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Basically go for elf that looks a LOT like a fairy.

www.marksandspencer.com/Autograph-Sparkle-Tights/dp/B0035IRRSC?ie=UTF8&ref=sr_1_32&nodeId=325972031&sr=1-32&qid=1353707372

All different coloured cool tights

www.amazon.co.uk/Girls-Sparkly-Disco-Party-Tights/dp/B0070AWBKA/ref=sr_1_sc_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1353707463&sr=8-1-spell

Sparkly red tights

www.amazon.co.uk/Woodland-Fairy-Costume-Wings-Child/dp/B000LXQ5F0/ref=sr_1_63?ie=UTF8&qid=1353707659&sr=8-63

Stick an elf hat on the top. I don't suppose anyone would say anything!

Oops just seen Cahoots has posted the same costume!

DS1 was an elf once, I bought an elf suit from the local fancy dress shop. You might find one if you search on line. It might give you some ideas for your DD's costume.

There are two parts to this really, first being the 'all the girls are angels' and second being 'not wanting to be an elf' . I would doubt very much that in a class of 30, with say 15 girls, 1 is mary, 1 is an elf and 13 are angels. Where are all the donkeys, kings, stars, shepherds, joseph etc? So, if its just that 'all my friends are angels' we need to get some elf positivity going.

Oh bless. My 7 yr old dd came home this evening upset that she is going to be a boring old narrator this year. She wants to be a shepherd or a king like the last two years - it's esp bad as her best friend is going to be a shepherd. She loves dressing up and she sees this as an opportunity for her to 'get into part' again. I've suggested that we get her a lovely smart shirt or something to dress up in as the narrators have ben asked to wear 'smart clothes' but it doesn't cut it somehow - not enough drama for her! I also tried to explain that it's because she's 'such a good reader' (she along with all the other narrators seem to be the top group of pupils) but again she ain't interested in that. Ah well.

Having been to quite a number of productions before for dc1& dc2 it is quite possible every other girl in her class is a fairy (except Mary) or an angel as there are 3 classes ranging from reception to yr 2 to be cast, and they usually interweave the traditional nativity story with some modern slant or a journey around the world to see how everyone celebrates Christmas (seen the latter version X3). The boys are usually the shepherds, Joseph, camel & donkey, 3 wise men etc.

I think dd just saw the slip of paper describing her costume and was hurt she wouldn't be wearing a costume like the other girls in the class. If I can glam it up a bit, she will be happy.

Do you have to have costume by Monday?

If not I would hold fire and go in and find out what the play is about, who is being what. You may find she is one of a group (no-one else is an elf may mean none of my friends are) and check out the costume limits. She may not be allowed wings, so don't promise them yet!

Bolter, my dd was really upset about being a narrator. She is reception and it has taken me over a week to find out what the problem was, turns out she wanted a COSTUME, so we went in and asked and narrators are going to have acostume too (princess dresses were mentioned) she wants to be an angel, so I am dropping hints about purple sparkly angels (she has a purple sparkly princess dress!)

Thank you for the links, Marzipanface and Cahoots, that is something I can definitely work with!

Think this is probably going to be a santa's helper kind of elf rather than a woodland grotto elf going by the bold colours and hat (not red) requirement

I can speak to the school on Tuesday (probably join a long queue!) to get the low-down on what kind of elf they envisage. They have just mentioned tights and Tshirt so am not even clear what's she's wearing on her bottom half.

Show her the Schleich elves and suggest picking one to model her outfit on then if she chooses the colour, t-shirt, tights - Maybe ask the school if she could decorate it herself to make her happier or make the sleeves look ragged with jewels/ sew on flowers to pretty it up.

www.schleich-s.com/toys/bayala_the_world_of_elves/

Is she allowed a pretty glittery hairband she could personalise on the day. Check if she gets wings or if you could make/ supply some.

Could she take in an elf girl toy or photo of such to show her friends how excited she is?

www.spreadshirt.co.uk/pink-little-elf-with-wings-kids-shirts-C4408A13388407

www.debenhams.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/prod_10001_10001_240020763045_-1

When I was a kid I had to be Peter Pan, I wore a long green t-shirt with zig zags cut out round the hem and the sleeves, with leggings and a sparkly belt, so it had the feel of a dress.Maybe that could work for an elf if you have to have a plain t-shirt?

I remember being dubious about being 'Peter' at first but loved it in the end. I definitely think it's the right attitude to try and get her to embrace it. I'm sure she'll make a great elf.

This thread brings back memories of all the years I hoped for tinsel and ended up with tea towel. Sigh. I could have been somebody Mary

I would go and talk to the teacher first - it's not nice to feel left out and different to the others at that age.

Next, H&M, M&S & Zara is where I'd head but its hard to find reasonable options.

I would check with the school what the additional bits of the costumes are so there are no surprises for her ie: no wings but her friends get wings etc.

http://www.marksandspencer.com/Marks-and-Spencer-Crochet-Knitted/dp/B004CPX1H8?extid=TP_2_FRO_T_MSF_&pup_c=gs

You could personalise this hat with ribbons threaded through, lose the bobble & sew on flowers with colours that match the t-shirt

maybe you could organise a tea with some close friends to play elf fairy dress up

Last year my DD was the ONLY girl to be a Shepard all the others were angels. She was NOT happy and she was only 4!

I sucked it up and so did she but I thought it was shit really.

Or could a reasonable version of this be about?
pinterest.com/pin/8585055510590292/

www.marksandspencer.com/Marks-and-Spencer-Crochet-Knitted/dp/B004CPX1H8?extid=TP_2_FRO_T_MSF_&pup_c=gs

What about a pair of those sparkly leggings that are super trendy? River island girls, maybe? And a long tunic style top? Black hat? Then she can be style queen elf, but still girly?

Teachers really need to be more sensitive about these things than they sometimes are.

My dd (Y2) is enormously tall. So what was her part in last year's christmas play? A giraffe. What is her part in this year's christmas play? The Mum. I foresee another decade of 'tall' parts for her.

Who gets the lead role? The girl with long blonde hair, of course. Lovely kid, but took me straight back to my childhood, when it was ALWAYS the girl with long blonde hair [oppressed ginger emoticon]

That's why I don't think sucking it up is the way to go. It allows the teacher to think allocating parts based on appearance and singling one child out as a result is ok. Get them to suck up inevitable random disadvantages as part of life, yes, absolutely. But I don't think this, if correctly understood, is one of those situations. It's a poor decision that's needlessly making a child feel out of place. I would speak to the teacher and want a better explanation.

Latenightmum, you are genius with the links!

I take your point Snazzy about making my feelings known to the teacher but Notactuallyme might be quite right and dd isn't the only elf or isn't the only non-fairy/angel so will find out more information first.

DD asked this morning am I going to buy her Elf costume today so she's ok her her mind that's what's she's going to be, but will do my best to make her a nice one!

You should all think yourselves lucky.

My dd is a sheep this year

Obviously the best fucking sheep that ever graced a stage though

Is she a speaking elf? It may be that she has a speaking part and that is why she is an elf. The other girls may just be singing and that is why they are not elves?

monkeyfacegrace My DS was offered the part of Joseph. He turned it down so he could be a sheep. We have bought him a little costume and he loves it so much he asks to sleep in it