How many adults do you buy for and how much do you spend?

(57 Posts)
brokenshoes Fri 22-Nov-13 16:28:36

Between us, DH and I buy presents for:

Each other
My parents / PILs
My sister
His sister
Two grandads

We spend about £20 per head. Doesn't sound much each, but just realised that's £200!

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Ragwort Fri 22-Nov-13 16:44:28

I buy my parents a charity gift (£25) and make up a hamper of food (£30 ish). My best friend (£20) and my DB & SIL (£10 total).

That's it grin. No ILs. No Grandparents & don't buy for any other siblings or DH's siblings. I might buy myself something and tell my DH it is 'from him' can't stand his taste in presents.

RobinSparkles Fri 22-Nov-13 16:48:53

I only buy for my mum. We buy for MIL and FIL but DH sorts them.

Me and my sister usually only buy each other's DC but they're buggering off on holiday this year so we're not bothering smile.

RobinSparkles Fri 22-Nov-13 16:49:42

Oh and DH.

Forgot about him grin.

There are 12 adults on my list other than DH.

Dsis x3
Bil x2
Bro x1
Mom x2
Dad x2
SMom x2
SDad x2
Nan x1

I always say it is £10.00 per person - but I spend about £15 really - well on my mom I spend £40ish, and my Dad £50ish... because I do the shopping and I like my family more than Dhs grin luckily so does Dh grin

Jesus that's a lot!!!

VerySmallSqueak Fri 22-Nov-13 16:53:22

We do not buy for adults,by agreement made when so many children arrived in our families.

ArabellaBeaumaris Fri 22-Nov-13 16:58:10

I hate this. Generally I can't afford to buy for all the adults I should buy for so I make fudge/chutney/something similar but never plan ahead & always have a hectic December!

DP
SIL & BIL
My 2 brothers
DP parents
My parents
6 of my friends (argh! 4 of them have birthdays in Dec too!)
Technically should also do DP's 2 aunts & gran but we generally just send them a kid craft present.

So that's 15 adults plus 3 that I generally get away with spending v little on - but 18 overall.

Plus 6 children.

amothersplaceisinthewrong Fri 22-Nov-13 17:00:59

Four in my extended family, four in DHS extended family.

Plus each other and our two young adult children and two young teenage nephews of DH.

£30ish a gift for extended family so around £300 on them. £150 on each of our kids and £100 or so on each other.

I buy for my mum and dad, 2 sisters, 1 brother and their partners, dh Nan and 2 aunts. Ive bought a joint present for each couple and got a stocking filler for the men, and a handmade bracelet for the women. Dh has bought his Nan a Christmas jumper with Rudolf on grin

timidviper Fri 22-Nov-13 17:13:57

My Mum
A donation to charity in memory of my lovely Dad
PILs
BIL
SIL
...so 4 = a donation

but children are now grown up so could also include DS, DS's girlfriend, DD, DD's boyfriend, DNephew and DNiece in that total too

MrsPear Fri 22-Nov-13 17:23:37

6 - mum, dad, brother, sister and my 2 nans. I have spent £99 this year.

MrsPear Fri 22-Nov-13 17:24:48

My husbands family do not celebrate Christmas so we don't buy anything for them.

NoComet Fri 22-Nov-13 17:32:02

My Parents (sadly no PIL)
DSIS
DSIL
BIL
DF and her DH and the DF who stands in for my DMIL (Friend and surrogate granny)
And the aunt and uncle who DM and I have been trying to lose of our lists for 50 and 25 years respectively as they send such junk.

However neither are very well, so I'll not begrudge them this year.

£200 with chocolates and bits my family get because they come here and are very generous to DDs.

But I only have a few DCs to worry about

notso Fri 22-Nov-13 17:33:00

This is my first year without Grandparents sad
DH ? We haven't set a budget yet.
DSIS £20-£40
DSIS's DP,£20-£40
Mum £20-£40
Dad,£20 if that he never ever wants anything!
DH's Nan and Grandad tin of biscuits from M&S
DH's Auntie who's not a real Auntie but buys the DC loads of presents £15
We do a Secret Santa with PIL, BIL1 and wife,Bil2 and wife and SIL and husband so we only buy 2 £50 presents.

Marne Fri 22-Nov-13 18:01:49

I buy for my parents and their partners and my grand parents, only spend about £10 (max) on each.

nurseneedshelp Fri 22-Nov-13 18:04:14

Don't buy for ANY adults!

Just my dc and my nieces, xmas is for kids not adults!

MrsHowardRoark Fri 22-Nov-13 18:09:00

I buy/make for 30+ adults. Only little bits, like a book or some homemade chutney. Still adds up.

Thank goodness no one has started having children except for me smile

ShatnersBazoolium Fri 22-Nov-13 18:11:59

I try and try to get the adults to knock it all on the head, but I'm the only one who thinks it's silly. I'm asked by them all, usually in October, to name something I want so they can buy it - it's embarrassing and pointless. Great for children to get nice surprises at Christmas, awkward for adults to receive things they essentially ordered.

It's only a handful of adults but it's still a pain to coordinate every year.

ShatnersBazoolium Fri 22-Nov-13 18:14:50

Oh, and we spend £20-£50 depending how much they spend on us.

littlemisssarcastic Fri 22-Nov-13 18:14:53

Usually buy for mother, but don't buy for other adults in the family if they have DC, because I buy for the DC instead. Until they have DC, I buy for nieces, nephews, brothers, sisters.

If I bought for all of my sisters, BIL's, aunts and uncles, cousins, grandmothers and grandfathers, it would cost me so much, the DC would have to go without to be able to afford it.

RoadToTuapeka Fri 22-Nov-13 18:19:33

With my dad and his wife and the family on her side, (lots of adults and a few children) adults draw an adult's name and buy a present for them, all buy presents for children.

Have - at last - agreed with DH family no presents for adults (he has 4 siblings all with partners, was costing a fortune), so just presents for children.

I will buy a present for my dad, mum, their partners, my sister and her partner. I think we will also agree no presents for sis & partner next year & focus on children.

DH and I just bought an expensive kitchen gadget as combined anniversary/christmas present so no additional presents there.

Weeantwee Fri 22-Nov-13 18:35:17

I buy for DH (who's birthday has only just happened!)
My mum (who's birthday is the 27th Dec)
Brother
Mother in law
Father in law
Sister in law
Three Grandparents

Have a budget of £30 per person (except for DH, he's about £100 this year!) so £240 for everyone else in total.

There are no children in the family yet, once we have kids the Grandparents (Great-Grandparents by then) will get token gifts at best I imagine.

OatcakeCravings Fri 22-Nov-13 18:55:49

Mum £30
Dad £30
MIL £30
FIL £25-30
SIL x 2 £10 each
BIL x 2 £10 each
3 friends £10-15 each

No wonder I'm always skint at Xmas!

cantthinkofagoodone Fri 22-Nov-13 19:03:21

No friends just;
Mum/mil
Dad/dil
Granny/gdad/gdil
2 siblings & 2 sils and their 4 dhs
Dh
£300 in total with £50 on dh, 20 on the immediate relatives and £10 on the others

SwedishEdith Fri 22-Nov-13 19:21:00

DP only plus teacher/after-school club.

JustOneMoreCoffee Fri 22-Nov-13 23:18:10

Mum price varies
Brother £30
Dp not set
Mil £10
Dp's 2 sisters £10 each
Best friend £25
4 friends £10 each
5 friends children £10 each
Secret Santa at work £5

I say I need to cut down every year but it doesn't happen!

MummyPig24 Sat 23-Nov-13 07:27:11

Dh and I did each other a stocking with a limit of £20 last year.

I buy for my dad, brother, nan and grandad. Then for aunts and uncles they get a box of chocolates or biscuits.

On my mums side the adults do "pound" presents. They aren't supposed to cost more than a pound which is sometimes a challenge but quite fun.

My cousins are now 20, 17 and 17 so I think the eldest will be on pound presents this year.

Dhs family we only buy for his mum, dad, brother, brothers girlfriend and grandad. They tend to spend a lot more because there are much fewer of them and only our two children, whereas on my side there are a lot more people, and quite a few children too!

WipsGlitter Sat 23-Nov-13 07:30:34

Mum £40
Sis £10
BiL £10
Secret Santa with DPs family £25
DP amount varies

MrsPresley Sat 23-Nov-13 07:42:01

2 sets of parents, around £150 per couple, usually theatre tickets plus chocolates/sweets/small gift for each to open (both sets are in their 70s so tickets are much appreciated as they don't really need anything.

1 auntie around £15, nice scarf and chocolate, again she is in her 70s so difficuly to buy for.

3 adult DC plus 1 son in law, usually around £250/300 and a little less on son in law, but I don't spend a lot on my DGC, I still like to spend the most on my own DC blush

A small token present for son in laws mum and her partner, maybe £15/20 between them.

MrsDavidBowie Sat 23-Nov-13 07:43:03

Just dh...about £250.
Dh buys for his father.

mumtoone1 Sat 23-Nov-13 08:12:17

I probably spend more than I should, but then everyone spends so generously on DS so I feel bad.

DM is getting a Kindle Fire so £100
DF & SM £40 restaurant Vouchers & £10 bottle of Prosecco
MIL Dressing gown, DVD and CD so £35
FIL 2x books and choc orange £12
SIL faux fur coat, benefit make up and choc orange £50 ( she's only 19 so spoil her)
BIL book, chocolate & champagne £15
DB beer and chocolate £12
SIL2 Book & Wine £10
Niece Lots of Clothes, nail sets, chocolate and iTunes card £80?
Grandparent x1 Molton Brown Set & Chocolates £30
2x Uncle & 2x Aunts £6 per couple.. Just small token gift

So 16 adults?

I always buy the odd bottle of wine and chocolates and put under tree for potential neighbour visit.

DH isn't included in my count

mumtoone1 Sat 23-Nov-13 08:16:42

Forgot about SIL2.... Katy Kidston various goodies about £15... So that's 17 adults now!

Woldyhool Sat 23-Nov-13 08:19:33

My parents - but only small things from the children, because my mother just gives everything to charity immediately so it isn't worth it.

My sister and SIL. (who are married to each other, there isn't a missing bloke we refuse to give presents to!) smile

That is it really. Oh and something for the couple upstairs who are brilliant.

TeaAndCakeOrDeath Sat 23-Nov-13 08:29:53

SIL and husband - £40
Other SIL and partner - £20
My Mum - £30
My Brother - £20
My aunt - £10
My uncle - £10
My grandmother - £10
DPs best friend and wife - £20
Family friend 1 - £10
Family friend 2 and partner - £20
Distant family we only see at xmas - £10
My 2 best friends - £5 each

And then DP, not sure what his final spend will be yet... Expensive business this xmas lark!

notthefirstagainstthewall Sat 23-Nov-13 08:32:22

I have 28 to buy for ( including 5 family members with December birthdays who I have to buy twice for).
This includes secret Santa at work and small neighbour gifts (one has children we buy for and the others have children we donate our second hand toys too).

madamecake Sat 23-Nov-13 08:35:39

DH - between £50-100, and he spends the same on me.
Then DM, DF, DMIL, DFIL, DB1, DB1's gf, DB2, DB2's gf, DB3, DSIL and DBIL - all about £30 each.

That adds up to a lot more than I thought it would confused

ThreeMyselfAndI Sat 23-Nov-13 09:59:32

we buy for

myparents/dh parents beteem £60/100 each side

dhs grand parents around £40 each.

we don't buy for sibling's excpet dh's little sister but she's only 9.

jamtoast12 Sat 23-Nov-13 13:25:25

Mum and dad £75 each, dh £100. Don't buy siblings, just their kids at £15 each (there's 7 of them).

WooWoo86 Sat 23-Nov-13 13:58:17

I just but for my mum and dad, usually about £75 each and then we do a secret Santa for the adults so just 1 more person at £20. So glad we do secret Santa as save on loads of unwanted pressies and expense. Usually means I but myself something with the money I've saved.

Mum - £40ish
Dad - £40ish
Friend one - £15ish
Friend 2 family gift - £15ish
Dp - £100ish
One secret santa - £5ish

We gave up on buying gifts for other adults years ago.

Philoslothy Sat 23-Nov-13 14:23:01

We don't buy for one another.

We don't buy presents for family as such because they can't afford to buy back.

EeyoreIsh Sat 23-Nov-13 14:27:37

DH £100 - one large present

DM £20
DF £20
Joint present for parents £30

DSIS £30
BIL £15
Nieces and nephew £20-30 each
Joint present for their family £45

DH's nephew £20

In theory, DH should buy for his family but I usually end up doing this.

No wonder I'm broke sad

Preciousbane Sat 23-Nov-13 14:32:09

DH only

He buys for his Mum,Dad and Sis. I don't get involved.

Philoslothy Sat 23-Nov-13 14:35:31

If you are broke, don't buy it. Someone who cares for you would not want a present that they cannot afford to buy.

CharlotteBronteSaurus Sat 23-Nov-13 14:40:00

too many
we mooted the idea of either doing a £50 secret santa, or just exchanging token presents with the ILs. this went down like a lead balloon.

so we continue to spend £30-40 each on BIL, 2xSILs, MIL and FIL, as well and about £20 each on GMIL and GFIL.

thankfully my family are happy with a chocolate orange and summit for thew DC.

Philoslothy Sat 23-Nov-13 14:40:57

But why do you have to continue?

EeyoreIsh Sat 23-Nov-13 15:10:58

I'm not broke now, but going on maternity leave in 4 weeks so I need to restrain my spending from now on really.

randomAXEofkindness Sat 23-Nov-13 15:35:26

We don't buy for other adults. We get each other something if we feel especially flush, which isn't very often, but I know that dh has bought me a netbook & camera this year - which I didn't expect and am extremely feckin chuffed about.

I hate the politics that goes along with buying for the relatives. I'd get people meaningful, well thought out gifts, for the right reasons, if I lived in disney world. But I don't. They'd probably cost 50p and be handmade. Or dh would have whatever job the dad of Home Alone had, those guys were loaded.

My mum (?)
My gran (chocs and an xmas plant)
My gran and papa (biscuits and an xmas plant)
My dad and s-mum (big box chocs)
My aunt and uncle and 1 cousin (tub celebrations)
Usually dsis and her dp but have agreed not to this yr as costs spiralling grin
My fil and s-mil (him ? her a jl voucher & xmas plant)
BIL and his dp (vouchers)

Ranging from £5-£20 on each relative (or group).

NewChoos Sat 23-Nov-13 21:20:36

Loads, IL's are very generous, we try to be very thoughtful back.
PIL £150
SIL £120 ish (single, we buy her lots as she buys for all of us).
SIL (plus her DH and DN) £150

Finally managed to get my sisters to agree to no presents last year, still buying for adult nephews and nieces though so approx £100 (Although never see 2x nephews!!).
BF £35 molton Brown gift set
DH no set budget but we really both have said we don't need anything this year.
DS £300
Baby DD £100
oh and Nursery 8x approx £5 presents.

AuditAngel Sat 23-Nov-13 21:49:58

For my family:
Dad a book £15, usually accompanied by tin of sweets
DM black pearl necklace (€10 in market in Greece)
DSis1 amethyst necklace and bracelet (€10 in market in Greece)
DSis2 not saying as she comes on here grin
DB nothing
BIL book £5
DNephew book £6
DN wife silly socks £4

DH about £350 on various including new ski jacket plus gloves and base layer, body warmer plus stocking

Then for DH's family it is a £50 secret santa from each of us.

Plus I have got a groupon voucher for photo calendars for DM, MIL and assorted aunties and cousins abroad

Bumblequeen Sat 23-Nov-13 23:10:05

We stopped buying gifts for each other several years ago. We buy for the dc and focus on having nice food and drink.

As a teen/in my early 20's, I enjoyed buying gifts for friends/family. I do miss those days less responsibilities and more money.

Mum
Stepdad
Sisters x3
Dad
Stepmum
Bil
Grandad
Stepgrandparents x4
Family friends x7
My parents I spend 20
Sisters around 15
Everyone else between 5 and 10
I actually buy for quite afew people and thats not including kids shock

Bertrude Sun 24-Nov-13 11:13:38

4 x parents
4 x siblings (28 - 34 years old)
100 quid each, 3 things to open each.

6 adult friends (we are a group of 4 childless couples and are all expats so few if any pressies from family to open), max 20 quid each, but it MUST be the most ridiculous thing possible. Last year one bloke received a USB hub that looked like anal beads. I got a she-wee.

Then husband and he gets stupid amounts spent on him because he has expensive tastes

lade Sun 24-Nov-13 19:34:56

I buy for:

Mum, dad and brother. About £50 - £75 each.

My grandparents (x2) about £20 - £30 each.

My aunt and her family £20 (family gift)

DH about £100

DH sorts out his own family.

I don't subscribe to the Christmas is for kids philosophy. Personally, I like to show my appreciation to my parents for Christmas as they do so much to help. Of course, I try all year round and buy my mum the odd bunch of flowers every now and then, just to say thanks, but it's so easy for life to get into the way. Christmas is a nice time of giving, and to say thanks for all the things they do for us.

LovelyWeatherForDucks Sun 24-Nov-13 19:50:09

DH - not sure but keeping it small as we are both getting new iPhones <£100 - stockingy bits
My parents-£30 on my mum and about £90 on my dad this yr (joint with Xmas, special present this year)
His parents - About £25 plus some digital family photos on a USB stick
DS godparents - about £20 (food hamper)
Dsis and BIL - about £20
BIL1- £28 on a shaving set
BIL2 and DW-to-be - about £25 (food hamper in a big baking dish)

So usually £20-30 per person/couple

plus DS, a niece and nephew, and a few tiny token presents for extended family we are seeing on Xmas day

Hadn't thought about how much it adds up!! But really pleased with presents chosen this year and I love giving gifts!

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