What do you buy the kids that have everything - feeling stressed at the thought of Xmas..

(45 Posts)
mrsmoodypants Wed 26-Sep-12 18:03:43

I love Xmas, love the whole thing - but this year i'm feeling stressed already - i know its months away but i normally have ideas lined up. This year nothing!

The kids have lego, crafts sets, kitchens and tea sets, train sets, trampolines, bikes, books, jigsaws, dressing up, dvd's and so on - not all bought by us but lots of presents or things passed on by friends.

I have NO idea what to get them, without buying for the sake of it and adding to the pile of stuff. I could buy more action figures but they don't often play with the ones they've got - this is the problem i think.....Eldest is 7 - youngest therefore has everything! Also on a bit of budget so lots of fancy techno stuff is out..

I thought about annual passes somewhere which they would like but somehow can't see the reaction on Xmas day being that great..(or is that me overthinking)

Anyone else in the same boat?

nagynolonger Wed 26-Sep-12 18:07:11

Tickets for a panto or Christmas show.

mrsmoodypants Wed 26-Sep-12 18:10:07

Grandparents doing that and its before xmas.....looked at concert tickets for eldest but silly money since i'd have to go too...

mrsmoodypants Wed 26-Sep-12 18:11:20

I feel like cancelling and using the money towards for a holiday smile they can have swimming and ice creams as a present

WineOhWhy Wed 26-Sep-12 18:15:17

MIne are a little older (8 and 9), but I have similar issue. I get asked by family what to get them and I dont even have enough ideas for myself! Luckily they are now at an age (and disposition) where they really like getting clothes and vouchers as presents. I have asked them what they would like but the have not been able to come up with anything (apart from a pair of Ugg style boots in one case). I shall watch with interest.

Elk Wed 26-Sep-12 18:17:50

A magazine subscription.

Elk Wed 26-Sep-12 18:18:51

A kindle

Mollydoggerson Wed 26-Sep-12 18:19:20

Sing-a-long karaoke machine.
What do they love most?

Spngebob sing-a-long toys

Books about Space/Science/Animals. Giant novelty books.

nagynolonger Wed 26-Sep-12 18:20:04

Aunt bought my DD a kit to make a gingerbread house one year. She loved making it and DC ate it after so we didn't have to store it. How about a simple cookery book and some ingredients....if you fancy cooking with DC!
Stuff for their bedrooms, new bed linen, some story CDs.

mrsmoodypants Wed 26-Sep-12 18:20:09

A kindle - is that not a bit too grown up a gift (i'd love one myself!!!)....or am i behind the times hmm and are they not pricey??

Bonsoir Wed 26-Sep-12 18:20:55

A really lovely dolls house?

picnicbasketcase Wed 26-Sep-12 18:21:49

Maybe sort out a load of stuff they have outgrown or don't use and give it to charity shops or eBay it. Then if they do get more toys, at least there will be more room for it. Tickets for a show is a lovely idea though

mrsmoodypants Wed 26-Sep-12 18:23:45

Bloody hell my kids are soo spoilt and its not been intentional.....they have more or less what has been suggested......

Does anyone else feel they are buying for sake of it????

mrsmoodypants Wed 26-Sep-12 18:25:15

Have just done a blitz of the baby stuff, broken stuff, whats not played with the charity.

Thats whats prompted me to post as I don't know where to go from here....

Maryz Wed 26-Sep-12 18:26:25

Things you would buy them anyway.

For the next few months watch what you buy them on a regular basis - food they like, wash stuff, bubble bath, pants, socks, gloves, pj's, comics, stationery, anything you buy that isn't necessary.

Collect it up as you shop from week to week.

At Christmas I give each of my teenagers a bag with all this sort of stuff, and add in Christmassy chocolate, a dvd and a book each and some sort of silly game. All wrapped up together it looks like a huge present.

I have been doing this since they were quite small, leaving grandparents to buy big presents. They still say these are the presents they look forward to.

It takes time and imagination, but is relatively cheap for something that looks big.

Narked Wed 26-Sep-12 18:27:34

How young is the younger one? Would it be possible to do a clear out of toys (and sell the ones you can) before Christmas? That might give you more cash to use for something they really want. I assume they have games consoles? If so, you can get lots of second hand, slightly older games for very low proces. If not, you can get older console + games bundle for a relatively low price.

mrsmoodypants Wed 26-Sep-12 18:27:55

I realise i shouldnt be complaining as some kids have next to nothing.....we can't afford expensive presents x3 and i hate wasting money too - but still want the excited faces in Xmas day hmm Ive stopped the FC letter this year in case they ask for something we can't deliver......

ELR Wed 26-Sep-12 18:27:57

I just got my two 7 and 10 a subscription to the Puffin Post. DD 10 wants a leather pandora bracelet and tickets to xfactor but depends on cost. DS is prob going to get a new game for wii and the game frustration. It's both their birthdays early November so it's even harder for me but both are getting a new scooter.

Dotty342kids Wed 26-Sep-12 18:30:35

Oh, I have this problem too! My DS is 9 but has never been much of a "player" so despite oodles of toys etc he's mostly to be found rolling around on the floor playing with the dog! In fact the thing he'd like most is another puppy but that is NOT going to happen! And my DD is 7, again has sooo much stuff. We never buy them stuff outside of birthdays and Christmases, and don't go mad even then it's just that they kind of accumulate things from us and other people. I've not managed to persuade my DD to let go of some of her ELC things, she still enjoys playing iwht it from time to time.
So, we've got them tickets to go and see Olly Murs in March, and as of this morning, tickets to go and see the Strictly show when it goes on tour. Trouble is that this won't prove very exciting on Christmas day itself so we're going to just try and get lots of books, cds and smaller type things so that they have stuff to unwrap.
OP, if they have bikes what about accessories for them eg. new bells / saddles / baskets / drinks botttle attachments etc? If they like playing outside how about some sports equipment such as badminton set / pogo sticks / basketball and hoop etc?

mrsmoodypants Wed 26-Sep-12 18:32:42

Some great ideas - thank you!

Will definitely do the sack of stuff you need anyway but can tailor to their specific likes....

mrsmoodypants Wed 26-Sep-12 18:34:12

off to sort out bedtime - will catch up later - thanks again!

Maryz Wed 26-Sep-12 18:36:00

I call it "bags of crap" - mine are now 18, 16 and 14 so get aftershave/shaving foam/deodorant/makeup/tights/hockey ball/calculator that type of stuff. I collect cheap things on BOGOF in supermarkets and pound shops from now until Christmas.

Last year ds1 got his in a gear bag, dd got a large handbag/weekend bag type thing, ds2 a new schoolbag, and I filled them and then wrapped them in layers of newspaper [last of the big spenders emoticon]

WaitingForMe Wed 26-Sep-12 18:36:35

We bought very little for my stepsons last year (now 4 and 7). The only big thing was a nerf gun each and they weren't expensive ones. But with stockings and crackers at the breakfast table they really didn't notice. This year they're getting a cardboard castle (will go well with the nerf guns) that we're filling with their gifts (which include things like dressing gowns).

MIL goes overboard and it seemed such a waste of money for us to buy loads when that money could be spent on doing more throughout the year. DH took a day off work to spend with each of them in the summer holiday (swimming, bowling, lunch out soon adds up). I'm certain they enjoyed that far more than a few extra parcels under the tree.

DH was worried about how little we gave them until he saw how little they cared. This year we have them for lunch and they'll discover my family tradition of "table presents" which for them will be a mini Lego set. I know having a toy at the table will be hugely exciting - far more than just stuff under the tree.

AngryFeet Wed 26-Sep-12 18:41:41

I have given up buying my two toys as they never get played with. They are massively into Lego but have tons of that (and never bother with kits just like to create their own stuff). I got them Leappads last year which they rarely play with and don't really want them to have DS's. So this year we are going to make them a sort of arts and crafts station as they love making stuff. A cupboard with lots of shelves full of cardboard, colouring stuff, scissors, tape, pipe cleaners etc etc. Plus stockings with little bits and bobs. We don't buy them a lot for xmas though due to finances and the fact that they don't play with toys much. DD got a pet for her birthday which was a great gift I think smile

Badvoc Wed 26-Sep-12 18:46:15

I do stockings for my 2.
This year they wil have an ikea hand crank torch - £3
A lush bath bomb (they love these)
A book
Some choc/biscs.
They love it.
They get so much, luckily this year both are getting big gifts from oils so I am just getting them small gifts.
(Too many Of them, mind)

Maryz Wed 26-Sep-12 18:52:41

Oh, and by the way, I used to get the grandparents to buy one communal present for my three (we used to add money to theirs).

So over the years we acquired a swing set, a trampoline, a snooker table, a Playstation (and later a Wii) and a widescreen tv (that might have been for us too blush).

racingheart Wed 26-Sep-12 18:53:12

How about a small pet? Even a fish will have an impact. Or a stick insect. But guinea pigs are best as they are very cute and snuggly and don't mind if you play with them all day or just have a quick cuddle at night.

Poundstore wow-on-the-day presents are fine for stockings: rainbow slinkies, glow sticks, sweets etc.

How about a family game which allows them to spend more time with you? Junior pass-the-bomb or pick-up-sticks/monkeys/kerplunk.

A great family video (Home alone box set?) for them all to watch on Christmas morning Boxing Day when you're knackered.

AngryFeet Wed 26-Sep-12 18:59:10

We got a bearded dragon racingheart. I wasn't keen at first but he is very sweet and easy to look after - plus he doesn't smell smile

GruffVoiceDownTheChimney Wed 26-Sep-12 18:59:39

My parents were quite clever at Christmas, and gave us things they would have bought us anyway iyswim ie coats, boots, shoes, wellies, clothes ie nice dress for a family wedding, pjs, dressing gowns, slippers, bags for school/pe/swimming/ballet, packed lunch gear, hair stuff, pencil cases, pencils, kits to make thank you cards etc etc. They just got novelty ones or got things personalised for us so they felt more present-like. We often got an exciting board game or family video/story cds to share too.

I think a lot of the excitement around presents at christmas is not so much what they are/howbig/how expensive, but the wrapping, sparkle and novelty factors.

We also had to have a big clear out of all our stuff pre-christmas and birthdays, that often highlighted things we might need/want, and also made space.

Badvoc Wed 26-Sep-12 19:06:05

Yes Maryz that's what we do too.
Means less plastic tat and much larger/expensive stuff we couldn't buy ourselves.

lunar1 Wed 26-Sep-12 19:11:09

The original leap pad is down to £40. Ds1 has used his every day almost since Christmas. If you get one get a good batterie charger though as they don't last more than a week

You need to scour the charity shops.

And buy them Jennings #1, which is hilarious and the start of a 25 or so series.....keep them busy!

bunnybing Wed 26-Sep-12 19:18:36

I have 2 DDs and one year we got them bits for their rooms - ie a new little rug and light shade - they loved this.

gastonthebabyshusher Wed 26-Sep-12 19:18:42

A friend of mine last year asked all the grandparents (4 sets due to divorce) to contribute to a wooden play house on the garden. 2 kids saw £50 per child per set of GP and they managed to get a fabulous hand made thing from a local carpenter. It's awesome and has been used everyday!

CelstialNavigation Wed 26-Sep-12 19:28:39

Jennings! God I loved Jennings! (and Darbyshire). Haven't thought of those books in years.

Still mystified by the Dogsbody, cat, bod thing (obvs a bit of an inferior Form 1 type myself)...everyone, buy your kids Jennings! it's the best thing. Atm I'm carrying the one where they hide a pig in the potting shed around in my bag.

mrsmoodypants Thu 27-Sep-12 07:41:21

Good work people! Thank you......you've made me realise its the excitement of christmas that makes it special - will get the kids to use up current craft stuff the replace with other types...and glow sticks, fun toys etc - they will totally love!!!!

PoppyWearer Thu 27-Sep-12 07:56:25

Last year we asked for money from everyone and bought family Merlin passes. We have had some fantastic days out at Legoland etc. Doing the same this year, the DCs got enough toys for their birthdays!

fuzzpig Fri 28-Sep-12 16:53:55

We also had to have a big clear out of all our stuff pre-christmas and birthdays, that often highlighted things we might need/want, and also made space.

I'm determined to do that this year! Last year all the stuff we got just got lost among all the rest of the clutter.

Less Is More. <repeat>

haackeyp Fri 05-Apr-13 15:23:15

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toffeelolly Fri 05-Apr-13 18:22:21

Yes was thinking the same do not have a clue what to get my ds,8 dd,7 ds,5 . They got so mucuh last year have run out of idea's.

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girlywhirly Tue 03-Sep-13 08:59:33

What about adopting an animal at a zoo or wildlife park? They could visit them through the year too, if close enough to home. There are lots of animal charities who do the same sort of thing.

I like Maryz bags of crap. Her DC would be disappointed if she stopped doing them!

jetstar Tue 03-Sep-13 09:19:18
dementedma Wed 04-Sep-13 22:27:01

Ds would like a bearded dragon.
Is it viable if we live in a small flat?
He is 11 and a very sensible boy who would care for it well

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