Do you like receiving toiletries as Christmas presents?

(137 Posts)
katykuns Fri 23-Nov-12 13:00:12

I am not a fan, but I don't really do the pampering thing...

Anything to avoid?

I am buying for SIL, who has a month old newborn

Gettheetoanunnery Fri 23-Nov-12 13:03:50

Well I love it! I hate cheap tat though, even if that does sound ungrateful.
Has she ever mentioned enjoying pampering herself?
You can't go wrong with a fancy bubble bath IMO. Boots is great for these presents with the 3 for 2

NeedlesCuties Fri 23-Nov-12 13:04:55

I would love it!

I have a 3 month old and would love anyone to buy me toiletries.

>hint, hint<

Alliwantisaroomsomewhere Fri 23-Nov-12 13:05:07

I love getting lovely bath stuff that I would not ordinarily buy for myself!

healstorturepeople Fri 23-Nov-12 13:05:32

I hate these kinds of gifts.

whatsforyou Fri 23-Nov-12 13:05:35

I used to love them until I had my DS, now I've got a cupboardful as I never get the time for lovely, long hot bath any more. And when I do I fall asleep in it so it's a bit of a waste!

What about a beauty treat like a manicure or massage and you could offer to babysit for an hour? I'm not sure if that's up your SIL's street but I would have loved it - make sure she's got plenty time to use it in though as it might be bit frantic just now with a newborn smile

Jins Fri 23-Nov-12 13:06:21

No I hate it. Those gift sets from Boots make my heart sink.

I am really fussy about toiletries not being tested on animals and it's never very clear on the gift sets.

thegreylady Fri 23-Nov-12 13:07:02

yes if they are good quality-I love Molton Brown stuff especially.

weeblueberry Fri 23-Nov-12 13:07:31

I think buying her smellies that reflects her personality and likes is absolutely fine. ie I love getting smellies but anyone who knows me knows I hate flowery smelling stuff. If you can get her that but remember what she likes it's a good present. smile

Parisbanana Fri 23-Nov-12 13:07:35

Love it if I get something luxurious, especially a body lotion, that I wouldn't justify buying for myself.

I love getting bubble baths/bombs, but hate getting moisturisers. I have a particular one on prescription that I have to use, so they're just a waste.

Goandplay Fri 23-Nov-12 13:09:11

I would prefer a really really nice bottle of bubble bath or shower gel to a generic gift set.

I wouldn't spend over £5 on bubble bath or shower gel but would love to receive some as a present. I love those sort of presents you receive that you wouldn't buy yourself IYKWIM.

WandaDoff Fri 23-Nov-12 13:09:29

I hate them. Anything heavily scented brings me up in a rash & I don't have the pleasure of having a bathtub. Not much point for me really

Only if they are brands I like and use, I always appreciate a ceridwens cauldron bath melt from Lush grin

Jins Fri 23-Nov-12 13:09:56

Having said that I hate them as gifts they are very useful to regift or give to tombolas later in the year

So yes I hate getting them, never use, them and wouldn't care if I never got them again they do save me time and money in the long run

LadyMaryCrawley Fri 23-Nov-12 13:12:42

No, I don't like it, and I always end up with body lotion which I hardly ever use or buy so I have tons of the stuff hanging about being all useless and smug and smooth.

I like getting a really really nice bubble bath or body lotion, like molton brown. I'm not generally a fan of gift sets.

NellyBluth Fri 23-Nov-12 13:16:18

Only stuff I already use. So decent shower gel and nice moisturiser (if you know she doesn't have any issues that require special creams) is always appreciated, but not bubble bath or bath bombs. I hate baths. Who had time for a big long soak anyway?

If you're going to do it, go for something practical.

StiffyByng Fri 23-Nov-12 13:16:31

I adore hideously expensive good quality bath stuff that I wouldn't buy myself, but as I can never be bothered to use body lotion it's a bit of a waste to buy me a set. A cheap generic one might get used in an emergency but I wouldn't be thrilled.

Dawndonna Fri 23-Nov-12 13:17:30

I love smellies and always ask for them. Smellies and books for me and I'm a happy, happy bunny.

WelshMaenad Fri 23-Nov-12 13:17:45

I always get lush gift boxes at Xmas and ration them throughout the year. I don't spend much money on myself so it's nice to have treats!

charlmarascoxo Fri 23-Nov-12 13:19:40

I'm another one who hates them.

You generally can't go wrong with the Benefit gift sets though. I remember when they got reduced last year in Boots before Christmas and people went crazy for them.

WelshMaenad Fri 23-Nov-12 13:21:41

Charl do you mean the Soap and Glory sets? I don't remember reductions on Benefit (would have shelled out, I love Benefit).

YouOldSlag Fri 23-Nov-12 13:23:29

I love toiletries as I hardly ever feel justified in coming home with Sanctuary Body Souffle when my kids need new shoes etc, so it's lovely to have treats that are just for me.

However, I do hate it when my mum says "I've bought smellies". I really hate the word smellies and smelly. Horrible!

However, IME if you're buying toiletry gift sets, you can't go wrong with Soap and Glory, Sanctuary, Lush or Crabtree and Evelyn type stuff.

I also absolutely love having little soaps in a box. I get a huge thrill out of them, especially if they are shaped like roses and wrapped in tissue or something. TK Maxx is outstanding for soaps in stunningly beautiful packaging.

LaTrucha Fri 23-Nov-12 13:24:49

If they're from L'Occitane! grin

MissCellania Fri 23-Nov-12 13:25:12


charlmarascoxo Fri 23-Nov-12 13:25:48

WelshMaenad what an idiot haha, yes I do mean Soap and Glory!

Maybe it was just wishful thinking on my part smile

freddiefrog Fri 23-Nov-12 13:26:47

I love getting the Soap and Glory hat boxes from DH for Christmas.

I'm quite particular about toiletries (I'm allergic to some stuff) so most of it ends up being donated to the school summer fete

Rooble Fri 23-Nov-12 13:27:13

Depends who buys them for me. My DSIS/DM know exactly what to get (stuff like REN, White Company, l'Occitane), but my MIL gets stuff like Lush/random economy brands which bring me out in a rash.
So basically depends how well you know her. That isn't necessarily helpful, is it?

I really like it - but not flouncy flowery gift sets. Lush or Body Shop is always a good choice or just some nice normal stuff like Radox shower gels or bubble baths. I got so many shower gels last year for Christmas that I've not had to buy any at all this year (and still have 2 full bottles).

NoraGainesborough Fri 23-Nov-12 13:28:39

I like all the lush sets.

So any of those or a really luxurious brand that I wouldn't buy myself would be nice.

I love these sorts of pressies

Dislike gift sets such as sanctuary, dove etc. Love anything from clarins. SIL bought me the benefit eyecream when ds2 was born and it's lovely.

WilsonFrickett Fri 23-Nov-12 13:29:16

Only do it if you know without a shadow of a doubt which brands she likes. And don't buy cheaper versions.

Corygal Fri 23-Nov-12 13:30:47

YES I LOVE THEM. Poundland or Harvey Nicks, it's all blissikins to me.

musicmadness Fri 23-Nov-12 13:30:58

I hate them - I'm really not interested in body lotion/moisturiser etc and hate having baths so bath lotion is a really crap gift. Every birthday and Christmas without fail I end up with some, which then gets binned or re-gifted onto someone else.

I think it depends, if your SIL is the type of person who likes spa days, long baths and is into beauty routines then she would probably love getting some nice toiletries, if she is like me and picks up whatever is cheapest quite happily then she probably won't. Only you can judge if she is likely to be interested or not.

FrootLoops Fri 23-Nov-12 13:31:01

I really like getting bath stuff because it's something I don't usually buy for myself and getting it makes me want to use it therefore ensuring I get an hour of peace and quiet now and then.

3bunnies Fri 23-Nov-12 13:31:40

I personally hate them, I buy the stuff I like, and some smells set me off sneezing. I would in her position prefer an offer of babysitting and cinema voucher (as long as fairly long expiry date if bf).

ClippedPhoenix Fri 23-Nov-12 13:32:02

I'm in the don't really want to receive these camp.

I love them as long as they are good quality - ren, philosophy, aromatherapy associates & lush would be my favourites.

Pascha Fri 23-Nov-12 13:32:47

Instant response to OP: No. Hate it. Gets sent to the local hospice present amnesty every time.

I will now go back and read other responses and see how abnormal I am.

FreudiansSlipper Fri 23-Nov-12 13:33:10

no not unless it is something i really like. i prefer to be bought an item or items that i will use so have been thought about, do not care if it is 3 for 2 offers from boots (i love soap and glory) the cost in irrelevant

often it is lazy present buying

MorrisZapp Fri 23-Nov-12 13:33:44


Ideally posh, but happy with own brand. I love radox shower smoothies, they're cheap as chips.

Hand cream, skin care, whatever. Bring it on!

HazeltheMcWitch Fri 23-Nov-12 13:35:28

I love it, if it's something I use (or would like to). I'm fussy, basically. So only buy generic smellies, or things that you know she'd use. I also think that facial skincare and makeup are really too personal, you'd have to know EXACTLY what to get...

EG I never have baths, only showers. So bubble bath would be wasted on me. I hate 'cheap smellies', which writing it down sounds really snobbish! My sister loves it as she gets all my unwanted smellies after Xmas. Hand/foot cream is usually a pretty safe bet?

ChippingInLovesAutumn Fri 23-Nov-12 13:38:37

Not really no. I'm quite fussy about fragrances and rarely use moisturisers so they often end up being passed on to other friends (or tombola etc). However, if it's something someone knows I use, then that's lovely smile

IMO Clarins hand lotion is a good gift, it's not heavily scented & it's not greasy and when you have a baby your hands seem to be in water a lot.

TeWiDoesTheHulaInHawaii Fri 23-Nov-12 13:39:42

No, i don't like it.

Have skin issues and have gone SLS and paraben free to try and improve my skin so wouldn't use anything that doesn't fit this.

OutragedAtThePriceOfFreddos Fri 23-Nov-12 13:41:28

I love smellies as presents, but ideally not body lotion, as I'm fussy about that. I like the Soap and Glory stuff, Sanctuary stuff and anything above that in price range. Not marks and spencer own brand or that Baylis and Harding stuff that is just a Molton Brown knock off.

PetiteRaleuse Fri 23-Nov-12 13:41:55

They are useful to regift. We don't have a bath, only a shower, so gift boxes which include bath salts and bubble bath are wasted on me anyway. And I have loads of body creams and perfmes which have been gifts over the years and just can't get through them all even if I were to use them several times a day. I had a clear out when I last moved house, and in the future everything along those lines will go to my local women's refuge if its decent stuff, and the bin if it's shite.

I a now a sahm so can't even regift with secret santa like I used to <cheapskate>

itsatrap Fri 23-Nov-12 13:42:39

I love it- especially lush. Pre dc one of my favorite Christmas day activities was to have a bubble bath with my new toiletries.

ElephantsAndMiasmas Fri 23-Nov-12 13:42:58

I have eczema so a lot of stuff would just be a waste - expense is definitely not necessarily a guarantee of good ingredients IME and often if you read the list it's the same crap as is in Dove or own brand stuff.

But I have had lovely toiletry presents, like a really gorgeous cleanser from Lush (their cleansers are second to none IMO, especially UltraBland and Angels On Bare Skin) and a small set of different perfumes that I could try, and also really a nice expensive set of shampoo and conditioner - I think it was the ginger one from Origins. So in answer I'd say something you reckon she uses anyway but in a nicer, more luxurious type.

fromparistoberlin Fri 23-Nov-12 13:44:02

NOOOOO to the Boots gift boxes, I hate HATE then, expecially if they have a pink sponge included

anything M&S, ditto
Bodyshop, ditto

Yes to Clarins, and that ilk, even Chanel dare I say

but noone ever get me Clarins do they lets face it

I get a fucking Sanctuary bubble bath, shit mousturiser and shower gel

hey ho

WilsonFrickett Fri 23-Nov-12 13:45:13

ooh Clarins hand cream is bliss and one of the few that I'm not allergic too (although wonder if infrequent application may have something to do with that).

TeWi can you recommend any SLS free brands? <shameless hijack>

Startail Fri 23-Nov-12 13:47:39

Body lotion?

What is it for?

Who has the time?

Bubble bath, Yes
Shower gell Yes
Posh shampoo and Conditioner Yes, I have longish hair, I use loads of conditioner.

Expensive make up, yes and facial moisturiser,

But body lotion Why!

olgaga Fri 23-Nov-12 13:49:14

Personally I love stuff like this. My sister bought me a lovely Champneys set a few years back and the body lotion was fantastic.

I'd steer clear of bath stuff - I don't ever remember having time for a long luxurious bath until DD was about 7 - years not months! OK slight exaggeration but if she's on her own a lot with the baby there's little chance.

I'd stick to shower, hair, body and definitely some really nice expensive hand cream.

However, I'd point out that charity shops always seem to have lots of toiletry sets that people have obviously received as gifts and discarded.

My thanks to all those who get rid of their unwanted sets to charity shops - my bathroom cupboard is fit to burst with them!

Startail Fri 23-Nov-12 13:49:37

Hand cream, yes.

But body lotion, you can't put it on your face and it doesn't work as hand cream. It serves no useful purpose what so ever.

Gettheetoanunnery Fri 23-Nov-12 13:50:15

Body lotion is fab. I started moisturising my body every other day about 6 months ago and have really noticed a difference in my skin now.

olgaga Fri 23-Nov-12 13:50:57

Maybe it depends how old you are - I don't remember using body lotion much when I was young but now I'm afraid it's essential!

WilsonFrickett Fri 23-Nov-12 13:51:24

I have a friend who is also very anti-body lotion Startail. Direct quote: its only purpose is to make your skin feel dry when you don't put it on. It's addictive. It's like crack. Crack for skin. grin

quoteunquote Fri 23-Nov-12 13:52:34

No, it goes straight to school, for the next fair or to the charity shop.

Are you sure she likes smellies or would you be better getting her a nice dressing gown, to upgrade into when baby's stopped being sick down her current one?

Jins Fri 23-Nov-12 13:53:24

I'm old and I don't use body lotion. The only time I use moisturiser on my body is when I've been in the sun

Quenelle Fri 23-Nov-12 13:53:52

If it's one tube of really nice moisturiser or similar, yes please. If it's an overpackaged gift set of bogstandard stuff in miniature bottles, no thank you.

Earthymama Fri 23-Nov-12 13:54:10

My heart sinks as both DP and I have really sensitive skin. I have psoriasis and my skin erupts just from looking at the packaging!!

I love jams. chutneys, olives, liquers, really nice chocolate.....if the gift set had those I would be delighted!! wink

AlexanderS Fri 23-Nov-12 13:54:49

No, as a general rule I end up with things I don't like the smell of.

Jins Fri 23-Nov-12 13:57:26

How much love goes into the purchase of a three for two gift set from Boots?

Is it a really personal thing? Do you look at it and think 'Oh X would just love that!'?

No is the answer. It's stuff you buy because you have to buy someone a present and you can't think of anything personal.

bondigidum Fri 23-Nov-12 13:59:30

Depends what it is.

I've been bought horrible floral cheap stuff that basically just went in the bin I may act 85 but I don't wish to smell it. Sounds ungrateful but gosh it was ming.. I've also had 'bath salts' and 'bath bombs' which also go in the bin.. They're useless!

On the other hand I like a nice set like Soap and Glory or a fruity bath set or some nice body butter. Its a tough one though unless you know whether she's more of a fruity or floral person.

They're a practical gift as long as its a fragrance you like.

willyoulistentome Fri 23-Nov-12 14:00:50

Nah - I'm not a pamperer! Hate stupid smellies. I give them away to the school tombola usually.

MerylStrop Fri 23-Nov-12 14:01:59

only if it is the brands or fragrances I like
don't like stupid gift sets with bath mits etc and loads of packaging
can you find out what kind of thing she likes first

StaceeJaxx Fri 23-Nov-12 14:03:08

I used to hate getting toiletries for CHristmas and birthdays. But that was back in the days when I was working and I can afford to buy myself little luxuries like that. hmm Nowadays I love getting them for CHristmas and birthdays in fact I specifically ask for them (if people ask). I've still got 4 huge tubs of body butter from my birthday in July. grin

Kundry Fri 23-Nov-12 14:07:17

Yes - if someone bought me a lovely set of the brands where I'm not allergic to the fragrance and are soap and SLS free so I don't get ezcema from them.

But why would someone know that about me? It took me years to figure out what I could and couldn't use and you wouldn't know i had ezcema but now I use the right stuff, it's really well controlled.

So for me, they are an automatic regift. Which I try to do without the giver knowing but has led to disappointment.

RooneyMara Fri 23-Nov-12 14:08:14

If it's cheaper things like M&S gift sets or whatever (yes to the ubiquitous pink sponge/fluffy netting thing...why?) then I hate it. I hate the product and the packaging.
Always goes to charity immediately.

If it's something really posh and expensive, I feel bad because it seems to good to use to wash with. My sister sent me some Dr Hauschka a few years ago which is still in its little tin, I don't understand what to do with all these little tubes.

And my lovely friend sent me some Neals Yard bottles a while before that, too - but I couldn't bring myself to use them. It felt so wrongly self indulgent. I gve one to another friend who wasn't well, and eventually used one of them up, but I felt guilty every time. I kept the bottle though as it was pretty.

Soap is soap is soap, really. I buy my own.

nickelbabeuntiladvent Fri 23-Nov-12 14:09:29

do you not know anything about her?

can you not be a little bit more <erm> personal?

if my SIL gave me toiletries, i'd think "gee, thanks, nice to see you think about me" and think that we really need to spend more time together to get to know each other.

spend a bit of time with her now and listen to her!

nickelbabeuntiladvent Fri 23-Nov-12 14:10:38

I don't like getting toiletries, because i don't use soap/shower gel much. DH ends up using it all.
i would use shampoo and conditioner, but no one ever buys that, do they!

and i use moisturizer, but only nice stuff wink

MarianForrester Fri 23-Nov-12 14:10:54

I hate toiletries as gifts as I know what I kind and what I am allergic to, etc.

Jins Fri 23-Nov-12 14:19:25

It's good to see that Soap and Glory is popular because I always get one of the gift sets and I hate the stuff. I've always felt guilty about regifting it.

I'm liking the benefit/soap and glory confusion upthread grin

katykuns Fri 23-Nov-12 14:29:51

I am thinking of avoiding buying them for her... mainly because I can see them sitting in a cupboard not getting used while she has rushed showers to look after her lovely little girl. Also, everyone else might get her toiletries and then she will get a complex about her body odour grin

It's partly why I wish my family would stop buying them for me... it's all I get... including some sets that have actually been used hmm

katykuns Fri 23-Nov-12 14:32:17

This is what I am getting my niece though smile

MarianForrester Fri 23-Nov-12 14:32:49

What about a lovely soft scarf to keep her warm when our with pram?

StiffyByng Fri 23-Nov-12 14:34:13


For my 30th I was given a Philosophy gift set, which was quite expensive. It was chocolate scented stuff which I loathe - I can only cope with quite sharp, light smells - and I broke up the set and regifted the three bottles. I felt bad doing it but I would never have used it. Anyway, just as I'd got shot of the last one, I saw a friend who I hadn't seen since my birthday and she gave me... yes, the same set all over again.

TeWiDoesTheHulaInHawaii Fri 23-Nov-12 14:41:11

Wilson I've only just started trying them out! So far I like happy hair company for shampoo/conditioner, good things fresh start face wash and have just been using an oil-free moisturiser.

Quenelle Fri 23-Nov-12 14:47:21

Scarf is a nice idea Marian.

Or some lovely gloves. I would love to receive these sheepskin gloves.

DumSpiroSpero Fri 23-Nov-12 14:54:53

No - I'm pretty fussy about smells and unless it's something I've specifically asked for I find myself having to do a big fake smiley face and regifting it a few months later.

Not that I don't appreciate the sentiment - I really do, but I've suffered from quite severe rhinitis since childhood and I suspect it's buggered my sense of smell up, as even a lot of very expensive toiletries and perfumes smell revolting to me.

katykuns Fri 23-Nov-12 14:56:50

scarf is a good idea... thanks smile

DumSpiroSpero Fri 23-Nov-12 14:57:00

Having said all that - I would appreciate nice hand cream, or a Lush voucher - ideal for a new mum (rather then Boots etc) as she'd have to treat herself rather than spend it on nappies and wipes!

I love receiving them because I don't treat myself to nice stuff, just the bog standard family shower gel etc.

My brother occasionally surprises me and the girls with little sets from the body shop, which is lovely.

scarletforya Fri 23-Nov-12 15:01:05

No. I hate this stuff. It's junk. I have thousands of dusty bottles of Body lotion, body lotion; one of the most useless things in the history of the world. Who has time to slather themselves in cold grease in this climate?

I'd rather a bottle of beer than a bottle of Body lotion!

The last gift set I got was Clarins, I stuck it in the first charity bag that came in the door. Present wise it's worthless junk, just like scented candles and boxes of chocolates. The equivalent of saying to someone, I see you as a vague generic blur, here's some unimaginative tat!

diddl Fri 23-Nov-12 15:02:46

I don´t like the gift boxes either, but I do like nice soap, handcream & I use body lotion!

MrsJohnDeere Fri 23-Nov-12 15:04:11

No. Almost all give me eczema. Always give them to school raffles.

diddl Fri 23-Nov-12 15:04:43

Actually, maybe I don´t use body lotion-just a moisturiser sometimes-don´t like stuff that matches a perfume.

Beanbagz Fri 23-Nov-12 15:05:22

No, because i'm allergic to quite a few things and even my own mum seems to get it wrong when buying for me.

DublinMammy Fri 23-Nov-12 15:05:43

No way - I have v v sensitive skin and have to avoid a lot of nasties that get put in most of these things..... Feel free to send me Dr Hauschka or Jurlique though... Why not ask her what brands she likes so you can make sure you get it right?

MrsHoarder Fri 23-Nov-12 15:07:28

Don't get her mountains of standard stuff. I hate getting toiletries because I feel obliged to use them. I haven't been able to choose my own shower gel for 3 years.

bringmeroses Fri 23-Nov-12 15:09:33

I don't like anything that's not great quality but I've got fussy over the years.
I'd rather have a gift voucher or a recipe book.

bringmeroses Fri 23-Nov-12 15:09:57

Or a lovely scarf

Woozley Fri 23-Nov-12 15:13:55

Molton Brown, Temple Spa - yes

Superdrug/Asda - no

Woozley Fri 23-Nov-12 15:15:20

Someone gave me a basket of Yardley English Lavender stuff one year, it went straight to the charity shop. As did the fondue kit and the mulled wine kit.

Jins Fri 23-Nov-12 15:15:52

If you do get a scarf then make sure it goes with the sort of things she usually wears though.

I get given loads of coloured, patterned things, usually pink, to 'brighten my outfit up a bit' grin

Very backhanded

Mrsjay Fri 23-Nov-12 15:22:48

Nothing wrong ina nice bubble bath imo U like getting toiletries for christmas I am not into pampering either but I do love a bubble bath, although mum has started buying me rose scented bubbles not amused mother

YouOldSlag Fri 23-Nov-12 16:01:55

I am grateful for anything at Christmas and never get annoyed if a gift doesn't suit me. I think it's awful that we are so easily annoyed by people getting us wrong. We are so bloody lucky it's ridiculous.

mumstonic Fri 23-Nov-12 16:14:01

Yes, I love a bit of pampering so long as its Elemis or Moulton Brown and something I'd never contemplate buying myself without inducing guilt.
Sounds ungrateful but MIL and SIL always give me those cheap Tesco sets that make my skin itch and smell like lemon toilet cleaner or sickly sweet jam. I re-gift them now to DD's teenage friends on their birthdays :-)

I am really fussy about toiletries so generally they are not a good gift for me, I don't use body lotion very often and prefer unfragranced, I don't have baths so the DCs end up with any of my bath stuff, shower gels tend to aggravate my eczema, as do liquid soaps, so anything in a bottle is likely to get returned or go to a charity shop. Handcreams are a good bet with me, failing that Lush or Boots gift vouchers keep me happy.

I don't do treatments etc so a voucher for a manicure etc would not be great either. When I had a three month old I wouldn't have appreciated a gift that required me to spend time away from my PFB (or PSB).

Actually with a three month old, handcream is a great idea, you are constantly washing hands after nappy changes etc, mine got trashed.

Oblomov Fri 23-Nov-12 16:20:51

Not really. Most stuff is too perfumed for me. My lovely mil buys me terrible cheap shower gel etc, that i just can't use. I did thank her and tell her it was too perfumed for me, but she continues. So I did say that again, but to no avail.
But hey, not that big an issue !!

ByTheWay1 Fri 23-Nov-12 16:23:55

I'm easy to please - any present has been fine with me - bathroom stuff is great - If I don't particularly like the smell on me or if it irritates my skin it gets used to clean the bathroom with - my bathroom always smells GREAT - or to remove makeup or keep handbags supple if it is lotion...

TigerseyeMum Fri 23-Nov-12 16:55:31

I think it's ok to buy one bottle or set of a good quality and ideally non-allergenic brand, something that is useable but too expensive to be everyday.

Currently I have 13 different shower gels, all good quality, reckon I won't have to buy any for about 2 years!

The ones I like least are the cheapo gift sets as they set my skin off badly. Plus the sticker showing Boots 3 for 2....

Brands I can use are: Neals Yard Remedies, L'occitane, Ren, Dr Houschka, and a few organiccy, natural brands you might get in John Lewis or health food shops. I think these are less risky in case of allergies.

If she is a new mum what about Neals Yard mum and baby stuff? They do lovely stretch mark cream!

purrpurr Fri 23-Nov-12 17:00:20

ByTheWay - I love the idea of using unwanted sets to clean the bathroom with!

My SIL always gets me these generic sets from the 3 for 2 at Boots. It makes me feel sad whenever I open them. I tried for years to foster a friendship with her, to no avail. To receive Bayliss and Harding gift sets now just makes me sad. I started getting those in particular from my SIL and my MIL after I bought a bottle of B&H handwash for the downstairs loo. That was it - future presents sorted. I don't even like the stuff - I just thought it would look a bit more posh than the supermarket own brand stuff...

starfishmummy Fri 23-Nov-12 17:12:25

I'm not a fan of gift sets with little bottles of several different things - there's always something I will never use. I especially don't like the overpriced sets that come in a hideous make up bag or a plant pot or something - Id rather they spent less on a big bottle of a bog-standard brand.

kiwigirl42 Fri 23-Nov-12 17:12:47

No. Just NO. unless you know her favorite perfume and get something in that line. I hate it getting random smelly shit. it offends me. DH knows to refer to 'the list'. This year featuring Louve, Shalimar and Teint de Neige.

GreenShadow Fri 23-Nov-12 17:20:40

No, sorry, would rather receive almost anything other than toiletries. Any I do get often get donated to tombolas (along with rather a lot of rather people's unwanted 'smellies'

Rudolphstolemycarrots Fri 23-Nov-12 18:09:31

I'd hate it

Alligatorpie Fri 23-Nov-12 18:22:13

Tigereye- I would have been so pissed if someone gave me stretch mark cream after the birth of either of my children as I didn't get any stretch marks. I also think it is really personal to ask.

I hate smellies ( and the word) my inlaws always get me a huge expensive basket of lush products for xms that I can't stand the smell of. I don't know why they started this, but it has been going on about four years now. dd1 (6) loves them, so she gets them all. Hopefully I won't get any this year as we have just moved into a place that doesn't have a bath, only a shower. they know this, so we'll see.

Blu Fri 23-Nov-12 18:23:40

Not if they are from Lush, no.

Anyway, you wouldn't give a Lush product to anyone with a newborn, would you? It would taint the milk supply, for sure.

ToffeeCaramel Fri 23-Nov-12 18:29:44

I love it as i love stuff that smells nice.

justaweeone Fri 23-Nov-12 18:30:04

A friend bought me some clarins hand cream for my birthday
A lovely presents as since having kids haven't been able to justify buying it for myself

DumSpiroSpero Fri 23-Nov-12 18:36:13

No. Almost all give me eczema. Always give them to school raffles.

I organised our school raffle this summer, and the amount of gift sets of toiletries that were donated was unreal.

We ended up having a 'Pamper Tombola' as we literally couldn't have given it all away.

soverylucky Fri 23-Nov-12 18:52:23

I love getting these sets and as long as it is not the sort of stuff from poundland that smells a bit weird it is fine by me. I haven't got much money though so I think it is great that I don't have to purchase shower and bath stuff very often.
If you have skin that is sensitive to certain products like eczma then your nearest and dearest should know this and I can see how you would think this sort of gift is an insult. But tbh some of you sound quite snobby and ungrateful.

Mrsrobertduvallsaysboo Fri 23-Nov-12 18:56:15

I have just ticketed the tombola for our school fair.
There were lots and lots of boxed toiletries, sets, soaps. Body Shop, Sanctuary, Ted Baker.
Plus a spectacularly hideous mug and coaster some poor sod will win next week grin

neverputasockinatoaster Fri 23-Nov-12 19:00:31

I'm not a huge fan. Most scented stuff makes me sneeze and I have exzema (which you'd think I'd be able to spell wouldn't you? Having had it for the last 45 years and all!) so have to be careful what I use.

However, I did bath when DS was little - I had a cs and was advised to have a bath rather than a shower as I was having issues with my scar. I used to put DS in his bouncy chair and sing to him while I showered - he inevitably went to sleep. Could I do that with DD? No I bloody could not!

My favourite present when I had DD was a bag that velocroed onto the handle of her pram. It had a matching water bottle holder. I'm strange.

Laquitar Fri 23-Nov-12 19:17:54

Imo the sets from boots, body shop etc have a big sign on them: 'Unwanted, Recycled Present'. Everybody seems to recycle the last year's ones.

Mrsjay Fri 23-Nov-12 19:23:25

TBH i do panic buy 3for2 at boots when i cant think what else to get folk it is easy blush

BikeRunSki Fri 23-Nov-12 19:31:44

I hate it. I never have baths, unless in labour, and am particular about what I put on my skin. I love Origins face skin care , but have an untouched 2 yo Origins presentation box of bath products. Seems such a waste...

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BoerWarKids Fri 23-Nov-12 19:47:56

TigerseyeCream Is it wise to buy a new mum stretch mark cream, she might take it the wrong way? Depends on how close the relationship is, I suppose.

I hate, hate, hate receiving smellies. I only use particular brands; Weleda, Lavera, Trilogy and John Masters Organics, so I hate all that Boots 3 for 2 crap. Every year without fail, my well-meaning relatives get me bath salts or bombs when I only have a shower, no bath tub sad

I would love it if people actually asked me what I'd like and I'd tell them specifically. If I want something I just go out and buy it, so I approach Christmas without many wants and certainly no needs. I'd be happy to cease all gift exchanging tbh.

Yes, I'm a miserable, ungrateful cow wink

kiwigirl42 Fri 23-Nov-12 19:51:12

I am snobby and ungrateful of thoughtless, cheap shit presents. Would rather have nought.

choccyp1g Fri 23-Nov-12 19:55:23

Unless it's Elle McPherson, no thanks it will go straight to the school fair.

TigerseyeMum Fri 23-Nov-12 23:06:24

Oh it's not just stretch mark cream, fear not. It goes on cracked nipples from breast feeding too, so no need to worry about causing offence smile

vamosbebe Fri 23-Nov-12 23:14:21

I'm not a fan of them myself. I have just moved house and chucked out a bin bag's worth of stuff I'd received over the years (some was given away). Some was cheap, some was Bodyshop, some Clinique, some Clarins, some Lancome - out it all went smile

MadameCreeper Fri 23-Nov-12 23:23:26

I'm not a massive fan but have got some nice stuff from my sill. I think it has to be a big bottle of something and to travel bottle size. They'd tend to hang around the house for a few years and don't even make it into my weekend bag.

BrianButterfield Fri 23-Nov-12 23:25:33

God, I'll take all of yours. I love getting posh stuff like Clinique and Clarins - ask DH for it even - Lush, S&G and Sanctuary are all very nice and anything else is fine too (what's honestly wrong with a Dove or Nivea shower gel? Honestly?).

This thread just can't be representative for the world at large. Most people I know buy supermarket smellies for themselves and are pleased to get branded stuff for presents, never mind any of this "I only use XYZ (v expensive) brand".

cashmere Fri 23-Nov-12 23:32:02

In the interest of saving money we've ploughed through all our sets this year and haven't bought any ourselves (Boots, Next, M and S etc). It's not felt like a treat though!

A treat for me is Molton Brown bubble bath, or their handsoap Rose Granati has a gorgeous smell and great with a newborn when you wash your hands ++. I'd love that with the matching handcream as I'd never usually buy posh handsoap but the smell really lasts.

I also like handcream and the hard lemon verbena soap from L'Ocittane- the soaps are about £4 and I use in shower/to shave legs. Much prefer to the proper Verbena shower gel.
Oh I also love their Almond body oil. I've always wanted to try the Elemis body oil and Papaya face exfoliator too.

BusyLittleSpider Sat 24-Nov-12 00:02:03

I'm with BrianButterfield here, I'm quite shocked at some of the responses here!

I love nice bath and body stuff but can't justify the expense so would be enormously grateful to receive a nice Boots gift set, let alone Clarins!

pigletmania Sat 24-Nov-12 00:03:29

I dnt mind unless it's cheap tat. Sanctuary, soap and glory, body shop are all good

pigletmania Sat 24-Nov-12 00:04:55

Oh and lush too

ClippedPhoenix Sat 24-Nov-12 00:07:02

I can't be doing with "lush"

I personally dont want to wash myself with a piece of pizza, neither do I want to wash myself with a lump of coconut. I want a bloody bar of soap.

HoldMeCloserTonyDanza Sat 24-Nov-12 00:13:16

Ugh a million bottles of shite cluttering up the bathroom.

Put something in the bath, you have glittery scum to clean up afterwards.

And then you smell weird and it rubs off on the baby.


Dozer Sat 24-Nov-12 00:13:42

No no no more toiletries.

Cabrinha Sat 24-Nov-12 00:30:43

No. Absolutely no.
I just do not get why anyone describes them as a treat.
It's just soap, people! Just soap.
Over priced soap.
I suppose the Doce type price range is a more useful present than most things for quite a few people. But anything more than that and I just shudder at the price of... soap.

There are 2 reasons why they're OK as gifts though...
(1) they sell well at car boot sales
(2) as consumables, you're not stuck with some awful ornament or necklace that the giver might expect to see again ;0)

I appreciate the kindness of anyone who bothers to get me a gift, but these, I just don't see the point.

ravenAK Sat 24-Nov-12 00:31:15

SIL & I always buy each other Lush gift sets...on occasion we've exchanged the same one.

Not fussed, really. Nice treat, inoffensive gift choice, but probably wouldn't miss it much.

I'd prefer proper perfume or something gorgeous from Illamasqua, but I can choose that myself in the NY sale.

RowanMumsnet (MNHQ) Sat 24-Nov-12 07:49:09

Hi there

This isn't an AIBU so we've moved it to Christmas.

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