do you buy anything for your husband/bf

(41 Posts)
princesscupcakemummyb Sat 02-Nov-13 16:44:11

hi all so as the title says really for xmas do you buy for your husband/partner if so is it a small present or just get what ever you know they like reason i ask is cause in my house me and dh dont allways buy for each other at xmas as we see its for the kids mainly if we do its nothing spectacular its usually a small token gift just wondered if its just us who does this? thanks all smile

fuzzpig Sat 02-Nov-13 16:56:12

Yes we absolutely do! We don't spend a lot but do like to spoil each other as much as we did pre-children. I think apart from anything else the DCs would be upset/confused if we didn't, IYSWIM?

We do little presents mostly like geeky t shirts and DVDs. DH is pretty good at finding weird things online like some antique Alice in Wonderland charms which I LOVE. And he also once got me a flat Eric toy as he remembered me saying I really wanted one as a teen grin also unusual/out of print books.

We also take the DCs individually to choose something for mummy/daddy from them.

Since last year we do an Xmas stocking for each other too, but we say it's from Santa like the DCs ones. Although this year I'm buying a few bits for mine myself as they are really weird random things that DH wouldn't be aware of.

Marne Sat 02-Nov-13 16:58:55

Sometimes we do, other times we will go out shopping together and buy something we would like or need, not sure what to buy dh this year, so far I have bought him a book but would like to get him a few things.

fuzzpig Sat 02-Nov-13 16:59:08

Also I do feel it's important for DCs to see that Xmas isn't just about them getting presents IYSWIM? My DCs really enjoy choosing things for us and each other, and seeing us open our presents and enjoy them - we all take turns smile

hippoherostandinghere Sat 02-Nov-13 17:04:44

Yes we do buy each other presents just like we did for the 9 years before the DCs came along. It's Christmas for everyone and its only fair we all get spoilt.

Some of the presents I buy will be from the DCs and some from me.


Partly it is what Fuzzpig says - the children need to know it isn't just about them and that it is about giving as well as receiving. I enjoy the giving as much as the receiving and I want them to know the enjoyment that comes from choosing a present and seeing them appreciate it.

Partly it is because we always have and we see no reason to stop just because the children are here (we can afford it - we wouldn't buy things we can't afford)

Partly it is because it is the only opportunity apart from birthdays to buy things that aren't really necessary but we would like to have. We do spend a fair amount for that reason - it is usually things you wouldn't dream of buying yourself.

Yes, we do. We spend a lot less on each other than on the dds, but they aren't just token presents. For example, I'm getting dp a historical game (for when we do reenactment) and a nice copy of his favourite book.

I encourage dd1 (and will dd2 when she's big enough) to make, choose or otherwise be involved in giving presents to us and other relatives.

Sheeparefluffy Sat 02-Nov-13 17:35:44

I had mine yesterday!! blush DH bought me the Ipad air in JL and has been explaining the reasons why mummy is heaving her present early to the DCs...none of them are that convincing! grin

princesscupcakemummyb Sat 02-Nov-13 17:48:07

thats actually a very good point fuzzpig i never looked at it like that

princesscupcakemummyb Sat 02-Nov-13 17:48:43

haha like it sheep smile

elQuintoConyo Sat 02-Nov-13 17:55:08

Good god, why should I miss out on giving gift to DH and receiving one?
The only one I don't swap presents with is my DSis, we buy for each other's dc as we're opposite sides of the globe and that makes Christmas extra expensive.
DH is getting a guitar stand tjis year - so not very £ but something he needs/would appreciate as I keep whacking his guitar with the ironing board dc shoes recycling multipacks of milk

Lagoonablue Sat 02-Nov-13 17:59:11

No too skint.

GemmaTeller Sat 02-Nov-13 18:02:19

No, we haven't for a few years.

DH and I open our presents from our DCs and other relatives.

We don't send each other cards either.

didireallysaythat Sat 02-Nov-13 18:35:05

Probably not. But we didn't have time and couldn't think of anything for our birthdays either this year. The kids get all the presents.

It's weeks away though so I may find something on Amazon I guess..

marriedinwhiteisback Sat 02-Nov-13 18:40:15

We buy each other something little. A bottle of perfume, a book, pyjamas - something like that. Sometimes at Christmas though we buy something for the house that we both like as a little treat to ourselves.

BIWI Sat 02-Nov-13 18:44:44

Yes absolutely! We spend a lot on each other (as well as our DC).

I love Christmas. I love taking the time to choose gifts that any of my recipients will appreciate and I especially love choosing things that my DH will like.

Why wouldn't I?

RhondaJean Sat 02-Nov-13 18:45:17

Oh gosh yes DH gets treated like an extra kid and he always spoils me. His presents will cost in the region of the children's each except they get more items where he gets a few more expensive ones.

I don't know how much he spends on me but we are in the region of iPads/good jewellery so quite a bit.

I realise we are lucky to be able to afford this but even on a limited budget it would be split so that there was some available for us.

monahue Sat 02-Nov-13 18:58:00

Instead of presents for each other, we have a night away in January in a swankyish hotel. Always much more appreciated than random tat on the 25th! smile

Yama Sat 02-Nov-13 19:02:17

We agreed that this year we wouldn't as we are short of funds due to moving house and overspending on renovations.

I, however, have been squirreling presents away for dh. He's always been better at the present buying and I'd like to be the best for once.

yes we always buy for each other we usually give each other them just before Christmas as we never have time for us on Christmas day due to the amount our dds get.

this year dh has bought me a red point ragdoll kitten he's adorable smile

hallowisitmeyourelookingfor Sat 02-Nov-13 20:06:00

We do always buy for each other, but I put more effort into choosing than dp does. Mainly because I have the time and am good at thinking for him and picking up on his hints and he's a bit of a last minute dash round the limited shops in our town on Xmas eve type man.
We are currently building an extension and have spent lots and lots, so I might suggest we put the money towards something we both want to go in it. We will still have things to open from other family members on the day itself, and a friend of ours takes our dds Christmas shopping to buy surprises for us too.

Ohwhatwitcheryisthis Sat 02-Nov-13 20:12:51

dh always gets me excellent gifts (after an early computer game and cook book related disaster) and I like to think I do Ok too. Last year we decided we had everything we wanted so had a dorty weekend away (birdwatching) shock

HellsBellsnBucketsofBlood Sat 02-Nov-13 20:15:19

Yes, because we love Christmas (it is wasted on kids...). We each keep a lookout for things he other would like and them buy them in the two months pre Xmas when we are each banned from buying for ourselves, just in case.

Sometimes if we want something specific we will tell each other, but usually it is the latest books by favourite authors pr DVDs.

Badvoc Sat 02-Nov-13 20:21:37

Yes we do.
It's not about the £, it's about not making Xmas All about the dc.
I have done hamper for dh this year...his fave teas and coffees etc. A DVD. A jumper. A bee house smile

Pascha Sat 02-Nov-13 20:24:40

No, haven't done presents to each other for years, not even before children. Its not important to us.

Yes of course but this year we are just buying each other a token gift as we are broke.

PIL are wealthy and generous and have offered to buy us a weekwnd away including babysitting and dog minding. I feel very lucky. We normally would spend the same on each other as we do on each DC.

Oh yes. I love buying for DP. Why should I not? Christmas is not just about children, it's for everyone. I like to spoil DP with things he might not otherwise get and he feels the same about me. I know he appreciates it just as I do.

CrotchStitch Sat 02-Nov-13 22:46:33

Yes, but we buy very little throughout the year, only the bare essentials that we really need, even to some extent for DS (9) <small violin>
TBH it works well as, for example, DH likes Barbour shirts. I cannot justify £60+ during the year so at Christmas it feels like a real treat. We use the money we don't spend during he year so are not in debt over it, Christmas is really special and we get exactly what we want.
This year he will have a new Barbour shirt (predictably) a subscription to a vastly expensive shooting magazine that he enjoys, a pair of posh Joules socks, a knife sharpener, a cookbook, wild flower grenades and a couple of smaller nik naks.
I am hinting heavily for a new pair of North Face boots, a handmade flat cap (he WILL buy me this as I wear his and his head gets cold grin) and a GBBO book (which I know I've got as I ordered it grin)

chanie44 Sun 03-Nov-13 07:13:43

For us, it's more important to get for the children, but we do stockings for each other.

I buy small things throughout the year for OH, and get bargains to make my money go further.

I get stuff like ear phones, pants, chocolate,hand cream, playing cards, small bottle of beer, DIY tools, aftershave.

noviceoftheday Sun 03-Nov-13 07:49:22

Oh yes! As much effort goes into dh's presents as for the dcs. And he really goes all out at Xmas too. Then again, I also buy for our parents, siblings, nieces, nephews, close friends, children of close friends and a couple of my neighbours. I think dh would be offended if he didn't get anything in those circumstances.grin

hulahoopsilove Sun 03-Nov-13 08:15:45

Yes we do not as extravagant as before Dc we also take DS out separately and he picks a gift to give to us each.

This year DH and I have decided we'd like an ipad so we are going halfs each and this will be out gift to each other as well as the gift that DS will give us.

Yes, but we both struggle to find things some years, as there just isn't really anything we want or need very much. I'm very hard to buy for to be honest, I much prefer buying for myself than getting surprises. And our house is small and we struggle for space, so really don't want more stuff most of the time.

I do take the DCs (7 and 9) out Christmas shopping, they buy for us, each other and the grandparents, and are surprisingly good at choosing.

CharlotteBronteSaurus Sun 03-Nov-13 08:44:40

yes. he's not very good at spending on himself, so I think it's nice for him to have something just for him. we usually exchange a few presents. most often one is something like perfume or gig tickets, and then a few boring essentials like work shirts and slippers.

BadPoet Sun 03-Nov-13 09:00:40

It depends how skint we are but always something. We have never been big spenders on each other at Christmas and frequently set e.g £10/ £20 limit which we will be doing again this year as we just did loads of work to our house and bought a new TV.

We buy for each other and help ds to chose each other a present. We don't go mad as we tend to buy the things we need/ want when we need/ want them but as ds is an only child I think it's important that he sees that Christmas is not all about him!

toffeelolly Sun 03-Nov-13 14:14:54

We are not buying each other this year as we decided to book a week long trip to Vegas, we head off beginning of Feb cannot wait lolsmile

Sort of-

I order from M&S or QVC for me
DH orders from Amazon or Ebay for him

It's paid out of the joint account so evens out.

ZombieMojaveWonderer Sun 03-Nov-13 16:45:47

I have preordered a PS4 and some games so that's my husbands present (joint present really) although he will be getting it before Christmas obviously because I couldn't keep it from myself him wink

My dh is the other half of me. We are married for reasons very far outside our (adorable wonderful) fecking children.

Why in gods sweet Xmas would I not buy something for the most important friend I have? For my lover? For my partner in crime?

lade Sun 03-Nov-13 16:50:20

Yes. Everyone in our house gets 5 presents under the tree + a joke present. Adults are no exception grin. I buy for DH, he buys for me.

We tend not to buy gifts that are as expensive as those we buy the DDs. Tends to be things like new CDs / DVDs / books / some clothing - shirt, jeans etc.

This year, we have a bit more cash so said we might even get each other small, joke stockings too.

I love Christmas, and have no intention of missing out grin.

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