Are we the only ones who don't buy each other presents?

(44 Posts)
Lurkymclurker Tue 24-Dec-13 15:57:10

Dp and I have decided not to buy presents again this year, we aren't hard up or rolling in it but we have £15 to spend on behalf of Dd (2) and that's it - we get presets from relatives and might get each other treats through the year.

We are both Christmas people an love the giving of gifts but just don't do it as a couple.

Are we odd as everyone I know is leading me to believe???

Oh and if you are interested dd has bought oh the cornetto trilogy on blue ray with ultra violet smile

moondog Tue 24-Dec-13 15:58:13

No, we don't do presents.
If I want something, I'll buy it myself. Same for dh.
I find present giving between adults rather odd.

choirmum Tue 24-Dec-13 16:02:30

We don't either. We're not particularly hard up but would rather spend a bit extra on the DC. We buy what we want/need as we go along and get presents from the family - that's enough for us.

noswingpark Tue 24-Dec-13 16:10:57

No presents for adults here either. I would rather buy extra gifts for children than husbands horrible people fsmile

80sMum Tue 24-Dec-13 16:16:01

Dh and I don't give each other presents. We're not hard up, just decided several years ago not to buy for each other. Works for us!

BikeRunSki Tue 24-Dec-13 16:16:03

We don't
It's not so much a money thing, as a DH has no imagination and can't be arsed thing.
I have another thread going because it means that I get no presents at all!

80sMum Tue 24-Dec-13 16:22:02

Me too BikeRunSki! But that means I don't have to pretend to like something that I don't want, don't like and don't need just because some poor soul has scoured the shops trying to find something to give me because they felt obliged to!
The no-present Christmas is very liberating! Leaves me free to choose and buy my own stuff when I want.

BrokenFairylights Tue 24-Dec-13 16:22:16

Each to their own, if you're happy not buying your DH presents that's fine. I buy my DH presents he buys me presents that's just how we are. Christmas is not just about children it's about giving those you care about a little something too but then I buy everyone presents - but that's just me grin

Sparrow8 Tue 24-Dec-13 16:29:42

We just buy something small for the kids to give to us.

StrangeGlue Tue 24-Dec-13 16:32:12

We buy for each other and I'd hate not to. but this isn't something there's a right thing to do on and buying for your partner certainly isn't odd (as so someone said up thread) hmm

MrsHappyBee Tue 24-Dec-13 16:32:54

Just said on another thread no presents for us this year as we've spent a lot on other things recently. I'm never getting sucked into buying loads of crap ever again.

Kbear Tue 24-Dec-13 16:33:05

we buy presents from the kids but I have bought DH a toblerone to take to work as he is working Christmas Day! <romance aint dead>

Indith Tue 24-Dec-13 16:35:30

We don't do presents between the two of us, we would rather use the money to go out for a meal together at some point which is a feat we manage around once a year during years when I don't have a small breastfed child waking for feeds.

LumpySpacePrincessOhMyGlob Tue 24-Dec-13 16:42:51

We have this year, but it`s the first time in years. I tend to buy what I need and dh does the same.

msmiggins Tue 24-Dec-13 16:51:03

We tend to buy things that we really need or are practical- ie stuff that would be bought anyway. I have bought my OH some new work shoes- he always likes the same size and style so I know they will fit, his old ones are cracking up. Things like PJs, yes chocolates, a case for his new mobile phone.

He does the same for me- practical presents which were needing bought anyway. I think it's nice for the kids to see parents exchanging gifts, and be involved in buying them too.

honeybunny14 Tue 24-Dec-13 16:54:26

We buy alot for each other this year i have an ipad new clothes underwear and perfume make up set and a few surprises but thats just us there were alot of years we couldnt afford to get each other its like we are making up for it now

specialsubject Tue 24-Dec-13 16:54:47

us too - no Xmas, no birthdays. Got out of the habit and saves a LOT of hassle.

HopelessCaseNumeroUno Tue 24-Dec-13 16:56:28

We haven't done presents for each other in years, though this year we are and it is lovely.

tombakerscarf Tue 24-Dec-13 16:59:00

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JewelFairies Tue 24-Dec-13 16:59:48

We either have a cap of 20 pounds, so it's more a token present like a book, or this year we've bought a present for us (fancy coffee machine we wouldn't normally have bought because our current one does the job fine).
No presents from dh would mean no present for me at all!

ashamedoverthinker Tue 24-Dec-13 17:01:08

no we splurge when we want/need to it wud be just for the sake of it. but my dh has went n bought a token gift. i dont know why.

Skogkat Tue 24-Dec-13 17:05:04

We do a token gift, with a max spend of £3. Charity shops are useful for that though, so it ends up allowing us to give quite a few gifts.

mumeeee Tue 24-Dec-13 18:29:46

I love buying DH Christmas presents and he loves getting me presents, We even do stockings for each other.

sparklysilversequins Tue 24-Dec-13 18:31:06

Serious question moondog why do you find giving another adult a gift "odd"?

WorrySighWorrySigh Tue 24-Dec-13 18:41:48

We are another couple who dont give each other presents. It started before we were living together but getting ready to set up home. We bought each other near identical presents. That was around 25 years ago and we are still together!

DCs buy us presents and we do give suggestions for that.

It does seem silly to buy each other presents when the money will be coming out of the joint account.

LongWayRound Tue 24-Dec-13 21:35:34

According to this site there are 5 "love languages": words of affirmation, quality time, acts of service, receiving gifts and physical touch. Apparently words of affirmation and quality time are the ones I value, with "receiving gifts" at the very end of the scale. Which is just as well, because DH and I almost never give each other gifts. He gets me a bunch of flowers on my birthday (this year he did it without being reminded grin), I bring him useful things like shoes and shirts when I travel to UK because the quality is better than what is available locally. Otherwise we'd rather spend money on travel or a meal out than on presents.

LumpySpacePrincessOhMyGlob Tue 24-Dec-13 21:43:23

Dh brings me cups of tea in the morning, better than any expensive gift. fgrin

We do because ds is an only child and I thing it wouldn't be a good thing for it to be allll about ds on Christmas Day.

PrimalLass Tue 24-Dec-13 22:08:09

We don't. We book a weekend away instead.

Davros Tue 24-Dec-13 22:11:21

We do buy eachother presents and enjoy doing so. I think it's important for DD to see us exchanging gifts and thinking about what to get, not token crap. Doesn't have to be expensive although it is sometimes. My mum and dad always did and I think DH's parents did, even though they're Jewish. Also, we had some years with DS only who is severely autistic and, unless we got eachother something, it would have been a bit miserable. I suppose we just enjoy a bit of indulgence too!

Neitheronethingortheother Tue 24-Dec-13 22:17:52

We do a get each other quite a bit. I have gotten dh a hoody, cardigan, T-shirt, shirt, aftershave, book, CD and 2013 stamp yearbook.

utterly Tue 24-Dec-13 22:26:09

I thought my parents were odd for not doing big presents - but now I kind of get it. If we need things we buy them, so Christmas is for small extras.

CointreauVersial Tue 24-Dec-13 22:47:30

We do sometimes, but often we will buy something together that we both want or need.

A couple of years ago it was a new bed. The year before it was a camera.

This year we are actually exchanging presents, mainly because DH kept hinting about something he wanted, and I spotted a lovely coat on Zara, and pestered him to buy it for me!

Rufustherednosedreindeer Wed 25-Dec-13 17:44:27

Nope! don't do presents at the moment. The children are nearly 15,12 and 10 and the day is full of them

We may go back to presents when we feel we have the time to appreciate them, plus if I want something I will buy it anyway

stillenacht Wed 25-Dec-13 17:49:22

We don'teithersmile

Bunbaker Wed 25-Dec-13 18:07:12

"I find present giving between adults rather odd."

Really. Why? If I didn't get any presents from adults I would get one Christmas present. I would also only have to buy for one person. I think that sounds rather sad and grabby, but I like to give my loved ones presents. And right now only one of them is a child.

alemci Wed 25-Dec-13 18:29:44

buy for dh but tend to buy my own present and dh pays for them as he is so disorganised.

kerala Thu 26-Dec-13 08:15:19

How unromantic! This is sad. Surely thinking about and getting thoughtful gifts is partly what Christmas is about. Highlight of day for me was dds excitement at their presents, second was dhs face when he opened his. Why would you not want to bring happiness to people you love? You've got the rest of the year to be practical and sensible <whizzes off on my new bike present from dh and total surprise!>

Bunbaker Thu 26-Dec-13 08:45:42

"<whizzes off on my new bike present from dh and total surprise!>"

Now, I wouldn't have wanted a surprise bike as that is something I would have wanted to choose for myself - like clothes really. But I do like a surprise and got some lovely books and chocolates form OH that I wasn't expecting. I also got some photo editing software, but he asked me first if I wanted it, so that one wasn't a surprise.

kerala Thu 26-Dec-13 09:26:39

My awful truth is that dh has better taste than me in clothes. And we had picked out the bike months ago but decided against buying it as you couldn't fit child seat on it. But dd2 now so enormous that's not an issue. I wouldn't care about value of present just that he has thought about it. But every couple has different dynamics

Bunbaker Thu 26-Dec-13 09:49:41

"I wouldn't care about value of present just that he has thought about it."

I agree. One of the best surprises I got was a really good book that cost £1 in a charity shop. OH knew I would enjoy reading it but kept apologising that it was from a charity shop. I couldn't have cared less where it was from. It was in good condition and a great read.

Lurkymclurker Thu 26-Dec-13 23:32:28

Well dp ignored the budget and bought me a gorgeous locket and I ran out as a last minute thing and bought him Christmas Eve pjs and beer so romance isn't dead lol, we had gifts from adult friends and then later in the day family so dd saw us both give and receive and we had a really lovely day

RRudolphR Thu 26-Dec-13 23:37:55

We do!
Spoil each other rotten grin

canthaveit Thu 26-Dec-13 23:49:04

We do. I think it is important for the grown Ups to have presents to open, so the day isn't totally about the children

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