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How much of an active role does your dp take, in organising Christmas presents...

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DoveOfPeace · 24/11/2015 16:46

Particularly those for your dc?

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Xenadog · 24/11/2015 16:55

Not much. I've done DD's presents ages ago (and her December birthday presents too) as he would leave it all until after his birthday as that's also December. He doesn't get that if things don't get done early they just don't get done as life is hectic in December.

He has bought me a handbag for Christmas (I'd picked it out of the Radley sale) but the other week I reminded him and shouldn't have as he'd forgotten and was racking his brains for what to get me!

In all honesty I don't mind being in charge of the present buying for DD And my family. I don't buy for his family but will offer ideas. It's down to him to remember to get stuff for them - ends up being vouchers usually!

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BrennieGirl · 24/11/2015 16:56

We probably do 50/50. He is good at organising the big presents and I concentrate on the stocking fillers and Christmas pyjamas etc. Sometimes he buys far too many presents and I have to get him to rein it in.

TBH he's not great about other occasions (to the point of not sending his own mother a birthday card), so I'm glad he at least helps out at Christmas.

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CheeseAtFourpence · 24/11/2015 16:58

None! I sort it all including his family when we have exchanged. He occasionally swoops in at the last minute with another gift for DD but that's it. He helps with wrapping the big items and builds up those presents that need to be.

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biscuitsfordinner · 24/11/2015 17:08

I do it all. His family and mine. He has no interest whereas I love it!

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Nearlyadoctor · 24/11/2015 17:13

Exactly the same as biscuits. I love doing it all [santa]

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recklessgran · 24/11/2015 17:18

Clueless! Just leaves me to it but does help with wrapping [only square boxes though]. In his defence, I do go mad so he keeps out of it and is very good at not telling me off for going OTT as he knows I love it.

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Kitella · 24/11/2015 17:19

Yeah, my husband does nothing too.

I buy all the presents for the DC, my family, joint friends etc. He just does his family and that's all.

He does give me some cash to help pay for it, but that's all. That said, I like buying and wrapping presents - he hates it, so it works well for us Smile

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fuzzpig · 24/11/2015 17:24

He spends a lot of time and energy choosing mine, and is happy to let me do pretty much everyone else's :o

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WhatWouldFlopDo · 24/11/2015 17:27

Nothing, Christmas wouldn't happen if I didn't do it.

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JoanGalt · 24/11/2015 17:28

I do all the shopping for the DC, my family and his. I quite like doing it though and he would if I asked him to.
He might get a few things for the DC of he sees something he likes but that's it.

However, he does shop for my presents and he is WAY more generous than I would be.

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MarlenaGru · 24/11/2015 17:29

I do it because I enjoy doing it. He does help if I ask. I do wish he would allocate more money to buying family gifts though. I do end up paying for more gifts, but I ensure he pays for all the cmas meals out etc so it probably evens out.

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fuzzpig · 24/11/2015 17:30

I do ask his opinion. Sometimes. Blush

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LikeASoulWithoutAMind · 24/11/2015 17:34

We split it and look at some things together.

Wasn't always that way but improved enormously after I rather forcefully pointed out that I was sick of arriving at Christmas Eve an exhausted wreck.

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NorthernLurker · 24/11/2015 17:34

Mine is another who takes a lot of trouble over mine but doesn't do much of the rest. He does buy for his family (we do a secret Santa type thing so just one present) whilst I do nieces, god child etc plus stockings. Big presents for dc depends on what it is. When it's been phones he did it!

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OhBJayzuz · 24/11/2015 17:35

Not much at all. He grumbles about how much its costing us. Thats about it.

He helps with the wrapping, though. I refuse to wrap alone! Grin.

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OldBeanbagz · 24/11/2015 17:36

DH probably does 80-90% of the shopping and i'm great at coming up with the good ideas. I hate crowded shops and much prefer to do my bit online.

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Pengweng · 24/11/2015 17:37

DH buys his family and me, I buy my family, DH and the DTs. I do tell him what I'm getting but he doesn't really mind if i just get on with it and to be honest it's easier if he isn't involved. lol

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Hopefully · 24/11/2015 17:37

Not a lot. He would like to do more but I am a control freak Blush

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ScrappyMalloy · 24/11/2015 17:40

He usually comes up with a couple of ideas for the youngest DS, which he says will be just from him.

Then promptly forgets...

I buy it all, including my own, as he has no idea what I like and will just panic and buy something stupid for me (the children's version of the Jurassic Park novel, LEAPS to mind)

His main contribution is calling upstairs, 'Scrappy, there's another bloody parcel on the doorstep' Grin

I don't mind -he has no family to buy for, and tbh, he would just moan if he knew how much I spend on my family and the kids. Wink

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Buttons23 · 24/11/2015 17:47

He doesn't, he works full time and is rubbish with money. I on the other hand have more time and am a savvy shopper. All of our ds presents were half price or more so some really good savings.

I do show him what I have bought when he gets in from work. He might comment but generally he lets me get on with it all because he knows I don't go crazy and save us a lot of money.

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soundsystem · 24/11/2015 17:50

I buy for the DC but that's because I love Christmas and Christmas shopping. And also because his family don't really do stockings, so he's still learning that part! I usually ask if he has any ideas or wants to have any particular input then get on with it! He buys for his own side of the family (although if I see something I think someone would like I make suggestions) and I buy for mine.

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Peppaspants · 24/11/2015 17:51

DH buys all his family presents (normally vouchers/experiences) and sends them a hamper or flowers. I buy for my side and friends and their children. We split the budget for DS-in that we both get an equal amount (say £50) and spend it on him without telling the other one what we've bought. There's a small risk of duplicates but it means DS opening his presents is as much fun and as much of a surprise for us as it is for him!
I do write all the blinking Christmas cards though which I hate.

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Toastedteacakewithbutter · 24/11/2015 17:57

DH and I set the budget together and he might come up with ideas, and then I do all the shopping, as I love it and he hates shopping. He buys for a family member who has the same hobby as him, and any gadgets, the Dc are getting iThings this year so he will sort those (hoping for a discount on Friday). We will then do the wrapping together, although I do the main gifts as I like to do fancy wrapping with matching tags and ribbons.
I do all the cards, posting parcels, arranging of parties, nativity plays, making cakes for Christmas fairs etc, so it seems that I do a lot in the run up to Christmas, however DH does ALL the food planning, shopping and cooking, so I don't set foot in a supermarket in December, and spend Christmas day playing with the dc getting drunk with my mum while he cooks the dinner, so we have a perfect split of duties, we each do what we enjoy doing!

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jamtartandcustard · 24/11/2015 18:01

None but that's my choice as I'm a control freak when it comes to things for the kids and he'd never get it right so it's easier I just organise it all. I don't mind I love present buying. And dh does give me money towards buying the presents so he contributes in his own way

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Newlywed56 · 24/11/2015 18:09

He does nothing ... Apart from ask me what I've got people about 50 times when I've bought it lol. I don't really mind that much as it means I can budget it all better, he doesn't budget at all so it works for us as he only has me left to buy for

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