A disappointing Xmas day ............... any one else have one?

(31 Posts)
doglover Wed 25-Dec-13 17:50:10

To cut a long story short, today has been a bit rubbish. Not awful, not a disaster but just rather bleurgh ............

My mil (and bil) were meant to be coming to us but we had a call at 8:30 this morning to say that she couldn't make it. The reason was that her daughter - aged 52!!! - had had a power cut so she was going to help her out. I quite understand that having a powercut on Xmas morning is HORRIBLE but it lasted a couple of hours and really wasn't a big deal. (We invited them all to us soon after her call).

We'd happily arranged the day around their visit, eating at a different time etc, and my mil didn't even say sorry or merry Christmas. I appreciate it's a stressful time of year but some polite acknowledgment of our feelings would have been nice.

We're seeing her tomorrow and I just feel annoyed with her lack of thought to our situation.

LayMizzRarb Wed 25-Dec-13 17:58:36

If that is the worst thing that has happened to you this year, then you are a very lucky person.
Having to alter the time you eat is not a drama, unless you are on Kidney dialysis, or if one of you has to work tonight in the NHS or in the fire service, and have to leave home part way through today.
Perhaps you need to reflect on the things you have.
If everyone were to throw their troubles on a big pile, bet you would grab yours back first.

XmasLogAndHollyOn Wed 25-Dec-13 18:03:29

It's not a misery competition Lay. Folk are allowed to be disappointed when things go wrong you know.

By your reasoning no one in the UK should be allowed today they've had a crap day as it's much worse in x place in the world.

OP, it's always disappointing when something doesn't go to plan at Christmas as there's always been a lot of preparation and being let down is a pain. Hope the rest of your day went ok smile

Dog lover, it's disappointing when things don't go to plan. Sorry your day wasn't as good as you had hoped. But it is just a disappointment and not a disaster. I would be cross at the lack of Christmas greetings or apology for the cancellation though. You did the right thing by offering to change your timings and inviting your SIL too.

I hope tomorrow is much nicer. Merry Christmas smile

doglover Wed 25-Dec-13 18:08:49

As I said, this WASN'T a biggie ................ just disappointing. We had expected 2 extra guests who didn't come and didn't acknowledge their absence.

Of course it's not the end of the world. We've had Christmases before with terminally ill parents etc and THESE have been extremely difficult.

I merely wanted to have a bit of a vent about the reality of an eagerly-anticipated day not living up to expectations.

All those of you have had a truly horrible or harrowing day, you have my heartfelt sympathy.

doglover Wed 25-Dec-13 18:10:53

Thank you to CWF and XLAHO for showing a little more compassion!! My post wasn't meant to cause anyone upset!

smile. Merry Christmas Dog. Everyone is allowed a vent! That what mumsnet is for!

RobinSparkles Wed 25-Dec-13 18:21:47

We've had a lovely day...
Except poor DD2 has been sick. Once this morning just a tiny amount and we put it down to excitement as she was as happy as Larry afterwards. She didn't touch her dinner, even though Christmas dinner/roast dinner is usually her favourite, and has had nothing to eat all day bar a Minature snickers from the celebrations tub.

She settled down for a snooze on the sofa with DH and at about 5 woke up and threw up all over DH, the sofa and herself!

SIL took DN home as she's not feeling well either fsad and no one is drunk! <<sigh>>

I was sad yesterday as we were stuck in because of flooding and couldn't get the food shop! But dh dug outthe wii, we had a lovely eveningand we had tacos for lunch today!

Ours has been nice until dh started with a nosebleed all down his new top. Kids are playing with their tablets, i'm sat on my own and dh is sat in the bathroom. Hoping it stops soon.

Sorry 2 people dropped out. Hope there wasn't too much wasted food.

TinselTaTas Wed 25-Dec-13 18:48:06

It really gets on my wick when people say you should be grateful and that you should count your blessings as no real tragedy has occurred.

It invalidates a persons feelings and no matter what the issue every person has the right to feel sad regardless if what has or hasn't happened. I wish those who get on their high horses about this type of thing would fuck off!

TinselTaTas Wed 25-Dec-13 18:48:56

of not if

D0oinMeCleanin Wed 25-Dec-13 18:51:10

Also our PS3 was dead when we first got it, except we knew it wasn't, we bought it from SIL and knew she wouldn't do that.

A quick google taught us our TV was "too new" for the bog standard PS3 wires and didn't know what to do with it. A boxing day walk out for a HDMI cable and all was sorted.

RobinSparkles Wed 25-Dec-13 18:51:22

And it's not as if OP said it was the worst thing that had happened to her all year. She just said that she had had a disappointing Christmas Day, which is a bit disheartening if you've been really looking forward to it.

HowGoodIsThat Wed 25-Dec-13 18:52:58

We have all been ill. DD2 has been fevery and sleepy for nearly a week, DD1 looks like she is coming down with something to day as she went floppy after lunch (neither of them ate anything), DH is full of cold and now I am feeling hot/cold and my glands are up. Its not looking good...

The kids have gone to bed early and we'll not be far behind. Def disappointing round here...

JodieGarberJacob Wed 25-Dec-13 18:57:22

DP spent hours cooking dinner, it was planned for 3.00, we've just eaten 4 hours later. He forgot the pigs in blankets. Now THAT'S a disaster if there ever was one.

doglover Wed 25-Dec-13 18:58:35

A disaster indeed, JGJ!! smile

Taffybird Wed 25-Dec-13 23:21:33

To answer the original question "Did anyone else have a disappointing day?".... OMG yes!

It started well, with 2 year old DD getting stuck into gleeful unwrapping, but unravelled a bit at lunchtime. DD decided she was full after one pig-in-blanket and a handful of carrots. This wouldn't have bothered me as she is not always much of a lunch person, but DH insisted she sit quietly in her highchair until everyone had finished.

Yeah, I know.

So they fell out over that. Then I fell out with him because I thought he was too harsh with her... thus a horrid atmosphere all afternoon, a full-on argument at tea time, and DD threw a tantrum with me at bedtime, told me to go away and asked for Daddy to put her to bed. For the first time in her life, I didn't tuck her in and kiss her goodnight (well, I did, but only after she was asleep).

Then DH sodded off to bed at 9.30 and I spent the evening on my own.

I know I should count my blessings and be thankful for everything I have. I do, and I am. But next Christmas I'll be going to my Mum's.

3bunnies Thu 26-Dec-13 07:51:48

Ours was a little disappointing with ds still not well after his chest infection, I still feel unwell with a bad cold, dh's diarrhoea returned after a 24hr break and the grinch FIL spent most of the day complaining that the dc had too many presents, trying to tell them about different Father Christmas 'traditions and myths', and then trying to change the channel with 20 min to go on a film because there because he didn't want to watch children's films.

Hope you have a better boxing day doglover

Fairylea Thu 26-Dec-13 07:59:06

It's a shame when things don't go to plan..

We had a lovely day but poor ds 18 months had a bout of the worst toddler diarrhoea ever poor thing just at lunch, too much excitement I think! He was fine in himself otherwise. It just literally exploded everywhere!

Didn't think I'd be changing a nappy like that just before my dinner.. put me off a bit!!

milk Thu 26-Dec-13 09:48:14

The best Xmas recipe: Just yourself, DH/DP, and your DC/pets if you have any smile

workatemylife Thu 26-Dec-13 11:11:57

Slightly glum here too - i felt all ill and flu-ey all day but didn't want to miss the fun or mess it up for others. Had an early night and woke up to two excited dcs and a nice clean kitchen thanks to fil. I feel a bit sad that my day was a bit rubbish but everyone else had fun and i probably felt ill only because i had been burning the midnight oil preparing for the big day which i love doing. All to do with expectations really. After the build up, things always seem a bit flat. Hope you all have a nice day today.

Belgianchox Thu 26-Dec-13 12:51:27

Pretty iserable here too, got off to a bad start on Xmas eve when i asked DP for a hand getting kids presents under the tree, and he refused. He hates all the fuss about Xmas, thinks more than one present per person is too many, and totally refuses to get into the spirit of things (at all). So, tears (for me ensued. Next morning kids were delighted with their stockings, unwrapped their presents - I held a couple back in view pf previous nights' exchange, and DP hovered around with a bin bag to catch the wrapping, his sole contribution to the days festivities. I feel like the pleasure of giving is denied me, as he puts such a downer on proceedings. I got dressed up for the day, so did DD, but the DP and ds made no effort (i can live with that but some acknowledgement that we girls looked nice would have been nice). I made a traditional English Xmas dinner (we're in France). When the kids had had enough, he told lme, see, they don't appreciate it, so what's the point? I pointed out that the kids weren't the only ones not appreciating things....

shopgirlwithadream Thu 26-Dec-13 12:52:15

At my parents. Dad is 76 Mum is 66.
Dad didn't get Mum anything for Christmas. He said she always says she doesn't want anything etc but it is the first time in forty years he has got her nothing. Not even a bar of chocolate. She is still crying. It's not like he ever got her anything much before. Just a tin of shortbread or something but it's a token isn't it? I heard her crying "that's what you think of me".
Feel very upset rather than disappointed.sad

Theas18 Thu 26-Dec-13 12:55:17

Aww you're poor mum shopgirl...

shopgirlwithadream Thu 26-Dec-13 13:13:50

Thanks. I know it's just a present but it's the thought isn't it? She loves Christmas and always has made it special for everyone else. She's the reason I love Christmas which is why I feel so sad for her.

shopgirlwithadream Thu 26-Dec-13 13:45:52

Also I know what you mean OP.
My brother and SIL and family are supposed to be visiting. We keep asking them when but they said "oh not sure when, but it will be before new year". Umm we'll just stay in and wait for you to turn up then.

spanky2 Thu 26-Dec-13 14:50:12

The amount of upset a person can feel is only comparable to the other upset they have felt in their life . My idea of disappointing is probably different to someone else's .

anns1111 Thu 26-Dec-13 22:17:53

Separated for three years, ex is being very unreasonable financially and it is very tense between us. Children in teens/early twenties. Ex has a new partner, I do not. The first two years we split Christmas equally, alternating Christmas eve and Christmas day, and splitting Boxing day. This year I had them on Christmas eve, they then spent the entire Christmas day at their father's arriving back here at 10pm (the last two years there has been an earlier switchover on Christmas evening, which I was expecting, so without warning I found myself for the first time in my life essentially alone on all of Christmas day), whereupon they announced they were leaving again at 9am Boxing day to take a walk with their father and then travel an hour with him to lunch with a friend. I was upset but tried not to show it. They've just arrived back from 'lunch' at 10pm, laughing and animated...since nothing was decided ahead of time I didn't even have a chance to make plans for myself with others...I'm in bed and don't even want to speak to them and feel like saying that was the last time I am doing Christmas.

princesscupcakemummyb Thu 26-Dec-13 23:18:14

another not great xmas day here only bit that was nice was watching my kids faces that santa had been

the circumstances in my christmas day where nobodys fault my poor dh is ill not as in a cold as in he has problems doing much and gets out of breath very easily this is on top of heart problems all is being controlled by medication anyway he was very tired yesterday and found it hard to enjoy the day i cried and cried because my dh was in pain and tired he tried to play with the kids but it got to much anyway as i say no ones fault but it made the day hard the kids where hyper as expected and wanted daddy to build everything and he couldnt non the less we tried and the kids managed to enjoy it

foxy6 Thu 26-Dec-13 23:21:51

yep had a crap christmas day. we are total skint and didnt get the kids hardly anything but i felt worse about that than they did . they were happy with what they had.
our cat has been in the vets for 2 days and they phone christmas day to tell us that their is no hope for him and we went to have him put to sleep sad. it broke everyones hearts and runied our day. then i had to work a night shift and the car broke down after my husband dropped me off.

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