with as well, she thinks all my MH problems are rubbish and made up (actually have very little to do with her now)

I am slowly getting there with my family too

I think just knowing you are not alone with this sort of thing can help enormously.

Having a horrible mother/family is one of the most difficult things to deal with in life. It takes a lot of strength to deal with.

I am breaking the MN rules and sending you every single bosom heaving hug I have in me and praying for the day when you manage to cut them out of your lives. you know you need to. You know your children need you to. And one day - you will find it within yourself to do it.

On that day, I will come over and fetch you and I will take you out and pour champagne down your throat all night!

In the meantime - send them the sort of gifts they send to you.

and SAY SO!

Well, I am surprised you are annoyed, you got me X for christmas.

I read the thread about your aunts in complete disbelief - not at you but that they would act in such a way.

I think you are doing amazingly and I am so glad you had a good Christmas! May it be the first of many!

Thankyou flipp

All your messages and posts mean a lot to me,

It's this forum, as much as therapy that has helped me deal and cope with all this.

I take a huge comfort from knowing I can always come on here to chat/vent/laugh and cry!

Good luck zukie

Hi again,

Sorry DS nicked the laptop last night, and I've only just got it back from him just now!

Thank you so much everyone for all your lovely comments and messages of support, I am welling up reading them, they're so nice

Still mulling over the ideas on here, I've got a couple of weeks before I need to do anything, still quite like the Variety Club badge idea though!