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what is the cut off point for giving money for neices/nephews

(37 Posts)
southeastastra Tue 24-Dec-13 23:22:43

i would usually give them a tenner or something but once they reach 18 isn't that a bit much? what would be a good time to stop, it's becoming a dilema now.

thegreylady Thu 26-Dec-13 08:36:13

We never stop until they have dc then presents go to dc instead.

TheNightIsDark Thu 26-Dec-13 08:39:06

I still get money from my aunts despite being 25 with my own children.

Lucylouby Thu 26-Dec-13 22:34:56

I get a present from my aunt, but have told her (nicely) she should just spend the money on my dc, but we are a small family and if she wasn't buying for us, she wouldn't have many presents to buy and she thinks that would be a bit sad.
A close friend has 3 dc, eldest now 20. Last year I told her it would be her last present (we give them all cash). DH kicked off about it saying we couldn't give to only two of them, but I stuck to it and she didn't mind at all. She earns far more than I do, has limited outgoings, and spent £500 on a handbag in the summer. I can only dream of saving that amount of money to spend on something as frivolous as a new bag!

Mellowandfruitful Thu 26-Dec-13 22:40:20

I do presents / vouchers till 18 then all family households get a box of chocolates or biscuits to share.

GhettoPrincess001 Thu 26-Dec-13 22:53:37

I have no idea when to stop sending my Niece and Nephew presents. The fact that they have never sent me either a birthday or Christmas present is a moot point. For the record I was not expecting them to spend their birthday money on me.

They've only been strong armed into the cards by their mother (my sister).

I'll send my nephew a 21st birthday card next year, but no present. My niece will get a cheque as it's her 18th birthday and I gave the same to her brother when he turned 18.

After that, it's cards only from me. I feel bad that my niece will miss out on two years worth of birthday presents. The alternative being that I send her birthday presents for a couple more years. Then my nephew doesn't get anything. However, as I've decided that he's at his birthday present cut off point, maybe it won't matter.

GhettoPrincess001 Thu 26-Dec-13 22:55:32

For birthday money, I meant to type, 'pocket money'.

Oh, for the last couple of years I've sent a food hamper as a family gift to be shared by them.

GhettoPrincess001 Thu 26-Dec-13 22:56:33

Christmas Hamper of food.

hallowisitmeyourelookingfor Fri 27-Dec-13 00:35:29

I still give to my nieces and nephews, 2 are 22! They are still my nieces and nephews however old they are. They both earn a good wage, more than me (SAHM), but we are all a close family and I like buying for them. Between DP and I, we have 15 n&ns and buy for all of them. Won't ever stop I don't imagine.
I am 29 and only have one aunt that buys for me (have 7!) but I can't remember if the others ever did even when I was small.

Breezy1985 Fri 27-Dec-13 00:50:28

I'm 28 and my aunt still buys for me, and my dc. We are close though and she never had children of our own and she says she likes to spoil us. I buy for her too.

I've got 3 n & n, they are little still but I can't imagine not buying them a gift at Christmas even when they are adults.

mumeeee Fri 27-Dec-13 00:57:38

We stop at 21 here.

GreenShadow Fri 27-Dec-13 22:16:20

Mixed examples here.

My Uncle who is late 70s (I'm 52) still gives us a cheque at Christmas and birthdays and also gives money to my DC. He has no other immediate family, so perhaps it's not so surprising.

My family have recently discussed this as our DS1 is now 21 and so my Dsis has decided that that will be the cut-off which I think is quite fair enough.

mumeeee Sat 28-Dec-13 11:50:26

We still buy for our own children and DD1's DH just not for nephew and nieces after 21

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