Would you buy your 8 yr old dd make up??

(44 Posts)
biscuitsfordinner Wed 18-Nov-15 22:21:11

My dd is 8. She has lots of interests but nothing she really wants for Christmas. We went into Boots the other day and they had a large vanity case full of make up. She was very taken by it and said that was what she wanted. For the record she obviously never wears make up and it would be for playing purposes only but I still feel slightly uncomfortable about it. She doesn't have any large presents and even though it is only £18 it still looks sizeable. What would you do?

Thanks

jelliebelly Wed 18-Nov-15 22:22:38

I wouldn't personally

Mylittlelights Wed 18-Nov-15 22:24:51

Nope

nancy75 Wed 18-Nov-15 22:24:51

Dd had nail varnish at that age ( glittery stuff) but not make up. I think she had some flavoured lip gloss stuff but that was about it

BYOSnowman Wed 18-Nov-15 22:26:34

i wouldn't

nancy75 Wed 18-Nov-15 22:27:34

Instead of a make up kit what about a beauty box that you make up yourself with child friendly bubble bath, tasty lip gloss, character flannel, hair clips and other stuff like that? Dd really liked lush bath bombs at around that age

IoraRua Wed 18-Nov-15 22:29:18

I'd do lip gloss and sparkly scented moisturiser personally. Or maybe a nail polish or something. Nothing more adult than that.

ScarlettDarling Wed 18-Nov-15 22:29:57

I've never bought my 8 year old 'real' makeup, but she does have a little case of Barbie makeup which she plays with, putting it on herself and on me.

I don't suppose it's any different to buy her a case of 'real' makeup if she's only going to use it to play with. If she really liked it then I don't see what the problem is.

MarkRuffaloCrumble Wed 18-Nov-15 22:29:58

Yes, my dd is 8 and loves badly putting on make up. I remember being 10 and my grandma taking me and my cousin to Boots to buy a red lipstick and bright blue eyeshadow!

It doesn't mean she's going to turn into some vain self obsessed model wannabe, she's just a kid playing at dressing up like wearing mum's high heels.

Fwiw I also spend a lot of time talking to my dd about body image, the media etc and she is the first to call sexism if she sees something discriminatory or in any way stereotypical. She loves all sorts of activities and clothes regardless of how 'girly' or not they may be.

Teenagecrisisagain Wed 18-Nov-15 22:34:18

My dd2 is 5 and loves make up, nail polish etc. she has a little set and asked dd1 to put make up on her recently for a party

I don't encourage it but I don't think there's any harm in it at all

Salmiak Wed 18-Nov-15 22:34:20

I remember getting one of those huge chests filled with makeup around that age (maybe i was a little bit older?) It had about 50 ridiculously garish shades of of eyeshadow, some neon lipsticks and some very red and very pink blusher.

It was AMAZING

I used to just play with it at home, to use on my dolls or myself, I didn't wear the makeup out but was just fun to play with, and for a few months all playdates involved makeovers.

(I never really wear makeup now that I'm a grown up)

nancy75 Wed 18-Nov-15 22:35:44

Glittery hairspray was another favourite here, but be warned it is a bugger to get off the carpet grin

Flomplet Wed 18-Nov-15 22:36:10

I honestly never thought I'd do this, but last year at 8 DD wanted some makeup very much indeed.

I braved Claire's and bought some of the pink sparkly boxed 'play' makeup. I decided I'd rather give her that while she was still young enough to have it as a toy, than wait until she had outgrown toys and would only accept the real thing. It's not too bad on actually.

biscuitsfordinner Wed 18-Nov-15 22:41:24

I think the only reason I would consider it is because I don't think she sees it as anything other than play. My friend has an 11yr old who is getting into make up but much more from an appearance perspective - sneakily applying lipstick before she goes out etc but dd just isn't interested in that way. I like the idea of a box as mentioned above. I'm just not sure she's use much of it. She still mainly baths with her siblings (by choice BTW) so we are limited due to allergies.

RJnomore1 Wed 18-Nov-15 22:42:38

Yeah. But only to play with and not to be worn out of the house.

What actual harm to people think it would do?

TheNumberfaker Wed 18-Nov-15 22:46:46

No way will I be giving my girls makeup at 8.
Wasn't there a MN campaign 'Let girls be girls' a while back?

backinschool Wed 18-Nov-15 22:47:21

My 6 year old is getting some make up this year. I was wavering about it but I let my DDs wear princess dresses and plastic heels (as well as superhero costumes and pirate outfits) and they love having facepaint on so I decided there wasn't much of a difference. This is going to be for dressing up too, she won't be wearing it regularly, but I'd still prefer her to have something decent on her skin. She got some 'play' lipgloss for her birthday (from a school friend) and it's like glue! She is getting some moisturiser (good habits from the start and they already put it on under their facepaint), a pink blusher, pink lipgloss and some sparkly eyeshadow plus hair glitter. She does dancing and they wore makeup for their show which I think is why she is interested but does mean she thinks it is part of a costume, not something to wear daily.

AnnaMarlowe Wed 18-Nov-15 22:47:44

I wouldn't no.

It would be like using felt tip pens on a rose.

Unnecessary.

backinschool Wed 18-Nov-15 22:48:56

She has asked to play with my make up before and ends up looking like a clown - her look is modelled on Mr Tumble - so it's definitely just for play.

IHeartKingThistle Wed 18-Nov-15 23:00:47

For playing, it's fine. My 8 year old has some for playing, she doesn't wear it out of the house and it doesn't make me any less of a feminist or her less likely to be one!

LimitedSedition Wed 18-Nov-15 23:06:45

My DD7 has some. I don't really wear it, which is how she has ended up with an Urban Decay book of shadows and various other bits.
Doesn't do her any harm and she's actually really good at putting it on (although she doesn't wear it out the house) I've bought her some nice make up brushes for Christmas! Usually when she's mucking about with it I compliment her on her colour choice and blending skills grin

FabFlo Wed 18-Nov-15 23:23:50

Dear god why?

Buy her some face paint. Let her mess around with that.

NightLark Wed 18-Nov-15 23:29:59

My 7 year old DD loves make up. I rarely wear more than mascara and lip salve. I'm happy to buy Claires stuff for her, she enjoys playing lipstick and eyeshadow.

susielovessocks Wed 18-Nov-15 23:36:00

My 7 year old wants the 'frozen' make up set. For her it's all about glitter and gloss, no different from face paints really. I don't have a problem with it for that reason, if she wanted to look 'grown up' or to make her 'pretty' it would be different.

SoDiana Wed 18-Nov-15 23:38:13

100 per cent yes.

My dd loves makeup.

Her school has a strict policy as have I.

But god bless her does she love love playing with makeup.

Go for it. It's a precious mum dd moment.

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