How many presents without inc lists have your dc got.

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MincedMuffPies Mon 16-Dec-13 23:47:08

Mine have about 35 each shock 10 of those are stocking fillers of things around a pound nothing more then a fiver.

I haven't spent loads but as they're older and its things like dvds and ps3 games it really doesn't look like much compared to previous years of bikes and large similar presents.

Luggage16 Mon 16-Dec-13 23:55:02

35 is loads, I'm worried that the 15 each (excluding stocking) my 2 have is a bit much (though also debating getting a CD player to add to my dd pile as we could really do with one for the playroom).

AmeliaToppingLovesShopping Mon 16-Dec-13 23:58:12

I have 3 DDs. They will be getting 14 presents each under the tree, the cheapest being £1 and the most expensive about £27.

They will also get another 14 presents each in their stocking, mostly from the 99p Store with a few others less than £4 each.

I have on top of that bought 3 family presents.

lilyaldrin Tue 17-Dec-13 00:00:20

One from us, one from Father Christmas, maybe 5 stocking fillers and some chocolate
About 8 presents from my family (grandparents, greatgrandparents, aunts etc)
2 from godparents
I'd guess 4 or 5 things from PIL.

So 15 presents in total plus some stocking fillers. Loads!

TheNightIsDark Tue 17-Dec-13 00:02:50

Too much. I'm considering putting some back until birthdays but they're wrapped and I can't remember what is in each one blush

MincedMuffPies Tue 17-Dec-13 00:02:57

What family presents did you buy amelia?

It doesn't look like loads luggage some stuff is really small like earrings and invisible ink pens but saying it loud it sounds a lot.

MincedMuffPies Tue 17-Dec-13 00:05:18

Oh I am dreading the onslaught of presents from the family. Luckily my DM is buying them panto tickets and a board game so not more crap. My nan on the other hand...

Foxred10 Tue 17-Dec-13 00:06:53

I have 2 DS's (5 & 2). They each have around 2-3 larger Santa presents (2 x remote control cars, winx action figure, walkie talkies for 5 year old, wheelybug, octonaut octopod for 2 yr old) and around 5-6 small stocking presents (books, a ball, fancy felt tips, colouring books etc.) Probably spent £100 - £150 total on both of them, as got some good amazon bargains.

We're comfortably off and could conceivably afford to buy them an awful lot more ( and going by what I've seen on here, a lot of people do!) but for small kids I think it's more than enough.

Luggage16 Tue 17-Dec-13 00:07:03

Thats the thing isnt it, its so much more complicated than cost or quantity! Could you package them up in bigger boxes? I'm sure the kids will be happy regardless as older ones should have a better concept of cost! Our pile looks a lot as mine are 3 and 6 so it looks loads, once its all out of boxes it wont be so bad though!

There is no reason why you can't pack a small gift, like the earrings, into a giant box for wrapping (or even do the old "box within a box within a box" trick). Or disguise the shape of gifts with misleading packaging. Or put clues on the labels and insist they guess before they open the present.

MatildaWhispers Tue 17-Dec-13 00:11:08

35 presents just from parents, if that's what you mean, sounds like loads to me! ! I have 3 dc and I have got them one present each, though they will get a further 7 or 8 little stocking fillers each.

moldingsunbeams Tue 17-Dec-13 00:12:16

Do you mean just from parents or from family as well?

I am really worried this year, its the first year dd has asked for tech stuff and usually she has loads of cheap puzzles or craft from family which fill it out and make it look more but she has grown out of it.

From me she has one main second hand present and three pound shop small size toiletries stuff and that's it. I have spent £63 and have had to pay that back to my parents in bits as they bought it earlier in year off ebay when I could not afford.

I did explain to dd that if she got the tech item she would not have much else but I still think she might be disappointed with the reality of how little she has.

MincedMuffPies Tue 17-Dec-13 00:12:38

I have just chucked out all the amazon boxes grin and having wrapped them all tonight I am not in the mood for more wrapping.

I don't want to buy them anymore, I'm not even twitching now I'm happy with all they have. Just wondered if I was in the norm with amount wise.

MincedMuffPies Tue 17-Dec-13 00:15:00

This year none of them have main presents. They have had all the main presents they could possibly need the last few christmas and birthdays.

TheNightIsDark Tue 17-Dec-13 00:15:40

I'm twitching like mad. Have had to put my bank card on a high shelf.

I've just finished shopping this evening. We have 3 DC's, ages 6,3 and 1. They each have 1 main present from us, 1 each from each sibling and 5 or 6 bits in their stocking. I spent £250 in total on the 3 of them. Not sure how many they will get from relatives, but I guess another 5 or so each. 35 is loads!

MincedMuffPies Tue 17-Dec-13 00:19:44

TheNightIsDark I find to stop the twitch I think of chucking it unplayed with out in the october half term bedroom clear out. It doesn't always work wink so I then twitch on practical presents or things like dvds and books and posters.

AttackOfTheKillerMonsterSnowGo Tue 17-Dec-13 00:19:53

Hmmm, on last count at 17 each but 2 each are actually 'family board games' that we'll play together, we've just out them into the kids piles to bulk them out... and they both have 9 books, lots of which I picked up at charity shops for £1 over the last couple of months. So individual non book presents each...About 6 apiece. One main present from us, one from F.C. And a few little bits.

They also have their elf basket on Xmas eve which is new pj's each, a DVD each, some chocolate and popcorn, and a lush bath bomb each.

AttackOfTheKillerMonsterSnowGo Tue 17-Dec-13 00:20:42

They'll get around 10 each from friends and relatives too. I think they're getting loads!

AmeliaToppingLovesShopping Tue 17-Dec-13 00:24:29

Family presents are

-- An Orchard toys game to play together

-- A family set of slushie maker cup things so we will have one each

-- A film night in a box - will include popcorn boxes, 3 DVDs (they were going to get these individually so I have added them to the box instead), popcorn kernals, sweets, hot chocolate and mini marshmellows.

I will do it so that Father Christmas brings the stockings, 3 presents each for the DC and 3 presents for me under the tree (am also doing myself a stocking) plus the family presents. All the rest will be from me.

TheNightIsDark Tue 17-Dec-13 00:30:32

I'm twitching on an ever after high doll. DD doesn't play with dolls. I think it's actually me that wants it blush

DrinkFeckArseGirls Tue 17-Dec-13 00:37:26

2 presents.

AGnuMasqueradingAsAReindeer Tue 17-Dec-13 00:38:12

Mine are getting 1 present each from us. The 2yo is getting an aquadoodle (£15) & the baby is getting a handmade-by-me heirloom type gift (approx. £30 & an entire year of labour). Long may the easily pleased/cheap phase last! grin

Elsiequadrille Tue 17-Dec-13 00:53:40

I don't count the presents. Is that odd?

17leftfeet Tue 17-Dec-13 00:54:48

When dd was 3 she opened her stocking which contained some hair bobbles, a barbie outfit, a fairy glider, bottle of bubbles and some sweets and said 'I've got everything I wanted'

Oh the innocence!

Then we went downstairs and she saw the tree presents -I so wish I had left it at the stocking!

Both dds have 10 presents each under the tree

Dd1 has her own straighteners so she can stop stealing mine and dd2 has a DVD player -the main gifts were £30 each and they have £50 each of other stuff including their stockings

Dd1 is mainly clothes, dd2 has a couple of toys, a music stand and some clothes

Presents from my side of the family will be at grandma's house on Boxing Day

God only knows what exp's mum will send

I see people posting pics on Facebook of rooms so full of presents that you can't see the furniture but do the children really appreciate what they get when they get so much? and why do people post them on Facebook?

MatildaWhispers Tue 17-Dec-13 00:56:55

Elsie I have to count the presents as I need to make sure the presents are split pretty much equally across my three children.

TheNightIsDark Tue 17-Dec-13 00:57:56

Not odd Elsie. I don't dare count. I've replenished the books and clothes so it's not all toy presents. We are also having 2 christmas days as don't have DSD until 29th

FixItUpChappie Tue 17-Dec-13 03:21:46

DS1

5 main

8 stocking (not tat...smaller proper gifts)

depends though how you look at it....our son is getting a costume box as one of his main gifts - I am counting it as one thing but if you count each costume item separately then there is say...4 costumes and 8 "accessories" included in that one main.

DS2

4 main

5 stocking (as above)

FixItUpChappie Tue 17-Dec-13 03:27:45

Oh that is just from us and Santa....I have no idea what family are getting.

MincedMuffPies Tue 17-Dec-13 06:36:22

Not odd elsie, I do it as the dc would start their whinging of "he's got more then me it's so unfair" if one was left with all their presents opened while the other was still attacking presents.

I'm twitching over the slush cups now, dds been asking for them and I've forgot about it.

Dd has three main presents and then some books. She may have lots and lots of books because I lose track of just how may I have bought. She will also have a stocking that I know I have bought things for but again I have forgotten exactly what. Hence one year her needing her stocking attached to a large gift bag to accommodate the overflow hmm

BobCrotchstitch Tue 17-Dec-13 08:55:38

No real idea but DS is an only child so no worries about whether the piles are equal fgrin
He has an iPad mini this year but that is from my DPs as well to stop them buying plastic tat and a keyboard as he is music mad. Then about 5 or 6 other little gifts, no more than £10 each and a stocking. This is always full if good stuff and as such ends up quite expensive, but we don't buy stuff throughout the year generally, only Christmas and birthdays.
I do budget though and start shopping in September otherwise we just couldn't afford it fsmile
He will also get shit loads of gifts from my DPs <only GC> and a couple from friends and family, normally gift vouchers now he is older.

dancemom Tue 17-Dec-13 08:57:49

Three from Santa in the sack, about 10 from me but none costing over £20 and probably another 10 from family and friends - plenty!

fasterthanthewind Tue 17-Dec-13 11:17:46

good lord! 35! We're more in line with some later posters.

our 3 dc are getting maybe 8 things in stocking (that includes nut, tangerine, toothbrush, toothpaste), and as 'big presents', I think maybe 5 things. These are mostly books, but the baby is getting a rocking horse (from the dump...)

under our tree is piled high with presents, but they are almost all to be given away.

candyflossisevil Tue 17-Dec-13 11:25:28

Ds has about 20 from us and about 10 in his stocking. He will also have presents from family under the tree. It does seen a lot but his birthday is close to christmas and we tend to just get him one or two things for his birthday. I have considered splitting the things between christmas and his birthday but this way works for us best fsmile

LittleMissGreen Tue 17-Dec-13 11:40:08

Stocking
Christmas eve present
one from FC
one from me
6 from other family members
oh and one small one on the Christmas tree at teatime

SantaStuffedMyStocking Tue 17-Dec-13 13:02:48

too much we have 3 dds (10, 8, 22 month's)

dd1&2 have

34 each from us plus a stocking each.
27 from my dps
20+ from other family members

dd3 has slighly more at about 38/40 from us and the same as above from others.

we both have loads of family and we all love the gift giving. under our tree the presents already take up the full wall (not including from us) it's how it's always been though same as when dh and myself were kid's.

ziggiestardust Tue 17-Dec-13 13:05:32

I have 1 DS who is 3, and he's got about 20 gifts under the tree, and a stocking which is just stuffed full of chocolate to keep him in treats until Easter smile

He's got the imaginext castle with all the kit and weapons and stuff, so we're setting that up for him unwrapped, because he quickly becomes distracted when he's opened a present, and wants to stop and play with that item and ignores any further presents. wink

NightLark Tue 17-Dec-13 13:08:18

Five I think, and a stocking with little bits. Three dc though, so it really adds up.

mabelbabel Tue 17-Dec-13 13:33:19

Well our (2) kids have each, from us: 1 main from us, plus 1 set of books etc (asked for), plus 1 present from santa, and a stocking (with some proper things in like a bag of hamma beads, small playmobil packet, books etc). Total cost around £75 each.

They will have presents from 3 sets of grandparents, 3 aunties/uncles, 2 from great aunties/uncles, 1 Great grandparent and 2 sets of friends, ie another 9 each.

This is absolutely LOADS. We don't split up into piles. Big jumble under the tree, hand out a present at a time.

CoffeeChocolateWine Tue 17-Dec-13 13:38:39

They each have 10 stocking fillers and 3 presents under the tree from us. They'll probably have another 8-10 presents each from family. Lucky things!

Rosvita Tue 17-Dec-13 13:43:01

I think roughly 15 presents each then stocking with about 10 little bits in. About 4/5 presents from other family.More than enough!

moogalicious Tue 17-Dec-13 13:48:08

5 presents each (3dc) plus a family present.

God knows how many from GPs though.

GimmeDaBoobehz Tue 17-Dec-13 13:48:41

8 from me, 2 from fiancé my parents go nuts so dread to think . Other gps are giving money towards stuff for her. DD is only 8 months so not going nuts.

MirandaWest Tue 17-Dec-13 14:54:30

I have no idea as haven't wrapped yet. Stockings are tightly packed with small things here so quite a lot but small things in price as well. Father Christmas brings a big thing for each child too. Then as we spend the day with XH and he's got them things I need to as well. But no idea how many (there are two DC who know that not everything is equal).

KatnipEvergreen Tue 17-Dec-13 14:59:56

I have bought them about 5 things each, then they will get a few larger things from relatives and a few stocking fillers, would say about 15 items a piece all told. We only have a small family. Certainly enough to fill a large pillowcase or two though, which is the same as I got as a kid.

Do people really count!?
I have no idea this year...lots and lots.

glendatheveryexcitedwitch Tue 17-Dec-13 16:25:42

My 3 have roughly the same spent on each though not the same number of presents as ds(14) is in to designer clothes so only has 5/6 + stocking where as dd1(8) has lots of little girlie bits and 1D as well as a few big presents that didn't cost too much and dd2(1) has a few playmobil bits, clothes and bath toys.

My kids don't get anything from anyone else other than a few quid off my dad so we are inclined to go a bit mad

CoffeeChocolateWine Tue 17-Dec-13 16:34:07

Do people really count?

Absolutely yes. I dread to imagine the scene on Christmas morning if one child got more presents than the other!

cantheyseeme Tue 17-Dec-13 16:38:37

Dd1 has around 30, a couple of them are quite expensive but mainly lots of like 2 for £15 toys and heaps of clothes smile
Dd2 is 6 days old.... she has about 10, all clothes.
Next year i will even it out smile

SpookedMackerel Tue 17-Dec-13 16:38:42

I don't know exactly, but I would reckon on Christmas day between 5 and 10 each, and a stocking each (we are staying with grandparents)

Then probably another 5 or so when we visit the other grandparents later in the week.

Alibabaandthe40nappies Tue 17-Dec-13 16:58:55

I have no idea off the top of my head, will have to think.

35 seems like absolutely masses though - out of interest what kind of stuff is in that 35?

DS1 has got two biggish presents from us, plus a stocking, a couple of books and a board game.
DS2 has got one big present, a couple of books, a puzzle and a stocking.

I've also got another couple of puzzles which will be joint presents.

They get things from family and friends too - maybe another 7-8 presents - so altogether they will have about 15 presents each plus a stocking.

Which seems loads to me, it will be a huge pile for them to open!

FixItUpChappie Tue 17-Dec-13 17:15:56

I will qualify that my eldest is getting more because our youngest is only 10 months and wont know whatsoever that he is getting 1 or 2 less things. However, I don't think things have to be exactly equal from a number count even when they are older - just sort of generally equal. One may have something more expensive so has one less than the other IYKWIM?

blibblibs Tue 17-Dec-13 17:17:38

Wow, some people seem to have loads smile

Think we are at the lower end of average smile

Stocking with essentials in - toothpaste/brush, face cloth, pants, socks etc and six from Santa.

One each from us and then maybe 5 or so from family.

And that seems like loads to me

MincedMuffPies Tue 17-Dec-13 17:26:08

Off the topof my head ali dd has a secret diary, cake decorating set full of loads of different sprinkles and stuff, perfume, books, poster, DVD, ps3 games x2, spy glasses a yoyo, huge box of maltesers, make your own solar system kit (which is a good size box but was only £2) clothes shoes onesie and remote control car.

Ds has a slightly bigger present of a Lego castle, I bought it before it went up in price now it's over £80 but I got it around the £50 mark, loads of marvel stuff like avengers shower gels avengers perfumes more spider man shower gel, guinness world record book, joke book, remote control car and marble run dvds and ps3 game.

Oh and they both have a board game each to, kerplunk and guess who,

I really haven't spent a lot or if I have I haven't noticed as I've been buying since September.

Audilover Tue 17-Dec-13 17:31:22

Unintentionally all 5 DC have ended up with 8 presents each from Father Christmas. They also have 5 stocking fillers each.
They have 1 present each from DP and me and 1 present from their brothers and sisters.
Family tend to buy them vouchers now that they are older.

Audilover Tue 17-Dec-13 17:33:12

Forgot to say that as they're older now, I give them a budget and they sort their presents from there. It's entirely up to them how many presents they ask for as long as they stick to the budget.

PPaka Tue 17-Dec-13 17:34:44

About 15

He had about 60 last year, it was ridiculous

Bumpsadaisie Tue 17-Dec-13 17:40:21

Mine (aged 4 and 2) have one big present of £40 ish, three little presents of around £10, and a stocking with chocolates and small things like pens/hairclips.

They have got 4 grandparents, 3 great-grandparents, 5 sets of uncles and aunts, 7 cousins, five godparents each. We are going to be overflowing so what we have bought is more than enough (£100 each). In fact I think its too much.

chickydoo Tue 17-Dec-13 17:40:24

Mine have 20 stocking fillers each. Everything from chocolate coins, to socks, pants, deodorant for the big ones, new lunch boxes for school. All stuff they need, sadly for them no real crap.
Revision guides, pens and new pj's.

Under the tree they each have one or 2 big ( ish ) pressies such as an android phone and x box games etc, they have a new fleece each. The boys also have new trainers, the girls have fashion boots. A couple of family games & books.
Think that's it.

jamtoast12 Tue 17-Dec-13 17:47:06

Dds both have 21 presents each varying from £5-£20 each (total spend exc main present £200 each). Plus stocking with nail polish, headbands etc, 10 items each. Plus main each and extra shared gift. Everything in our house is from Santa.

They also get about 15 each between both grandparents and 5 each from different family members. They do get loads but Its how I was brought up and I sense it must be regional as everyone I know does around a similar amount and none of us are well of or anything. Mumsnet is the only place I hear were people buy a few things. Not that there's a right or wrong at all, just an observation really.

Katieweasel Tue 17-Dec-13 21:16:12

Have bought DS an Ipad so he has very little else from us. Have saved £10 a week all year to buy it so it doesn't actually feel like we have spent much when we have. Didn't just want one gift under the tree from us so have done a "cinema box" with DVDs, popcorn, popcorn holder and a slushy cup. Also have done a "rainy day box" filled with lots of card games like Monopoly Deal, Cludeo, Boggle Slam, Pictionary etc. The stocking will have a few nice but cheap bits like some hair wax and new tennis balls. GPs will buy lots of plastic tat despite my desperate attempts at explaining to them that he doesn't play with "toys" as such, but they know best!

happyyonisleepyyoni Tue 17-Dec-13 21:44:36

35 presents, wow. I'm glad mine are just getting a ps4 and games this year. Plus they have an amazon wish list of books for each.

I've done too many charity shop runs with barely played with stuff over the years to bother buying them things just to have a pile of presents. We've still got mountains of Lego which must have cost well over £1000 in total.

apocketfulofposy Tue 17-Dec-13 21:47:22

i dont count presents,i have no idea.

MabliD Tue 17-Dec-13 22:29:13

6 under the tree from us, 2 from dm/df, probably another 7-10 from family/friends but won't know for certain till they arrive! Plus a stocking, but I don't know how many individual things are in there - just a case of as many as it took to fill up, but it's a fairly small 'traditional' stocking and not a sack or pillowcase.

GreenShadowsOfTheChristmasTree Tue 17-Dec-13 22:36:17

I'm so glad my DC don't read MN!

Ours have one or two presents under the tree each from us. Sometimes this might be a big presents, but not this year. Then will also get a present each from their grandad, aunt and uncle, plus some money from a couple of other relatives.

Who needs (or indeed benefits from) 35 plus presents !?

BeaWheesht Tue 17-Dec-13 22:43:32

I don't count presents - I spend a similar amount on them but I don't care if there's the same number as they can both understand some things cost more (age 7 and 3)

QueenofallIsee Tue 17-Dec-13 22:47:27

13 pressies each under the tree 'from santa' (4 dc). stockings full of little vintage style games, choccy and what not for each. 1 dvd each and a ps4 between them as gift from us

GreenShadowsOfTheChristmasTree Tue 17-Dec-13 22:49:02

Should have said ours also get a stocking each too.

muminthecity Tue 17-Dec-13 22:54:59

I don't usually count them, but have just done a quick count in my head for the purpose of this thread, and DD has one (quite big) present from me and 8 presents from Santa (3 of which are books, all quite cheap.) She also has about 6 or 7 stocking fillers, all really cheap tat, also from Santa.

muminthecity Tue 17-Dec-13 22:57:50

She will probably have another 10 or so to open on Christmas day from friends and family. She is the only child in the family so does tend to get quite spoilt by them all!

Preciousbane Tue 17-Dec-13 23:01:33

DS is 12
Two Xbox games
Monkey onesie
Remote control car about 100

Stocking
Yard of Jaffa cakes
Haribo
Selection box
Word search
Socks
A zombie survival kit I'm putting together.

Preciousbane Tue 17-Dec-13 23:02:41

Sorry main presents, all four cost 100, the car was reduced from 70 to 30.

SuckItAndSee Tue 17-Dec-13 23:05:42

for under the tree they have 3 each from us, and one each from FC.

there's some decent stuff in their stockings as well - DVDs, CDs etc.

we used to buy more, but they seemed to get present-opening fatigue, and we ended up putting half of the stuff away for the Easter and summer hols. Now we rein things in a bit, but happily pick up a couple of extra bits through the year if needed.

When I first opened this thread I thought 35 presents sounded like a massive number, but after adding up what my dds are getting we're not too far away from that number.

My dds have 8 presents each from us (more than I intended - I blame the bargain thread!), a joint present from us, a joint present from fc, a present from each other and a present from the dog. There are ten things in their stockings. So 22 each (2 are joint) from immediate family.

They also have a present each and a joint present from dm, one from dmil, one from dbil and family, one from db, one from duncle and daunt, and four from friends. So that's another ten presents.

So my dds have 32 presents each (three of which are joint). I think that's too many, really, but I over bought, and we've been given more presents than I was expecting for them.

Elsiequadrille Tue 17-Dec-13 23:26:27

^34 each from us plus a stocking each.
27 from my dps
20+ f^

That's an awful lot of presents shock

princesscupcakemummyb Wed 18-Dec-13 11:13:04

dd the oldest has about *11 they where all priced from 15 pounds upwards

middle dc got 11 also

the lil one my baby 6 weeks has got alot more llike 20 but some i bought used though rest new so cost alot less then the girls presents

WhomessweetWhomes Wed 18-Dec-13 20:16:17

As always I am utterly baffled by the quantity of presents some people buy their dc. 35???!!! Is that really not including ones from other relatives? Mine usually get about 3 plus a stocking with tiny things, chocolate coins etc.

lolalooloo Wed 18-Dec-13 20:34:50

ds 1 has about 30 plus stocking
ds2 about 45 - 50 plus stocking
dd - 45- 50 plus stocking

step ds about 30 plus stocking

and step dd still working on

Luggage16 Wed 18-Dec-13 20:40:24

those with 30+ and a stocking, what kinds of things does it include? I'm curious more than anything.
Our 15 each includes things like £5 t shirts and £3 stationary sets as well as bigger things like playmobil and schleich dragons. Part of me thinks some people are maybe comparing different things - so someone with a santa sack rather than stocking might say they have 5 gifts plus stocking but the stocking would have things like the stationary set and t shirts in, others might do a tiny stocking with only very small gifts in and therefore their downstairs pile might be bigger iyswim

MincedMuffPies Wed 18-Dec-13 20:46:32

No it's not including relatives fgrin My dm is getting them panto tickets and a board game. It is including things I have bought like hairbands and finger lights, fart whistles and light up shoe laces. Its not all proper presents. My DB has a present each and my Dsis, my Dauntie will get them something nice each she usually goes for nice book sets and outfits, my Dnan has got them about 10 presents each inc a microscope, bingo game, remote controlled helicopter and other various bits and bobs.

I have never had a christmas with only 3 presents so I really couldn't be that stingy with my dc, christmas in my house (and everyone is different) is all about spoiling ourselves with gifts, food, booze, laughs, friends, and that really lovely warm christmassy feeling I get from all of that.

bzoo Wed 18-Dec-13 20:46:35

Erm... I haven't counted. Are you supposed to keep count?!

Wingdingdong Wed 18-Dec-13 20:48:11

I haven't counted but I'd think 35 probably isn't much over, if at all, if we're counting everything (presents from GPs, aunts & uncles etc). They have a couple of big presents each from us (Playmobil/Brio), plus a couple of little ones. The stockings have loads of little things in though (Playmobil /individually wrapped Happyland figures / dolls for the dolls' house / hair clips / pencils). I've done a lot of set-splitting and individual wrapping - but the DC are 4 and nearly 2, so it's all about quantity and wrapping paper.

I would guess that when the DC are a little older, they will have fewer, but bigger, presents. I probably wouldn't be able to get away with individually wrapping four scented rubbers from a 50p packet for an older DC grin.

cathers Wed 18-Dec-13 20:53:08

Mine have about 35 each.
That's split btw 15 to go in a stocking- stuff like bath bombs, CD, book,
10 to go in santas sack- things that were on their Father Christmas list,
And 10 from us.

Dillydollydaydream Wed 18-Dec-13 21:04:58

Mine have about 20 each plus stocking.
FC brings the stocking plus 4/5 presents everything else is from me and dh.

lolalooloo Wed 18-Dec-13 21:07:03

erm for the person who asked I will go through one of theirs
my eldest who is 17 he has under the tree so presents
ps4
I phone 5s
5 games
a gaming chair
aftershave x 4
dvds x 4
2 pairs of trainers
4 polo shirts
I tunes voucher
a watch
ticket master voucher
new boxing gloves
beats headphones
some stud earings
and a few other bits I cant remember of the top of my head

stocking
boxers
socks
soap
chocolate
etc .

cantheyseeme Wed 18-Dec-13 21:13:46

Fuck a duck lolalol

WhomessweetWhomes Wed 18-Dec-13 21:17:57

Yy to enjoying food, family, booze, friends and presents, and to the warm Christmassy feeling. Just quite glad I don't need to spend thousands of pounds to do all of that!

WhomessweetWhomes Wed 18-Dec-13 21:19:32

Bloody hell lolalooloo. That would be about ten years' worth of Christmas presents in my house.

lolalooloo Wed 18-Dec-13 21:24:15

the younger ones have more to open but no where near spent as much as I did on him 17 yr olds are expensive trust me I miss the days of toys from argos lol

ImNotReallyHere Wed 18-Dec-13 21:28:38

Another minimalist shopper here. One main present. 2 smaller presents. A onesie and 3 books. And a stocking with about 10 little things - some v cheap - finger lights, chocolate coins etc and some a bit more - electric toothbrush and winter hat.

And my DH says I go overboard. I swear if anything happens to me the kids would get no stocking ( he's not English so not a tradition for him) and they would get one thing each!

They do get another 6 or 7 presents from family and neighbours though and seem happy enough with it all. ( even the weird presents from MIL and next door)

ImNotReallyHere Wed 18-Dec-13 21:34:11

Cantheyseeme - Don't like to judge as everyone is different and everyone's circumstances are different but ur comment did make me laugh. Couldn't have put it better myself .

MincedMuffPies Wed 18-Dec-13 21:42:10

notreallyhere, I wouldn't say 17 presents are minimal fgrin

FourLittleDudes Wed 18-Dec-13 21:57:31

I haven't counted but really ought to just incase on has got loads more than the other...!

I've got 4 boys, the eldest two have quite a bit that I've bought over the last few months, got on sale or second hand\refurbished. Eldest DS is 11 and has

Kindle Fire
3 Xbox games
Gaming chair
Earphones
Xbox controllers and docking station
Xbox live
Mini fridge for his bedroom
Electric scooter
Box of sweets

Ds2 is 9

Laptop (refurbished)
Kindle fire
DS game
Bin weevil game
Trash packs
Electric scooter
Minion cushion
Box of sweets
DVDs

Ds3 is 2

Tree fu Tom doll
Mr tumble doll
My pal scout reader thing
Mike the knight toys
Toy story duplo
Rocking horse
Batman jail thing

Ds4 is 10 months

Toot toot garage
Activity balls
Squeaky eggs
Stacking cups

Poor ds4 hasn't done to well this year, but it's his birthday at the end of January so he will have a couple of things then too.

Wandastartup Wed 18-Dec-13 22:11:55

Mine have a big present each ( DD1 kindle fire,DD 2 roller skates) from us & a stocking from Santa with gloves,pants, bath bombs, a book, felt tips and chocolate each.
That's it. Am contemplating buying DD2 another doll from DD1 as she's written it on her recent Santa letter.
That is I think more than enough and they will be thrilled. How do people end up buying so much?

CalamitouslyWrong Wed 18-Dec-13 22:23:43

I wrapped everything up but didn't count.

They're each getting one big present (Star Wars lego for DS1 and the playmobil dinosaurs volcano for DS2) plus some books. DS2 has 31 (!) books, but only because the book people were selling a pack of 30 horrid Henry books for £15, which is cheaper than buying 4/5 separate books would have been, plus the Pokemon annual he desperately wanted. They're wrapped as 5 packages though. DS1 has about 7 or 8 I think. We tend to think of that as 2 presents for DS1 (Lego + books) and 3 for DS2 (playmobil + books + annual), regardless how many packages there are.

If I count how many packages are in the stockings, it will come to a very big number. But that's because I have wrapped up individual lindors and pairs of socks. Neither of them will consider socks proper presents. I'll wrap a couple of satsumas for a laugh on Christmas Eve too. DS2 has about 7 actual presents in there (felt pens, the little £1 pokemon capsules you get in the machine at sainsbos, that kind of tat things he likes) and DS1 has 4 'presents' in there (videogame/anime themed tat like key rings, a small figure, cards). It's like a lucky dip of small packages, and they love seeking out the cool stuff and laughing at socks and pants.

GreenShadowsOfTheChristmasTree Wed 18-Dec-13 23:38:24

I find this a revelation and to be honest a bit scary.

Lolalooloo - do you really think your DS needs all that ? An iphone at 17? As someone else said, it is several years Christmases and birthdays worth in this house.

DS1 (21) is getting money towards a 3DS (about half of it - other relatives will also give money for the rest)
DS2 (17) is getting a gaming mouse. Fullstop.
DS3 (14) is getting a cheaper gaming mouse and some pyjamas and fluffy slippers. The last 2 are also getting a DVD to share.

Do you all think I am mean and a cheap skate ?
This is probably the least we've spent on them for a few years, but they have all had a fairly expensive birthday present this year (or will next year in DS3's case).

youaremychocolatecake Wed 18-Dec-13 23:56:59

Every year I do the same. Promise myself I won't go mad. Buy sensibly. Get it out and think 'awww it's not enough' go out, buy loads more. Other people turn up with presents. Looks round Xmas night and feel physically sick. Start planning what we can give away to charity. Spend January skint and in need of charity myself. Viscous cycle! confused

MincedMuffPies Thu 19-Dec-13 00:00:04

green are they not getting chocolates and socks ect on top? Really just one present?

curiousgeorgie Thu 19-Dec-13 00:02:54

My DD (3) has..

Sylvanian families house
SF lodge
SF nursery
SF car
SF camper van
SF families x 3
SF furniture x loads!
Snow White dress up
Rapunzel dress up
Doc McStuffins dress up
Play make up
Play hair stuff plus clips etc
Mog puzzles
Mog books
Return to Neverland DVD
Bear and the hare book
Play guitar
Peppa pig snakes and ladders
Pop up pirate
Frozen Elsa
Frozen Anna
Milan doll
Pocahontas doll
Belle doll
Snow White doll
Sofia singing doll
Sofia tea set
Rapunzel play dough
Princess slipper set

(That seems like an awful lot but essentially we've made her a big dressing up box which takes up a lot of it!)

DD2 (6 months)

Jumperoo
Lamaze inchworm
Musical lappup
Lamaze activity balls
Lamaze fishbowl
turtle tunes
laugh & learn puppy
Huge Minnie Mouse soft toy
Musical instruments
5 in 1 little tikes activity thing.

I'm sure there's more for DD2 but for the life of me no idea what it is!

DD2 probably about 15 plus stocking.
DD1 probably about 35 plus stocking.

SummerRain Netherlands Thu 19-Dec-13 00:03:34

Big joint present from Santa, and a small thing each plus about 5 bits in the stockings each (chocs, a small toy etc)

Books, pjs and selection box each for xmas eve.

Their main present from us is a rucksack filled with bits (sports stuff for ds1, art stiff for ds2 and girly bits for dd) so hard to count up really but it'll be wrapped as one present. Then 3 smaller presents each from us.

So 10 and a third each if you count the rucksacks as one gift.

youaremychocolatecake Thu 19-Dec-13 00:05:16

My 2 totally aren't even. The eldest 4.5 has a lot more and the baby just has an activity gym and a couple of small toys. I guess it will even out as they get older smile

SantasLittleMonkeyButler England Thu 19-Dec-13 00:08:56

35 you say? 35? fshock

DD (2) has maybe 10 things to open from us/Santa. DS1 & DS2 are teenagers and have maybe 15 presents each.

And there was I, wondering if I'd bought too much!

GreenShadowsOfTheChristmasTree Thu 19-Dec-13 00:13:56

MincedMuffPies - yes they also get stocking with the usual socks, stationery, toiletries and chocs.

Luggage16 Thu 19-Dec-13 00:20:36

I always find these threads fascinating as you get a core of people who do 1 or 2 gifts, another core who do massive piles and then a few people who sit somewhere inbetween. I wonder if its regional and if so whether the inbetweeners is when couples come from 2 different backgrounds so aim for a middle ground?

Hmm ponders starting another thread of where do you live (north/south) and do you do big pile of gifts or just a couple.

MatildaWhispers Thu 19-Dec-13 00:25:59

I am amazed at how many presents some are giving children. When you add in presents from relatives, and a few for the adults, and perhaps if you have 2 or more children - where do you store them all before Xmas day? And how do you get into your living rooms or anywhere near your tree if the presents are all underneath it on Xmas day?

Matzo Thu 19-Dec-13 01:51:37

Main present to DD(7) from me/DH will be a fullsize dolls pram (to be hidden in the kitchen and wheeled out for the grand finale)

Under the tree, mixed gifts from family & Santa -

Baby doll
4 Monster High Dolls
Monster high dress-up
3 books
4 Sylvanian Family sets (smallish, all under £10each)
Pastels and watercolour paints
2 board games
1 dvd
Smelly pencils & gel pens
Pencil case
A watch
A cuddly toy

Stocking -

Orange, sweet tube, small playmobil figures, novelty pen, plush keyring, hand-warmers and chocolate coins. These will all go in the stocking from Santa.

This list seems like a lot to me and it includes the gifts that DGP, DBr & DSil (on my side) have bought. DH's family don't give anything as they live abroad.
I have other presents that we I have decided to keep aside for her birthday.
Phew! fsmile

working9while5 Thu 19-Dec-13 02:18:14

Us:
Ds1 (4) Magnatiles (£94!!! Yikes) and a powerdrill pegboard thingy.
Ds2 (18 months) Blocks (Haba, beautiful, mainly because I love them blush) and a baby pegboard.

Santa:
Ds1: Octonauts play set (17 quid), some smaller stupidly expensive Octonauts toys, crayons, stamps, hot wheels cars, yo yo and a pencil case. The all important Kinder Surprise.
Ds2: soft toy, fire engine and baby cars, sound blocks, chubby crayons and baby stamps.
FOR BOTH: Trix track and Haba ball tracks.

You see, it doesn't look lots and lots but it's about 350 quid [shame]. I literally wanted the Magnatiles and Trix Tracks so much I used Christmas money from my mother to buy them. This is the restricted social life of a pregnant woman who still throws up several times a day.

trufflesnuffler Thu 19-Dec-13 03:58:39

lolalooloo do you mind if I ask if you are a high income family? That's an awful lot of money, it must be over £2000 for all that? I would love to spoil my family like that but no matter how much I budgeted I could never afford all that! Our limit is £300 for DTC aged 14. I'm sure your DS will be delighted xmas morning!

CheerfulYank Thu 19-Dec-13 04:20:54

DS (6 years old) is getting:
*a sled
*a marshmallow gun
*some books
*a build your own rocket
*a special binder for Pokemon cards
Stocking: chocolate, a few mini Lego figures, Pokemon cards.

DD (6 months) is getting:
*a stuffed monster toy
*play keys
*a rattly ball
*a few board books
Stocking: Leg warmers, stuffed bunny, stuffed/jingly seahorse toy

Those are from us/Santa Claus. They got some clothes, pjs, Legos, from the ILs last week when we did our Christmas celebration with them, and this weekend when we go visit my parents they will get some other stuff. But those ^^ are the Christmas morning presents.

I don't think there's anything wrong with loads of gifts (it's fun to see them open them) but we don't have a lot of money and I like the experiences of Christmas more...going on drives with cocoa to look at the lights, watching our favorite Christmas movies, candles and singing in church, baking cookies, etc.

IHeardMummyDissingParcelforce Thu 19-Dec-13 07:33:32

Oh dear. Every time I try and think what the children have got, and whether or not it's fair, I come up against a brick wall.

Can I list stuff and you lot tell me if it's fair?

ds1 (10) Furby (yes he wanted it!) Punchbag (also a request) Board game, various small things.

ds2 (6) Furby, Knex big fairground thingy, (to put his moshlings in when built - which I will end up doing!) Oh I can't even remember the other things. Just little stuff - you know, bakugan, transformers bits etc.

Ds1 keeps asking for an ipod shuffle as well, and I keep thinking should I?

But then it'll go out of balance, if it isn't already...etc etc...

there are some things to share as well, a Mario 3ds game, (was cheap) and another board game and so on. Does this all sound like it's Ok?

(the furbies are from my parents btw)

Leaving out the Skylanders ex has bought for ds1 which they know they have to share. And leaving out ds3 as he is still a baby so won't care what he gets!

Alibabaandthe40nappies Thu 19-Dec-13 07:45:27

Some of these lists are obscene.

There is nothing wrong with spending a lot on a child, but it is the amount that has be aghast. It seems like spending for the sake of it, rather than buying them something that they really really want.

DisneyAddict88 Thu 19-Dec-13 07:45:29

dd1 5 has around 30 plus stocking from us

dd2 18 months has about 25 plus stocking

but have bought second hand and through the year so havent spent that much. their main gifts cost a total of £40 thats a sylvannian lodge with family furniture and a motorbike set for eldest and a storage box full of happyland for youngest grin

IHeardMummyDissingParcelforce Thu 19-Dec-13 07:53:54

Hope that wasn't directed at me Alibaba...was it?

MoominsYonisAreScary Thu 19-Dec-13 08:00:32

I have no idea, the baby seems to have the most but he's had the least spent on him. We have a budget for the older ones.

Alibabaandthe40nappies Thu 19-Dec-13 08:04:00

IHeard no, not at you - your list is very moderate grin

cantheyseeme Thu 19-Dec-13 08:13:22

A lot of the presents my 2 have are stuff they need and will really last, my fave are thr doc martens grin

Luggage16 Thu 19-Dec-13 09:43:56

I dont think any of the lists are obscene - its so relative tbh. Someone with hardly any income spending hundreds is worse than a millionaire who spends a thousand. You also have to factor in cost of individual gifts, who else in the family buys, whether gifts are a substitute for spending time with the kids (mine have a fair bit this year but we also do loads as a family as i home ed so we are together all the time and have been to a santa breakfast, had a treasure hunt, will do winter walk, have been to look at lights, going to a show etc etc) and how big the house is that has to accommodate all of this stuff after christmas!

I think 35 well thought out and decent gifts is better than 35 gifts from poundland that may well be in landfill by the end of the week!

I think there are some very lucky children who are going to be very happy come christmas day! Thats not obscene, I think its really nice!

Fantail Thu 19-Dec-13 10:23:15

DD is 2.9, so this is the first Christmas she has taken notice of.

She has asked for a a guitar from Father Christmas so is getting a ukulele. In her stocking will be bubbles to blow, a book with magnets, buckets for the beach shaped as a pyramid and the coliseum (so more for DH and I!) a glue stick and Dr Seuss ABC book.

From DH and I a Peppa Pig backpack and about 3 more books. I am still undecided on whether to get her a paddling pool for Christmas or in the sales on Boxing Day.

(We are in New Zealand which should explain the buckets and paddling pool).

She is the only grandchild on both sides of the family, so will get spoilt.

There is also the possibility that I have bought her other things during the year and completely forgotten about them.

working9while5 Thu 19-Dec-13 10:30:47

Yes last year I spent about 90 but easily 40 of it was on Poundland tat and it was a mistake. I'm about to have a
third boy and I expect the Magnatiles, ball tracks and blocks will get years of use across all three.

My general philosophy now on toy buying in these early years when they really aren't demanding is they need to easily fit in with the toys we have, have potential for long-term regular play, if possible be suitable for sharing and must be easily stored. Also a fan of things that are good for quiet semi-independent creative play.

working9while5 Thu 19-Dec-13 10:32:53

Also am a speech therapist and after kids are grown expect good quality toys to end up in clinic... so 100 quid is a lot for a construction toy now but ultimately think better value than cheapo toys for landfill in terms of play over their lifetime.

Elsiequadrille Thu 19-Dec-13 10:41:56

Come on! One of the posts here quoted approx (if my quick calculations are correct) 80 presents for one child. Not including stocking.

I do think that's slightly OTT (note I didn't say obscene wink). It would take hours to open them, not to mention the space needed to accommodate these plus the other children also with 80+ presents.

Luggage16 Thu 19-Dec-13 10:43:00

def better to buy good quality! i sold on a load of ourgrown bits and peices and got over £300. If we bought cheap that wouldnt happen but instead it has gone towards buying good quality bits again for xmas which in turn can be sold on again at a later date!

Marzipanface Thu 19-Dec-13 10:52:02

Am shocked at some of these lists.

I am now worried I am a meanie as Dd 4 yrs old has six presents under the tree.

Lego
Mobillo
Pirate ship
Happy land figures
Pillow pet
Slinky

Came to about 50 quid as some was secondhand and half price.

She also has a stocking with a large Happyland rocket, specifically asked for this, and little things like gold coins and bubbles.

Seriously, should she have more? First year she is expecting presents as last year it was still all a bit of a surprise!

MincedMuffPies Thu 19-Dec-13 10:54:02

I think some tat is alright, the finger lights my dc will love and I got my dd spy glasses that I know will get loads of play out of even if they only cost a couple of quid.

Last year I bought them mini gum ball machines out the pound shop and they still remember how cool they were and have put in requests for them this year to. which they can buy themselves since I have bought enough now

Alibabaandthe40nappies Thu 19-Dec-13 11:23:15

Luggage it is not the amount of money that I am shock about. That, as you say, is all relative to someone's income etc and people can spend their money however they like. Obviously going into debt and spending January thinking 'oh fuck how are we going to afford to eat' is another matter.

It is a sheer volume of items - surely no child is going to play with all the things that have been listed by some? It just seems a waste - volume for the sake of volume.

curiousgeorgie Thu 19-Dec-13 11:50:30

Alibabba - I think 35 well thought out gifts will be played with far more than the same volume from the pound shop. (don't get me wrong, I love the pound shop!!)

My DD has an awful lot from us but I know that she'll play with all of it. She also has probably the same amount again to come from my family, DH's family, our friends and various relatives including a Mini Cooper and a Disney doll house.

It takes about an hour and a half to open everything but there are a lot of us. I can't tell you how fantastic it is to walk into my parents living room Christmas morning to see presents not just under the tree, but filling the entire room. I can still remember standing in the doorway as a child shivering because I was so excited.

I want my DD's to have the same grin

Luggage16 Thu 19-Dec-13 11:51:05

but maybe they then put them aside and get them out through the year? Tbh its not for me, we aim for under 10 gifts (year before last was 7 between them) but I pick bits up through the year. Some people have a different approach and go beserk on the 1 day and stock them up with clothing, slippers, books etc and then wont buy through the year. tbh I think 35 can sound far worse than it actually is, couple of computer games, couple of cds, pile of books etc. Actually if i was counting books individually then my sons pile is way more than 35 gifts as he has a bookset with 30 first reader books in. Some people might say that's an excessive amount of books but we home ed so its an educational resource as well as gift. last year my daughter has to have had a similar number of books but she reads non stop and can easily get through 15 chapter books in a week if she is in the mood, I wouldnt count them as individual gifts though. I guess what I'm saying is we cant judge someone elses situation or their reasons for buying. I am happy with my happy medium, some will think its excessive, others might think its a bit stingy but my kids are happy and we aren't in debt so it works well for us. I assume people either end of the spectrum probably feel similar unless they read threads on here and then whatever they have done they will feel judged!

curiousgeorgie Thu 19-Dec-13 11:53:12

(And just to answer some other posters in general...)

We personally keep everything in our spare room from bought until Christmas Eve.

After Christmas presents go in their rooms or their playroom, and I never buy anything if I don't have space for it. We used to live in a much smaller house so DD1 never had a jumperoo because it wouldn't have fit in the living room... That's why DD2 is getting one this year grin

Luggage16 Thu 19-Dec-13 11:57:06

we tend to add to existing sets - so a new train to go in the brio box, new duplo set to go in duplo box, lego to go in lego box, new fairies to go on the shelf with the others etc. Also a fair bit is consumables like craft sets, clothes, sweets, books, bath stuff etc.

Elsiequadrille Thu 19-Dec-13 12:00:57

I'd be interested to hear where the 240+ presents mentioned (for three children), not including stockings, are stored afterwards. They wouldn't fit into our playroom and bedrooms certainly.

HappyMummyOfOne Thu 19-Dec-13 12:01:34

I dont count the number as only have one so dont have to ensure that the spend/number is the same.

Everyone has their own views on xmas spending. Some buy very little or expect their children to contribute to their presents and some like to spend a lot.

We spend a lot on DS and couldnt give a monkeys what anybody else thinks. Our choice, our earnings to spend. We also like nice food and decent presents for others and dont buy essential items or cheaper tat just to bulk out.

CalamitouslyWrong Thu 19-Dec-13 12:20:09

It also depends on how/what you're counting as presents. Some people put the shampoo straight into the bathroom cupboard, others give it as a present. Some put the tub of roses straight into the cupboard, some will give it as a present and some might break it down into individual sweets as presents. Lots of people will see 'craft stuff' as a single present, but others might count all the individual items.

I suspect those with 240 presents are designating more things as presents and counting without grouping much more than those with one or two presents. There will still be variation in how much different people buy, but I think there is also a talking a cross-purposes thing going on here.

FixItUpChappie Thu 19-Dec-13 16:50:30

Its not the amount spent or the number of gifts that makes me pause really but lists full of only technology gadgets and dvds for 10, 11, 12 year olds - we all know kids like video games but I'd like to think we should still be encouraging physical active play at these ages (and for as long as possible).

HappyMummyOfOne Thu 19-Dec-13 16:58:08

Fixit, bar maybe lego and some board games most 12 year olds dont want toys. If they already have a bike or scooter what else do you suggest? Technology is rife nowadays, no different to trends of the past, and children will often have kindles, laptops etc.

FixItUpChappie Thu 19-Dec-13 17:24:04

There is nothing wrong with technology. Nothing at all - tis the future and all that. There are board games, outdoor games, lego (as you say), action figure sets, science kits, puzzles.....there are things out there to round it out that is all I'm saying.

wonderingsoul Thu 19-Dec-13 18:39:30

im quite happy this year and iv only twitched 2..but the twitchs didnt cost me anything.

they have 6 tree presents each 6 stocking stuff, stuffing stuff that will actually be used..like bath crayons. bath letters, i refuse to buy tat that will break with in seconds. then they have 2 presents to share. so they will open say 13 each.
which i do think is deffintly enough with out going ott like have done preiviouse years.

i started moths ago and havnt paid full price for any thing except 2 things (purely be3casue they never go on sale)

i have tried really hard to really think about what they would use and enjoy. and what i know for 100 percent would be played with. instead of buying things that i want them to play with or think they would like to play with liek i have done before.
also last year they had more, half didnt get played with (see reasons above* and they where just overwhlemed by it all.

msmiggins Thu 19-Dec-13 19:01:48

Around 20 gifts each, spent several hundred pounds on each child.

All things they wil use DS has a new graphics card and RAM, DD has dance things - foot thongs, leotard, convertable tights and a mobile phone. Both have clothes, toiletries, books cosmetics, new bags etc. haven't bough any plastic tat, a few novelty items and chocolates, craft items etc.

CalamitouslyWrong Thu 19-Dec-13 19:18:03

Thing is the physical active outside stuff can't be wrapped. It's possible to buy sedentary presents (science kits and books are just as sedentary as videogames and DVDs) and still take your kids out for some exercise. The people buying their 11 year old an ipad mini probably also take him/her swimming and to parks and to beaches and on cycling expeditions and other active/outdoorsy activities. It's not either/or and Christmas presents don't cover every aspect of your family life.

Bakingtins Thu 19-Dec-13 19:30:47

Mine are getting one present each from us (small Playmobil set and remote control train) one gift they asked Santa for (big Lego set and micro machines bus) and a stocking. The stockings have 17/18 small gifts but are things like foam glider, chocolate coins, cookie cutter, finger lights, playing cards.
No doubt they will get loads more from family.
I try and fail to be restrained, it often all seems too much by the time the big day rolls around anyway. But this thread makes us look stingy!

CalamitouslyWrong Thu 19-Dec-13 19:34:14

I just spoke to my mum on the phone and, as usual, she's bought the boys more than we have. She's spent more on DS2 than we have too, and might spend more on DS1 too. Oh well, they'll love it and DH will moan.

CalamitouslyWrong Thu 19-Dec-13 19:36:41

The above is, of course, why I don't buy too much for my children. If you know family members are going to go wild, you don't want to go wild too lest you drown in Lego on Christmas Day.

msmiggins Thu 19-Dec-13 19:38:28

I think it depends on how else you buy things for your children through the year.
I only buy gifts for my kids on birthdays and xmas, apart from essential clothing items.
So if I am to buy them gadgets and toys- phones, PC, tablets, xbox, DS, etc then they have to wait until christmas.
If you never intend to buy these high value things then that's fine, but if you do they are very expensive and ultimately christmas will cost several hundred pounds.

Lizzylou Thu 19-Dec-13 19:40:54

No idea how many presents tbh, definitely not as many as 35, and well within budget.
And one of Ds1's presents is a good solid goalpost/nets Fixitup. No idea how to wrap that up.

flameprincess Thu 19-Dec-13 19:42:21

I must say I am so happy to read this thread and feel normal. A friend at work has 3 sons, of whom one now has a child of his own - she spends £300 on each of them so a total of £900 and that is before stocking fillers. I was absolutely shocked as what we do isn't particularly well paid and neither is her husband so this is a substantial amount of money.

I just do not see the point in such overspending at Xmas, I have one young DS and I have brought him one big present and a few smaller things which I'm sure he'll be chuffed to bits with and I won't be crying over my bank balance in January

msmiggins Thu 19-Dec-13 19:47:07

£300 is a usual amount for me to spend on each child, often more.

mumslife Thu 19-Dec-13 19:56:23

Mine have about 25 each but none of those presents cost over 25 pounds and many considerably less some as little as a fiver

They also have a stocking each of about 15 presents each these only cost a couple of quid each

Son has also got a computer but that is a joint birthday present from parents and sister as well as us

Daughte is seventeen and has also had some money put into her account

I would say we have speny about 300 pounds each on them and that is more than enough. dont really buY bits during the year to give to tbem have to wait for xmas and birthday. Son is 11

mumslife Thu 19-Dec-13 19:57:47

I can never seem to get mine below 300 for each child. Birthdats probably about 200

flameprincess Thu 19-Dec-13 20:04:21

Can i ask those that spend £300 and over and have more than one child, do you save in the months leading up to Xmas? This spend along with the expenditure on family gifts and Xmas groceries is just shocking to me. Though I do accept it is all relative to income, I am in low paid job therefore what seems excessive to me is normal to others.

msmiggins Thu 19-Dec-13 20:08:46

I don't save particulary for christmas no, but I am a saver, so I always have savings I can dip into if we decide on a last minute summer holiday or to pay for christmas. I do work a bit harder to earn in the run up to christmas to offset the costs though.

As you say it's relative. If I won ten million pounds on the lottery I'd possibly spend a good deal more than £300.

Thewhingingdefective Thu 19-Dec-13 20:19:21

Four children, who each have stockings with about a dozen little things each.
My two youngest kids have six bigger presents each and the older two have again about a dozen. Of those they each have one 'big' item. I'm planning to wrap a couple of massive cardboard boxes filled with balloons for the tinies too.

ShoeWhore England Thu 19-Dec-13 20:28:12

I always read these threads with interest and slight bewilderment. I don't know if it's partly because I have 3dcs close in age and the same sex but I really struggle to think of things they need . I couldn't think of 35 things to buy them if I tried! I don't buy throughout the year either, although they do get 8 or so presents from other members of the family.

If I'm honest I do wonder if the children do actually appreciate them all? Do they not just get overwhelmed by it all?

My dcs get one main present each (usually in the £50-100 bracket, although last year ds1 got an ipod touch so obviously that was a bit more) This year they wanted Harry Potter wands which are actually pretty cheap so they have a little Lego set each as well.

Then they have a stocking with small things in (satsuma, chocolate, a Christmas decoration, top trumps, spy glasses) plus a DVD and a couple of books each.

They will be really delighted with all of this.

Lizzylou Thu 19-Dec-13 20:33:45

Shoewhore, my boys are 2 years apart and this year has been hardest yet. Ds1 couldn't think of anything he wanted. Between them they have so much lego/play mobile, wii, tablet etc, I would never buy for sake of buying.
Luckily Ds1 has discovered his inner peacock gelling his hair into a stiff mess so his stocking is all about the male grooming.
They have had no more than £200 spent on them between them this year.

MoreThanChristmasCrackers Thu 19-Dec-13 20:41:09

Our older dc 22 and 19 have a med size gift bag of undies, smellies, x box game, etc and money. I will have spent £150 on each of them.
DD is only 9 and I have spent £250 on her, but that includes many necessary bits and pieces for her musical activities.

msmiggins Thu 19-Dec-13 20:49:37

shoewhore I don't find that difficult to spend money on things my kids need.

DD-
foot thongs- £17.50
Ouch Pouches- £15
Mobile phone £85
Dance bag £18
Hoodie £20
Brush set £6
Toiletries £20
Stationary £12
Electric toothbrush £17
Books £25
Leotard £18
Invisible undies £12
and more I can't remember.

It all adds up. And is all useful.

Elsiequadrille Thu 19-Dec-13 21:32:26

I'm buying DC Ouch Pouches for her stocking, msmiggins. She uses plasters and lambswool usually. Funny to see them on another Christmas list!

working9while5 Thu 19-Dec-13 21:36:41

Flameprincess I tend to begin buying in September and split it that way. Major deal hunting.

Not loaded at all. We don't drink, smoke or go out or do many other things others do like weekends away but even if we did I would want to spend money on good toys in the early years.. toys are a huge part of my daily life, I am down on the floor playing with other people's kiddos and toys on any given Monday so I have had the opportunity to see what kids like and respond to and I want to have the chance to share that with my own.

People's views on discretionary spending are hugely personal I think but play is such a fundamental part of my own life and timr with my kids 350 once a year really doesn't seem that excessive to me. I don't expect or think it should be a key expenditure for others though or think it makes me a better parent or others' worse parents for having different priorities. It's just what I want to spend my Christmas pennies on.

Luggage16 Thu 19-Dec-13 21:55:28

different situations play a real part too. My 3 year old isn't in nursery - if he was I would be looking for one with a range of toys and equipment for him so he could learn a range of skills. If a nursery had barely any toys I would probably avoid it. Because he is home with me (well out and about with me really) I probably have a 'need' for more bits than someones whose kids are in education/childcare full time. Likewise my 6 year old isn't in school so has more time to play with her toys and partake in crafts etc than the average child her age. All their toys are in constant use with a range of children too as we have a house full of children very frequently too.

msmiggins Fri 20-Dec-13 07:07:30

Elsiequadrille - ouch pouches are great- make such a differerence. My DD wasn't allowed to wear them for the first year, but things are a lot easier now wearing them.

Fantail Fri 20-Dec-13 07:24:31

I do buy for DD during the year. She isn't 3 yet and her birthday and Christmas are in close proximity. I bought her a lovely wooden kitchen just after we moved house earlier in the year and she got a scooter + helmet during winter so she could get our and about when it was too wet to go to the park.

As she gets older she will have to wait, but as a toddler/preschooler she has no concept of what other people get and certainly no one to compare with.

VivaLeBeaver Fri 20-Dec-13 07:48:11

Dd has about 20 presents from us. She's nearly 13

Her main one is a proper drum kit. She's been playing for ages and her teacher says she needs a kit at home to practice on. We got one second hand but its still more than what we'd normally spend. But its her only hobby.

Then she's got a small lego set. Everything else is stuff like books, a DVD, earrings, makeup, a hat, a onesie, a jigsaw, nail polish.

msmiggins Fri 20-Dec-13 08:06:46

Viva- what lego set did you get her? My DD is 13 too and has loved lego in the past, but the ones i have been looking at seem the wrong age or character themes she has no interest. She used to enjoy Legocity, not sure if that's still suitable.

VivaLeBeaver Fri 20-Dec-13 11:08:23

Got her a minecraft one but think they're sold out. Also if she's not into minecraft it would be useless I reckon.

How about one of the lego creator houses? Dd has a few of those and they're good.

CalamitouslyWrong Fri 20-Dec-13 11:13:28

I was in forbidden planet yesterday and they had lots of mine craft Lego sets. Very expensive though.

VivaLeBeaver Fri 20-Dec-13 11:27:58

They are more expensive than a non minecraft set. Dd is minecraft mad so it'll be worth it.

CalamitouslyWrong Fri 20-Dec-13 11:37:08

We bought Ds1 some Star Wars Lego, which is also much more expensive because of the co-branding. My mum's bought DS2 some ninjago sets, which are much cheaper because Lego don't need to buy in the rights for that.

I think the minecraft ones feel relatively more expensive because they only need a small box for the teeny tiny bits. But, the important thing is to buy what they'd actually like, however big the box!

YellowDahlias Fri 20-Dec-13 14:18:33

My 4 year old is getting from us/Santa

Furreal friends Daisy cat
Box of basic Lego
green Lego base board
Lego Friends bunny house
3 long sleeve tops
1 cardigan
1 pair leggings
3 books
new 4 person doll family for her doll house as the current ones are really manky and I want to bin them.
chocolate Santa beard
wooden spinning top + another little stocking stuffer

She's also getting pyjamas and two DVDs the night before.

It feels excessive as she'll also be getting stuff from other relatives. I bought some other stuff but I've squirrelled it away for upcoming birthdays / Christmases.

The only thing she has asked for is the walking / talking cat. I didn't buy it originally as I thought it was only a passing fancy.

AnneWentworth Fri 20-Dec-13 14:25:14

They have about 9. This includes pjs, pants, socks and clothes for the day.

They will get 4 more from relatives.

ThePlEWhoLovedMe Fri 20-Dec-13 17:14:32

hmmm not sure ...

DS2 (11) has asked for 12 books, a blanket, 2 dvd's, 1 box set DVD ...strange kid - I also got him chocolate, jeans, hoddie, pens and paper and an egg cup (don't ask!!) I offered to buy him an ipad ...he said he didn't need one. So the above is what he is getting ... everything will be in the stocking apart from the dvd box set which will go under the tree.

DS1 (23) asked for earphones. Helpful. He will be getting chocolate, smellys, couple of books, bottle of vodka and some money.

ThePlEWhoLovedMe Fri 20-Dec-13 17:18:12

Sorry just wanted to say that money is not an issue for us (very lucky I know) but I will generally only buy what they (or some of what they) ask for. Some years I have spent £500 on a main gift (laps tops) and other years like this year I doubt I have spent more then £100 in total

MincedMuffPies Fri 20-Dec-13 17:31:26

I'm really surprised I've added it all up and I've only spent almost £200 each. That's really good for me!

oneofthosedays Fri 20-Dec-13 17:32:26

2 DCs and they have got 6 presents each including their 'main' present and then their stockings which cost £15 each and have 9 small pressies in - it's a lot less than last year but I know they will be over the moon with what they have got, there was far too much with everyone else's presents last year, it was just ridiculous! Also got them nice fluffy pjs/onesies from primark for xmas eve.

AnneWentworth Fri 20-Dec-13 17:48:37

Lolo can I ask why your DS needs 4 aftershaves? What seems excessive to me is buying more than one of something. It all sounds lovely but can't get my head around that aspect.
Of course each to their own and all that and it sounds like it will be a lively Christmas.

curiousgeorgie Fri 20-Dec-13 23:25:09

A lot of people are saying how crazy it is to have loads of presents but equally I can't imagine a christmas when it's just one or two presents under the tree... Surely it's over in seconds??

MincedMuffPies Fri 20-Dec-13 23:27:48

curiousgeorge I can't help thinking how flat and boring it must be.

MoominsYonisAreScary Fri 20-Dec-13 23:38:11

Flat and boring? I think that's really rude! I've seen loads of people in the last couple of weeks talking about not being able to buy morw than a couple of presents

RhondaJean Brazil Sat 21-Dec-13 00:02:00

I honestly have no idea but I will count when I put them out on Xmas eve and report back if anyone is interested. I don't do the equal parcels thing or the equal spend thing, I have two girls with five years betweent hem and I just buy what I think they will want/like/need.

MincedMuffPies Sat 21-Dec-13 00:22:37

I prioritise christmas because I love it moomins. I'm a single mum who works part time and I don't earn a lot. Even while I was on full benefits I made sure my dc had a good christmas even if that meant buying stuff from september and going without. If people don't chose to make christmas magical and special by giving gifts as they can't get organised to buy anything nice then yes if I did that I would find christmas morning flat and boring.

It doesn't need to cost a lot, its about the thought and wanting to give your dc a magical day. I don't spend vast amounts of money but they have loads of well thought out presents. Everyones christmas is different, I love the treat yourself and indulge aspect.

MoominsYonisAreScary Sat 21-Dec-13 05:37:06

I don't think having a good christmas depends on how many presents you have to open

GreenShadowsOfTheChristmasTree Sat 21-Dec-13 08:32:32

I assure George and Minced that Christmas is NOT over in seconds just because the family do not inundate the DC with 10s of presents each!

Since when has Christmas been just about presents? We have a lovely Christmas Day - it is about family and doing things together that you might not normally do. I find it incredibly sad that Christmas for so many people on here just seems to be about presents. (And this is without even bringing the religious aspect in to it at all).

Can people not see how consumer-driven this all is? The pressures you are all succumbing to are from big business out to get you to buy as much as possible.

MincedMuffPies Sat 21-Dec-13 09:20:41

I don't buy as much as possible, I could of afforded more and more. £200 per child I have spent and the look on their faces opening the living room door will be my favourite part of the day.

Christmas to me is about gifts and nice food, booze, family, parties and being spoilt. I'm not religious I celebrate it as a festival of all of the list above.

FYI over religious aspect, Christianity originally started the gift giving to make it more appealing then the solstice.

My dc don't get stuff in the year, I don't ever buy toys or gadgets I hardly buy them magazines. So Christmas we go all out and I love it. Couldn't imagine them having 2 presents each to open.

Coconutty Costa Rica Sat 21-Dec-13 09:24:41

Mine have got loads, I don't count them though.

cantheyseeme Sat 21-Dec-13 09:34:49

Its each to their own and im sure we all make sure our own families have an ace day however many presents are under the tree!!

ShoeWhore England Sat 21-Dec-13 11:23:09

Flat and boring hmm that's really quite rude.

I happen to think our Christmas is magical. I can't quite see how a bigger pile of presents that they don't need would add to it tbh. For us it's about family time and food and nice wine and yes presents but I guess we go for a smaller number of really carefully chosen gifts over quantity. My dcs get that wow feeling, believe me.

Each to their own.

GreenShadowsOfTheChristmasTree Sat 21-Dec-13 11:40:50

Quite ShoeWhore. My sentiments exactly.

Alibabaandthe40nappies Sat 21-Dec-13 13:05:23

Ok so we finally come to the crux of it. 'I'm a better Mum because I buy a bigger pile of presents, your kids are going to have a boring day because you don't'.

hmm

Our Christmas Day is not flat and boring because we don't have lots of presents! It's just different to yours. We will have a lovely leisurely breakfast, which itself is a treat in our busy house, they can play with stocking bits. Then church is 9.15, should be home 11ish. They are then allowed to open their big present from us, we have lunch, and then they open the rest. 3pm by this point, so new pyjamas, DVD, hot chocolate and cuddles takes us to tea time then bed.

If that's flat and boring then I'm extremely proud to be a flat and boring person. Except I'm chubby rather than flat, but hey ho...

MoominsYonisAreScary Sat 21-Dec-13 13:42:20

Are they young ? £200 wouldn't buy 30 presents in this house. Unless I ignored what they asked for, or bought £50 worth of cheap bits and bobs so they had more to open.

Lizzylou Sat 21-Dec-13 14:24:02

Flat and boring fgrin
Mince, yup, your materialistic post is the very embodiment of what Christmas is all about, it's true.

GoofyIsACow Sat 21-Dec-13 14:28:57

Mine have a main present plus a dvd and a book each.

They will get gifts from GP's and other family etc.

That is more than enough here smile

fishybits Sat 21-Dec-13 14:37:38

A stocking with no present costing over £3, a present each from DH and I, DH's huge family have clubbed together to buy her an climbing frame, my parents have given her one present between them and finally a present from each of her Godparents. Her birthday is soon and apart from that she won't get anything else during the year.

I am shock at some of present piles and attitudes on here.

cantheyseeme Sat 21-Dec-13 14:38:19

I think its a bit shit teaching your kids that writing a list will get what you want, hardly a brilliant life lesson.

working9while5 Sat 21-Dec-13 16:32:21

Oh come off it. Everything doesn't have to be a massive life lesson for every possible context. Many families always use lists for Christmas well after Santa has done a runner. It doesn't mean on a rainy Tuesday in March that anyone in that family expects to get everything they want just because they asked for something at Christmas.

Some buy toys all year long, others only on these occasions. Some prefer surprises, others
certainty. Some do days out, others not. Why does any of it have to have long term meaning and be so loaded with morality? I love a good old splurge at Christmas mainly because it's what I remember from my own childhood. It's really no skin off my nose what anyone else does or doesn't do and I've no real judgement about any of it.

working9while5 Sat 21-Dec-13 16:35:43

And I might find it flat and boring to have less at Christmas but that implies absolutely no judgement another person would feel similarly. In the same way I don't like the strawberry cremes in the Roses and others go wild for them. So what if others want a different type of experience? ???

MoominsYonisAreScary Sat 21-Dec-13 17:13:46

Yes obviously children who write christmas lists will grow up thinking writing a list will get you what you want hmm

Luggage16 Sat 21-Dec-13 17:21:29

a lot of judgmental people on her me thinks!

Christmas day is what you make it and can be fabulous with 1,5,15 or 50 presents. Buying a pile doesn't mean you are spoiling your children, buying one doesn't mean you are being stingy. I have no doubt everyone here is doing what feels right for their own families and I imagine all of the children will be very happy Christmas morning!

curiousgeorgie Sat 21-Dec-13 18:42:04

Just to clarify... I didn't say that Christmas would be over in seconds, I meant the present part would be over in seconds... And surely that's the part that kids most look forward to??

Spending a solid hour and a half / 2 hours opening presents in the morning is 2 hours of pure joy. It's seriously amazing. I can't wait to sit on the floor with my DD's and just see how happy they are. ( well, the 3 year old! The 6 month old has no idea!)

It's not about life lessons, not about snobbery or spoiling them.. It's just Christmas and I want it to be magical. My DD gets loads throughout the year, and to be honest, pretty much anything she wants, but is a very lovely, generous child who will share her last smartie and any toy with anyone.

I want her to have everything she asks for... That's what Christmas is about to us.

zooweemumma Sat 21-Dec-13 18:49:10

3 dcs, 8 or 9 presents each under the tree, 10 things in stocking (small things like nail varnish, hair clips, travel size shower gel, pens etc)

zooweemumma Sat 21-Dec-13 18:51:10

I think 30 or 40 presents each is madness. Even I would start to get jaundiced after about 20!

zooweemumma Sat 21-Dec-13 18:53:49

Stockings have: nail varnish, ruler, rubber, pens, mini craft set, nano blocks, jelly belly scented candle, worry dolls, make up (for older dd), bath gel, sweets, swimming hats and a book each.

Altinkum Sat 21-Dec-13 18:58:22

My dc have a budget of £500 each, ds1 had a considerable amount more spent on him this year, as we decorated his bedroom, which cost us just under £1000. Howver he still has had his £500 spent on him, and with that he has a new xbox 360, 8 games, new turtle beach headphones, skylanders swop force, and a few figures, he also had a lot of Lego hero marvel sets, new galaxy tab 3.

Ds2 has a lot of the playmobile fire station sets, disney infinity, his brothers old xbox. Imaginext batman cave and figures etc...

Ds1 budget is all gone, ds2 budget has barely been touched, howver ds2 bundle looks considerably more, so his is going into his bank account. We save for this, they only get twice per year, and we don't have debt.

I have posted ds's gifts before on my Facebook, howver I have no family in my country, they all live in my home country, it's cheap, it's easy and fast to show family my bloody hard work.

zooweemumma Sat 21-Dec-13 19:01:23

And socks and toothbrushes!

zooweemumma Sat 21-Dec-13 19:03:20

I have a budget of 600 for 3 dcs, Dh, 4 nieces and nephews and 2 godchildren.

RobinSparkles United States Sat 21-Dec-13 19:04:18

My DC have 14 things each, not including stocking fillers as I haven't got all of those yet.

I'm pleased because I had a feeling that DD2 had more but I've just counted up and they've both got the same. We've spent the same amount on each of them but I had a feeling that DD2 had more little bits so I'm glad that she doesn't!

Moxiegirl Sat 21-Dec-13 19:08:15

Ds has one thing! (Aside from stocking stuff) it is an xbox one though. He put a lot if the money in himself though so it's not as extravagant as it sounds.
The 4 dds have quite a bit to open but I couldn't tell you how much. I try and buy sensibly now, things I know they will actually use or play with and no 'cup cake makers' or any of that crap that gets used once and never again!

zooweemumma Sat 21-Dec-13 19:11:34

Yes moxiegirl I buy sensibly also, eg dd3 desperately wants converse so she has a pair of new grey converse - happy to buy things like that rather than a furby or some other 5 minute wonder. She also has Walkie talkies which will be her fave present

zooweemumma Sat 21-Dec-13 19:23:29

Christmas is about time and tradition to my dcs. They love the gifts but even more they love the repetitive traditions, the carols, the tree, the movies, the trips to the cinema. They are not materialistic and they are always thrilled with what they get. They are lovely lovely kids and it has never occurred to me to repay that by giving them 'everything they ask for'.

Lizzylou Sat 21-Dec-13 19:26:48

Everything they ask for = rod for own back.
Let's see how that is going for you in 10 yrs time.

zooweemumma Sat 21-Dec-13 19:28:47

Woodburner babe our Christmas day is very similar to yours except we need to feed ponies and walk dogs. Totally agree re the leisurely breakfast, that's a huge treat here. If I had to watch the dcs open 50 bits of plastic crap I'd get a migraine

CalamitouslyWrong Sat 21-Dec-13 19:30:16

I really don't understand why people get so arsey about what other people do for Christmas confused.

I suspect that people whose children get everything on their lists/in their letter do the managing expectations bit at the list making/letter writing stage. They won't be expecting the moon on a stick.

sweetkitty Sat 21-Dec-13 19:41:01

I have 4 DCs eldest is 9, youngest 3.

They ask Santa for 2 gifts, they have 14 each from us not including sticking fillers.

DD1s 2 Santa presents cost £100 (-£20 for vouchers) DD2s £245 but she will love them. DSs pile will look huge but when they are little it's big boxes.

I don't really count the coat or have a budget I try and buy them things they will love DD3 has asked Santa for a blue toy elephant!

sweetkitty Sat 21-Dec-13 19:43:38

I asked a 7 year what she was asking Santa for she said "Hunter wellies" I thought that was sad. Also know a 2 year old getting an iPad. Each to their own I suppose.

I've bought DD2 some marbles she will love them grin

zooweemumma Sat 21-Dec-13 19:44:20

I'm not arsey. Probably a bit defensive about the idea that our Christmas will be flat and boring because dds haven't got 4 monster high dolls each.

And probably a bit snobby if truth be told.

zooweemumma Sat 21-Dec-13 19:46:00

Oh dear. Hunter wellies are sad? Dd3 would have said 'woof wear muck boots' - she's a girl who knows what she wants (and she wants hideous but practical rubber boots)

Mishmashofstyles Sat 21-Dec-13 19:47:33

DD (5) has a kid's encyclopedia, a book about space, a Spanish dictionary, a French dictionary, the Horrid Henry books, the Horrid Henry annual, a sparkly hairband and some clips, a big map of the world for her wall, a big map of the stars, an astronaut dressing up outfit, a colour in your own paper castle thing and a selection box.

DS (0) has a cuddly mouse, a cuddly cow, a fluffy blanket, some of those squeak eggs, new vests and sleep suits, shoes, a bath book and a VTech walker thing.

I don't know if that's a lot or a little!

Altinkum Sat 21-Dec-13 19:55:58

Mine get everything they ask for on their lists!

Ds1 school report came back and it was without a doubt "exceptional" (HT words)he has acheived over his grades and more and is currently doing Y4 work (he's Y3) he plays football 3 x a week, (2 games on a sat) he does altheltics on a Monday, dodgeball on a Tuesday, judo on a Thursday, all his coaches say he is a determined and driven little boy, who gives 100% even if he's not feeling 100%

Ds2 report was more than we expected from him (S&L delay, behind developmentally a year (bad accident which seen him hospitalised for just under a year) extreamly shyness etc... He also does outside activities and gives 100% determination to succeed!

Both have just been given most well mannered and most polite boys certificates, and also star of the years for their whole classes which will be displayed in te schools "wall of fame"

They are polite and reapectful to each other and most importantly to others.

We give because frankly they deserve it, yet are full of thankyou a, it's all I ever wanted for Christmas with each and every gift they get.

Howver that dosent mean we don't teach them everyday life skills, they are learning about money management, saving for gifts (ds1 wants a new pair of footie boots so he's currently saving for his pocket money for them) ds2 wants a sponge bob teddy so he's saving for that, they at the age if 4 and 7 can make their own breakfast (toast, scrambled egg in microwave etc...

I honestly don't get the attitude that because you give all they ask for twice a year, it means their everyday basic life skills are being neglected!, as I say countless times in here, it's not a one fits all!

Like the tedious comments, about giving a technology toy, "what about toys, let kids be kids" it's says more about you! Their is after all 24 hrs in a day with 265 days a year, being so narrow minded!

zooweemumma Sat 21-Dec-13 20:01:56

Your kids sound lovely and amazing and I would have thought have the attitude and drive is 'gift' enough. My children are also amazing (in my eyes) and also have their own challenges but I don't think that means I am short changing them by not getting them 'everything they want'. In fact, I know I am not as material stuff means very little in the grand scheme of things.

Lizzylou Sat 21-Dec-13 20:04:16

I have amazing boys too. I just don't equate Christmas, or rewarding my children, with spending loads of money on loads of presents.
You are right, there is no one size fits all. Was actually answering those who had sneered at those who hadn't bought 30+ gifts and saying Christmas must be dull for their kids because of that.
As that is obviously the spirit of Christmas. Materialism. Oh yes.

Mishmashofstyles Sat 21-Dec-13 20:10:41

I spent about £150 in total, looking at it. That's a fair amount I reckon.

sweetkitty Sat 21-Dec-13 20:18:35

zoowee - no Hunter wellies aren't sad (I'm getting a pair of Neoprene ones for Xmas to keep my toes warm dog walking) but at 7 wanting designer boots over a toy?

A lot of people count clothes as presents as well, I never have. Apart from a pair of warm socks Santa always leaves in his stocking

cantheyseeme Sat 21-Dec-13 20:21:36

Im counting clothes! since i spent stupid amounts on them, they bloomin count haha grin

sweetkitty Sat 21-Dec-13 20:26:28

No doubt I'll be counting them in a few years grin

LittleMissGreen Sat 21-Dec-13 20:30:37

This year mine are getting everything they asked for - DS1 asked for marvel lego, DS2 asked for some bakugan and DS3 asked for a dinosaur. Not hard to fulfil their wishes! Equally years when they have asked for expensive toys they haven't got what they asked for and they are well aware that Father Christmas may bring something he thinks they will like better.

Altinkum Sat 21-Dec-13 20:48:40

Zoe, your missing the point, I only buy them twice a year, so their Santa lists is what I buy them, throughout the year they don't get anything else, they get their lists and nothing more, bar Xmas and birthdays, they have to save or get nothing I between.

They clearly are driven children, they don't expect or want anything, thy ASK, they wouldn't be disappointed if they didn't get anything on their lists, one year, they didn't et anything on their lists and they still thought it was the best as ever, we can afford to buy them their gifts, so we do.

But my children don't expect anything, ds1 favourite part of Xmas is the family meal, ds2 is attending mass.

Altinkum Sat 21-Dec-13 20:55:06

And Lizzielou, yes I agree, I don't find it sad that some children only get one or two presents, what undo fine sad is a child who gets nothing, I was that child

Materlism is objects that you can live without, for me Christmas is about magic, taking time out of our heavy schedules and being with each other, having a big family meal, talking playing games, because frankly that only happens once let year. sad

Nan and grandad, nana, and grandad, SIL, BIL, nephew and nieces, etc... Just don't sit about playing board games on a weekly basis! Sadly life just isn't like that anymore.

Marne Sat 21-Dec-13 21:07:12

Mine have around 20-25 gifts each plus a stocking which contains things that cost no more than £2 each ( includes tooth brushes, chocolate coins etc.. ), dd1 is getting quite a few books and none of their gifts cost more than £30 ( most cost around £5 ), they don't get much from family ( some cash from grand parents and a couple small gifts).

sittingbythefairylights Sat 21-Dec-13 21:13:14

I was worried that I'd over done it, but I think know they have 5 each, plus stockings.

Ds2, aged 6, has 1 main present (Lego set), couple of books, joke set and a Jelly beans machine.

Actually, when I write it down, it doesn't sound too much. smile

working9while5 Sat 21-Dec-13 21:14:18

I think how people turn out is really nothing at all to do with parental choice in this regard.

I am one of two. I am personally very non-materialistic for myself. Four pairs of shoes, two coats, no music or expensive skincare/make up, no awareness of designer
brands in clothes or handbags, no awareness of cars, nothing fancy really. My money goes on books and hobbies during the year, choir and sewing. Ultra sedate. My sister won't look at a dress if it's not Prada, drives a gas guzzler, has whole wardrobes of shoes and designer bags etc. We had the same sort of Christmas as children and similar household incomes as adults though I possibly earn more. I don't know how she pays for it but if I won lotto tomorrow I just don't have much interest in that stuff. Dh is one of three and one sib is a high roller with the best of everything, the other is a doctor who shops only at Aldi and has never had a new car. He's sort of inbetween. Envies flash cars and spends a fortune on his interests but all his clothes are years old and falling apart and he doesn't buy much. They had very minimal presents as kids.

Honestly? The people I know in high pressure City jobs etc are all massively consumerist and many of us who aren't pushed by stuff are in solid boring professional jobs in modest homes saving for the things that are of personal interest and value. There's just no correlation and neither are consumerist friends morality free fiends living off Moet with others sandal wearing professional do-gooders living in shacks and eating the Guardian. I very much doubt anyone's life course is dictated by how big or small a pile they got at Christmas in any predictable way.

masquerade Sat 21-Dec-13 22:02:46

I've just wrote a list and my daughter (age 10) has 15 presents to unwrap from me, then a stocking with another 5-6 small gifts - pens, hair bow, science putty etc and some chocolate. Her presents mostly cost £2-20 apart from a zoo keeper experience which was £70 (I'm going to wrap this in lots of boxes, because it's her main present but to open is just an envelope). She'll also have another 5-6 presents from my mum and 3 from friends to open on Christmas morning. Another 15-20 (depending on how they're wrapped) from other family during the day. And more from her dad a couple of days later.

Not bad for the girl who didn't really want anything (apart from books - and she has got all of the books she wanted and more)!

SquirrelNuts Sat 21-Dec-13 22:09:42

I just counted mine from my list and DD has 13 less present than DS, glad they're too young to realise!

ElfontheShelfIsWATCHINGYOUTOO Sat 21-Dec-13 22:13:27

Great post working fgrin

ElfontheShelfIsWATCHINGYOUTOO Sat 21-Dec-13 22:15:07

I got our books off Amazon, the globe was 20 and the other big was 35, everything else has been very cheap.

iheartdusty Sat 21-Dec-13 23:53:07

I feel content with the choices I have made, and I think the DC will be very happy. Each DC has one big-price gift they asked for, from us, plus a 'wow' surprise from Santa - total cost for those four things is about £300 for both children but I have used vouchers and bargain hunted so it has come in at less.

Then they have a stocking each, a big box of books to share, and 2 smaller items each from us, in the £10-£20 range. TBH I probably could have done the stockings more cheaply - they include choc coins, pens, erasers and notebooks, but also a couple of little things that were £8-£10 and they do add up.

This year I haven't done presents from each DC to the other. If they ask I will take them to poundland or something similar.

Luggage16 Sun 22-Dec-13 00:04:03

have just been through the whole list of bits we have again and split them between stocking style gifts (<~£5) and main type gifts (£5-40) as when I said it before I had a lot of cheap gifts on their main list rather than stocking list. They have about 20 stocking fillers (t shirts, sweets, books etc) and 9 more significant gifts (furby, schleich figures, keyboard, lego, playmobil etc) each.

It is sooo much more than we usually buy so I keep having minor panics we are spoiling them this year. But it is a 1 off - next year I will aim for very low key - 1 main and a handful of cheaper bits and pieces.

TikkaTurkey Sun 22-Dec-13 00:21:49

I haven't counted. I don't think we've got them loads, but when you count up everything in the stocking, and then the main present, and the amount of presents they'll get from great grandparents/grandparents/aunties/uncles, they'll end up with a lot!

dashoflime Sun 22-Dec-13 00:26:21

11
2 from me
4 from DHs mum and Dad
2 from my mum and Dad
2 from other relatives
1 from his childminder

He is 18 months old. It is ridiculous. DM is visiting and has pointed out that I got 1 present at the same age. Am a wee bit blush

Altinkum Sun 22-Dec-13 07:54:02

I disagree, working, I know millionaires, who are incredibly tight, I also people know like myself who buy twice per year, its all irrespective, simply because its down to the individual personalities who is giving the gifts.

as long as your teaching life skills, and raising respectful children, then a few gifts a year wont make any difference whats so ever.

I don't think professionalism comes into it tbh.

MoominsYonisAreScary Sun 22-Dec-13 10:45:07

Dash looking at my I'm on list your post comes up as 112 presents! grin

AnneWentworth Sun 22-Dec-13 10:46:08

We don't do stockings either. We have books, socks etc all under the tree but it still totals 9.

I think everyone's Christmas sounds lovely and as mentioned before each to their own.

MoominsYonisAreScary Sun 22-Dec-13 11:41:08

I haven't counted the little ones presents, the youngest is 10 months , his birthday is the beginning of feb (all 4 are in feb) we don't tend to buy things later in the year so they have some presents that they will grow into. The 10 month old has a push along walker and the 2 year old has a balance bike and scooter that he will probably get more use out of in the summer.

working9while5 Sun 22-Dec-13 12:15:36

My point was there is no correlation or morality to it. I wasn't judging millionaires as immoral, just stating most people I know drawn to high end high pressure jobs tend to enjoy consumerism and perhaps have chosen high paying jobs to facilitate. Bill Gates clearly doesn't fit this bill though.

The grand point was actually that it has nothing to do with life skills or outcomes whatsoever. Kids who get loads don't up ipso facto end up demanding little buggers, kids without massive piles don't feel unloved. It's all a load of fuss over nothing and really not a big deal how you choose to do it.

Marne Sun 22-Dec-13 13:33:41

My dh doesn't have a high end job (far from it) but we go OTT at Christmas, we know people who have a lot of money but only buy their dc's 1 or 2 gifts (though their children get other things we could not afford such as private schooling and riding lessons).

To the people who only buy a couple of gifts for their dc's, what do your dc's play with throughout the year (not being nasty, just nosey)? do they get a lot of gifts from family? If I only bought my dd's 1 or 2 toys they would not have anything to do all year (one toy might get broken or they might get fed up with it ). I try and buy things that will last all year (craft items, playdough for rainy days, musical instruments and play sets as well as useful items), every item is thought out carefully and is not tat. I wouldn't mind buying less if I knew they were getting more from family but our family doesn't really bother too much and they never ask 'what sort of things do the dd's like?' so mainly give cash or clothes.

msmiggins Sun 22-Dec-13 15:07:03

Good point Marne. My children only get gifts at christmas and birthdays- no other times of the year.

Children do benefit from toys- if they only get 2 or 3 gifts at christmas then when do they get baking sets, trampolines, books, jigsaws, craft items, bicycles, dressing up clothes, gardening sets etc?

As Marne says all these things are life enhancing for children, do the kids that get only one or two gifts have to do without all these things?

I'm not a tat buyer either but I like to shower my children with things they will enjoy/stimulate creativity.

Branunion Sun 22-Dec-13 15:51:33

Mine have never had a trampoline. Bikes have been given for birthdays. I do buy the odd thing through the year. They get about 8 gifts each at Xmas.

Marne Sun 22-Dec-13 16:23:03

Do they get gifts from family and friends though Branunion?

We did buy a trampoline a couple years ago (not for birthdays or Christmas) but other than that we don't really buy them anything, sometimes they get money from grandparents (when we visit) so then they can buy themselves something and sometimes they pick things up at a boot sale but other than that Christmas is when they get good toys, birthdays they get one toy (and maybe some books). Dd2 gets through quite a lot of art stuff and playdough so I buy a load for Christmas, once she has opened her presents some bits are put back for later in the year. Last year the dd's had a trike as a joint present (as they are not keen enough to have one each), they both have co ordination problems so cant ride a normal bike, this was the most I have spent on birthdays.

MincedMuffPies Sun 22-Dec-13 16:29:26

I always use christmas to stock up on pens, pencils, glitter, glue, paints, paper, sketch books, baking stuff, outdoor stuff ect ect. I buy toys for the year ahead.

I can never get into my head how some people can be so smug about a small christmas but buy their dc toys all through out the year. My dc don't even ask me for stuff through out the year as they know it will be a no.

cantheyseeme Sun 22-Dec-13 16:34:03

I dont buy toys through the year but when the weather is better we do things like days out lots so they wont be bored, but then i suppose when we go into town and dd wants a £1 colouring book i dont class that as toys.

feathermucker Sun 22-Dec-13 16:52:16

D'you know what - buy what you want and spend what you want.

It does NOT make you a better/worse parent if you get them more/less. If someone wants to buy their son an iPhone 5, what does that have to do with anyone else?! Similarly, if someone can only afford a few bits, it does NOT make their children/s Christmas boring or otherwise.

My son has...

Mad Gear Pro Scooter (2nd hand)
Battleship
Helmet
Guinness Book of Records
Domino Express
Remote Control Helicopter
Hexbug Nano V2
Stocking full of Poundland/99p store bits

Christmas, what it means etc is very personal to each and every person on here. Personally, I LOVE seeing him opening presents. I spend what I can afford - if I can afford a lot, I spend it grin

Generally, I can't lol

dashoflime Sun 22-Dec-13 19:42:33

Moomins grin I would have won!

Belgianchox Sun 22-Dec-13 20:57:48

Mine each have 1 main (lego set), one board game each, couple of books/annuals, clothes, dvd set + pop corn to share, and stockings. They have a about 9 parcels each, including gifts from dgp. I keep veering from thinking it's far too much, to is it enough? I know it is enough, of course, wish i could convince myself it's not too much. Doesn't help having a dp who declines all responsibility for Christmas, but at the same time thinks the dc should really only open 1 present under the tree from us. I grew up with z big pile (albeit full of smallish stuff) and sometimes a big present, depending on the year/needs etc. It's such a minefield.

Marne Sun 22-Dec-13 21:30:31

When I was a child I got a sack of presents but my parents cheated a little and put all the presents from family in the sack, Santa gave us one large gift ( around £30 ) and several smaller gifts which were things like felt tip pens, colouring books, socks, pants and some chocolate ( remember those plastic money boxes full of chocolate balls?). as we go older the presents got less, when I was 10/11 we stopped having sacks and just had a couple of gifts under the tree. We didn't have a lot of toys, spent most of our time playing in the garden or out on our bikes grin sadly things have changed.

Skogkat Sun 22-Dec-13 21:31:24

My DC don't do lists.

They have a shared present (a hutch/run/equipment) because we are adopting three guinea pigs on the 28th (it was planned ages ago but a health issue meant we had to wait a further two months for them to be healthy enough to be adopted, so not buying a pet as a Christmas present, but them coincidenticslly becoming one).

Then they each have 2 medim present each (e.g an art set or something), a small present each + a 'movie set' (a pair of slippers, pyjamas and DVD, and a small bag of sweets) each and stockings. So 7 packages each + stockings, + shared present.

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