What would your perfect Christmas be like?

(30 Posts)
SevenOnwardsAndUpwards Wed 23-Oct-13 00:43:01

After a pretty shitty year I want the perfect Christmas, I just need to work out what the perfect Christmas is. I mean the whole countdown to Christmas period not just the day itself. So far I've decided we need a real tree, attend the village lights switch on, mulled wine while watching Christmas movies, perfectly beautifully wrapped presents, champagne on Christmas morning , and goose rather than turkey as we've always wanted to try it.

I'm looking to steal more ideas, what would make/has made your perfect Christmas?

MamaBear17 Wed 23-Oct-13 07:14:41

We have booked to take dd on the Santa express to kick off our Christmas on the 1st of December. Decs will go up the day before. We will do one Christmas related activity as a family once a week (at the weekend) until we finish work on the 21st. We have the Santa train, a trip after dark to see the festive lights ( and dds very first mcdonalds!), DDs nursery Christmas craft event etc. Friday night movie night will be Christmas themed too. On Christmas eve we are taking dd to softplay, followed by a pub lunch to which extended family are invited. Then we are going home to discover our hamper the elves have left us. We will bake Santa some cookies and watch a Christmas winne the pooh dvd. The day itself will be split into three. Early morning just us three, then round to pils for Christmas brunch, then to my parents for dinner. That is the plan. However, the key to it being 'perfect' lies in my expectations I think. Im going to try and be realistic and not focus on the little details. DD is only 2.5. She may have a tantrum. MIL may do my head in at some point. I may need to alter plans to be more accommodating to others. So above all, I intend to relax my way into Christmas this year. Fingers crossed it all goes well!

girlywhirly Wed 23-Oct-13 11:10:57

Seven, I always worry a bit when people talk about wanting the perfect Christmas. In my experience this is an unachievable dream and people are then disappointed. Mamabear is right, it is all about expectations and what you can reasonably do for your family. I appreciate that you want to try and make things nice after a bad year, but accepting that an enjoyed, happy, and loving Christmas is good and doesn't need to be perfect will remove a lot of the pressure to make it so. This doesn't mean you shouldn't put some effort in to organise nice things, just don't expect it to compensate for the bad year.

insanityscratching Wed 23-Oct-13 11:27:59

To be honest if left to me I wouldn't bother with any of it tree, decorations, gifts, food. I find it tedious tbh but because dh and dc enjoy it then I grit my teeth and put up with enforced jollity. It's somewhat ironic I was born on Christmas day and was named after a flippin' reindeer hmm

JoannaBaxterLovesBumsex Wed 23-Oct-13 11:33:52

The perfect christmas rarely happens without a slip up somewhere along the line.

I believe the best way to do it, is not panic, don't overspend on crap, as you say, enjoy the lights, nice tree, family time, nice long walks, and relaxing playing silly games. Don't put yourself under pressure to have the ideal christmas, just go with the flow and enjoy it. It has taken many years for me to achieve this, and may motto is to do what we want to do, not what is expected of us.

notso Wed 23-Oct-13 11:34:37

One where PIL, BIL, SIL and boyfriend don't descend before we've had our breakfast, eat all the good chocolates, demand tea and then bog off leaving a wake of random and unsuitable presents.
And I'm getting it, next year because we're going away to a lonely cottage with a hot tub, m'wahhahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahha!

JoannaBaxterLovesBumsex Wed 23-Oct-13 11:34:52

Insanity - Are you a Donna then! Surely not one of the others!!

Badvoc Wed 23-Oct-13 11:35:27

Please tell me your name is blitzen insanity!?
It would make me very happy smile
I agree sigh the poster above though...no such thing as the "perfect Xmas"
Dont set yourself up for disappointment.
Do things you think you and your dc might like.
Yes to carol service, yes to movies yes to snuggles on the sofa, but don't worry so much over the wrapping and garnish...and goose is very greasy ime.

notso Wed 23-Oct-13 11:40:48

Hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahah

DontMentionThePrunes Wed 23-Oct-13 11:44:56

Just me, DH, and DS. In our own home. Nice tree, presents under, start the day with a cocktail, picky breakfast of delicious nibbles while we open some presents. Presents from other people which, by the by, I have not had to think of, source, buy and wrap (this will never happen).
Big lunch. Walk up Arthur's Seat. Back for dessert, fire on, then a film and a glass of dessert wine and some chocolates. Huge lazy evening ahead.

Reasons why this can't happen: DH won't consider not going to his parents'. We have to eat a late dinner (which makes me ill), they fanny around with the presents and generally MIL requires someone to go and fetch them from the next room and then acts all surprised when she is handed the thing she just ordered that someone get her. In between all this she twitters around in her nightie talking about how mad she is to still be in her nightie and how she would have finished all the jobs (which nobody cares about but her) if she hadn't been put off by some random non-event the day before. There is no lazing about because she cannot allow anyone to relax without coming and telling them how pleased she is that they are relaxing, and would they like to perhaps do it upstairs in their room? And chocolate and trifle are out because they are too sweet and that's a moral failing.

Really wish I could boycott it but DS would suffer. So I'm stuck with it. What a bag of pure shite.

DontMentionThePrunes Wed 23-Oct-13 11:47:26

I am so sorry. That moan got the better of me blush

I think a really easy Christmas with excellent food, a good tree, an open fire if you've got one, and definitely a massive trifle is my ideal.

notso Wed 23-Oct-13 11:55:51

Don'tMention Put your foot down, it's taken me 13 years but Getting my way finally!

insanityscratching Wed 23-Oct-13 11:56:05

Yes I'm Donna blush , I think it was a joke on df's part hmm I was teased all through school and again once dc twigged. I've never ever liked Christmas although I'm sure my name and birthday had nothing to do with it, I'm a veritable Scrooge in all honesty.

DontMentionThePrunes Wed 23-Oct-13 11:59:29

notso I do really fancy the cottage-with-hot-tub idea.
The trouble is that 'putting my foot down' will involve unravelling a lot of things that need to stay ravelled up, until ds is older. We'll see. After last year, I registered (as I think I do every year) my displeasure grin

MuffCakes Wed 23-Oct-13 12:00:55

I'm having my perfect christmas this year. Having my christmas dinner cooked for me at my mums christmas eve, having christmas day in with just me and the kids with all our favourite buffet/party type of foods and boxing day at my nans with a another roast.

No stress at all finally, never had a christmas at home can't wait for the kids to actually be able to play with their pressies.

girlywhirly Wed 23-Oct-13 14:11:19

Prunes, how late is a late dinner? And could you sneak some trifle in before you go? Are you the lady who's MIL gives unsuitable presents and won't take no for an answer, you poor woman, come to mine and I can guarantee an enormous trifle!

My perfect Christmas......

Getting everything I need by the 23rd (last minute supermarket shopping).
So a nice relaxed Christmas Eve , maybe the cinema? (DH was working last year so I took DD and DS)

Waking up at a respectable time (not earlier than 7am). The DC opening their stockings and delighting in the gems within.
(I'll skip by the hauling myself out of bed and getting the guinea-pigs fed and put in their run)

Maybe DH volunteering to make breakfast - would be nice grin

Then me having the kitchen and the back room telly to myself to faff around and watch rubbishy soaps.

I always spend Christmas at my home. New Year I'm not so bothered about.

for me? in a big house, with a seperate lounge and dining room, bay windows in both with big real tree's in them. the dining room one would be tastefully decorated as we would be eating dinner in there, around a table big enough to seat us all, the lounge tree would be more colourful for the dc's. open fires in both rooms, roaring with big logs in. snow falling outside as we eat christmas dinner at around 4pm ish so its just dusk, not too much snow of course. nice big kitchen to cook dinner in, preferably with a range for plenty of space. little lit up tree's in the garden, and lights round the windows. other than that, our christmasses are pretty much perfect, we have fun, never any family fights. plenty of champagne smile

DontMentionThePrunes Wed 23-Oct-13 14:23:34

girlywhirly, I'm one of them, I think there were many of us on that tulips thread whose MILs and mothers wouldn't take no for an answer grin
Thank you for the offer of trifle. I feel trifle is a bit of a human right at Christmas.

We have trifle on Christmas Eve (one of our Traditions)

and I forgot the Perfect Christmas Snow <<doh!>>

fuzzpig Wed 23-Oct-13 15:50:58

My main wish is that my parents join in with the celebrations, maybe playing a game/doing a jigsaw with us or crafting with the DCs, and coming out for a walk with us... hopefully not just sitting on the sofa ignoring the DCs all day hmm

Apart from that I'm pretty relaxed grin good food, fun presents, iPod Xmas playlist, a piano to play carols on, what's not to love smile

whyno Wed 23-Oct-13 16:11:06

Singing christmas carols round a piano. Someone else putting the tree up and down. Friends dropping in for the odd glass of champagne throughout the day. Those are three things I'd like to add to my planned (pretty normal but nice) christmas but don't see how I can.

ArabellaPilkington Wed 23-Oct-13 16:43:24

Getting slowly trolleyed during the day on good Prosecco. Having friends round. Watching Dr Who. Seeing children's faces as they open their stockings. These are my favourite bits. I like Christmas Eve, making mince pies NORAD, reindeer food and landing path etc. Expect we will watch Arthur Christmas. We meet good friends at pub Xmas Eve lunchtime as its a birthday.

Doing the family duty thing is a must do but not a favourite thing.

Methe Wed 23-Oct-13 16:49:15

This Christmas is going to be amazing. It will be he first one in my adult life I've not either been working or ill in hospital. Last year I worked 12 hr shifts over Christmas and new year, this year I get 2 weeks off.

Watch me get flu.

It is inevitable, isn't it!

SevenOnwardsAndUpwards Wed 23-Oct-13 23:33:10

Perhaps I should have said my ideal Christmas, I know there's no such thing as perfect really especially as mil will come round in the morning to see DCs. We have an open fire which will be lit all day, and I'm hop

SevenOnwardsAndUpwards Wed 23-Oct-13 23:34:22

I'm hoping to prepare as much as possible on Christmas Eve so I can just go with it more on the day itself.

notso Thu 24-Oct-13 09:32:36

Aww Don'tmention I hope you get your way one day. I was lucky with my DH is he didn't want them to come either but didn't want to offend them, we have to go there on the day after Boxing Day for dinner anyway which is exactly the same as Christmas Day confused, so I don't know why they need to come on Christmas Day too.
We used to have to go on Boxing Day but we got relegated when the golden children BILs and SIL found wives and husband.
I actually like PIL most of the time but they are so controlling in getting their way it just makes me more stubborn.

AphraBehn Fri 25-Oct-13 00:00:18

Me and Richard Armitage in a 4 poster bed somewhere that does room service.

Or did you mean something more realistic?

Rubybrazilianwax Fri 25-Oct-13 10:00:36

One where it snows!
I have to admit to being lucky enough to have relatives who are not annoying or hard to be around so in the past we have always had a lovely Christmas Day. My silaws are great at helping out with food and cleaning. For me my Christmas is enjoyable because we don't do the racing around visiting people thing. December is always manic with all the things the do have on, then in the week before I have a few visits to aunts etc to make, I get the last food shopping on the 23rd. Then I don't go anywhere, apart from Christmas Eve mass until the 27th or so. Anyone who wants to see us is more than welcome to visit and I love people dropping in.Tis past few years have just been magical because it has all been focused on the dc and CHristmas Eve in the house with them is my favourite day of the year. Yes all the peeling and cooking is stressful but I spread this out over the day, doing one veg, then sitting down and watching a it of a film, then doing the spuds etc. I never put a timetable on anything either, that would definitely add to the stress.
In the past at Christmas we have ran out of heating oil, had frozen pipes, a premature labour and a broken ankle. No matter what you plan, something can always throw a spanner in the works!

storynanny Fri 25-Oct-13 12:04:46

One where I can turn the clock back to when my children were little and all at home believing in the magic instead of living around the world!
Oh maybe without the pre 6 am waking, spending all morning in the kitchen, critcal in laws, whining tired children who dont want to leave their toys to go out for a bracing walk though.
Maybe getting up late with my OH and visiting whoever has invited us and then having what we want to eat at whatever time we choose sounds good!
No, I still would rather be spending the day with little ones.
Whatever you do enjoy their little excited faces, it goes in a flash.

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