I'm having THAT panic...the presents don't look much!

(70 Posts)
TripTrapTripTrapOverTheBridge Tue 10-Dec-13 14:26:33

Ok,so I've got all ds presents.30 in total including a giant trike (he's 14) yet because most of the presents are smallish size wise (dvds,games etc) it doesn't look like much when you consider the trike is far too big to go under or near the tree.

Stop me panic buying too much blush

Nessalina Tue 10-Dec-13 14:28:25

Have you wrapped them yet? Presents always look pathetically small unwrapped! Wrap everything, pretty bows & all, and if it still looks like not enough, you're allowed to buy one more large (volume not price!) present... wink

starfish4 Tue 10-Dec-13 14:30:15

The main thing is he has presents and it will take a while to upwrap 30! Also, I guess there are other presents going under the tree, so I'm sure there will be a massive pile Xmas day.

TripTrapTripTrapOverTheBridge Tue 10-Dec-13 14:32:42

No,no other presents.We're on our own!
Ok,I can buy one more present...just one...hmmm

randomquicknamechange Tue 10-Dec-13 14:33:01

I am having that wobble. DS's pile looks much smaller than DDs even though he has more presents, I need to buy her more though as the way we unwrap a present each in turn means we need equal number piles.

OrnamentalAsAnything Tue 10-Dec-13 14:40:03

A bulky hoody/sweater?

DustyBaubles Tue 10-Dec-13 15:24:27

I am the master of over buying, but I'd say thirty presents for one person is more than enough.

I can't see how thirty things would look disappointing, especially if your idea of small is DVD/game sized.

princesscupcakemummyb Tue 10-Dec-13 15:49:15

i think you have plenty their my daughters aged 4 & 2 have 10 presents each spent about 200 each on them

my son who is 5 weeks has 28 presents how ever the value was much less at a total spend of 50

DiseasesOfTheSheep Tue 10-Dec-13 16:07:30

Does that include stocking junk?! How can thirty presents look small?!

DustyBaubles Tue 10-Dec-13 16:09:03

You'll have to put up a photo showing how thirty gifts can look small now, otherwise we'll tahe this as a stealth boast grin

gamerchick Tue 10-Dec-13 16:13:51

30 presents for a 14 yr old??

Fuck me... mine wanted a laptop and that and a decent outfit with shoes is all he's getting.

30!! And you think it's not enough? Jesus hmm

TripTrapTripTrapOverTheBridge Tue 10-Dec-13 17:26:44

It really doesn't look like that much.Under the tree is usually so filled there's no space or carpet in site.It just doesn't 'look right' to me lol

SashaOfSiberia Tue 10-Dec-13 17:37:40

I wouldn't worry, but I had the same panic on saturday when I wrapped my presents. Looks much less for the older ones than younger ones because its more games and aftershave than great big toys.

I went out and bought some selection boxes, Calendars, Vests, and some little lego kits to even it out a bit. All relatively cheap and a bit boring but nice to have to unwrap.

eatyourveg Tue 10-Dec-13 17:41:14

30!! my dc are getting 3 each (they usually have 4) Max spend for each dc is £35-40 ds3 is getting a ps3 game off ebay and he's contributing 50% of the cost from his savings. Does anyone ever really appreciate having 30 presents?

3monkeys Tue 10-Dec-13 17:44:07

My 14 year old has about 8 or so!! One is a tablet, so the other 2 have a few more. 30 is loads

I was worried that I hadn't gotten enough for DS this year. He's 12 and at that awkward age. I wrapped it all today. It's loads. Although I did things like wrap underwear separately! Wouldn't normally but it's jack wills and even in sale it was expensive! I also got him a huge bar of dairy milk and a box of Haribo cola bottles! Bulks it out but not much extra cost and he will love it.

I haven't counted how many but it's more than he is expecting as his main present is expensive.

Doitnicelyplease Tue 10-Dec-13 18:17:32

I am sure it is plenty, but if you really want to bulk it out buy him a cheapish jumper or dressing gown they look big wrapped up.

I am sure what you have got is plenty though, if you are worried about the pile under the tree why not buy yourself something and add it too the pile? Why does everything need to be for your son?

TheArticFunky Tue 10-Dec-13 18:31:47

30 is loads for a 14 year old. I honestly don't know why you are worrying.

Primadonnagirl Tue 10-Dec-13 18:40:01

A fourteen year old should appreciate cost , effort , thought etc. so hopefully he won't be appreciating the sheer volume . Buying presents for " bulk" is totally missing the point in my view

bellabom Tue 10-Dec-13 18:44:30

What are you worried about exactly? If your kid is disappointed with 30 presents then it is spoilt and should get a lump of coal next year wink

Marne Tue 10-Dec-13 18:59:05

30 presents, plus a trike sounds plenty, I think my dd's have around 25-30 gifts but they have no large/main present as such, it looks loads but a lot of it is things they need and will last the year. My dd's are 8 and 10, my 10 year old's pile looks a lot smaller as she has asked for ds games, dvd's and pokemon figures, dd2 is still into plastic tat which costs a lot les and comes in bigger boxes as well as pokemon (always wants what her sister has), also they have quite a lot of books. Dsd who is 14 only has about 5 gifts as she will be getting some cash to spend in the sales (I have got her a satchel, some make up, a purse, slippers and some bubble bath). I think at the age of 14 they should realise how much things cost, I try and explain to dd1 (when she writes her list) that the things she has asked for will come in small boxes so will not look like much but will have cost more money than her sisters file of plastic tat, she excepts that and is happy smile.

msmiggins Tue 10-Dec-13 19:00:57

A space hopper? Bean bag? Dressing gown- all bulky and relatively cheap.

msmiggins Tue 10-Dec-13 19:01:31

If it's any consolation I haven't started christmas shoppping yet!

starkadder Tue 10-Dec-13 19:05:08

30!! Ours get one each! And a stocking of course. But they have lots of uncles and aunts and grandparents which does make a difference. But I think that sounds like plenty smile

Artandco Tue 10-Dec-13 19:08:44

We only have one under tree and the rest in a stocking. I don't even feel mean. That's a main present ( bike each this year), and about 10 things in stocking ( tshirt, choc, small tic tack toe, yoyo, socks, small kite, bike bell and light and will get another thing or two probably)

That's seems like loads this year!

Golddigger Tue 10-Dec-13 19:11:32

Is your name supposed to give us a clue? smile

TripTrapTripTrapOverTheBridge Tue 10-Dec-13 19:29:30

No golddigger the name comes from years back when I was a member of the dark side and mn invaded us LOL

Ds won't care how many presents there are.Nor does cost or anything matter to him-he's severely autistic.

It's just me and I think it'll look a bit pants

Golddigger Tue 10-Dec-13 19:47:07

There are some years, especially when someone is a teenager, that the presents can look a small lot, when actually, generally, more money has been spent than normal.

Marne Tue 10-Dec-13 20:55:35

Trip trap, I'm sure he will have plenty and he will love the trike, we got dd2 one for her birthday ( she also has ASD ), I find with my dd's if they get too much smaller things then they end up not touching the main thing they asked for as they are overwhelmed ( though dd2 often finds the cheapest of items more fun than the main presents so often ends up playing with something that was bought from the pound shop and ignoring the big items ). I'm sure he will love what you have got him and as long as you have bought items he has asked for or shown interest in he will be happy, I have tried to get things for the dd's that will feed there obsessions ( mainly pokemon but dd2 also loves music ) so I know they will be happy with what I have bought them.

Ragwort Tue 10-Dec-13 20:58:17

I think there is something seriously wrong if you don't think 30 presents is enough? hmm confused

DziezkoDisco Tue 10-Dec-13 21:17:02

Ignore those doubts, its is enough, probably too much. Just stop buying stuff!. Change your amazon password to something unmemorable.
And save our money.

It will be fab. He will love his trike, be happy with one of the cheap pressies and forget about the rest if my DC are anything to go by.

DziezkoDisco Tue 10-Dec-13 21:17:40

Our instead of your may have been a slip.

ShinyBauble Tue 10-Dec-13 21:25:24

Bulk it out with satsumas, socks, toiletries and a chocolate stocking.

And I don't think anyone should eyebrow raise over the 30 presents thing. it could be books cheap dvds for all you know. My DS will have a good pile of things to open, but I can't afford to buy him a laptop!

VworpVworp Tue 10-Dec-13 21:42:37

"a giant trike"? confused

Is this a thing then?

A real thing?

I have never seen such a thing...

ShinyBauble Tue 10-Dec-13 21:56:07

Children and teens with autism can have trouble with the co-ordination required for a two wheeler. A three wheeler provides more stability.

My 14 yo DS will have a feeble present pile because......
at his request he wants:

money
Game Voucher
Game microsoft points

So that's 3 small money wallets.
Then I have to bulk it out. DH has bought him some techy things

DD, on the other hand, has about a millionty grin

They have stocking gifts and Christmas Eve Hampers before DS gets out the Worlds Smallest Violin fwink

WhizzFucker Tue 10-Dec-13 22:19:34

Don't buy more stuff just for the size factor!

How about putting smaller things into bigger boxes with scrunched up newspaper, popcorn or whatever? It would have the added bonus of disguising the present (he won't be able to guess what it is from the shape) and take longer to unwrap...

I'm very much in favour of a box-in-a-box-in-a-box for small things.

VworpVworp Tue 10-Dec-13 22:40:33

Ah, thanks shiny, so it's probably specialised item then, and cost a small fortune?
OP- save your money- 30 sound slike loads!

DrinkFeckArseGirls Tue 10-Dec-13 22:43:03

Erm, DD will be having one present. It's really bizarre to me why people would buy so many. Don't your DC forget about the first one by the time they get to the fifth or 10th o e. I'd find upsetting that the gifts get abandoned. Do your DC appreciate the effort?

TripTrapTripTrapOverTheBridge Tue 10-Dec-13 22:47:51

He won't forget.He often has random wants though!

I may just get a large chocolate thing to bump it up.Haven't done his stocking yet and that will largely be practical things like (sonic)pants and socks.

It's just that 'thing' where it looks less than before even when it isn't.

But I may buy myself a present or two.Keep planning to get a new bag but in reality struggle to think of anything I really want!

busylizzie76 Tue 10-Dec-13 22:53:38

30 wow.....you're going to make me panic.

My DCs (6&7) have about 10 things to open including stocking fillers......some are small and expensive some much cheaper, like sweets.

Must not buy more!wink

Locketjuice Tue 10-Dec-13 22:54:28

Go on 4od and watch the programme that was on this evening presented by myleene klass about Xmas presents.. Made me feel guilty for buying so much when they were saying the children will be grateful to have A PRESENT to unwrap unlike other years when they had nothing!

It will bring you back to reality and stop you feeling guilty wink

ShoeWhore Tue 10-Dec-13 22:56:31

30 presents is plenty op!

I think it's normal for the present pile to start to look smaller as they get older as well. It's all OK.

locketjuice that made me feel guilty too especially as I was wrapping ds's mountain of presents at the time sad and especially as I used to work with children for whom that was a reality sad ( yes I did get them a little something).

I echo the idea of getting something for yourself, so go and get that bag!

merryxmasyafilthyanimal Tue 10-Dec-13 23:04:58

Only 30? Poor show OP!

Not really. It sounds far, far too many,

BeaWheesht Tue 10-Dec-13 23:49:48

Well you know you're being ridiculous and I know you're being ridiculous but I totally understand because I had a similar panic re ds (7) so I admit I've bought him a couple of books to bulk it out but he adores a book so it's money well spent -- I keep telling myself--

I agree re the kids who get nothing though, just too horrible, I've donated quite a few gifts this year to the local collection but it just feels like a drop in the ocean.

DrinkFeckArseGirls Wed 11-Dec-13 09:45:04

Incan see some people were sold on the American movies grin Huge Christmas trees, piles of presents. I'd like to know if your DC remember the next year what they got.

TripTrapTripTrapOverTheBridge Wed 11-Dec-13 10:14:05

He remembers everything,even the paper it was wrapped in grin

Dig all you like,I can afford to buy what I buy him and I love buying presents,even the bizarre random ones!We don't have family etc and due to being with him every second when he's not at school and playing with him every second,the only things that make Christmas any different from a normal day is the presents (and opening and playing with NEW things),the turkey and the music we listen to and films we watch.

LaRegina Wed 11-Dec-13 10:15:30

Present piles always look smaller as the DC get older - my youngest is getting big (sized) toys whereas my teen is getting mainly dvds & video games, so they look a bit duff in comparison. My solution is that I have one big mixed up pile around the tree so the DC have the search through for their presents & nobody can tell who's pile is the biggest - and I disguise my teen's small things by putting them in big boxes - it's more fun that way anyway smile

Although I have to say 30 does sound like a big pile anyway - are you including tiny stocking stuff in the 30?

LaRegina Wed 11-Dec-13 10:17:44

Trip I wasn't having a dig btw - I was just genuinely saying with 30 you don't need to worry! I buy what many would probably consider too much for my DC at Christmas but I don't get into debt to do it and I don't buy tat - it's all stuff they will use (mostly!). And I don't buy them stuff all year apart from necessities - any other toys/games they want, they save up for. So Christmas is our one big blow out and I love it smile

jester68 Wed 11-Dec-13 10:26:05

I thought the same thing at first as my 7 year old is having a bike but her other presents are things like DS games, DVDs, CDs etc which are all smaller.

But my 3 year old seems to have big boxes even though money wise I have spent less on her.

But wrapped them all up now and to be honest it doesn't matter as my eldest is getting what she would like and she already understands that her presents might be smaller as they are into different things.

They have about 20 presents each to open (though we don't do stockings).

I wouldn't worry and at 14 would have thought your son would understand the value of things and know that some of his things are small but that they are still expensive

SpookedMackerel Wed 11-Dec-13 10:38:40

Can't you wrap huge box - maybe with bicycle/tricycle paper if you can find it. And then in the box put a big picture of where you are going to hide the trike - maybe a picture of the corner of the garage door, or the wood grain on the shed door or wherever. And maybe a big arrow if necessary, to tell him he needs to go there to find it?

NoseWiperExtraordinaire Wed 11-Dec-13 10:38:42

Don't know if this is possible for you, but could you get some tiny polystyrene balls (stuffing from an old toy/cushion?) and fill a big box with the smaller presents to make a kind of snowy lucky dip? Wrap the whole thing up?

Am thinking of doing something similar as one of our cushioned trays burst yesterday!

Golddigger Wed 11-Dec-13 10:39:15

Just to remind people that her son is severely autistic.

Triptrap. Perhaps you could fill up the gaps with some decorations of some sort? [I am no good with decorations so someone else will have better ideas than me].

Golddigger Wed 11-Dec-13 10:39:50

ooh, nice x posts!

NoseWiperExtraordinaire Wed 11-Dec-13 10:40:07

x post spooked - great idea!

DrinkFeckArseGirls Wed 11-Dec-13 12:17:34

grin that your DS remembers everything!

mumslife Wed 11-Dec-13 12:23:08

have the same worries here each have about 25 dd 17 ds 11. Daughter also getting money and son has a computer from us and family also for his birthday.
works out about 350 each but doesnt look much! especially my daughter.

The 25 each doesnt include sons computer speakers screen etc,

am having a bad twitch!

mumslife Wed 11-Dec-13 12:25:22

also they have a stocking each filled with cheap bits stationary chocolate etc

mumslife Wed 11-Dec-13 12:29:25

must admit some of the 25 presents are cheapy things like selection boxes etc. Am wondering about buying a sack each to put them in or mixing them up around the tree do normally put them in two separate piles

lostdomain Wed 11-Dec-13 13:46:34

Triptrap, 30 presents is LOADS. How many will he get you? Don't set the bar so high. Wrap the trike in fairy lights and stick it under the tree with the lights switched on if you can. Put some presents in a stocking. Put some on the tree, put any bulky ones under the tree. Maybe it's better to have them spaced out through the day than a giant pile under the tree. he's 14. he's old enough to appreciate what you give him without you going over the top.

If you have to buy something else, get stuff he needs anyway: nice jumper, gloves, PJs etc.

I'm bulking out presents with stuff they were going to get anyway: new dressing gowns, fluffy blankets,sports gear, music gear. Stuff they actually need. But it helps fill up the smaller pile of stuff they want (CDs, DVDs, books, cheap smart phone.

LaRegina Wed 11-Dec-13 13:52:26

Yep new dressing gowns are a brilliant pile plumper - as are beanbags smile

Marne Wed 11-Dec-13 14:30:20

Have some people missed the post that states he is autistic?

I don't know about the op's ds but I know with my dd's ( who are autistic ) each present has to have a 'wow' factor ,getting a reaction from a autistic child can be hard. If my dd opened a dressing gown she would just chuck it on the floor, it's not that she's ungrateful ( she would probably wear the dressing gown every day ) but to get any kind of reaction from her the items have to be linked to something she really really likes ( pokemon, moshi monsters or music ), I wouldn't waste my time wrapping up items such as dressing gowns, clothes, pj's or pants because it would be a waste of time. I know that makes it sound like our kids our ungrateful but really they are not, a nt teenager can manage to open a present and say ' oh, thank you very much, that's just what I wanted' even if its something they don't really like or something that does not excite them, but our kids can't lie grin.

I buy quite a lot for my dd's, each item is thought out ( will they like it, will it get used and will they smile when they open it?) and I buy a lot so I get to see them smile, jump and flap as there are not many things that make them this excited.

Op, I hope you have a fab Christmas, I'm sure he will love his trike and anything else you buy him but don't feel the need to buy him extra as chances are he won't be too bothered by such items, buy him what he has asked for or shown interest in.

Marne Wed 11-Dec-13 14:31:56

Both my dd's remember what they had last year smile.

VworpVworp Wed 11-Dec-13 20:35:24

Ha- Marne- my DD is exactly the same with clothes as presents! grin

She's not over-enamoured by books for presents either, though she reads dozens a month hmm

LadyMacbethWasMisunderstood Wed 11-Dec-13 20:37:25

My 3 DCs are NT but I still get the worry that the presents might disappoint. I'm like you OP. I buy loads for my DCs. As much as I can afford without getting into debt. They are not spoiled. They are always grateful and, yes, even with a huge pile, the older 2 ( youngest is only 2) will remember what they have. Although 30 presents sounds a good amount I can sympathise that bit might not look a huge pile.

As you say your DS remembers what presents are wrapped in I wondered if you could do what I sometimes do and make a 'thing' of the wrapping - have little gifts like chocolate coins inside the outer layer of a double wrapped parcel. Maybe cellophane on outside so you can see the coins under the top layer. That looks great. And stick chocolate tree decoration on another like a gift tag. And buy a box of tiny tree crackers and adorn some of the presents with these. Also use gift boxes and bags. It will all look special, more impressive and take longer to open.

If you are wanting one more big impact item ( but I might let you have 2) what about a large torch, a big soft blanket for lounging or a giant jigsaw you can do together. Or a popcorn making machine - you mention watching films together.

Have a great Christmas.

dumdedah Thu 12-Dec-13 08:52:12

The Works have 2 for 10 pounds on large storage boxes. Could get a couple (in style that he likes), fill with tissue paper with the small gift/s sitting on top - maybe DVDs in one box, games in the other... Could even individually wrap the DVDs etc if you think he'd like that.

Marne Thu 12-Dec-13 13:28:44

I have just spent ages sorting out the dd's presents, putting them into piles to see how big their piles look and if they look the same, they have around 20 presents each, dd2's pile looks much bigger ( due to plastic tat in big boxes) but both piles still look like plenty smile, they both have the main things they have asked for but not everything on their lists as dd1 asked for 5 ds games (have got her one and a gameboy game ), I'm sure they will be very happy with what they have got.

SunshineAndPeardrops Thu 12-Dec-13 15:46:22

What was the name of the programme that Myleene Klass was on? It was mentioned upthread.

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