How many adults do you buy for and how much do you spend?

(57 Posts)
brokenshoes Fri 22-Nov-13 16:28:36

Between us, DH and I buy presents for:

Each other
My parents / PILs
My sister
His sister
Two grandads

We spend about £20 per head. Doesn't sound much each, but just realised that's £200!

SwedishEdith Fri 22-Nov-13 19:21:00

DP only plus teacher/after-school club.

JustOneMoreCoffee Fri 22-Nov-13 23:18:10

Mum price varies
Brother £30
Dp not set
Mil £10
Dp's 2 sisters £10 each
Best friend £25
4 friends £10 each
5 friends children £10 each
Secret Santa at work £5

I say I need to cut down every year but it doesn't happen!

MummyPig24 Sat 23-Nov-13 07:27:11

Dh and I did each other a stocking with a limit of £20 last year.

I buy for my dad, brother, nan and grandad. Then for aunts and uncles they get a box of chocolates or biscuits.

On my mums side the adults do "pound" presents. They aren't supposed to cost more than a pound which is sometimes a challenge but quite fun.

My cousins are now 20, 17 and 17 so I think the eldest will be on pound presents this year.

Dhs family we only buy for his mum, dad, brother, brothers girlfriend and grandad. They tend to spend a lot more because there are much fewer of them and only our two children, whereas on my side there are a lot more people, and quite a few children too!

WipsGlitter Sat 23-Nov-13 07:30:34

Mum £40
Sis £10
BiL £10
Secret Santa with DPs family £25
DP amount varies

MrsPresley Sat 23-Nov-13 07:42:01

2 sets of parents, around £150 per couple, usually theatre tickets plus chocolates/sweets/small gift for each to open (both sets are in their 70s so tickets are much appreciated as they don't really need anything.

1 auntie around £15, nice scarf and chocolate, again she is in her 70s so difficuly to buy for.

3 adult DC plus 1 son in law, usually around £250/300 and a little less on son in law, but I don't spend a lot on my DGC, I still like to spend the most on my own DC blush

A small token present for son in laws mum and her partner, maybe £15/20 between them.

MrsDavidBowie Sat 23-Nov-13 07:43:03

Just dh...about £250.
Dh buys for his father.

mumtoone1 Sat 23-Nov-13 08:12:17

I probably spend more than I should, but then everyone spends so generously on DS so I feel bad.

DM is getting a Kindle Fire so £100
DF & SM £40 restaurant Vouchers & £10 bottle of Prosecco
MIL Dressing gown, DVD and CD so £35
FIL 2x books and choc orange £12
SIL faux fur coat, benefit make up and choc orange £50 ( she's only 19 so spoil her)
BIL book, chocolate & champagne £15
DB beer and chocolate £12
SIL2 Book & Wine £10
Niece Lots of Clothes, nail sets, chocolate and iTunes card £80?
Grandparent x1 Molton Brown Set & Chocolates £30
2x Uncle & 2x Aunts £6 per couple.. Just small token gift

So 16 adults?

I always buy the odd bottle of wine and chocolates and put under tree for potential neighbour visit.

DH isn't included in my count

mumtoone1 Sat 23-Nov-13 08:16:42

Forgot about SIL2.... Katy Kidston various goodies about £15... So that's 17 adults now!

Woldyhool Sat 23-Nov-13 08:19:33

My parents - but only small things from the children, because my mother just gives everything to charity immediately so it isn't worth it.

My sister and SIL. (who are married to each other, there isn't a missing bloke we refuse to give presents to!) smile

That is it really. Oh and something for the couple upstairs who are brilliant.

TeaAndCakeOrDeath Sat 23-Nov-13 08:29:53

SIL and husband - £40
Other SIL and partner - £20
My Mum - £30
My Brother - £20
My aunt - £10
My uncle - £10
My grandmother - £10
DPs best friend and wife - £20
Family friend 1 - £10
Family friend 2 and partner - £20
Distant family we only see at xmas - £10
My 2 best friends - £5 each

And then DP, not sure what his final spend will be yet... Expensive business this xmas lark!

notthefirstagainstthewall Sat 23-Nov-13 08:32:22

I have 28 to buy for ( including 5 family members with December birthdays who I have to buy twice for).
This includes secret Santa at work and small neighbour gifts (one has children we buy for and the others have children we donate our second hand toys too).

madamecake Sat 23-Nov-13 08:35:39

DH - between £50-100, and he spends the same on me.
Then DM, DF, DMIL, DFIL, DB1, DB1's gf, DB2, DB2's gf, DB3, DSIL and DBIL - all about £30 each.

That adds up to a lot more than I thought it would confused

ThreeMyselfAndI Sat 23-Nov-13 09:59:32

we buy for

myparents/dh parents beteem £60/100 each side

dhs grand parents around £40 each.

we don't buy for sibling's excpet dh's little sister but she's only 9.

jamtoast12 Sat 23-Nov-13 13:25:25

Mum and dad £75 each, dh £100. Don't buy siblings, just their kids at £15 each (there's 7 of them).

WooWoo86 Sat 23-Nov-13 13:58:17

I just but for my mum and dad, usually about £75 each and then we do a secret Santa for the adults so just 1 more person at £20. So glad we do secret Santa as save on loads of unwanted pressies and expense. Usually means I but myself something with the money I've saved.

Mum - £40ish
Dad - £40ish
Friend one - £15ish
Friend 2 family gift - £15ish
Dp - £100ish
One secret santa - £5ish

We gave up on buying gifts for other adults years ago.

Philoslothy Sat 23-Nov-13 14:23:01

We don't buy for one another.

We don't buy presents for family as such because they can't afford to buy back.

EeyoreIsh Sat 23-Nov-13 14:27:37

DH £100 - one large present

DM £20
DF £20
Joint present for parents £30

DSIS £30
BIL £15
Nieces and nephew £20-30 each
Joint present for their family £45

DH's nephew £20

In theory, DH should buy for his family but I usually end up doing this.

No wonder I'm broke sad

Preciousbane Sat 23-Nov-13 14:32:09

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Philoslothy Sat 23-Nov-13 14:35:31

If you are broke, don't buy it. Someone who cares for you would not want a present that they cannot afford to buy.

CharlotteBronteSaurus Sat 23-Nov-13 14:40:00

too many
we mooted the idea of either doing a £50 secret santa, or just exchanging token presents with the ILs. this went down like a lead balloon.

so we continue to spend £30-40 each on BIL, 2xSILs, MIL and FIL, as well and about £20 each on GMIL and GFIL.

thankfully my family are happy with a chocolate orange and summit for thew DC.

Philoslothy Sat 23-Nov-13 14:40:57

But why do you have to continue?

EeyoreIsh Sat 23-Nov-13 15:10:58

I'm not broke now, but going on maternity leave in 4 weeks so I need to restrain my spending from now on really.

randomAXEofkindness Sat 23-Nov-13 15:35:26

We don't buy for other adults. We get each other something if we feel especially flush, which isn't very often, but I know that dh has bought me a netbook & camera this year - which I didn't expect and am extremely feckin chuffed about.

I hate the politics that goes along with buying for the relatives. I'd get people meaningful, well thought out gifts, for the right reasons, if I lived in disney world. But I don't. They'd probably cost 50p and be handmade. Or dh would have whatever job the dad of Home Alone had, those guys were loaded.

My mum (?)
My gran (chocs and an xmas plant)
My gran and papa (biscuits and an xmas plant)
My dad and s-mum (big box chocs)
My aunt and uncle and 1 cousin (tub celebrations)
Usually dsis and her dp but have agreed not to this yr as costs spiralling grin
My fil and s-mil (him ? her a jl voucher & xmas plant)
BIL and his dp (vouchers)

Ranging from £5-£20 on each relative (or group).

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