Present for 4 year old with autism

[moregingerbreadplease]

Need ideas for a 4 year old's christmas present please - he is my cousin's little boy and does not like loud noises so nothing which sings loudly!
Thinking some sort of sensory toy but have no idea!
He likes numbers/colours if that helps!

I'm stuck!

Thanks

[MoonDuke]

Duplo do a train with number blocks on it

[Duckafuck]

Wooden blocks with numbers on? Number line posters for his bedroom wall?

[ThomasRichard]

Magnetic fridge numbers?

[WreckTangled]

Lava lamp. My friends ds is almost four and loves his!

[ColintheCrow]

My DS is autistic... he was easy as he's obsessed with hot wheels cars. Other big hits have been a huge beanbag that he gets sensory feedback from when throwing himself at it. Weighted blanket. Swinging chair. A bubble lamp. Tornado cup. Silly sensory toys which are very cheap on eBay and Aliexpress (squidgy eggs and men etc). Wobble cushions (often have these in lidl with exercise stuff).

[ColintheCrow]

Oh easy when younger, he's 9 now... mind you the hot wheels obsession hasn't stopped... he just wants hard to get rare ones now to keep in their boxes.

[Improvisingnow]

Brio track and a couple of the wooden trains - Thomas plus another - never met a boy that age (especially autistic ones) who was not fascinated by Thomas the tank engine.

[AmyAmoeba]

Could you send his mum a text and ask if he has any favourite to characters, hobbies, passions, etc and take it from there?
I do this for every birthday party we attend and parents are usually more than happy to give a couple of ideas to minimise the piles of plastic tat.

There's no "one size fits all" solution just because he has autism. The easiest way to understand it is that these kids love and dislike stuff with about ten times the intensity of a neurotypical child. Hence the obsessions and seemingly irrational fears.

But what they love/dislike is as individual as any child.

[moregingerbreadplease]

Brilliant ideas - thank you all! Lava lamp is a fantastic idea too.
He has hundreds of cars already but a train is a great idea he will love that, thank you

[Heirhelp]

Lava lamps get hot. Perhaps these would be better..
www.ikea.com/gb/en/products/childrens-ikea-products/children-3-7/childrens-lighting/spöka-led-night-light-animal-white-turquoise-art-00150985/

www.amazon.co.uk/gp/product/B00IEA9QO4/ref=oh_aui_detailpage_o09_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1&tag=mumsnet&ascsubtag=mnforum-21

[MoggieMaeEverso]

Small trampoline that can fit indoors.
Large beanbag.
Glowing balls, squeezy balls, balls with lights inside.
Vibrating cushion.
Vibrating anything.
Fidget toys.
Theraputty.
Definitely talk to his mum first, whatever you do.

[BirdingWidow]

My little boy had autism and is about to be 4. I agree with PPs who say that autistic kids all have different interests but there are still things which are likely to be attractive, for instance sensory lights. Definitely speak to his parents though, who will know what might be a hit or a miss. Also depends on his level of development and function.

I have just bought this for my son's birthday. I checked that is was working before wrapping it (broken presents are a no-no!) and I think he will love it.
www.argos.co.uk/m/static/Product/partNumber/3557684.htm

He would also love a lava lamp but the one I already own does get pretty hot and the glass bit just rests in the base and would be easy to knock over. So maybe when he is older.

Other things my son loves is numbers, so we have these for the bath:

www.tobar.co.uk/counting-rubber-ducks

Also a giant calculator - he doesn't do sums with it but likes making the numbers appear. And this: pretty basic but he likes rearranging the numbers into two-and three digit numbers, it gets played with daily:
www.amazon.co.uk/See-Inside-Numbers-Wooden-Puzzle/dp/B000GKXY7U?tag=mumsnet&ascsubtag=mnforum-21

He is very into Thomas, so wooden trains are always popular - parents will know what character is the favourite.

My boy doesn't like noisy things but does like music so is very keen on his electronic keyboard and also the ELC karaoke machine. He plays with them with the volume very low a blessed relief since he plays Christmas songs all year round so things that make sound might not be bad, if the volume can be controlled? He also likes audio books of favourite stories.

He also had this in his stocking and really loves to watch it - so simple but hypnotic:

www.amazon.co.uk/ABA-80094-Walking-Penguin-White/dp/B00DECNJG8?tag=mumsnet&ascsubtag=mnforum-21

Price seems to be very volatile - I paid about £8 for it. There are similar toys - a woodpecker going down a wire pole, for instance, that are also good.

I don't know whether your cousin's boy watches TV. Again this will depend on development but if he doesn't like things that are too noisy or fast-moving, I can heartily recommend the Kipper cartoons (based on the books by Mick inkpen). Very charming and easy to follow,,but not just simple rubbish:

www.amazon.co.uk/Kipper-Classic-Collection-Martin-Clunes/dp/B0000X7SGG?tag=mumsnet&ascsubtag=mnforum-21

Not sure whether this is any help as all children are different but these have all gone down well here

[disneyprincesswannabe]

My sdd is being assessed for autism and she would like nothing. Absolutely nothing. She has no interest in toys or presents and ignores gifts until she is asked to open them but she gets no enjoyment from it and just goes through the motions (apparently female autism can be different to male autism as girls are more likely to copy how they are expected to behave hence harder to diagnose!). However I see some autistic people have obsessions. So it really depends on the child. However you said he likes numbers, my ds3 (not autistic) was obsessed with numbers and number jacks so maybe look for the dvds and toys. They aren't easy to come by, but he got some and watched the dvds on repeat constantly till they didn't work anymore

[Fueledwithfairydustandgin]

We got this for my non verbal 19yr old autistic cousin and it was a success
fish bubble lamp

[MTWTFSS]

Could you ask and find out what he likes?

(Both ASD) My 4 year old likes Paw Patrol/trains/cars and my 5 year old likes dinosaurs/human body parts.

Both my kids like Kinetic Sand :)