ok, i am in my 50s and so far have never been asked to do a secret santa - where i have worked no one ever did it. you bought a present for the admin people and we all went out for a special dinner. Vaguely aware that kids buy something for £5 and wrap it for class at school. within wider family we just buy kids presents when younger and now a family game or a day out token - which we love getting ourselves. we have had years of being very broke/ill health etc.
eldest dd in her first job post uni and on a very low wage has asked if we will do a secret santa this year as she is broke. My response was, don't get us anything just get little something for your 2 siblings . but she still wants to do it.
so, how does that work then? i put our 5 names in a hat and pull out who buys for whom? and does that mean instead of the £££ i had planned to spend on each of them i only spend it on one of them? or does one other get that times 3??? We aren't huge presents at christmas people preferring to give things as we see them
I'm so confused. never buy presents for DH except token like DVD so all money goes on kids. was planning to give dd extra this year as she couldn't afford a holiday this year but now does that mean i can't? asked DH and he doesn't understand either.
i asked her for clarification and she just said its easy it'll work out very fair. How? other younger dd doesn't understand it either, she is happy to get presents for siblings out of pocket money. ideas please before i go crazy.
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overthemill · 28/10/2015 17:36
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