Guests (family) came to spend 2 days, they are supposed to provide drinks but didnt bring enough...

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Upcycled Tue 24-Dec-13 22:47:15

My Christmas is nearly ruined. They guaranteed to us they would bring all the drinks we needed and even asked what we wanted but they didn't bring enough. They arrived this evening to eat an amazing buffet and they will have the most lovely dinner tomorrow with loads of nice nibbles during the day but they couldn't be arsed to bring enough drinks. Probably there is enough wine but 4 bottles of J2O between 7 people clearly is not enough. And Dh drinks only beer, they know it and brought only 12 small bottles of corona which they are drinking too. No soft drinks for Dd at all. And the icing on the cake was when I asked MIL if I could have some coke from the half bottle they left in the kitchen and as I am pouring it BIL jokes that I am drinking HIS coke so I apologise and tell him I asked MIL to which he replies that it is not MIL's coke but his....then I realise that the only coke they brought. And no, they aren't strapped for cash. In the last few days they went to a posh restaurant, went to see a show on the West End and to the cinema. Also MIL cant stop bragging about her pay rise. I am annoyed.

SoonToBeSix Tue 24-Dec-13 22:52:17

It's a bit sad if your Christmas is ruined through lack of drink! Some people are dealing with real issues, bereavement, family breakup etc.Get a grip

Lucylouby Tue 24-Dec-13 22:53:48

I would be hacked off too. Can you send them out in the morning to get more supplies? Unless you are in the middle of nowhere there should be a small supermarket/corner shop type place open for a few hours at some point.
Can you hide all your good drinks and just give them squash when all their good stuff has run out? You can keep a glass of something stronger hidden somewhere, but serve them something basic to make your point.

Artandco Tue 24-Dec-13 22:56:18

12 bottles of beer, few bottles of wine sounds plenty for one day! Surely your dh won't drink all 12 himself anyway? Pop to the shops Boxing Day if you really need more

raisah Tue 24-Dec-13 22:58:03
ShotgunNotDoingThePans Tue 24-Dec-13 22:58:32

Oo don't know what to say. Crack on with the wine?

I don't think I'd rely on guests to bring all the drink as I wouldn't trust anyone else's ideas of what's enough. But no point telling you that now.

Your BIL sounds a twat rude. Just look forward to all the outraged conversations you can have abiut this for years to come - and hope some kind corner shop owner stays open for the old people to come in and chat to (we once lived next door to such a shop).

TeamSouthfields Tue 24-Dec-13 22:59:03

ruined, because of drink!? really?!?!

Upcycled Tue 24-Dec-13 23:02:54

soontobesix yes I have the right to be annoyed since I spent a lot of money, time and thought doing what I am supposed to do which is provide the food and then I am told off when I try to drink some coke, even thoug it was disguised as a joke. I am not worry about the alcohol a part from Dh's beer...I really dont think he should go and buy. And what should I tell them? 'Listen guys, I dont think you brought enough drinks can you pop to the corner shop and get more?

ShotgunNotDoingThePans Tue 24-Dec-13 23:03:12

Just realised - when they said they'd bring the drink they actually meant drink for themselves. Some people think, when they're guests, anything they contribute is a tually surplus to requirements and a bonus.
Bear this in mind for the future smile.

SoonToBeSix Tue 24-Dec-13 23:04:37

Annoyed yes, they are rude. But nearly ruined Christmas really?

ShotgunNotDoingThePans Tue 24-Dec-13 23:06:28

You'll have to pop to the corner shop yourselves, obviously - again, store it up for future bitter comic reference.

It's a bit like when your MIL tells you not to bother tidying up for her visit - the last thing you'd do is take her at her word!

Upcycled Tue 24-Dec-13 23:18:20

No. 12 bottle of corona for dh for 2 days is not enough and they are drinking it too. We do this every year and never had problems but they took the piss this year bringing half a bottle of coke, and 4 J2Os. They know us very well and I am sure they could have done better if they wanted.

Upcycled Tue 24-Dec-13 23:31:06

raisah not sure why you sent me that link. The agreement always has been that we provide food they provide drinks. Half a bottle of coke and 4 J2Os are clearly not enought for 6 people. No juice for dd. If they didnt assure me they were going to bring drinks I could have bought them myself.

Well why don't you just go and buy some more yourself then?

I can't believe you are counting them out to exact numbers of what bottles they bring, and don't you even have juice in the house for the child?

How odd that your Christmas is ruined by lack of drink. If I'm a guest and take drink somewhere its meant to be supplemental to what might already be in the house. Not bringing every last drop of liquid that people might want to pour down their necks.

And really, 12 bottles of corona isn't enough for one man for 2 days?

Casmama Tue 24-Dec-13 23:37:57

You haven't answered whether there s a shop open near you tomorrow. You need to be very direct and say that there is not enough drink for everyone tomorrow so who is going to the shop in the morning?

Casmama Tue 24-Dec-13 23:39:56

Flibberty have you read the thread?
The agreement is they provide all the drinks for everyone and currently it is not just OPs dh drinking the small bottles of corona, the guests are drinking them too.

EverythingInMjiniature Tue 24-Dec-13 23:41:25

If I was asked to supply drinks I wouldn't think it would mean things like squash.,. Would have thought just booze, and 12 bottles beer more than enough for one person with enough wine to go around?

Longdistance Tue 24-Dec-13 23:50:06

Why are you relying on other people to bring drinks? You should have stocked up, and when theirs had run out, got yours out.

I'd never rely on others for booze as we drink loads especially for Xmas.

There must be a local shop tomorrow morning open. Ours is open down the road, but won't need it, fingers crossed.

mousmous Tue 24-Dec-13 23:54:39

it's a sign.
just drink less, you will feel much better for it and if you don't you have a problem

ineedanexcuse Tue 24-Dec-13 23:58:59

Well I sympathise with you Upcycled .

Its too late now to go and get some more but I would do my utmost to make it quite plain that more would have to be bought tomorrow at whatever shop is open.

For some reason your guests have decided to play silly beggars but do not let them get away with it.They should play fair .If you supply the food they should supply the drink. Yes ,every bit of it if thats what has been agreed on.

AnandaTimeIn Wed 25-Dec-13 00:04:14

They sound tight.

Are they expecting one potato on their plate for Christmas dinner at yours?

Politely ask them to go out and get some more booze essential at Christmas in the morning.

Not your problem where they have to go and look for it. Cos you're too busy in the kitchen ;-)

MrsVaughnRice Wed 25-Dec-13 00:08:32

If I was asked to supply the drink for Christmas at someone else's house I'm not sure I'd cater for the full quantity of soft drinks either - we normally only drink water, tea and coffee, so I wouldn't necessarily think to bring 2 litres of coke and 3 of orange juice etc. In financial terms, if they've got all the wine in and a decent slug of beer then they haven't been mean, just thoughtless. Send them out to a corner shop tomorrow.

Upcycled Wed 25-Dec-13 00:35:09

Ok.
last time trying to explain specially for those who don't bother to read properly.
The agreement is YES they bring all the drink.
DD doesn't drink squash.
Every year they bring Tropicana, so obviously I was expecting the same this year.
Every year they buy plenty of coke because they know I like it and BiL likes it.
12 small bottles of corona isn't enough for Dh for 2 days, is he an alcoholic? He does not drink anything else, so it does not matter how much wine we have got.
I barely touch alcohol. I will have few bucks fizz and would have some prosecco if they were arsed to bring some. They know what I like.

Yes they were suppose to bring ALL the drinks and DD's smoothies.

She has some in the fridge that I will have to watch out now and don't let her drink all in on go. I didn't get more because they ALWAYS do.

Not sure if there are shops open tomorrow, but we are in inner London, so probably there are.

Upcycled Wed 25-Dec-13 00:40:42

Would it be ok then if I don't provide enough food and I just tell them "if you are still hungry pop to the corner shop and buy more food for you"

agnesf Wed 25-Dec-13 00:47:02

When I read 12 bottles of corona I thought they'd bought 12 bottles of fizzy drink that we used to have delivered to our house from a special "Corona lorry".

I got all nostalgic thinking that it still existed - had lovely flavours - cherryade/ limeade etc. And special bobbly bottles. I even went on a school trip to the factory where they made it and watched a lady who had one blue eye & one brown eye stirring a great vat of orangeade mix.

Blimey - I must be old.

Do not panick - shops in inner London will be open and if not you could just drink water.

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