10 yr old girls.what are you getting yours?(117 Posts)
Dd is having a nexus tablet so just need a few other things.
So far I have a jacket she liked. Will also be getting clothes and trainers.
She doesn't really like board games, lots of craft stuff from last year not been used.
Looking for a few ideas around the £20 mark.
When I asked my mum what my 10yr old DSis wants she suggested Jacqueline Wilson books, any One Direction stuff, a Hunger Games Barbie or a nail art kit with the pen that you use to draw designs on your nails
She's got the nail pens and they do get used a lot so could get some more. I dont think there is anything one direction left to buy! I'm sure she has it all already.
Dd is quite a young ten but I'm finding it difficult this year. She's having an ipod touch, I've also got her a Minecraft messenger bag, a pokemon onesie, minecraft lego. pokemon ds game. She loves Lush bath bombs and bubble bars so I'll buy her a selection of those. She's not interested in clothes but I need some bulky items as she is used to a big pile having always had toys and games in previous years that aren't looked at now she has her laptop.
Ah now minecraft is something I haddnt thought of. She loves it. Good call insanity. Especially the onsie.
Getting our dd (10) a kobo mini, and a shared marble run with her siblings. Will pick up some books for her from the charity shop and some sweets, etc. She will be so excited!
All dd1 has asked for is a pokemon 3ds game and a cuddleupet , I have got her a few other bits including a pokemon onesie, pokemon toys, sequin art and a wobble deck. Dd1 isn't girly so she's hard to buy for (not really into clothes or make up).
My DDs are 11 and 9 so same problem, but how about DVDs, Body Shop stuff, 1D perfume, new hat, gloves, scarf set, onsies (always go down well), dd 11 wants her own mini hair dryer, books, slippers, fluffy socks. I'm also looking at a website called NPW which has bits like hair turbans, funky shower caps and scented nail polish etc
I've just bought DGodD the percy Jackson books.
Were buy one get one half price
My 10 year old wants...
- Things for her hobbies (new leotard, ballet tutu etc)
- make up bits, body glitter etc
- grown up jewellery
- new onesie
- latest now album etc
Stompees are a good call. We saw some in toysrus today and she loved them.
Have just ordered her some onsies, a hoodie and 1d perfume.
Will get dvds this week.
What about those slushy cups you squeeze to make slushies out of any drinks? Here
She will love that attheend. Thanks.
mine are 11 and 12 and have asked for a sewing kit each - so am collecting together a pretty sewing basket each with pins/needles/threads/thimble/fabric and a kit to make a cushion too...
that plus onesies/ nice top/ lego friends, and music CD/DVD will do nicely.
So far for my 10 year old DD I have written a list which includes Horrible Histories DVDs, record player, foot spa and maybe something from Mathmos
Some of the things my almost 10 yr old DD has asked for (have only posted the things around the £20 mark
Nurf Rebell Heartbreaker Bow
Password Journal 8
Build a bear voucher
It's her birthday a few days before Christmas and I've got her a 2nd hand Ipod Touch (looks like new) and a Netball post.
My dd10 (11 just after xmas) and I have got her a hairdryer, straighteners and tongs set and some clothes.
I am stuck as she isn't interested in toys and too young for make-up...
my dd1 is 10 and so far for Christmas I have bought her...
*Samsung galaxy tab 3
*3d dvd player and 4 3d dvds (shared with dd2)
*ps3 and 6 games (shared with dd2)
*100% human hair extensions
*a bmx bike
* decent make up
*nike air max
*2 snap back caps
*nail polishes (uv, sparkle, glitter)
that's pretty much her done, seems so much less now she's getting older but the stuff is getting so much more expensive for her age range.
dd2 is 8 and has almost identical presents
insanityscratching, where did you get the minecraft bag and Lego?????
New tv with built in dvd player
1D things (book/towel/lip balms /
nail varnishes etc
can't remember what else also hoping to get her a desk
Dd1 will be 10 in January. I've got her a furby boom. She's been talking about one for several months. Not sure what else I'll get. She 's a bookworm so books will feature. She's not an advanced girl - not at all interested in make up, hair etc..
My word ThreeMyselfandI, that is an extensive shopping list for one Christmas. Excuse my nosiness but did you lose possessions in a fire or something and you are having to replace?
Ooh minecraft bag! What a great tip, thanks.
And what is a stomped, please?
But Bleurgh to hair extensions and makeup for 10 year olds.
What kind of make-up do you buy 10yos? I don't mind dd having nail polish and nail kits but not keen on her covering her face in make up.
Dd had some make up last yr but not foundation/powdery stuff. I dont mind a bit of eyeshadow for messing around the house but it doesn't get worn outside. Nails are fine to be painted.
Anyone seen anything 1d on offer anywhere. I really wanted to get her tickets to see them but it worked out to expensive to stay in hotel etc. I do like the big wall stickery things you can get. Like a big 1d mural.
Im after the mine craft onsie and bag now.
We are buying a wii u for the house so will get her a voucher to buy a game for that too.
I want a pair for myself.
no I haven't lost all my possession, it's actually a pretty small list this years as it's more expensive stuff, dds needed new tablets as laptop is shared between them, new bike was needed as other is too small
tbh my 10 year old is rather grown up and acts around and looks 14.
make up is half decent, maxfactor and mac but have went for clear mascara and pale none obvious colours, hair extensions are a treat as they wanted then for ages.
both my dds haven't been into tpys for along time hnce the more grown up lists both dh and myself would hve loved to be buying lego etc but they wouldn't look twice at it.
You call that a SMALL list!
mike there are full wall 1d mureals on ebay for £40 I wa looking at the other day. superdrug also have there make up in.
I saw the murals in argos i think for £36. Might have been on offer though.
I normally get the £1 nail varnish in superdrug so will have a look for the 1d stuff.
I've just ordered her some minion goggles. She is going to love them
My dd wants a karaoke set and various books and dvds. I haven't started yet. I usually spend about £200 - one big thing and various little bits and bobs. I wouln't buy clothes for Xmas though - a pair of pyjamas maybe - as I tend to buy that stuff as she needs it.
I don't really like buying clothes for xmas but if she asks for something more expensive than normal I will get it. She wants a hollister hoodie but thankfully the smallest size is to big for her.
She loves break dancing so might get her a tracksuit.
I'm coming to the conclusion i'm mean. I spend about £250 each on my two and that includes their December birthdays!
yes it is small for us this year only as it's expensive stuff. we also buy all year round as they need but still buy clothes at Christmas probably as my parents always did. they pick their on clothes and absolutely love a day shopping with their given budget. it is slightly worrying every year at how to top the previous and the mounting costs but if we could not afford it we would rain it back big time.
I am very mn though I suppose Christmas in this house means filling the place with presents
Jacqueline Wilson books and annual
Hunger games books
I'm not keen on buying clothes for birthdays and Christmas either but she wanted some designer stuff so I got her that, I am at a loss this year, I think I might make her up a hamper of smellies and treats as she loved my soap and glory set last year but I think shes too young for it.
Mine got her long coveted iPod for her birthday last month, and now she can't think of a single thing she wants except this.
She's generally into Jacqueline Wilson, Harry Potter, minecraft, clothes and jewellery, anything with an owl or cat design on it.
I'm also thinking of an Orbeez light up globe. She wanted the orbeez foot spa last year, but the reviews were dreadful so we didn't get it
it wasn't because it looked extremely messy honestly
Ooh, just thought, she wants a hairdryer.
I admit to spending a fortune on Christmas and they easily have 30+ presents each. We can afford it and never get into debt. Every year I say no little filler gifts but when it gets close to the big day and I only have a small pile I feel guilty. My dc wouldn't bat an eyelid to a small pile of gifts but I always had a mountain of stuff to unwrap so its normal to me.
lionel I love your name. Hands down best name ever. I really wanted to change to LionelRichTea until I saw yours
See we don't do big birthday gifts like Ipods or bikes. Birthday are £50 that the older ones get to spend as they want.
Ds is 13 in December so he will have a bit more this year but will be back to the normal £50.
I do think you're being a touch naive, Three. That isn't a small list.
If you're worried about how to top it next year, may I suggest this, to share, obvis
I'm not nieve compared to past Christmases it is small to us, I am aware they are incredibly fortunate and it's large to other's.
luckily we can afford to do big Christmases for our 3dds without any debt. If I had to budget to £250 each we would.
I love that boat, sadly finances are not THAT good
Thank you Mike, LionelRichTea is excellent, you should do it!
I don't have to budget to £250 each, could quite easily go over the top too. That's why I've come to the conclusion i'm mean.
Of course your not mean. As long as your dc are hapoy with what you get them then who cares what you spend?
I spend more than I should but thats my business. I really dont care what others do.
I do get pissed of with the competitive frugal Christmas posters though. 'I spend 6.95 on 15 people and the turkey last 6 months. you should be ashamed of spending so much. Your children are obviously spoilt brats and where will it all end?! <wailing and pearl clutching>'
I don't think it is mean at all we all have different ideas and perceptions on what Christmas is for us and our dcs. I wouldn't care if someone spent 50p or £5, 000 each to their own and kids find this day magical no matter the expenditure.
My 10 year old dd is getting:
Harry Potter lego
Glowstars for her room
She wants a Kindle too but her birthday's in Jan so we'll get that for her then.
In our house the DC get main present from us plus a few thoughtful things (as well as new PJs and DVD on Christmas eve) and decent stocking from "FC" (i.e. more than just stocking filler stuff). Main present could be bike or tablet or PS3 but certainly not all 3 or even 2 - they woudl be spread out across christmas and birthdays. We could afford it but I am paranoid about them becoming spoilt or not appreciating how lucky they are (and they do get a lot, just not many "main" presents. I think this is partly my upbringing - I earn a lot but did not come from a wealthy background and have therefore seen the other side to appreciate what we have, whereas my DC have not and I dont want them to come across as spoilt to other members of the family who have less. My neice who is close in age gets far more gadgets than my 2 although her parents are not wealthy. I guess different priorities which is fine - neice does not go on far-flung holidays like my 2!
I would also worry about running out of things to buy if they get so much at once - already struggling over what to get them for their main present this year as DH has said no to ipod touch since their nanos are not that old.
It is actually some of the smaller thoughtful stuff that they have not asked for that they appreciate most. I remember listening to them opening stockings in previous years and gasping over how clever FC is to work out what they like even though they hadn't asked (of course they dont really believe now so I am hoping to get more of the credit!)
Mike, my dd's get around 30 gifts too, I think if you can afford it the. There's no harm in spoiling them for 1 day a year, I don't really have a budget ( just buy what I can afford and what I think will get used ), some of the presents I but are under £5 ( craft sets, novelty hat and gloves ) and a few of them may cost around £15-£20 plus a main present ( I think this year it will be a ds game which is £30 ), one of the things dd has asked for is to adopt a snow leopard so I might look into that too.
This is why I love mn. My dd would love to adopt an animal. Defo doing that for her.
DD wants a piccolo and a new duvet set with her rugby team logo on but not sure they exist! Also a boot bag, a kit bag for swimming with a compartment for wet costume, new rugby club clothing of pretty much any kind and a new gumshield with her name on. And a riding lesson. And sweets, lots of.
DS is always banging on about adopting an animal! I'm sending him on a zoo keeper experience day for his birthday in a few weeks. He's going to go loopy with excitement.
Hair extensions for primary school children?
Good luck combing nits out of those.
BOF- I wish MN had a like button I agree, 10 is too young for hair extensions but each to their own. I'm pleased my almost 10 year old isn't very mature and doesn't care what she looks like (will wear what ever I put out for her).
much to their disappointment they are strictly for weekends, and holidays not appropriate for school yet!!
we would love ours to be into toys but their just not, also hollister and £110 air max are must haves now thanks to their friend's
Their friend's what?
I'm just giggling, sorry, that human hair is now on xmas wish lists.
santa: and what would you like little girl?
girl: The dead hair of my enemies....Moahahahahahahahahaaaaaaa
So glad dd seems to have more age appropriate tastes. Dd nor her friends would know about hair extensions nor think to ask for them as they mostly have hair down to their bums anyway. They wouldn't know about Nike Air Max as most are in Clarks and Start rite and are more into tshirts featuring Mario or Minecraft than Hollister.
It seems really sad to me having them grow up so soon.
I am actually laughing at that. It's madness I know but they wanted to dip die their hair and they had no chance. the human hair is better as it can be curled etc so I have been assured by their older cousins.
also cost a flipping fortune
What kind of school do they go too? My dd doesn't even know what Nike air trainers are and doesn't know what hair extensions are ( though she does have hair down to her bum so wouldn't need them ), she got excited when she was allowed to wear glitter body lotion to the School disco last summer , dd spends most of her time playing pokemon and playing maths games on her PC against her friends.
a normal rather small school. to be fair dd1 has size 5.5 feet the choice is more grown up they gave always been in to labels but they get that from me and my mum. they have hair just above their.bum too its to thicken it out and one set is red to add colour .
see my 2 wouldn't play with any of that their into gadgets and make up. thank god for dd3 being 21 months were back into toys
I actually think 3 must be on a wind up. That is over 1k of stuff each. I don't know anyone who would buy so many things like that for a 10 year old, and I know lots of wealthy people. 3, do they act spoilt? If you did not get nike air max how would they react? How did they get so into their appearance at that age?
I just read your list to DH (who thinks I spend too much on our children as it is) and he asked quite seriously if you are a WAG. Which I think is harsh- who is to say you are not the main earner.
If this is cutting back, do share what the list looked like when they were 4 and 6! And what DC3 is getting.
no wind up we've spent at last count £600/700 each on them. the way they look is a relatively new thing hence the changed lists feom previous years. I am also not a wag or theain wage earner I am a sahm.
dd3 is getting a kidkraft retro style kitchen, trampoline (already has them as I gpt excited and gave her them early) peppa pig camper van, minnie mouse boutique set, 4 peppa pig sets, tiny tears, talking peppa pig, doc mcstuffins doll, singing sofia the first doll, silver cross pram, doc mcstuffins armchair and toy wagon, lelli kellys, addidas hightops, jacket, onsie, 7 outfits. a castle and a thing you sit and spin on.
omg written down I hadn't realised she had as much and we still have a few odds to pick up.
I always get stick at Christmas on here but we don't get into any debt and for us its what its all about we donate and give away masses of toys in November ever year to make room
How weird, to have stacks of toys come at Christmas and see them fly out again next year like a revolving door to make room for the next lot...
I think I will read the list to my dh , he's going crazy as I have spent £100-£150 on each of mine. What ever happened to getting one big gift and several smaller things? yes mine get about 30 gifts but most cost £5 or less, I think if mine got that many big things they would not appreciate it, dd2 has only asked for one thing, when I ask her 'what else would you like?' she says 'nothing', if I got her too much she would probably not appreciate the thing she has asked for. My dd's go to a small village school, most of the kids there come from posh/rich families but none of them wear designer gear (though a lot wear riding gear which doesn't come cheap).
three if you always get stick on here at Christmas, I suggest you don't post on threads like these. You must know you're in a minority.
it doesn't bother me though I am honest and enjoy the ideas on this thread as much as others do. why should I not post because what normal for me isn't for others its a public forum. I wouldn't give someone stick on what the bought their children. at the end of the days it's just as exciting for them no matter the expenditure.
I just don't see how a 20 month old would appreciate all of that. Would she really appreciate 4 peppa pig sets more than 2? How often does each toy get played with before the nest years stuff arrives? I am honestly shocked. I don't think it is just about not getting into debt, it is about bringing up children to appreciate their things and to begin to understand the value of money and the times we live in. If there are no issues there then fair play.
Would love to see what Christmas Day is like in your house, can picture children trying to ride box whilst playing a play station, listening to mp3 whilst trying to apply make up and hair extensions . You must have a huge house to put all this shit in? And I can't imagine most of it getting much use before its time to by the next lot.
I showed dh and he said 'troll' but if it is true then it's your choice.
I'm shocked too but I suspect that's the reaction three wants. I would be seriously worried about an 8 year old being so into her appearance she wants make up and no toys. If that was my child I would think I've gone seriously wrong.
the mess of our toy room daily means most toys are played with a lot, my dds are genuinely the most grateful girls and would be just as happy to receive one large thing and a few odds and ends dh and myself buy alot more on top simply because we love to spoil them, they love every second of it and that makes it worth while.
three yes it's a public forum but that doesn't mean you can't show a bit of sensitivity to the vast majority of people who either can't afford so many presents or choose not to.
It's the way you say it, can't you see that?
OP, I bought a 10 year old a mystyle shamballa fire jewellery set from amazon recently - it was a huge hit. About £10/£11 iirc.
no sorry if ive come over bragging im genuinely not thats the horrible part of my personality im very materialistic and can come across smug, im not really. I love Christmas and the threads and all the ideas,
and just because they like make up its not painted on very pale natural colour and weekends in the home only. the enjoy copying you tube makeup tutorials.
arrgh again sorry if I have offended anyone.
If you want to spoil them then fair enough but on your head be it .
Of course they love it, they are getting everything they ask for ( what's not to like ). I think spending £100- £150 is spoiling, mine get get a lot for that amount. I do think hair extensions and make up for a 8 year old is crazy, and I'm sorry but I'm sure none of her friends have hair extensions and expensive make up ( all my dd2s friends play monster high etc..). And lelli Kelly's for a 21 month old child seems a bit crazy, she will grow out of them in 3 moths and will probably want another pair. It's not the money as such ( though it is a bit OTT ) it's more what you are buying with it. It sounds as though Christmas Day for you is all about presents, it must take up most of the day unwrapping and trying out each thing, do you have time for lunch? A family walk? Watching the queens speech and falling asleep watching tv .
it is ott but for us thats Christmas,
I still manage to have it all cleaned away by christmas night and the tree down as am sick of the sight of it by then , meany and my mum cooks for us so we go there
I get carried away too much
It's not about causing offence- well, not for me anyway.
It's that it doesn't seem to be giving the children any idea of the value of money.
How on earth are they ever going to manage on a pittance as students? What jobs could they possibly get as young adults which would live up to their expectations of the kinds of things they should be able to afford?
I really don't want to sound moralistic or lecturing, although I suppose it's almost inevitable. But it's so out of touch with the way of the world, even among the very rich in this country, that it verges on the bizarre.
I've seen the effects of extremely materialistic childhoods on a few acquaintances' kids, and it isn't pretty.
At the end of the day it's obviously up to you, but I have to say that I think you are storing up trouble for the future.
I'm not offended either just strangely fascinated I suppose.
My youngest is ten and I am really treasuring these years( knowing how quickly they pass) where she enjoys toys and isn't in the least bit concerned with what she wears or even aware of labels. She goes to quite a large school, last week there was a disco, there wasn't one child that I saw wearing designer labels and make up seemed to consist of glittery nail polish and maybe clear lip gloss. I can't imagine what your dd's school discos look like.
What will you buy for them as teens when they seem to have all the teen gear already?
I agree, if it isn't a wind up you could be more sensitive to others.
It doesn't bother me because I pity people who have to spend a terrific amount of money to be happy or to make their dc happy.
I also pity those who can't tell the difference between need and want.
Maybe your dc would play with lego and other toys if they didn't have so much, stuff?
My 10 year old has got so far:
1d perfume/body wash
Hoodie and t shirt from swimming club
Bag for school
Forbidden island game
New diary of wimpy kid book
Cake baking book (may regret this if I have to taste anything)
Animal hat with attached scarf and gloves.
She's also into minecraft but not sure what's available to buy for this.
Blimey Three - I wish my DH would actually listen to stuff I read out from Mumsnet - he might STFU about me overindulging DD if he heard your list!
Anyway, you've had enough flaming and whilst I think you're bonkers, if that's the way you roll then good luck to you!
I had made quite a list before DD wrote hers last week - hopefully it might give you some ideas. As DH is such a scrooge I do all the Christmas shopping. Between my parents & us she'll get most of what's on her list, although she still hasn't done all the scratch art she had for her birthday, and as much as I love Lego it gets put together once then lies in a box for six months. She always gets money from distant relatives so if she wants it that badly she can buy it herself!
DD's (9) Xmas List
Heart lake high Lego
Guinea pig calendar
Wreck it Ralph
Sketch book and pencils
Harry Potter stuff
Usborne spy's guidebook
My Ideas List
Despicable me 2
Wreck it Ralph
Code making kit
IPad WiFi speakers me
WWF junior membership
ITunes gift card
New dressing gown
Ripley's BION Book/Annual
Guinea pig nativity book
Deadly 60 annual
X Factor Live tickets
Funky post its
Hair glitter spray
Simple Skincare set
Novelty ice cube trays
Hot choc, mini mallows, choc stirrers
Slushy cup and syrup
Funky/light up shoe laces
Tic tacs all flavours
Happy puzzle co - puzzle eraser, maze pens, IQ blocks
has anydaughters like mine who likenmcfly and remember busted, the mcbusted tickets are going on sale on friday , will be deffo getting some for dd who loved busted as a tot and still does. Busted was the first ever cincert she went to when she was three and she will be thirteen when she goes this time proving her taste in music has not changed in ten years
My dd wants Heartlake High. That will probably be her BIG present this year,
DD has been on about HLH Lego since before her birthday in September, but she had Olivia's house around Easter and it's been built 1.5 times!
I do feel a bit mean not getting for her, but would rather spend the money on stuff that will get used and not just clutter the place up tbh.
I have no idea. Am liking McBusted for my much older dds though just for a retro laugh!
Didn't even know about it so a big thank you for that.
People ask what your getting your 10 year olds so a poster does and then gets flamed when she tells
I don't think three should tone it down or be considerate to other posters, we live in a world which is divided by wealth, fact!!! If people ask, then don't be all bloody ride when the poster tells you, you can win on here at all, it's either the middle ground or no way at all.
My 10 year old niece so far has got...
A DVD combi (to share with her sister)
iPod touch (from me)
Make up basket
£150 clothes vouchers
Games for her xbox
One direction ticket
A years worth of journals (she writes about her dad to day life)
A few complete book sets
I can't remember what else my sister told me about tbh.
I don't think it's rude. It's the normal flow of conversation on a discussion site, surely? I don't think an exchange of opinions constitutes a flaming either.
I don't think it's rude. It's the normal flow of conversation on a discussion site, surely? I don't think an exchange of opinions constitutes a flaming either.
Well I agree with three, she can post her shopping list all she wants but I must admit when I first read it I was of the opinion that Bof has. She's building her girls up for an almighty fall when they have to survive on their own wage. Hopefully despite the spoiling of epic proportions they'll not descend into horrific debt when they are adults!
Sorry I meant I agree with altinkum.
I intend to add a few books to my list for dd1 as books don't count in my budget, we were going to get dd1 a kindle but after working out the cost of buying it and buying the books my dd likes its a lot cheaper just to buy her the box sets from book people ( as they are so cheap ), am thinking of getting her the hunger games books and a few more Percy Jackson ( I need to see which ones she already has first ), she has also asked for a calculator and some fluffy socks ( because I bought myself some yesterday ). I get carried away every year but I try and buy what I think will be used all year, I know. She would be happy with just a pokemon game but it would only last a month before she completes it.
I think 3 has taken it well, and is aware she is unusual.
I think BOF has hit the nail on the head on why it makes me uneasy, i.e. setting up high expectations and lack of appreciation for the value of money may make for real dissatisfaction in future.
I accept it is hard to get the balance right, though. We go on what others might regard as flash holidays and live in a nice house etc. I am not going to downsize or cut back on holidays in order to help the DCs appreciate the value of money- I try to get them to see those things as my reward for my hard work (while also pointing out that there is a lot of luck involved becuase others work just as hard/harder in different types of job for less money). But I do make sure that they dont get everything they ask for, particularly if I think it is not suitable for their age or is over-priced, and that their pile of presents at CHristmas and birthdays is vaguely within the normal range (even if towards the top end of that range). It helps a lot that DH is quite tight!
I do think it's rude and assumption based tbh, how soupy know they aren't being taught the value of money, my children are spoilt at Xmas and birthdays, they get whatever they want and above, but they are being taught everyday life skills, be that from money to basic skills such as cleaning, cooking etc...
Just because they get material belongings, doesn't mean the parent is failing in all other aspects, I just find it assumptions and incrediy rude, expecially to be told,think of the other posters in here who can't afford etc.... Where does it end, do we have to think of poor starving children every time we eat, we live in a world that financial diversity is wide and across the board, one mans rich belongings is another mans junk, is that a true old saying.
ThreemyselfandI = omg, why do they need so much #notagoodlifelesson but thats just IMO please adopt me and buy me mac makeup and an ipad lol
I think it is possible to buy a lot of things for children and for them still to appreciate the value of money etc. But I think it is harder and something that you need to actively think about and work on (much more so that if they do not have a lot of material goods). The tone of 3's posts is such that it is not really clear that she does appreciate this - her posts are quite blase (sorry cant do accents). But if she does, fair play to her (and many have said that).
I was not at all shocked that someone would spend £700 per child for Christmas. If money was no truly object (which is unlikely, as it generally comes at the expense of something, be it wider foreign travel, education, etc), I would have no qualms buying mine expensive quality gifts such as this or this or this for Christmas this year I wouldn't buy them a greater number of gifts than they are already getting though, just 'upgrade' some of the ones I do buy them.
What did shock me about three's list was the amount of computer/screen type and 'vanity' related gifts. Of course they very well might be given lots of imaginative and educational toys and books throughout the year. A couple of posts on a thread never gives the complete picture.
I am in general quite blasé with money anyway I always have been thank god dh has more sense than me.
It's really swings and roundabouts.... dds would be happy with 1/4 of what we buy but I buy more as it makes me feel good, unlike other birthdays are not a huge deal in our house £150 max and I don't do partys really, I don't take dds on holiday my parents take them to spain twice a year for a week at a time and I pay nothing towards it. me amd dh save to be able to go to vegas every 2/3 years for a week. different priorities to some of you so where some spend less we spend more and vica versa
If you asked the DC, do you think they would prefer all the christmas presents, or to have half as many anf to have the 1k saved (between 3 children) put aside, say, for a holiday with their parents?
We spend £30-£40 on birthdays, mainly because their birthdays are not that long after Christmas and because we think that is a fair amount. If I had more money I would not buy them more but maybe buy them slightly better gifts (dd would like a kindle but i cant justify buying one this year so she's getting some books). With my dd's i think its more about the amount of gifts rather than what they cost (i guess its more for me as i like seeing their faces when they come down to a pile of presents) but like i say 'most only cost £5 each' so not expensive gifts.
I wouldn't but the things you have mentioned even if i did have the money as i don't think a 10 and 8 year old needs those things, but if i was loaded i would happily buy them a pony or a posh playhouse for in the garden .
we have asked and no, for them holiday time is more exciting as it's with nana and papa its something special that they do.
we are saving though to do a long holiday in florida for 4 weeks it will take us about 3 years to afford for the 5 of us so sacrifices will be made closer to that time.
none of the amount boils down to dcs its on me and dh, I guess we get a rush out of filling the place with presents for them.
I get a rush out of it too, just wish dh would feel the rush too
I came to find a thread to get ideas for dd and have managed to come away with about two ideas and a really crap feeling about what I'm getting the kids. I had thought I was doing really well too .
Thank goodness for spoiling grandparents.
I do love indulging DD too - and because we just have her she does mostly get what she wants, just not everything.
TBH if I had more money to spend on her I would, but it would be on experiences rather than 'stuff'.
For the last 2 years she's had concert tickets for her birthday, and we've had a girly weekend in London (West End show, overnight stay, meal out and some kind of daytime activity) at the beginning of the summer hols which she loves.
I wouldn't hesitate to spend more on that kind of thing if I could, but more actual material things wouldn't feature.
I have got DD (9) so far:
A schleich horse stable and horse toy thingies.
A monster high design your own monster set.
And I am going to get her some lush bath bombs, nail art pens, slushy maker cup, Jacqueline Wilson books and a one direction onesie.
She never really asks for anything and would be quite happy with some eons and paper so she can draw and design things.
Hmm. I have an almost-10 DN and have got her a set of Shakespeare stories (she loves reading) and a kit to try and grow a world-record tallest sunflower. Looking at your posts I think this is a bit young now (though she is quite a young 10 I think) Will she hate these gifts?? Have no experience of 10 year old girls since I was one!
I am about to read back and shameless farm this thread for ideas
All my DD has asked for is some crimpers
You marvellous marvellous people. You have solved all my worries!
Now...what about 13YOs
13yos are probably having boob jobs and sports cars bitout
I got this from another similar thread but have a look at hell buddies They do dolls based on minecraft skins or bespoke portrait dolls. I've ordered a couple of the latter for our 2 dds, v excited to see them!
DD 10 so far has a Teksta electronic dog, Moshi monsters mall, hair dryer, brushes, clips and bobbles, key stage 2 workbooks (I know, I'm such a horrible mum!) and a handful of DVDs (classics including grease, return to oz and labyrinth).
I have been quite depressed reading this and other similar threads, not because I can't afford to spend what some people do (although we're far from loaded) but because of the lists of stuff many people are buying. Is it only me that hates the idea of people in general, but especially kids, having such a vast quantity of possessions? Does anyone really need quite so much, especially all the endless gadgets and stocking fillery tat?
I am far from minimalistic, I like to shop as much as the next person, but I am horrified by just how much some people are spending for the sake of spending it seems - it just sits badly with me and I think it's sending out all sorts of wrong messages to kids and setting up a worrying precedent for the future.
My DD would love half the stuff on these lists and she will get some of it (we tend to do one big present and a stocking of smaller ones plus she gets plenty from friends and relations) but even if I was really rich I don't think I could bring myself to just keep buying and buying in the pursuit of... I don't know what?
I am well aware I sound bitter and judgy but I just find it all really distasteful.
On that note Cambridge, I should probably clarify that my lists upthread are lists of ideas - not of what DD is actually getting !
Mine's getting a nose job as well
I just cant get worked up about what others buy tbh.
I love buying for my dc but they see that we work really hard for what we have and they know that it is a treat. They are not spoilt brats as some people here will call them. They never cry or beg for stuff and certainly dont expect anything handed to them on a plate.
I think we are teaching them that if you want something in life then you get a job and work until you csn afford that thing. The older two know we dont buy on credit and have no credit cards.
I also dont necessarily agree with only buying things that will get used all the time. To me Christmas is about having fun. I buy things that will make them laugh.
So my point is I dont give a shit what you all buy but you need to give me ideas what to buy mine
I think it is up to three what she buys her children for Christmas and how much she spends. I couldn't afford to spend that much money but my children still have a lovely Christmas and they are happy with what they get. I do think children need to understand that they cannot have everything they would like and that they have to wait for some things (or not get them at all!). However, three does what she does and she should not have people being rude to her on here because they disapprove of what she does. Live and let live. I buy what I can afford and some people spend a lot more than I do. As long as my children are happy I am happy. We always have a lovely Christmas and the children love their presents and are happy with them.
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