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Would you buy babies under the age of 1 Christmas presents? Do they understand?(31 Posts)
Not relevant to this year as am still cooking DC1!
But whenever we go to baby shops/toys r us etc and we see all the baby toys DP talks about coming next year to buy presents for baby's first Christmas.
The baby will be just short of 11 months (and that's if he arrives on EDD). DP wants us to be putting money away all year for the baby's Christmas (which we do anyway otherwise we wouldn't be able to pay for other people's presents if we left it until November!) and then go crazy with presents.
I personally do not think an 11 month old baby needs a mountain of stuff to open on Christmas Day. Do they have any idea at that age what is going on?
An 11 month will be sitting up and quite able to unwrap some presents for themselves. They will like the rustling paper and I think it is nice to find a rattly toy so that they can shake the gift and rustle it and have a good explore. Lights are fascinating (think about baby-proofing the tree as an 11 month will probably be fairly mobile). They will be able to eat a portion of Christmas lunch too.
But don't worry about going overboard, just get something that you would have bought them anyway but make sure they get to try some new tastes, smells etc. as well because as a parent, watching your child's face when they have those "first" experiences is the best bit.
If you have lots of eager relatives asking what they can buy, it might be an idea to ask for some outdoor toys which can be saved for the spring/summer. My DD is November born - so it was nice to have some present which would come in to their own later in the year.
if you have to 'put money away' for Xmas you are spending too much on it. A baby doesn't know it from six weeks last Sunday and will remember NOTHING.
a mountain of gifts does indeed cause boredom. Spread it out and keep it minimal. Start as you mean to go on.
They don't need loads but by 11 months they will probably enjoy opening the presents. A few toys they can grow into over the next 6 months-year plus wrap up stuff you would buy anyway- new vests, bibs, spoon and bowl set. I even wrapped up a box of nappies for DD (age 9 months) she loved the box and played with it for ages!
DS's 1st Christmas he was 10 and a half months. I did him a full stocking so DD wouldn't be suspicious or think Santa had forgotten him. It even had the choc coins
that mummy had to help him eat just like hers did
I think we will get a few nice little things like stockings, memorable gifts etc and toys over the course of the next year. I would never want the baby to not have anything to open but at the same time I'm not keen on the mad supermarket sweep in toys r us that DP seems to be suggesting!
I would get two or three little presents (more for your entertainment -photos of baby beside the new toy etc) and put the rest of the money in a savings account for when your DC is older. That's what we've done for DD (who turned 1 a couple of months ago) for birthday and Christmas so far.
I think it can be a nice opportunity to buy then things that they will grow into over the following year. They develop so fast - at Dd's first Christmas she was mainly chewing or banging toys, couldn't move around by herself, enjoyed sucking on books rather than reading them.
At her second Christmas she was running around, playing imaginitively with her toys, doing jigsaws, building towers, could fill in words in her favourite books. ..
I have a lovely pic of my son age 4 months sat on the bed with his stocking next to his sister and us helping him open his presents. He is really watching his sister and joining in with the whole experience regardless of if he understood or not. I think all these things are experiences and experiences are good for little ones. I wouldnt go ott with presents but 1 present in some shiney paper would be exciting for a child that age. they love looking at the tree lights etc by then too. My daughter was very 'with it' by a year and loved xmas too - she was 10 months on her first christmas and got a trampoline - she loved it, jumped on it loads and really enjoyed herself all day (she was an early walker though so very steady on her feet by then). Basically what im saying is dont spend a lot but dont miss out on all the fun experiences of christmas with your lo! they will only have a first xmas once and it is nice to make it special regardless of how much they understand or remember later
They also get overstimulated/bored easily, and if you buy a mountain of gifts like your DH suggests, you won't actually get to open them all. You'll be going 'ooh baby, look, another toy' while baby waahs or looks away because it wants to play with the first thing you opened.
Our situation with dd was similar, because she was born in December. Its worth remembering that by the time the next present giving event comes along ie next Christmas, they'll be at quite a different stage developmentally. We bought a few things for when she 18 months or more, let her play with the paper and look at the box then put them away for later. I agree don't spend much though, they are just as happy with the wrapping paper at that age
No they don't understand but having said that I can't imagine leaving them out. Why would you? It doesn't have to be a mountain of stuff, of course, but I couldn't have one of my children with no presents no matter how old they are.
Oh and I have had a personalised stocking made for her that she can get out year after year.
Dd will be 9 months at Christmas. We have got her an activity gym that can be used up to the age of 3, a toddler rocker, and then some toys for now, a swimming penguin for the bath, hide and squeak eggs just little things like that.
Grandparents have got her a walker, some building blocks and my dsis has got her books.
All things we would have bought anyway and things that can be used for months/years to come.
Have said it loads of times on here but a lovely stocking and or Santa sack make great 1st Christmas presents that hopefully you DC will love bringing out every year.
I started with DC1 buying a Christmas themed soft toy every year we put them on the stairs when we get the decorations out although now I have 4 DC and the eldest is 13 it's getting to be a safety hazard!
Well I have bought DD quite a few things. She will be 13 months. Last year she was 5 weeks and got a lot too. But we always buy things she will need anyway. Clothes, bigger toys that we wouldn't buy throughout the year, pjs, slippers etc. last year she got a bouncer from GP's and a gym from us. For us this works.
Money is quite tight, but I have been buying things since around September when I have seen offers on and got discounts on everything.
I wouldn't consider having nothing for her,, no matter what her age. Maybe it's more for me than her, but it just wouldn't feel right.
They dont understand but i do and i love christmas. I have got dd a lovely ragdoll with her name on, a sophie giraffe and a tea set that she will like when she is older (she is 5 months). No harm in not getting them anything but i imagine other people will buy for them.
Yes I think a few small presents are a nice way to show your love and celebrate a special time. Also it is nice having first Christmas present opening photos
No they don't understand, and often like the boxes/wrapping paper better than the presents! However, it is a good opportunity to purchase 'big' toys and things to aid their development such as push along walkers and ride on toys. Family and friends usually give lots of gifts so you don't need to buy a mountain of presents, which you will have to unwrap and the baby won't understand that either. You could put some money aside instead of gifts, to buy toddler garden toys for example for use in Spring and Summer.
They do understand seeing familiar people coming to see them, and sometimes panic if they aren't used to big groups of people, they need to have their meals at the usual times and naps as well. Accept that baby may well be asleep while you eat Christmas lunch!
Forgot to include that in my experience they don't really understand what is happening until they are at least 2.5
On my DS2's first Christmas he was four days old, I think I got him a set of ducks for the bath. The next year he got a few bits so DS1 wasn't suspicious then last year he got loads. He spent the day in hospital and didn't unwrap anything.
I've bought my DS a mixture of second hand and new bits that I know he'll love no need to go mad though
ds got a stocking (with small teddy, outfit, book) and a walker. Cost about 50 quid and all stuff he's used loads. I made the stocking with his name on so that's his for life. No need to go overboard.
My DD will be 11 months and will be getting presents, but not as many as her brother who will be 4. She is getting the vtec musical tree, a couple of books (that's not my...), a name plate for her bedroom door and some clothes that she'll need anyway.
A big pile of presents would be silly, especially with her birthday so soon after.
My DS has asked what he got when he was a baby so we could point out his name plate, cuddly dinosaur etc. They might not know at the time but they might wonder when they're older if Santa brought them nothing!
It's pointless at the time, but I've always gotten stuff to put aside for them to enjoy when they're a bit older. I like to take advantage of Christmas to stock up. But if you haven't got the money/inclination don't bother, I don't think they'll hold it against you!
If money is tight, I wouldn't bother.
I have always done for mine though, a few toys and then practical things they would need throughout the next year. Things like a bath seat and a door bouncer when ds was 2m at his first Christmas.
Of course they don't know so you don't have to.
Agree with what everyone's saying. Of course we'll still have a few presents wrapped up under the tree from Santa (also agree Christmas is about kids)
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