do you buy anything for your husband/bf

[princesscupcakemummyb]

hi all so as the title says really for xmas do you buy for your husband/partner if so is it a small present or just get what ever you know they like reason i ask is cause in my house me and dh dont allways buy for each other at xmas as we see its for the kids mainly if we do its nothing spectacular its usually a small token gift just wondered if its just us who does this? thanks all :)

[fuzzpig]

Yes we absolutely do! We don't spend a lot but do like to spoil each other as much as we did pre-children. I think apart from anything else the DCs would be upset/confused if we didn't, IYSWIM?

We do little presents mostly like geeky t shirts and DVDs. DH is pretty good at finding weird things online like some antique Alice in Wonderland charms which I LOVE. And he also once got me a flat Eric toy as he remembered me saying I really wanted one as a teen :o also unusual/out of print books.

We also take the DCs individually to choose something for mummy/daddy from them.

Since last year we do an Xmas stocking for each other too, but we say it's from Santa like the DCs ones. Although this year I'm buying a few bits for mine myself as they are really weird random things that DH wouldn't be aware of.

[Marne]

Sometimes we do, other times we will go out shopping together and buy something we would like or need, not sure what to buy dh this year, so far I have bought him a book but would like to get him a few things.

[fuzzpig]

Also I do feel it's important for DCs to see that Xmas isn't just about them getting presents IYSWIM? My DCs really enjoy choosing things for us and each other, and seeing us open our presents and enjoy them - we all take turns :)

[hippoherostandinghere]

Yes we do buy each other presents just like we did for the 9 years before the DCs came along. It's Christmas for everyone and its only fair we all get spoilt.

Some of the presents I buy will be from the DCs and some from me.

[BigBoobiedBertha]

Definitely!

Partly it is what Fuzzpig says - the children need to know it isn't just about them and that it is about giving as well as receiving. I enjoy the giving as much as the receiving and I want them to know the enjoyment that comes from choosing a present and seeing them appreciate it.

Partly it is because we always have and we see no reason to stop just because the children are here (we can afford it - we wouldn't buy things we can't afford)

Partly it is because it is the only opportunity apart from birthdays to buy things that aren't really necessary but we would like to have. We do spend a fair amount for that reason - it is usually things you wouldn't dream of buying yourself.

[attheendoftheday]

Yes, we do. We spend a lot less on each other than on the dds, but they aren't just token presents. For example, I'm getting dp a historical game (for when we do reenactment) and a nice copy of his favourite book.

I encourage dd1 (and will dd2 when she's big enough) to make, choose or otherwise be involved in giving presents to us and other relatives.

[Sheeparefluffy]

I had mine yesterday!! DH bought me the Ipad air in JL and has been explaining the reasons why mummy is heaving her present early to the DCs...none of them are that convincing!

[princesscupcakemummyb]

thats actually a very good point fuzzpig i never looked at it like that

[princesscupcakemummyb]

haha like it sheep :)

[elQuintoConyo]

Good god, why should I miss out on giving gift to DH and receiving one?
The only one I don't swap presents with is my DSis, we buy for each other's dc as we're opposite sides of the globe and that makes Christmas extra expensive.
DH is getting a guitar stand tjis year - so not very £ but something he needs/would appreciate as I keep whacking his guitar with the ironing board dc shoes recycling multipacks of milk

[Lagoonablue]

No too skint.

[GemmaTeller]

No, we haven't for a few years.

DH and I open our presents from our DCs and other relatives.

We don't send each other cards either.

[didireallysaythat]

Probably not. But we didn't have time and couldn't think of anything for our birthdays either this year. The kids get all the presents.

It's weeks away though so I may find something on Amazon I guess..

[marriedinwhiteisback]

We buy each other something little. A bottle of perfume, a book, pyjamas - something like that. Sometimes at Christmas though we buy something for the house that we both like as a little treat to ourselves.

[BIWI]

Yes absolutely! We spend a lot on each other (as well as our DC).

I love Christmas. I love taking the time to choose gifts that any of my recipients will appreciate and I especially love choosing things that my DH will like.

Why wouldn't I?

[RhondaJean]

Oh gosh yes DH gets treated like an extra kid and he always spoils me. His presents will cost in the region of the children's each except they get more items where he gets a few more expensive ones.

I don't know how much he spends on me but we are in the region of iPads/good jewellery so quite a bit.

I realise we are lucky to be able to afford this but even on a limited budget it would be split so that there was some available for us.

[monahue]

Instead of presents for each other, we have a night away in January in a swankyish hotel. Always much more appreciated than random tat on the 25th!

[Yama]

We agreed that this year we wouldn't as we are short of funds due to moving house and overspending on renovations.

I, however, have been squirreling presents away for dh. He's always been better at the present buying and I'd like to be the best for once.

[ThreeCacklesLovesCandyApples]

yes we always buy for each other we usually give each other them just before Christmas as we never have time for us on Christmas day due to the amount our dds get.

this year dh has bought me a red point ragdoll kitten he's adorable

[hallowisitmeyourelookingfor]

We do always buy for each other, but I put more effort into choosing than dp does. Mainly because I have the time and am good at thinking for him and picking up on his hints and he's a bit of a last minute dash round the limited shops in our town on Xmas eve type man.
We are currently building an extension and have spent lots and lots, so I might suggest we put the money towards something we both want to go in it. We will still have things to open from other family members on the day itself, and a friend of ours takes our dds Christmas shopping to buy surprises for us too.

[Ohwhatwitcheryisthis]

dh always gets me excellent gifts (after an early computer game and cook book related disaster) and I like to think I do Ok too. Last year we decided we had everything we wanted so had a dorty weekend away (birdwatching)

[HellsBellsnBucketsofBlood]

Yes, because we love Christmas (it is wasted on kids...). We each keep a lookout for things he other would like and them buy them in the two months pre Xmas when we are each banned from buying for ourselves, just in case.

Sometimes if we want something specific we will tell each other, but usually it is the latest books by favourite authors pr DVDs.

[Badvoc]

Yes we do.
It's not about the £, it's about not making Xmas All about the dc.
I have done hamper for dh this year...his fave teas and coffees etc. A DVD. A jumper. A bee house :)

[Pascha]

No, haven't done presents to each other for years, not even before children. Its not important to us.

[MsIngaFewmarbles]

Yes of course but this year we are just buying each other a token gift as we are broke.

PIL are wealthy and generous and have offered to buy us a weekwnd away including babysitting and dog minding. I feel very lucky. We normally would spend the same on each other as we do on each DC.